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Had a great night at a party in London last night - with a good few minutes having tinder explained to me by some of the single ladies there - seedy springs to mind!
Does anyone seriously use such a thing - or is it just those odd london types!?
What's tinder then? Is it a hetero version of Grindr?
*Googles tinder*
*Confirms suspicions we're all doomed*
*likes bearnecessities*
*Googles tinder*
*sets up profile*
*[i]Likes[/i] DezB and Shibby's profiles*
Yes like grindr - but at least the profiles pictures contain more faces than grindr (still bleaching my mind after being shown that by a gay friend!)
The casual dating/sex thing?
scary 😯
*Googles tinder**sets up profile*
*Likes DezB and Shibby's profiles*
Plus one
I'm with emsz - I think it would be fair to say I like men and sex but what passes as dating these days is enough to put me off completely.
Edit just reread that - what I meant is by making dating predominantly about the quick shag it makes the whole online dating thing seem sordid (and I know it works for some but that is merely my perception)
Edit: Too childish, even for me.
Boo, missed your childish remark
No, you really didn't miss anything! Reference to a quote someone made on another thread.
I don't posess verbal dexterity to say how many things are wrong with that tinder idea; most rational folk probably know though. Huge implications if it takes off 🙁
I was just a bit suprised how popular it already seemed to be down there - hopefully it will just stay a london thing
Huge implications if it takes off
There was a website advertised on hoardings here (Brussels) which was basically a website for a 'bit on the side'. Of course this stuff exists but I was taken aback by seeing it so out in the open
I suppose Tinder has its pace; if only to keep the type of people that would find it attractive well away from me...
(mind you, I don't need dating any more, anyway 😀 )
Rachel
Now Blendr as well - a direct straight version of grindr
Thanks AW, I was blissfully unaware of Tinder, Grindr and Blendr until reading this thread. I have never been more relieved to be well out of the dating game!
A view reinforced by the experiences of a colleague who shared her experiences with us, and that was on the regular dating sites. She's now happy in a relationship with an old friend.
Good luck to all you singles seeking soulmates.
If folk want to have casual sex with complete strangers why would anyone else really care?
IMHO [ as it is not for me] its a sad sign of modern life/society that many are more comfortable bumping bits than bumping minds souls or emotions
Still whatever gets them through the night its their choice not mine.
I wont be joining and I have no need though.
It wasn't the individual choices that I found disturbing rather the general tendency for dating sites to vere towards casual sex.
Be naughty.com - openly advertising it
Anyone else notice that it's the guys that get charged to view/message though....
Surely there was always things like this- 25 years ago mags and PO boxes now an app.
I suspect the internet just makes some stuff more visible or perhaps we live in more open /liberated times.
From London and lived in london all my life
And is this a London thing Nope !!!!
@grantway - are you single? As it seemed to be known to all the single people (and a married one!) that were at the party I was at last night.
And forgive me if im wrong JY but I always got the impression the personal ads like that were not really a mainstream phenomenon
It's a good site for keeping all the slappers in one place.
Yuk. 😐
Whatever happened to the no 3rd base until the 3rd date rule?
If folk want to have casual sex with complete strangers why would anyone else really care?
Can you have casual sex with your husband / wife e.g. say whilst making the tea or reading the paper?
bikebouy - Member
It's a good site for keeping all the slappers in one place.Yuk.
Thats fair enough but it seems like a suprising number of dating sites are used mainly for precuring a quick shag - so not really a small pocket of people
Huge implications if it takes off
I'd say it might have an uplifting swell in support 😉
it seems like a suprising number of dating sites are used mainly for precuring a quick shag - so not really a small pocket of people
That. Not wishing to be all prudish, there is a place in everyone's life for random knee tremblers; but scouring the internet to procure them is wrong.
It's a moral race to the bottom, so to speak.
