[Closed] Online Dating Updates

It's only tuesday and back to work yesterday - see how she is later, ask her how the week is treating her, etc 😉

I've been on POF for years now. I get a surprising number of one word emails such as "Hi" and so on. Don't think I've ever had a message that was longer than one sentence.
Currently chatting to nice single lady, no kids etc.
Some can take several days to reply, not everyone lives in front of the computer (like I seem to do)!!

No luck here.... I've met lots of lovely people but no-one that I have clicked with 😕

Last week I had another go at it, new year new start, sent about 50 messages, bugger all replies so far. Woe is me.

Few ok seeming women, always who live about 3 hours away.. 🙄

I had a lovely lady who favourited me on POF on the 1st Jan... exchanged messages for a couple of days, spoke on the phone the last 3 evenings and we are meeting on friday... fingers crossed..

🙂

Loving the scatter gun approach dabble. I think that might be my next move.

Good luck Jungli, let us know how it goes.

No updates here. Got bored with it. I think I've messaged one or 2 since the last thread and been ignored, so sod em all. Ugly caas. Got better fings to do with me time!
Get the occasional Wants-to-meet-you email, but nothing of any interest.
Best one was a "mutual meet" who I messaged and she blocked me! Hmph.

PoF is a virtual minefield, why do some women think that lookng serious while doing a selfie troutpout in the bogs of some pub or other is the way to attract people?

Had two dates in Dec and just had a follow up with one at the weekend a Paramedic MTB'r (no not Drac!) with some niche bikes too.
Was in contact with two others over the festives and have arranged a date with one. Quite satisfied with that hit rate!

There was an article in the French press which said 30% of French couples now meet via internet/social media

PoF ? ( Very new to all this )

Chatting to someone nice, hoping to meet up, fingers crossed n all that.

At work, so not the best time to jump into this thread, but I'l rejoin the conversation later on. I have much to learn.

I did a bit before Xmas and CBA with it just now, though there are some hotties on my list.

dabble - Member
Last week I had another go at it, new year new start, sent about 50 message

I ignore any generic message or any one that doesn't have my name in it, unless it's from a hottie (they never do). You must be doing something seriously wrong not to get any replies from 50.

I met my wife on Fitness Singles...

Is that one of the FREE! to sign up... £60 a month! to message someone?

If I'm going to pay to meet a woman, an online dating site is not where I'm going 8)

missnotax - Member
No luck here.... I've met lots of lovely people but no-one that I have clicked with

😛

[b]@trailof destruction[/b] you also need to check this out.
[url= http://singletrackmag.com/forum/topic/online-dating-help ]Map of the minefield - unverified[/url]
[url= http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-25410883 ]20 Online Dating profile errors! according to the BBC[/url]

Am also on Fitness Singles £45 for 3 months is steep but it is a more selective choice...When they list cycling it usually means they know where to find the Bottom Bracket 😀

But I DO like cosy nights in with a bottle of wine and a DVD 😆

[i]20 Online Dating profile errors! according to the BBC[/i]

They've just listed NEARLY EVERY WOMAN's profile on POF there!

Am also on Fitness Singles £45 for 3 months is steep but it is a more selective choice

I think paying a modest amount is good value, it at least means people on there are vaguely serious...

+1 for paying.

You'll probably save money on not going on dates with people who aren't serious, not to mention all the time wasted filtering through the profiles.

PoF seemed like a waste of time. I'm sure quite a few people on there see it as a hobby in itself, rather than a means to an end.

OKCupid seems good for for a freebie - plenty serious nice women and few swampmonsters.

Gave up on Pof for few months, still on there but not actively bothering with it. Shall update my profile and try again in a few weeks, so watch out ladies
Tried tinder but it's a waste of time, no one seems to chat on it

I'm a one man disaster area when it comes to "online women".....

(probably not a lot better for non-virtual ones either 😉

Tried tinder but it's a waste of time, no one seems to chat on it

My understanding is people on Tinder don't want chat...

