[Closed] Yesterday was Divorce Day, apparently

Why did no-one tell me, we didn't even have an argument yesterday?

Bad planning.

Yay, rebounds!

Id laugh. If my brother wasnt sitting in my home office next to me...having been thrown out by his Mrs since a week before xmas. It's def for the best, and he's in much better mood now than then. The kids are enjoying having their uncle around so much though.

The kids are enjoying having their uncle around so much

Do you mean your kids are enjoying having your brother around or his kids are enjoying having you around their newly single mum. Means completely different things!

bdum tish 😉

[i]MY[/i] kids are not only enjoying seeing more of [i]their[/i] uncle, but also [i]their[/i] cousin too.

Yes I saw that too.

@MoreCash hopefully you can work that out, the fact my ex refused to return to work after the kids where grown was a key reason for our divorce.

In your neck of the woods, Stoner, isn't their cousin also their sister? And aunt, probably.

😉

Sometimes divorce can be the best thing. Friend of mine escaped from his first marriage, to a batshitmental psycho hose bitch, happily unscathed. Is far happier now.

My bosses wife punched him & had him removed from the house by police on boxing day he told me yesterday, he was seeing solicitors in the afternoon

@jambalaya - Storm in a teacup, and I expect the actual reason was something completely unrelated. She's always worked 2-3 days a week and I've done all sorts of flexitime strangeness - and turned down promotions - to fit in with the childcare. She has tried with 5 days the last few months as she would earn a lot more than me if she went full time. We are both waiting the outcome of job interviews atm which will finally enable us to put down some definite plans, and get some stability back.

It can't be your fault as everything bad in the history of the world [b]ever[/b] is down to me.
Of course you're unhappy, you work 3 days a week and only get 2 full days off by yourself while the kids are at school.
What was I thinking working a full week and only riding at night when the kids are in bed!! I'm clearly taking the easy route.

I'm disgusted by me.

Therealhoops appears to have married my wife's long lost twin sister.

Friend of mine escaped from his first marriage, to a batshitmental psycho hose bitch, happily unscathed

It can't be your fault as everything bad in the history of the world ever is down to me.

I know that feeling
Last night I was responsible for moving the tweezers from the bathroom into her handbag.

Do you reckon there's a solicitor who could do a Premier subscribers discount for us all? 😉

Well, this has come as a bit of a surprise to me. Although it has neatly coincided with Mrs North announcing to me this morning as we were getting ready for work: "We can't go on living like this."

On enquiry, it transpired that what she really meant is that she's incredibly busy at work. I resisted reminding her exactly how much I have to do and agreed.

And now the OP tells me I'm getting divorced?!!!!! And all without a single argument over Christmas.... 😉

Seems to be a common theme here!

My wife has also decided she needs to work less as doing 3.5 days a week is too stressful. Yes dear, that'll do the family budget the world of good! Flower arranging is her latest career idea.

And despite me being out the house for over 11 hours a day, I apparently don't pull my weight in the house enough (so who built that conservatory at the back of the house last year, the builder fairies!?).

😀

Divorce Online used to be in the office next to us. Thin walls. This time of year we could hardly hear ourselves think. Thank goodness they've gone now.

The Saturday after "divorce day" is always "lay a new patio day"

who who built that conservatory at the back of the house last year, the builder fairies!?

Is there a singletrackwives.com where they have got together to coordinate this?

oh, my wife's "out with her mates" tonight and then "at a conference" til the weekend

I'd assumed it was all genuine, the devious bitch

(luckily, there is some concrete being laid round our way in the next week or so)

Well, it's helping me out.

Last night I was responsible for moving the tweezers from the bathroom into her handbag.

Classic gaslighting behaviour. That's mental abuse that is.

It would appear to me ,we all have more in common than just bikes on here!..

Singletracks clearly to blame ..

This thread seems far more useful than 'Relate'

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If your wife's best friend has just got divorced, then there's a good chance you will be next. Women divorce in packs!

