[Closed] Online dating help...

Ah right they ususaly just stopped relying to me

After 8 days and 50 unanswered texts i took the hint 😉

I messaged someone last night for a laugh - she's in the same town as me.
Her picture is a rather artistic interpretation of her and a big, white, hairy... horse... 😆 Will keep you posted!

:lol:^^ sure it's not a Donkey??

As in, "this is what I want, someone hung like a ........."
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* likes cantering, tally ho'ing & whips.

Oh flip - just heard back. I don't think the picture is even of her!! Wibble.

WTF would you use someone elses pictures?
It is not like looks are unimportant in a relationship

Tell her that yours is not real and send in one of the desperados on here as your stunt cock

I've just gently taken the piss. Hopefully she'll get the hint without getting too psychotic.

Run.

Run fast.
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Fake pics are a huge problem, as mentioned before, drag them into the search field on Google images and it'll show you where else that image appears on the net.

And pet pics... Why the hell do they put a pic of their dog?? If I ever got messages with pics like that, I'd reply "you look really nice in that 3rd photo... Very loyal... Love what you've done with your fur..."

Gimme a break guys, you can see why I was interested

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Indeed, a fine Arabian nose.

And the girls not bad either............ 😉

Gimme a break guys, you can see why I was interested

No! I can't, for a single minute, see why you'd think that pic was real!! 😆

That pic comes up as Pascale 1, taken by Mehmet Turan, a Turkish photographer in Istanbul.

Needs more teddy bears and rainbows.

(It wasn't really that one you nutters)

Phew!

[i]drag them into the search field on Google images and it'll show you where else that image appears on the net.[/i]

This I did not know, thank you.

I have my first date in years on Thursday night. We have been chatting loads on text and she seems quite normal, interesting and fun. I bet I can mess it up in minutes!

Good luck Mister P! The beauty of internet dating is that you've generally built up some rapport by the time you meet, so it's not like you're starting from scratch. Have a good time, and report back 😉

Good luck chaps, if the psychopaths and nutters one of our team has dated from online sites and through running her own singles evenings are any indicator, the pickings seem a bit thin on the normal men front.

We have had to provide counselling on a weekly basis and one rescue - she's finally found someone but he was someone she had known for years and it just clicked.

There is hope!! 😀

She did tell me about one date she went on where the chap talked non-stop about combine harvesters for two hours. I should seem pretty normal compared to that.

Good luck Mister P!

Sounds like you should be on Tinder MrB! http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-25088495

Ah, we've done [url= http://singletrackmag.com/forum/topic/yet-more-online-dating-tinder ]Tinder[/url] 🙂

Ok so in need of a heads up! here...

My recent experiences seem to follow a familiar pattern:

1 Establish contact
2 messages - no more than 4 or 5 before suggested meet
3 meet agreed , detail to follow
4 Makes suggestion of suitable times
5 No response

Four times this has happened now, anyone have similar?

If stage 4 is something like "See you at the old graveyard at midnight" then that might explain it?

Yeah, you might have a point there, I find petrochemical installations irresistable though 😉

I never get past 1. 😆

I intercept them... tell them all about your psychotic tendencies and the storage of animal remains in the basement 😈

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@flowerpower - the problem is I can actually imagine that happening! 😀

[i] intercept them... tell them all about your psychotic tendencies and the storage of animal remains in the basement[/i]

And my obsession with clean armpits? (see other thread 😀 )

This is a tricky one... You do get a lot of the old "cold feet" but if you're getting a lot, it sounds like either really bad luck or something needs fine-tuning in your approach.

I've always favoured a very direct and decisive approach from the offset, which I think defines the way everything plays out. I think a bit of assertiveness works well as most women are a bit dithery about meeting - they don't need much of an excuse to back out.

So rather than the sort of "I'm free Wednesday... If you're not doing anything... and if you fancy meeting..." approach, I always go for more of a "I'm free Wednesday, so why don't you meet me in [insert town/bar] and I can buy you a drink".

I'd always suggest the lady chose the actual venue so she's more comfortable ("somewhere public and well-lit, plenty of fire escapes in case either of us needs to do a runner") but apart from that, I try to "grasp the nettle".

I know the haterz will say this sounds arrogant and misogynistic, but it always yielded better results for me.

That sounds arrogant and misogynistic!