Nope I think safe to say tinder isn't that kind of site

I thought Tinder was a straight version of Grinder? ie for casual short term physical relationships.

anyone tried tender - short term physical relationships for people who have an infection of some sort already ?

anyone tried tender - short term physical relationships for people who have an infection of some sort already ?

Or those just trying to collect the full set.....

I think that it's worth paying so that you know the other people are serious and that you are a lot less likely to be wasting your time. I know people who have paid thousands to join the more upmarket agencies, so the online dating sites are at least better value for money.

PS Good luck Jungli

[i]You must be doing something seriously wrong not to get any replies from 50.[/i]

He didn't mention he is the Son of Elephant Man!

Sorry! Seriously I've been married for years, but miss the thrill of online/phone dating. When my first marriage failed I found solace in a few sensational meetings with a couple of HOT women. Life was never such fun!

(obviously I didn't marry either of them!)

Any word from Jungli?

I have a question - How long is it acceptable to be 'meeting' a few different people with out 'declaring' it? How many 'meets' before you admit to the fact that you are still chatting to others?

I ask this as I feel that I got a bit caught out. I had met a guy about 4 times, with loads of chatting between and was talking about a trip away with him (and I guess I was beginning to feel like there might be something in it), when he admitted that he had been seeing two other girls for a similar length of time. The outcome was that he chose one of the other girls.

I don't think he did anything wrong, I had also met another guy during that time, but it has made me think... I am presently meeting another guy for the second time, while still chatting to two more. What is the etiquette here? Help?

Ask them about it - whether "exclusive" to start or not

I genuinely don't know, I can only manage one at a time and I wouldn't like it if by 3rd/4th date she was still chatting to and meeting others

footflaps - Member

I met my wife on Fitness Singles...

#awkward
what was her explaination?

I think its safe to assume that if you are guy,that girl you like who is talking to you on pof is talking to another 5 guys at least,if you're a 6ft hunk then good but if not then it will probably not end so well,just have some fun along the way if possible 🙂

I hate internet 'dating'. Mostly because I'm ginger and never have anything funny/interesting to say in an email, so I don't get many dates 😉

Mostly because I'm ginger

I'm so very sorry, I didn't realise....

😉

I have a question - How long is it acceptable to be 'meeting' a few different people with out 'declaring' it? How many 'meets' before you admit to the fact that you are still chatting to others?

Personally I would not meet anyone who was also trying out a few others or contacting others as we were chatting

My view is not the most common as everyone seems to think its ok to multiple date for some reason.

My view is not the most common as everyone seems to think its ok to multiple date for some reason.

I think that's the norm to be honest, you don't know how things will work out so may as well keep each conversation going as you never know what will happen. Last time I was on FS I was chatting to 3-4 women at a time. Think I met about 10 for at least one 'date' over a few months. I'd meet up even if I didn't think it would go anywhere as I treated the whole thing like interview practice, may as well hone your skills when there is less at stake, than wait for Ms perfect and fluff the whole thing up.....

only ever met two* tbh and ended up in a relationship with them both- not at the same time 😉

I suppose what this says is the answer flower is whatever you want/expect

I cannot imagine planning a trip away with someone whilst still trying out others

* i never wanted to meet any of the others I chatted to though a few asked to meet me #awkward

I think dating agencies are different in that everyone is on there for a specific reason and the filtering process is just that, a process to be performed as efficiently and quickly as possible. Bit unromantic, but then so are dating agencies.

Met my other half on Pof and we're about to buy a house together. 2 very happy singletrackers here! Don't give up the hunt..it's hard work but it can pay off!

Ask them about it - whether "exclusive" to start or not

Yes - I guess that this is the obvious answer, but I would fully accept guys chatting to a few girls at a time - it seems to be the way it works - it was the one month later revelation that was a bit weird.

I don't care but you need to decide what you think is acceptable

Very true - the problem is that you aren't always aware of how others are acting - guess that comes back to hammy above.