^^^ there might be some truth here ^^^

rOcKeTdOg - Member
My bosses wife punched him & had him removed from the house by police on boxing day he told me yesterday, he was seeing solicitors in the afternoon

My bosses wife punched him & had him removed from the house by police

D0nk +1, but I was a bit afraid to ask....

D0NK - Member
My bosses wife punched him & had him removed from the house by police
eh she did the punching but the police removed him? I trust there is more to the story than that.

i wouldn't always assume that's the case... women are mentalist as we've already collectively shown 😉

8th Jan 2011.

So clearly some truth behind it. At the same time, the biggest relief, and unhappiest days of my life. We've actually 'spoken' more in the past 4 years than we ever did before, and we're pretty much on good terms, which makes things incredibly easier when she's in Newcastle and 250 miles away with our kids..

nickc - we all have questions for you. Is it ok to email?

If your wife's best friend has just got divorced, then there's a good chance you will be next. Women divorce in packs!

They also get married, pregnant and buy crap clothes in packs too.

Can’t think for themselves the poor creatures.

therealhoops:

Yes, of course

I got the news that the ex was going the Monday after the holidays in 2011.

Looking back it was the greatest day of my life, although didnt see it at the time.

I left my wife and kids today. It's been the worst few days of my life but it's going to get better. I could do with people to talk to.

Anyway, feel for any poor buggers who are dealing with a separation. There but for the grace of God.....

It's not that bad to be honest. Life looks like it has many more opportunities now than it did this time last year. Happy days.

therealhoops - Member
I left my wife and kids today. It's been the worst few days of my life but it's going to get better. I could do with people to talk to.

You're looking in the wrong place here 🙂

Never married, but close. Think I've been through the various mills, just without the kids.

Feel free to drop an email, but probably better for you to post openly here so you can realise how stupid people can be and therefore better about your own lot 😀

I'm not wishing to make light. Rather than my own break-ups, I've seen so much from my parents break-up and witnessed how well my Dad dealt with it to last me a lifetime of experience.

Watching it happen and seeing the injustice would wake me up in tears sometimes (a very weird feeling as 30 something bloke).

If I could suggest one thing, it would be to keep you head held up high and continue to be a 'good man', no matter what the temptation is to do otherwise. It will stand you in good stead, trust me.

If I could suggest one thing, it would be to keep you head held up high and continue to be a 'good man', no matter what the temptation is to do otherwise. It will stand you in good stead, trust me.

This is what I've been doing. It's not winning me any short term battles, but I know long term that the kids will make up their own minds about who did what to whom.

Best to go and talk to mates. Had a mate of mine turn up on the door step one evening when he found out his wife had been having an affair. Q carry out and curry. I sat and just listened. Nothing you can say can make it better but talking is good. Whatever happened be honest and don't role over. Get a good solicitor. Maintain contact with children. I don't advise moving out either.

Simple fact, its going to hurt. Whether its you who leaves or them you are going to hurt, be it guilt about leaving or the anguish of being left.
I was the one who was left, but I still remember the pain on her face as she gathered the courage to leave. Its shit - but it does get better, better for everyone involved.
It might not seem it now, but life is good, life is bright & it definitely is worth living.

1 week in and life is better already. Can't afford a deposit, can't afford my own car, can't afford my own insurance, couldn't be happier.
The tension and stress has almost gone completely. I still see the kids pretty much everyday which is good.

therealhoops - Member

1 week in and life is better already. Can't afford a deposit, can't afford my own car, can't afford my own insurance, couldn't be happier.
The tension and stress has almost gone completely. I still see the kids pretty much everyday which is good.

Nice one 🙂

1 month in and life is settling down. I have moved into a flat/shagpad/giant mancave and I'm slowly sorting the bills. Family and friends have been a huge support. I'm still a way off sorting some wheels but it'll happen eventually.
I'm still seeing my kids loads and as soon as the weather stops I'll be out biking again. I did manage one jaunt on my birthday.
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on the up, life goes on, great news