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2011 was a total ****less train crash of a year for me and after loads of huge change in my life I met a girl who IMHO is leagues above me. Once things progressed to the bed I detected her nervousness (she's just come out of a 20year faithful marriage) and it made me nervous and well as you can guess it all went pear shaped.
Never really had a problem but we're now a total disaster due to us both being stressed in the situation. We've both talked, stroked, all sorts but we can't relax.. So I thought I'd go to doctors who ran some tests and said I was suffering from 'Performance Anxiety' and didn't recommend any drugs but said he'd offer me some viagra just to help re-establish some confidence, but I needed therapy of the phycological sort.
We're both gong away for a dirty weekend and i'm gutted I feel like this, I'm overweight which doesn't help but never had the problem before, my blood pressure is spot on etc and don't take any medication.
I know some will laugh at this, some will empathise but I've got no shame in admitting to it.
I'm itching to try the little blue pill but the side effects don't look pleasant.
discuss/take the piss at will.......
My missus used to work for Pfizer and sold Viagra so I tried it a few years ago. Can't say I noticed any difference, other than a slightly flushed face, but not even the might of a giant pharma company could breath new life into my baldy half incher
Fair play to you, and good luck.
Remember, this may take a while, so don't lose faith if it goes a bit wrong the first time.
no never needed it but I was surprisingly nervous first time after a 20 year faithful relationship as was she...worked out though and I hope it does for you both
By admitting it on an open forum you get my respect. Too many people clam up in difficult situations rather than face them and by honestly talking about it with your partner will surely help not hinder your problem. Fair play to you sir.
Oh, and enjoy your rumpy pumpy!! 😉
What side-effects are you worried about? Isn't it just blue vision for very few people? Or do you mean more psychological side-effects of having to take the pills?
Tbh viagra wouldn't be my first port of call (couple of pints would be, but I'm guessing you've tried that 🙂 ), or even second or third, but if it can sort things out it has to be worth a shot. As you say, it would be just to get you over the initial nervousness.
I would suggest that you invest in some trubulus terrestris
Used by the greeks and romans to boost the stamina of thier armed forces and as an aphrodisiac
http://www.livestrong.com/article/494835-tribulus-for-increasing-testosterone-levels/
stimulates the pituitary gland and increases testosterone production, like a very natural hign 😀
I need help 'the other way'. I still think like a spotty 15yr old FFS 😕
i will chip in for you to be spayed of you want Hora 😉
I am sure you have had all the suggestions already but focus on the game, not the goal.
And when you do hit the back of the net the game isn't over - you keep playing for 90 minute and into extra time.
Watch some pron beforehand as a warm up
1 serious bit of advice if you go for it (and I can't see why you shouldn't if it helps) DO NOT have much alcohol with it.
Passing out in sweaty pool of vomit will not help things!
and for the record no one is leagues above you 😉
Many years back in Lagana in Zante (classy I know) Viagra was being sold in all the bars, 'buy a shot get a Viagra' sort of thing, looking back it might well of been a refresher for all I knew, but at the time I must admit I did not notice a difference 😉
and for the record no one is leagues above you
Agreed - and having that mentality may be a help.
i reckon i could do with some.
my diet of warfarin, digoxin and bisoprolol being a key factor.
beta blockers have a tendancy to kill the urge........... 😀
Well your bravery is totally admirable sir. I suspect there's a couple of mental issues for you both. Sounds like youre a little intimidated what with her being above your league (all in your head, of course). The little blue pill sounds like it might assist you initially and your doctor seems to have the right idea, help not a cure. Hopefully it will allow you to bolster your confidence and that might be all you need - cure yourself. If not a good sexual counsellor might be the long term answer.
Good luck with it.
Don't think about Ann Widdecombe.
[i]Don't think about Ann Widdecombe. [/i]
or do.
whatever floats your boat, really.
I use it.
I take one quarter of the smallest dose tablet. I don't get a full erection, but it sticks out far enough so I don't wee on my slippers.
ive taken this before
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for recreational reasons rather than medical (best not to go into details)
anyway im assuming its similar stuff to viagra and definately works
dont worry about it i take paracetamol when i have a headache, anti-histamines in hayfever season etc etc
btw we expect a post match analysis when you get back!!
I've used viagra recreationally, both official Pfizer product and a rip off product which was a much higher dose, and it certainly got things going. Re-load time was virtually eliminated as well.