(but realistic 🙂 )

Dez, I'm an arrogant misogynist, but it seems to work every now and again 😉

@ DezB 😆 will give them a scrub tonight 😳

@ surroundedbyhills - want me to message you and stop at 2nd base - just to stop the trend like 8)

@ shib I get what you mean and have tried to the "you tell me where and I'll be there" approach..
How much time do you leave it? I mean, if you feel like comms stopped for no apparent reason, do you wait a couple of days and try again, or just assume she's got cold feet/thinks your knob/heard from flowepower?

I'd leave it a few days and have a second attempt, but if still no joy, I'd leave it at that. That's the advantage of investing the least amount of time before asking the question - you don't feel like you've wasted much if you don't get a response.

You have to be realistic - she'll most likely be chatting with at least one other guy, and with all the will in the world, people only have so many free evenings to go on dates. So it might just come down to the luck of the draw, and someone else got the date.

I would generally leave it until the following Monday/Tuesday so she gets her weekend plans out of the way. Mon/Tues are always the best days as if they've had a shit weekend, they'll be eager to make some plans. You'll also have a good opener where you can tell her what an amazing weekend you had but you're free on xxxxx night...

Mister P
She did tell me about one date she went on where the chap talked non-stop about combine harvesters for two hours. I should seem pretty normal compared to that.

Don't mention Fat bikes, and you might just get away with it........ 😉

What website for dating fat bikes then?

There are plenty of those on Plenty of Fish...

The beauty of internet dating is that you've generally built up some rapport by the time you meet, so it's not like you're starting from scratch

Bit like meeting an STW er and they are always like they are on here so what could go wrong?

I'd always suggest the lady chose the actual venue so she's more comfortable ("somewhere public and well-lit, plenty of fire escapes in case either of us needs to do a runner") but apart from that, I try to "grasp the nettle".

I'm heartened that you approve Junky... 😉

Monkeys at keyboards innit, shall we argue over who is the monkey 😛

You damn racist... 😯

I think I have just exhausted pof of eligible women in Edinburgh!

I think my problem might be extreme pickyness.

So I have a date! An MTB'ing Paramedic...

Likes Blues n twos, tubeless tyres and asking "Can you tell me what happened?" in a loud voice...

When's the date 'hills? Any more feedback? Didn't we have a couple of others on dates last week?

I met up with a woman through Match last Thursday. She was nice enough, we had a bit in common and she seemed pretty normal. But there was no "spark", no chemistry between us at all. Ah well, you can't win them all.

shib - DDay is today, so do I go for the warm and friendly peck on the cheek/squeeze of the elbow greeting or "hello, how do you do?" handshake...

Match claim 1 in 10 dates leads to a relationship... Maybe their definition of 'relationship' is a bit looser than mine, but you do have to play the averages game.

I've made some good friends from dates where there's been no spark of romance but where we've had a lot in common, mutual interests, friends etc. And out of literally dozens and dozens of dates, there's only a couple that I wish I'd not gone on...

So I have a date! An MTB'ing Paramedic

Drac? 😯

[i] so do I go for the warm and friendly peck on the cheek/squeeze of the elbow greeting or "hello, how do you do?" handshake[/i]

I went for peck on the cheek, followed by wiping back of hand across my mouth 🙂

I got messaged by a local... under 40 too... Sorry, er no thanks.
I have copied her About Me below for your enjoyment:

About Me
'Don't have any none I a slim r&b'

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Whats "a slim r&b" and do I want one? is it a meme?

I'm pretty sure you'd want one as much as I do.

do I go for the warm and friendly peck on the cheek/squeeze of the elbow greeting or "hello, how do you do?" handshake...

Definitely aim to go for the friendly kiss as a rapport builder... It might be the closest you get to a single woman for a while... 😉

Seriously though, you'll find some make a big gesture of offering their outstretched hand, if that's the case, don't go for the kiss!

Shib, Shib how do I tell a girl I'm not interested even though she's been really complimentary about me and is asking to go on a date. I don't want to upset her. Well she may be upset that I don't want to go on a date but I'm worried that I'll be too blunt like I usually am. She is a bit ugly see.

Hmmm... Difficult Ragga, I had a very similar situation only last week - a "Facebook acquaintance*" messaged me and asked if I wanted to go on a date. I was very flattered - it's a big deal for most women to pluck up the courage to ask a bloke out on a date, so an appropriate level of sensitivity is called for.

