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Your wife announces that she hates you and has told someone else.
This came out of the blue this morning along with an accusation that I’m trying to poison her!
I have no idea what to do next.
Up the dose?
Sounds like something has been brewing. I guess the only thing to do is get to the root of it. That may involve counselling.
Puts my sticky piston into perspective.
Divorce?
That sounds like some sort of paranoia, is there a known mental health issue?
Get divorced and let her be someone else’s problem.
Been through similar, no ****in way would i put up with it again.
I have no idea what to do next.
Pub.
That sounds like some sort of paranoia, is there a known mental health issue?
If it is truly out of the blue, I would be thinking along these lines too.
Pub.
What, have a nice cold pint and wait for all this to blow over?
Are you Rob?
More seriously hopefully you can chat to her and find out what is causing her to think like this.
Get divorced and let her be someone else’s problem.
Been through similar, no **** way would i put up with it again.
This. Obviously we don't have the full story but life's too short for that mess.
I had my own overdue but lucky escape. The next bloke after me got the full force of the madness.
Get divorced and let her be someone else’s problem.
+1
Welcome to the beginning of an exciting new phase in your life!
Can you talk to her friends and see if they can get to the bottom of it ?
And I thought picking up a work voice mail was a bad idea today.
Is this the start of a sneaky defense in court?
Considering we really don’t know the full picture his wife could have vascular dementia or some such other awful disease maybe we should go for something else other than ‘ditch her’. Especially considering the poison angle which suggests something a lot more serious.
Another vote for find out what's wrong and see if it can be fixed. After all there's an "in sickness and in health" clause that you did agree to one fine day.
The interfering with her food thing has been going on for a while - I’ve generally laughed it off. The hate message is new - having said that life hasn’t been a bed of roses and we have our differences but I didn’t expect this outburst. I don’t think it’s a mental health issue but you never know. Thanks for the replies. I’ll keep the thread going.
Considering we really don’t know the full picture his wife could have vascular dementia or some such other awful disease maybe we should go for something else other than ‘ditch her’. Especially considering the poison angle which suggests something a lot more serious.
Yeah, good point. Sorry OP, I actually missed the poisoning bit and just skimmed over. Assumed the 'told somebody else' was autocorrect for 'met somebody else'.
What's the evidence she's stating when she's eaccusing you of poisoning her food?
Time for a long serious talk!
The poisoning her food thing is really concerning. That’s definitely not normal and I’d be looking at some sort of mental health issue there. Big chat needed and a professional opinion.
It’s the sort of thing my gran used to say and she was seriously ill.
Best of luck
Just for the record, are you trying to poison her?
jsus there are some heartless pricks on here.
OP, sounds hard and assuming you aren't infact poisoning her sounds like she needs some help and support.
That doesn't you have to be it ofcourse but if you do decide to stick around and try and get to the bottom of this and be there for her its important you yourself get support.
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Maybe - but you need to establish where he is trying to poison her …
Bad day? Sounds like it's more than a 24 hour thing. Perhaps time to start documenting things.... And this thread doesn't count.
Or, are you just really sh1t at cooking?
I don’t think it’s a mental health issue but you never know.
So accusing you of poisoning her is rational behaviour? Poor mental health and mental illness is a broad subject that behaviour is clearly a symtom of something going on.
Yeah, mental health issue it sounds like. And as for the people advising you to get rid - she's not a car with a noisy bearing. I'd hope she's a bit of effort.
Re advice, I have none unfortunately, but you do need some kind of professional opinion. Is there a charity you can talk to?
Google found this:
Aaaaaand breathe! Turns out its not actually me she hates, its my job which tbf entails some long anti social hours particularly in the summer. We've had a year of living in a house she hated, in a crap (for us) area and that coupled with the enforced isolation of COVID has impacted her mental health probably to borderline depression. We have had a long chat, we moved a month ago closer to work so no commute and a much better area - hopefully things are on the up (fingers crossed) and we a re planning a holiday which should help 🙂 thanks everyone.
Wondered how this was going, and that sounds like great news - best of luck to you both. 🙂
Sounds to me like you both have issues. One extreme to another on this thread.
Sounds to me like you both have issues. One extreme to another on this thread.
I'm under no illusions that this is finished - think ceasefire not peace treaty.
I think your wife has psychosis.
Given the poisoning allegations, that have apparently been made before, in itself a pointer, but with other unusual behaviour - the "hating" outburst, which by the time of discussion has become something else. They are two, wildly different emotional outbutsts, only linked by underlying condition.
She needs urgent help.
I'm not clear you're taking this seriously.