Didn't really experience any side effects apart from the obvious. In your shoes, as it is being prescribed by a doctor, I'd give it a shot.
LOL @ crickey. 😀
i will chip in for you to be spayed of you want Hora
Its my mind. Its wired for filth.
Don't think about Ann Widdecombe.
Just concentrate on repeating "Anne Widdicome" under your breath, rather like some form of Kabbadi.
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Oh, and OP - I reckon your guts saying this on here means you're half way there. Just take what the doc offers as a bit of a starter for 10, and see how you and your new lady go from there.
And remember, it's all about fun..!
I find that if you mentally flick through your back catalogue of 'greatest hits' you can either get it up or end quicker.... depending on which you 'select' 8)
I can't use chat roulette without it
class 😆
Why don't you both just go out and have a few drinks and have a good night out, should help you both relax
I was offered some by a dodgy mate and gave it a go, no side effects to worry about, just an occasional light headedness, and fuzzy warm flushes to your face - occasional 'warm' eyesight too, actually fairly pleasant.
20 mins in, think a sexy thought and you'll be ready to go. Great fun. the best bit as mentioned earlier, is reload time. You can get down to it again 5 mins after the first session.
Bingo Bango! Enjoy!
She doesn't think she is way better than you or she wouldn't be with you. (Bit of a problem for me with Mrs B really, but its lasted 18 years so far and it took me about 12 years to be comfortable) So have some confidence in your situation.
You could try 'Horny Goat Weed' which is a more natural product rather than a drug first. H&B and Zipvit stock it.
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I used it a bit the other year when I was perhaps a bit stressed (work) but also over 50 which can't be helping. Made a small difference I have to say but not used the big V. Maybe a bit of a placebo as well.
You probably have to just relax, good luck hope it works out for you.
Ewe, chemical enhancements.. no thanks.
Do you fancy her?
Does she fancy you?
Great, then relax, take your time it's not a race afterall, enjoy other pleasures and fall in love again.
T'is all.
I tried some Viagra eye drops, just made me look 'hard'.
Don't expect to have 'all guns blazing' from the start. Go in there intent on giving [i]her[/i] a good time any way you can and I don't see why it shouldn't happen for you.
Nicest thing wifey ever said to me was that she likes to feel it growing in her hands, that totally put me at ease.
Alternatives are available on prescription if Viagra doesn't suit you with its side effects - i.e. Levitra - though of course they will have their own effects. Just worth bearing in mind there are a few options out there.
I should declare a financial interest at this point. In the drug I mean. I'm not betting on you or owt 🙂
Swallow it fast or you'll get a stiff neck.
IGMC.....
A couple of my mates used to spend every Friday evening having their 'Sexstacy' evenings.
They'd do a Viagra each and some E's or MDMA. Apparently its a very fine way to spend the night. Just a thought. Though eventually you're back'll go
Mostly Balanced, Too much information. 😯
I'd love to try Viagra. I'd probably expire after 6hours at it. Either that or a new pelvis would be required for the lucky lady..
😉
sex + pills = 'interesting' experience...
Nicest thing wifey ever said to me was that she likes to feel it growing in her hands, that totally put me at ease.
😆
Have a 'dirty' evening where you both agree beforehand that you will [i]not [/i]have sex. That should eliminate performance anxiety as you don't have to perform, just enjoy it.
You can also get sprays from many sex shops, or via the internet, and they do work!!!!!
Mick youre a very brave man for airing your feelings, and best of luck to you both
Have a 'dirty' evening where you both agree beforehand that you will not have sex. That should eliminate performance anxiety as you don't have to perform, just enjoy it.
[s]You could also enjoy a bottle of champagne then use the bottle on yourself whilst your missus watches [/s] whistles
I like the name of that "Menhancer" stuff you see in the motorway service station vending machines.
Can't vouch for whether it works though.
someone at work was recommending "horny goat weed"...
just drink alcohol...
Welcome to Hora's World. Fasten your seatbelts please 😯
You could also enjoy a bottle of champagne then use the bottle on yourself whilst your missus watches
You need to drill a hole in the bottom(*) or you get nasty air pressure issues. Er, I expect.
(* - of the bottle!!)
Tiger P8nis?
Although I'd recommend shooting the Tiger first before attempting to ingest..
Anyway, you should be able to get Viagra readily on the black market at the moment. There was a lorryload of the stuff stolen from customs last week. Police are looking for hardened criminals.