I was quite lucky in that I could tell her that I was seeing someone, and whilst it was in the early stages, I hoped it would progress. Because I had a watertight excuse, I told her that if it had been a few months earlier I would have jumped at the chance (I wouldn't have, but I think it made her feel a bit better). Be careful with that though, if you leave the slightest ambiguity, she'll keep asking - it's human nature to take the positives from a situation like that rather than accept that they're being rejected.

If she's already a friend or work colleague, you can always say you'd rather not jeopardise the status quo, but if all else fails, go for the old "my heart is elsewhere" getout.

This doesn't hold too true if she subsequently sees you chasing tail like a randy old alley cat, so use with caution.

*© Shibboleth 2013. Someone that added you as a friend that you probably wouldn't even say hello to if you saw them in a pub...

Is that not what all FB friends are ?

His advice is not bad to be fair... damn you 😉
I think just tell her and be as diplomatic as you like, no point hurting peoples feelings just for the sake of it and it takes courage to ask someone out and , probably, more so for a female.

I thought the idea was you just ignore them and they get the message.
That's what they all do to me anyway 😥

I thought the idea was you just ignore them and they get the message.
That's what they all do to me anyway

They read a different set of rules Dez... Snakes with tits, the lot of 'em! 😉

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You're dead right!
Last week, I saw this woman's profile saying "This is the most unfriendly site", thought, well she's too far away to meet, not that great looking, but I'll message to prove we're not all unfriendly.
What did she do? Ignored me!! Ugly beeatch!

Haha, I once went on a date with a girl whose profile picture was a group shot of 5 stunners and one person wearing an Osama Bin Laden mask...

Guess what, she was the one wearing the mask! Talk about having a face for radio, she looked like she'd fallen out of the ugly tree, got caught by her shoelace and "Piñata'd" to within an inch of her life!

She was a nice girl though, GB triathlon squad, vet, great body, good company, but Jeeeesh, she was funny looking!

Had a bit of a word with myself, asked myself if maybe I was being a bit too shallow, and decided to text her for Date 2, see if there was any truth in this "beauty's only skin deep" myth I keep hearing...

AND SHE BLANKED ME!! Blown out by an ugly chick! Bloody lesbians... 😉

OK now I am nervous. A woman sent me a message last night around 2:30 in the morning. Presumably she'd been out that night...not sure. She sounds really nice (in her profile at least), works in the army driving trucks though her pictures would belie any image of a typical truck driver...in my mind at least anyway. Anyway I sent her a message, thinking nothing will come of it anyway, telling her that if she's still interested then she could call/text me and gave her my number. Got a text about half an hour ago saying she has to do something first and she'll call me in an hour. If I wasn't so socially inept I'd be looking forward to this but now I'm pacing up and down thinking what the 'eck do I say to her! This is the next stage beyond messaging over POF which I haven't yet explored and it's with a looker! Am I ready 😯

drink stella and feel brave

I'm wondering if I should I write down some questions but it might sound like an interview then.....where's the vodka...!!!!

Is that not what all FB friends are ?

I'm wondering if I should I write down some questions

This is a woman you've never met; she knows nothing about you and you know nothing about her... You'll NEVER meet someone that you have more to talk about!! 🙂

Did she call you?

Shib, she did text me in the end. We had a lengthy text conversation. I was getting a bit bored and said the texting could go on forever but we should meet up. She proposed a venue where they do "the best pulled pork sarnies", I thought this was a euphemism but she was being serious and proposed to meet up on the 28th as I said I could only do weekends. She does live a fair distance from me to be honest but drivable and it's close to where she's based. I get the feeling after a couple of texts tonight she's got some skeletons in the closet.....am getting a bit bored of this message ping pong though.....might just call her tomorrow but bloody hell the 28th! I guess that's life being in the Forces and something, if I were to be serious about her, would have to get used to.

What's dating direct like these days? Strutted my stuff about 9 years ago; a lot of effort, a lot of driving but some fun along the way.

A woman popped up on Match this morning who, on paper, is an ideal lady for me. We have similar tastes,she has been to some of the same festivals and gigs as me. She is in the right age range, has a decent job and a nice car. There is just one snag. She is one of my closest friends and we share a house. I can confirm there is zero attraction between us, the main reason I think our friendship has lasted so many years.

Likes being swiped right and shared interests