I cannot imagine planning a trip away with someone whilst still trying out others

This is the bit that pissed me off, I wasn't aware at the time.

However - the update was that the girl he originally 'choose' turned him down when she also found out that he was still 'shopping'. I was even offered the position as runner up - classy! 🙄

Don't give up the hunt..it's hard work but it can pay off!

Cheers!! 😀

[i]I hate internet 'dating'. Mostly because I'm ginger and never have anything funny/interesting to say in an email, so I don't get many dates [/i]

I am not ginger and still don't get any dates. Just what do women want from us??

Feeling inspired to throw myself out there again - will be studying the various tips . . . . Wonder if it will make the slightest difference to the usual messages I get. Will report back (if I dont go off the idea again before ive got home and sat in front of the pc)

adjustable - if you go onto POF just hang in tight and duck while the barrage of random 68 year old men send you pictures of themselves drinking champagne in bed - it does get better once all it all calms down 🙂

I really had no luck with PoF, think I only went on one date and that didn't work out. Many more dates through paid sites...

As for multiple dating thing - ok up to a point but as soon as it went past a second date and we'd arrange to see each other again then that was the line for me.

A female friend has told me the in thing for men on dating websites at the moment is photos of them with tigers 😯

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Me and my Bro!

@ dashed - I've also tried Fitness Singles, but don't get much from that at all.

Maybe I need help with my profile - come on guys what appeals to 40 something, chilled out, male mtbers / kayakers / snowboarders (plaese don't get this thread locked 😉 )

Flowerpower, put your email addy in your profile, I'm sure you'll get some emails.

Also pics and some evidence that you aren't mental or desperate.

Hmmm... not sure that I am mental or desperate enough to put my email up on here 😳

*update*

I got a date 8)

On Sunday, with a girl and she's not mental. Result. Not bad for 2 weeks effort.

Wish me luck.

Btw, I've tried OK Cupid, but don't think that's going to work out.

Where do I look next ? Match, PoF ?

Opinions please.

Don't want to put you off but sometimes it can take 6 week to discover if they are a mentalist 😳

😆

How do you know that right now, she's not having the exact same conversation with her friend about me ?

Good work ToD, I hope it goes well for you and that she is not just masking the mentalness whilst luring you into a false sense of security 😀

I [s]picked[/s] met my Wife on Dating Direct, but this is going back 9 years - not sure what its like now. Certainly no where near as `interesting' as say Plenty More Fish from what I've been told

I got a date

On Sunday, with a girl and she's not mental. Result. Not bad for 2 weeks effort.

Where do I look next ? Match, PoF ?

Opinions please.

😆 Loving the optimism!

Ah..yes..no quite what I meant. 😳

Just to look FP, just to look.

I guess that this is the obvious answer, but I would fully accept guys chatting to a few girls at a time - it seems to be the way it works

it is the norm I agree but it is just not for me and i would not date someone who wanted to do this. yes we dont know what will happen but look at ToD one date that has not happened and already looking for the next 😉 . I wanted relationships not sex [ ok I wanted both but in that order 😀 ]

I guess the thing is its up to you you can have fun, look for love and everything in between. Its your dating choices so anything you decide is fine. the right person will agree/understand and the wrong ones will be lost quickly which is no bad thing

Its like the how soon should you meet folk think anything from straight away to after a while/Personally I wanted to know we would get on/be friends and the meet was just for the chemistry test

On Sunday, with a girl and she's not mental.

Given that's not possible, my bet is (s)he's really a bloke....

😉

Stop it you lot. This is not helping 😆

*Puts down spade, tries to climb out of very deep hole*

After numerous dates on PoF (all nutters), I took the plunge and signed up to Guardian Soulmates last year. I only messaged one girl who I really liked the sound of. We met a couple of days later and instantly hit it off. 2 weeks later I cancelled my membership. This was all 10 months ago now. We got engaged recently, and I couldn't be happier. Best £30 I've ever spent!