(coat please)
I'd recommend shooting the Tiger first
If he could do that he wouldn't need the pills.
You could have somebodies eye out with that
Erm, sex + pills = What exactly?
This worries me.
Flushed face and sore head, and it only works if you're horny (i.e. you don't just 'get' a stiffy). Don't buy from the local chemist - you can get packs for half the price through an online pharmacy. And you'll probably only need half the pill too. And it tastes foul!
kit what exactly are you tasting? the before or the result?
Can't believe all these "healthy cyclists" would advocate putting something blue from a service station vending machine in their body. By definition it can't be a medicine as MHRA are very strict on these things and therefore these products can't have active ingredients that have been tested properly.
🙄You could try 'Horny Goat Weed' which is a more natural product rather than a drug first. H&B and Zipvit stock it.
Of course something made to poor quality control standards/sold by some hippy which may/may not have an active ingredient (therefore = a drug) is far better than something made to exacting standards that has been through years of clinical trials 🙄
The OP has a prescription from his GP so there's no need for quackery or buying counterfeit. It's just a question of getting it dispensed. If NHS script then any pharmacy will do or if it's a private script then beware as prices vary massively.
Try these for a good price and discrete delivery
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Good luck with your treatment
Pharmacy '2' 'u'
Does their Customer service rep reply to your emails hello m8 how is the order bruv?
and if you say good. they reply lol?
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ages since I've posted here so let's just jump in at the deep end.. so to speak..
5 years ago this coming May I was operated on for prostate cancer... since that time the little blue pill, or the little yellow pill ( cialis ) has been my friend
if you are having "issues" even temporary issues get on to your doc for a prescription ( or whatever means ) and get on with it... 🙂
viagra .. effects within an hour and lasting up to 4 hours (no, not continually )
cialis.. effects within an hour and lasting up to 36 hrs. ( take once and effects on demand )
my doc also tells me that there is a new drug out.. disolve the pill under your tongue and stand back
Ok well done you for talking in an open forum, never used drugs like Viagra myself but I can empathise about the difficulties you're having. When I met my gf she was really really unsure about the whole thing and it was really confusing and embarrassing and weird for a bit. There we were massively fancying each other, being horny as goats one minute, and fed up/ confused/ hurt the next.
Give yourselves some time and space just to relax, sex is not the be all and end all of a relationship, it's important for sure, but it needs to be right for both of you. If you have feelings for each other then it'll be ok.
can't comment from personal experience but after my dad had his bladder and prostate removed he struggled and now uses viagra, no negative experiences or horror stories so far from him. +1squillion kudos for the honesty dude 🙂
Used it a couple of times in the past (for the shortened reload time as someone else said...) gives me an intense headache though so wasn't worth it (and that was taking only 1/4 of a tablet). I'd say it's worth a go in your situation though (nurofen helps if you end up the same way I did...)
disolve the pill under your tongue and stand back
why - in case you knock something over - is it that fast acting???
I don't see why anyone should be embarrassed. Seriously. In the school playground maybe.
TurnerGuy - Memberdisolve the pill under your tongue and stand back
why - in case you knock something over - is it that fast acting???
I've not seen these pills (yet) but thats what my doc says.
I've not seen these pills (yet) but thats what my doc says.
so you need to stand back in case you knock something over ? 🙂
I dont know your take on recreation usage of such things but an ex of mine got hold of a load (housemate had just got back from thailand) and we both took some, she certainly seemed to get something off it as well and could turn it into more of a fun thing 😀
Reload time? what reload time...Just keep on going*!
*I was ~22 at the time
so you need to stand back in case you knock something over ?
something... or someone.
🙄
Interesting thread, if a bit like the Inbetweeners for the Over 40s.
Friend of mine a few years back was in a similar situation, had only been with one woman for many years, that was over and he was dating a new woman.
He said it was like driving a car, the basic controls are all in the same place, but the effect can differ significantly according to make and model. And the route chosen for the road test, type of fuel used, we had a fun evening making up more lame jokes.
Sorry probably not very helpful, just a cute analogy.
I tried it once but took it a little early had a stonkin erection well 2inches all round tescos time i got to my destination it kinda sucked all blood from my head... cider is best n burp worm to see some friends off before ur w/e thanks dr bob
😯 lasting damage ?I tried it once but took it a little early had a stonkin erection well 2inches all round tescos time i got to my destination it kinda sucked all blood from my head... cider is best n burp worm to see some friends off before ur w/e thanks dr bob
Yes I admit it I know plenty about viagra.