Thats fair enough but it seems like a suprising number of dating sites are used mainly for precuring a quick shag - so not really a small pocket of people
From my colleagues experience I'd concur. And, reading the opening gambits or replies from the blokes, a refined dialogue is not required. It seems that the most direct offer/request and detailed description is the preferred approach. 😯
My mate mentioned this Friday night to our single mates. Half an hour later we were having a decent laugh.
Stop being so boring.
I am far from a prude either, just find it a bit depressing.
@dandax1990 - are you 23?
maybe we'll check back on you in another 20 odd years and if you're single ask if you are starting to find it all a bit boring too? 🙂
sounds like the 'bang with friends' app!
Yeah I'm 23. The thing with dating, online or not, is people take it too serious. It's not a bloody job interview.
People need to learn how to have a bit of fun.
Dunno why I thought this was relevant. 😉
My date tells me she blocks most people who send her sleazy messages and only dates people who can spell. A good maxim for life in general
@dandax1990 - so are you saying I should lighten up and throw myself out there for loads of casual sex
I am not a 23 year old male I am a 41 year old mother of 4 - im sure you can see that wouldnt really fit with where I am in life. Or maybe I really am too much of a prude 😀
TBH I find this thread quite depressing, your killing a whole profession with your cheap dating sites, if you just want sex then pay for it, paying for a date/meal/theater just to get your end away gives you the same result which is money = shag.
but scouring the internet to procure them is wrong.
Huh?
Why?
Do you/do you know someone whose gone on line to find a riding partner?
Just because someone has done the same looking for sex somehow makes it unwholesome?
T inter web is just another social medium (this place after all is nothing more than a substitute for the pub!) - stop being so prissy & moralistic...this aint the age of Queen Victoria!
(When & lets be honest it was was all going on behind closed doors anyway..)
Honestly, this thread reads like a page from the Daily Wail crying over the failure of society to uphold honest & decent moral values.... 🙄
Nobody is getting hurt!
(Hopefully, & at least not without consent...)
Ah the joys of targeted ads. Anyone else now seeing ads for a site called 'bilove'?
just me then 🙁
your killing a whole profession with your cheap dating sites
Who's killing what profession? I'm confused
leffeboy, I'm getting Special K & ASDA, I'm rock & roll me 😉
Edit, adjustablewench, it was a tongue in cheek comment about prostitutes & the ease of sex nowadays, never mind.
i always wondered if they were targeted to the viewers of the forum or just to the individual user - as i once got an ad for male catheters. . . .
@adjustablewench - Not sure where you got the idea that having fun means just having sex. I have loads of fun on my bike and not once have I inserted my penis into anything. Honest.
What I'm saying is a lot of single people who're looking for relationships, especially you older people, seem to get obsessed with it and don't have fun with it.
There is such a thing as 23 y/o female sl*gs as well you know. Most of them are mothers too.
sounds like the modern equivalent of the late night bar/club that most towns have.
@dandax1990 - hmmmm I think if you read properly the threads on dating you will find it very hard to find anyone who is obsessed with it. I read your initial lighten up comment to be in relation to the topic - not as a general piece of advice
This thread was based on my conversation with some ladies at a party - I personally have not been on a 'date' for quite some time. Not sure what gives you the idea I or the rest of us "old people" dont have fun either?
And im really not sure why you need to put out that there are 23 year old female sl*gs?! For a start I am not about to get personal and judgemental about anyone, if someone wants to have loads of sex with whoever they want then fair enough. I am well aware having been 23 myself, having been the mother of a 23 year old and having done a some community nursing in a sexual health clinic - having lots of fun and lots of sex at 23 is probably viewed as the normal rather than having none - but as I said I am not about to get personal or judgemental, but you have to be careful in posts as it can be so easily done.
Maybe you like being judgemental?
I was only making a comment that it I found the online dating sites were quite often just used to get casual sex and I personally found that off putting and a little depressing
Perhaps the sites help filter it so you get those looking for relationships on one site and those looking for fun on others?
i doubt their is much age difference - ie the % will be similar- of those who just want "fun" and those who want a relationship
the problem is how to filter the two to your personal tastes
Essentially these things exist because it is what folk want to do.
i dont know if the "dating industry" creates the demand or whether it serves it but I suspect the later.