We got engaged recently, and I couldn't be happier.

Congrats!

flowerpower - Member
Maybe I need help with my profile - come on guys what appeals to 40 something, chilled out, male mtbers / kayakers / snowboarders (plaese don't get this thread locked )

Honesty Flower - for me anyway. Just be who you are not what you think someone expects you to be 😉
A woman comfortable in her own skin, relaxed around others and happy to be herself is FAR more attractive and sexier than one dressed to the nines, tottering around like a drunk bambi ( although there is a time and a place for that 😉 )
It all depends on what you expect from it all. IME there are too many expectations from a lot of the women on PoF. "Looking for my knight in shining armour" "looking for prince charming" "sweep me off my feet", etc, etc etc....
Whatever happened to "lets see how it goes?"
That doesn't mean "jump into bed" - it means lets see how we get on, laugh, etc.
To coin a phrase - "Too many disappointments is usually the result of too many expectations......"

Maybe I need help with my profile - come on guys what appeals to 40 something, chilled out, male mtbers / kayakers / snowboarders (plaese don't get this thread locked )

Please let me know when you find out 😆

Just be honest..

'Own hair (some left), teeth (most of them), has pulse (bit erratic), seeks similar. Interest in arguing the toss about nonsense on STW would be ideal.'

I met "our lass" on PoF just over 2.5 years ago about 6 months after the very acrimonious end of my 21 year marriage. I was VERY nervous about on-line dating or just women in general (having appeared to have married a violent, psychotic b...h 😐 ) but gave it a whirl.

She was the first lass I ever messaged on PoF, I still have that "hit by an express train" even now - never had that before. They say that somewhere out there everyone has their soulmate I'm guessing destiny / fate played it's cards well and truly with MrsMuttley & I.

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Typical of PoF she is actually as mad as a fish (she's the right sort of mad though) and up for anything. Shes a Mountain Biker too which is a HUGE bonus - there is only one issue.. she may actually be quicker than me...

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We have been living together for 18 months and we couldn't be happier.. there probably will be some sort of formalisation process to this (ahem) after our respective divorces have gone through. ..shhhhhhh 😉 it has been discussed 😉 😉 😉

So on line dating does work, and work very well BUT I think like all things romance wise luck plays a HUGE part in the process.

nice picture swap...

I was having "issues" with it... lol

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Jeez Houns, even your "like" post has a button-cuff 😡

Normally cuff links, but this is an informal thread

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I hate internet 'dating'. Mostly because I'm ginger and never have anything funny/interesting to say in an email, so I don't get many dates

lol..

i too am one of the blessed with 'glorious' ginger locks..!

It did hold me back to start with i think.. combined with only being 5ft 9... a face like a smacked bum and i am also blessed with the social skills of a brick...

then I just thought.. **** it!

email people you like the look / sound of.. pick up on stuff in their profile.. and always have at least one question in any emails.. it gives the recipient something to answer and build on in a reply..

this seemed to work for me.. a couple of emails on the site.. then either MSN messenger for a bit... or a few texts and a phone chat.. then organise a date..!

don't mess about messaging for ages.. i did this to begin with its just a waste of time and its very easy to build up false pictures of people from online communication i think..

it was a crazy crazy 6 months... so many dates and new people! i met some great people.. and am still friends with a few of them.. kinda miss the excitement in a way..

on the flipside i also met some quite frankly bizarre people and had some downright weird 'dates' too.. the stories i could tell! its all part of the fun though.

just be yourself and be open, and don't get hung up on something if it goes wrong.. just move on.. lifes too short to fret.. besides.. there's always that date next week you arranged with someone else.. 😉

and lastly never be afraid to try something new!

I Met my partner on Match.com 6 years ago in April now.. 😀

Babble over.

lastly never be afraid to try something new!

it gets very uncivil at times... 😉

and lastly never be afraid to try something new!

One should try everything once except sodomy and morris dancing.