More specificallt how it binds to PDE5, why vardenafil works better, what are the side effects etc etc.
However having studied it during my PhD does help
This must be the first post I've seen on here where nobody has fallen out!!
Nice meal, 2 hours together in bath, bottle of Pinot Grigio and my former self soon returned, and it did this morning prescription still in the car and it's staying there, thanks to you all for helping me in a very respectful manner.
Weyhey! Congratulations. Great post, no fallings out and a happy ending 🙂
I've used a herbal tablet called 'Herbal Blue' when tired and stressed, I got it from the local sex shop but you can get it on Ebay
It last for about 3 days.
We've both talked, stroked, all sorts but we can't relax.
Perhaps if that's the case then you aren't quite ready to be jumping into bed together? Just take your time, someone else suggested just having nights out together, have a laugh, have non bedroom fun. Sex isn't everything and people put so much pressure on themselves to think that they should be doing it at every possible free second.
We've never used Viagra so this post isn't particularly helpful to you but if you've been offered a prescription by your doctor then go for that, and any counseling he offered. Don't go for some herbal remedy or something you can find cheaper off t'internet, it's not worth taking the risk.
Edit: Missed your last post - go you!!!!
Edit Edit: 2 hrs in a bath - did you not both look like prunes when you got out. Try shower next time, shower sex is amazing 8) Especially with.... oh never mind 🙂
This isn't about pills, it's all in your head, clearly. I had exactly the same thing after my first marriage ended in a flurry of multiple women then found one really a bit too young for me and I had a few issues exactly as you describe.
So, some things to get straight in your head, it can and does happen to all of us, it's just a matter of when and how, sometimes it can be drink, sometimes stress, whatever, it does.
The other ramification you must consider (this might make it worse for you) but she must be thinking it's her fault, not attractive enough for you, something she's doing wrong etc etc, so the problem is shared, only she hasn't got anything structural to fix so to speak.
Edit Oh and try not to use any kind of drug ever if I can avoid it, so no to the blue pill.
Edit Oh and never use drugs of any kind if I can avoid them, so no I wouldn't bother, fix the mind first.
I'd give it a rest, try and diffuse the situation then sooner or later it'll just come back on its own, try not to think about it, use natures natural moments (piss proud in the morning) once you've done it once or twice it'll go away, it's all just nerves.
This is going to sound a boast, but since I'm in a totally anonymous environment I can speak about it, I never have until now, but my problem was exacerbated by personal physical issues in that I'm a bit bigger in the endowment area than I would like and have had 'fit' issues as well and it takes more to 'get it up and keep it that way' so I know exactly where you are.
All I can say is try not to let it get to you, make a joke about it, take the blame entirely on yourself don't make her feel bad and get your 'timing' right, women are more susceptible at different time cycles and the ferramones work in both your interests, (bit like dogs and heat, we don't like to talk that way, but it is true).
So good luck and my respect for bringing it up, I've been fine for twenty years now, but still worry every now and again and as soon as i do, I then have to worry even more, it's a nightmare trying to forget so you can 'get on with it'.
Edit Oh and try not to use any drug if I can avoid it so no to the blue pill
Great stuff! Im bookmarking this- funnier than some of the joke threads we've had!
Hora- youre mad!! 😆
A mate of mine went through a similar situation as the OP after loosing his job and started to fail to rise to the occasion. His marriage then failed (she made his problem public knowledge)he met another women but same situation. He was started to use Viagra but after a while was back to rising to the occasion without the help of the blue pill. He put it down to the stress he was under at the time and the vicious circle of anxiety when it was time to perform that exaggerated the problem. Once he was happier in life and knowing with Viagra he could get an erection he'd relaxed enough to for it to happen naturally.
:oops:Sorry, missed the fact you've sorted it, good well done, but in my case, it was there now in my head, the fear, and who that biatch was in someone else's post who took the piss and told everyone, probably the worse thing you could do to a bloke. Still it put paid to my philandering which was going nowhere and I've been happily with the same partner ever since, it helped that eventually she got an orgasm pretty much every time which didn't happen that often with previous women and made me feel a bit better about myself.
Lots of psychology in this wham bam and thank you mam stuff innit?
LSD and sex can be extremely funny, especially when you get distracted by the curtains halfway through!!
emma82 - MemberSex isn't everything
Perfect illustration of the difference between men and women.
Why?