FWIW I dont think its great tbh - its odd that folk are happy to bump bits but not minds or souls but hey ho its their choice.
tinder is highly amusing, some of my mates use it to great success. the best bit is liking the ones they really, really wouldn't like when they aren't looking.
[i]Likes DezB and Shibby's profiles*[/i]
Hey, what makes you think I'd read this thread?!
Ok ,I read the Telegraph article...
[i]Tinder may work for some, but it's not the right dating app for a chubby chap in his thirties..[/i]
No hope for me then!! 😆
You're in your thirties????!
No chance - I'm guessing the older you are the less "right" it becomes!
(hang on? Why the surprise?? 😆 )
adjustablewench - Member
@dandax1990 - so are you saying I should lighten up and throw myself out there for loads of casual sex
Double dare you, with no backsies
Ha ha 'older than me' is on the imaginary list of random things I have noted about you (not in a stalkerish way - you just pick up various bits of information onbhere)
Along with sideburns, wintersports, kids, doesnt drive anywhere
Im sure we all build up similar pictures of each other from info on here
Junkyard - ninja vegan and vocal, but harmless for example 😉
@dandax. Its just a way to meet the damaged-goods side of girls.
Every nympho I've met has serious personality/childhood issues. Abit off putting IMO.
but harmless
Ouch! 😀
Never knew that app existed.
Quite amusing.
Hmm now I'm not seeing anyone at the moment
*joins*
Hmm I may have more luck on grindr 🙁
All over already Houns? 🙁
All over already Houns?
I'm sure it's never happened before. He was just nervous, probably.
#passeskleenex
Junkyard - ninja vegan and vocal, but harmless for example
That is a compliment for this place 😉
Adds to profile awaits "hits"
I just want to date everyone on this thread 😆 (and the previous one)
Yeah, for now, may give it a try again in new year
NY? If I was single I'd aim to be hanging out of a dirty slapper by tonight.
Nice mental image as I tuck into a pastrami bagel, thanks hora 😯
Yeah, when I said "everyone", of course there are exceptions 😉
I've been using it. Quite good fun. It's not like grindr because there are women involved, and its men who always want to jump straight into bed.
Ok, i'll clarify..
I do not dissaprove of the site, think it's good in a lot of ways (saves going to meet folk, good), certainly services a need (sex, good) and can be a safe way of filtering out/in folk (good, safe, arms length)
I just think having all the slappers in one place would be far better than cluttering up the whole interwebz with a myriad of sites dedicated to 3min fumbles and runny noses.
I have a couple of mates who've used EHarmony to good effect, both now in LTR's and happy to have found someone to spend thier life with.
[i]...runny noses[/i]
First 'Tinder', and now something else new to me... ❓
Every [s]nympho[/s] [i]person[/i] I've met has serious personality/childhood issues. Abit off putting IMO.
FIFY
Does it work in the sticks?
Don't live in London...
adjustablewench - Member
Nice mental image as I tuck into a pastrami bagel, thanks hora
At least it's not a "badly packed kebab....."
it seems like a suprising number of dating sites are used mainly for precuring a quick shag - so not really a small pocket of people
That wasn't my experience using dating sites. Quite the opposite, in fact. Maybe I was doing it wrong?
At least it's not a "badly packed kebab....."
Just shut your eyes. It all tastes the same. 😉
I just downloaded the app for a looksee ...it wants to connect to my FB for photos, will it appear on my newsfeed thingy ?
I may just knock it on the head ....any biking chicks on here want a date, I'm only 44 but had a tough paper round ?
I've joined and had a look, doesn't seem sleazy at all, couple of contacts already. One is suspiciously hot, not messaged any yet
At least it's not a "badly packed kebab....."
Just shut your eyes. It all tastes the same.
LALALALALALALA.... A donner will never be the same again.. 🙁
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