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And TBH who's planning on dying anyway,better to aim to live forever and be proven wrong 🙂
If we are talking expensive midlife events, then does my dog count? I spent literally thousands shortly after she arrived finding out she has an auto-immune problem and a love for eating tennis balls.
I did take up bouldering after 40, but so far all that's cost me is 2 pairs of shoes and some chalk.
Perhaps "crisis" is too strong a word, but at the age of 43 I'm into that period when I've had a re-think of my priorities.
I was very driven in my early adulthood and ticked a lot of boxes: career, family, financial. But then there was ill-health amongst wider family and friends, and this changed my outlook.
I recommend doing a "wheel of life" every so often. If it says you need more Pork in your life, then fair play. Mine said I should put my first efforts into my home relationships and spend more time on my bike. 😉
The downside is that I'm limiting my ambitions in some areas and we're definitely scoring a bit low on the white Range Rover & swimming pool lifestyle-ometer. But I do feel more healthy and everything we have is ours.
Hmmm Midlfie crisis seems an expensive even
It takes half a lifetime to save up for one!
I have an overwhelming urge to try and build the crossbow guy from walking dead's motorbike
I know nothing about mechanics and have no license. But, tbh that is part of the appeal. I am pushing myself to get this house done before I take on yet more stuff. Mortgage rates may block it though 🙁
During lockdown I dug out my old GW games and models and started painting again which I stopped when I went to college. Turns out I'm quite good.
@stwhannah – “I look forward to the days immediately ahead rather than dreading the days between now and some mythical future retirement when all good things shall come to pass.”
That's where I'd love to be. 51 now and I just seem to feel as if I'm trying to last out until retirement to really enjoy me life which is definitely not the right or healthy thing to do.
Similar to others I have a good, decently paid job and a great family ( older parents, teenage and university aged kids do bring their own stresses) but feel like I'm not really living my life or at least making the most of it.
I may buy things, like bikes and have a camper van but I know material possessions arent really the answer. I'm having more of an emotional mid life crisis than a costly one!
I hate the term “Mid-life crisis” because for me it was overwhelmingly a positive, healing process.
It was precipitated by working in a toxic workplace that made me depressed. I had thought it was my dream job.
For me it was about letting go of all the baggage I was carrying about what I should and shouldn’t be, and learning to step outside my comfort zone.
I used to do things based on how I thought they would be perceived by others, these days I say and do what I actually want to do.
The younger girlfriends and sports cars etc were all experimentation, something that many people do when they were younger.
What matters is being with the right person, not how old they are, or how good they look in a bikini. And what makes them right is how we work together. I’ve not met her yet, and that’s also ok.
Sports cars are fun. IMV mountain bikes are funnerer and generally cheaper (as long as they’re not sat gathering dust in a garage), and are also better for my health.
One of the other major things that I’ve realised is that cutting outgoings is a far better way to feel richer than working harder to earn more money. I do realise that by being single and having no dependents I’m privileged to be able to do this, but that’s part of the swings and roundabouts of relationships. For people trapped in a toxic relationship I feel huge sympathy, because that must be hard.
Honestly though, my mid-thirties on have been some of the best times of my life. My health is good, I have an interesting job, and I earn enough money that I’m able to do some of the things I want to do, and save up for some of the others.
Not at the 'mid-point'. Had it aged 28. After what I now now was a significant accumulation of trauma, I was a ****ing weapons grade belter.
After some therapy and hard work I'm where I need to be with what makes me happy; no regrets, but no desire to experience dick-****tery like that again.
Well, I think I had one, possibly starting around 36 when my dad died, then an old friend killing himself a year later. It didn't feel like what I thought a MLC would be, so I never joined the dots, but lots of internalised anger, loss of confidence, feeling a bit lost for a few years. Ended up going to therapy, which helped figure a few things out and how they still affect me as an adult. No expensive purchases, or bucket-list stuff though
Similar to Cheekyget....sold sensible car, finally treated myself to an Abarth, big grins car, husband very rarely gets the chance to drive it 🙂 As for all the other midlife schizzle....well, menopause, accumulating weight around the middle regions, brain fog, angry Hulk moments....apart from that, all going well!!
Me ... just realised recently I don't have a house of my own. Then I panicked for few days as I also realised my pension is probably worth few peanuts.
Most expensive items in my possession is a £5k 2005 Corolla (worth little now), then my bikes (worth very little now) then my old computer (worth nothing now).
Somewhat comforting knowing that people are struggling with this mid life thing.
I had a chat with someone the other day who couldn't believe I never ever look beyond today. I can never think about the future, or think about planning goals, or whatever. All that positive type behaviour has been suppressed for so many years it just doesn't exist any more. All I see is a decline in health ahead of me, particularly when it comes to physical activity. And when all you could lean on were those things in early life, well, that leaves absolutely **** all squared left.
Maybe I need to buy myself something nice. Not a Porker.
don’t have a house of my own
Well I only got a mortgage for the first time last year, when I was 40.
I had a bit of a crisis when I turned 40, it was more to do with my son turning five and me thinking about how my father had acted when I was the same age.
I'm not perfect but I do want to be a better man so I cut all ties with my immediate family and concentrated on my kids and wife. I'm much happier now, and am not reminded of my distant past by siblings who don't seem to be able to move on even after all these years.
Well I only got a mortgage for the first time last year, when I was 40.
I wish I was 40 again but I doubt I could get a mortgage at that age as I was earning just to survive.
Time just passes by and feels like I just got out from a nightmare, and the nightmare is real. It has been going on for such a long time I don't really know when it will end. It has turned into a muscle memory.
Now, I just keep working and rest whenever I can as the best of my life is probably over. Future plan? Well, dunno. Just want to keep my mind clear and rest. I need rest and plenty of that. I have not rest for many decades now.
Well, I shall let the Universe decides ...
p/s: just recently my GP told me my blood pressure was very high and dangerous. Instead of feeling sad, I was elated and laughing (seriously I was happy). She was very concerned and kept insisting I lower the blood pressure with prescription. After a while, I thought it was impolite to reject her advice so told her to prescribe me the smallest dose she could give me. The pressure went down after taking the prescription and my GP told me the danger is "over", but I have to keep taking the prescription. I then thought what a good idea to switch off my own light one day by myself.
The older I get the less I care about anything flashy or aspirational.
Posh cars, restaurants, hotels and all that have no interest to me
I'm much happier when I spend time slightly scruffily with my family, particularly in the outdoors, go for cheap but good meals out, and of course piss about riding pushbikes.
Same as it ever was really. Nothing else I've found is as good.
Definitely getting a little bit slower on the bike nowadays. Some of that is being a bit heavier than I'd like to be, but some is just inevitable decline.
I realised chasing yesterday's numbers on Strava is a mugs game so decided to try to improve on other different bike skills (jumping and stunts and that) so bought a jump bike. I'm still shit but improving rather than declining!
Also bought some cheap learner dj decks (pioneer ddj400) last year. Always loved electronic music and wanted to learn but never had the cash or time. That's a great fun winter activity (brilliant feeling of flow when you get it right, not dissimilar to flowing down a trail) and not spendy at all really.
I hope that's about as far as my crisis goes!
I’m much happier when I spend time slightly scruffily with my family, particularly in the outdoors, go for cheap but good meals out, and of course piss about riding pushbikes.
That's the best thing in life to spend time with your family and love ones.
The older I get the less I care about anything flashy or aspirational.
That's what happened to me - probably because I did all that between 25 and 35 and realise it didn't make any difference to my life. Sitting in traffic in a flashy car is pretty much the same as sitting in traffic in my Aygo.
Although as pointed out by others here I think the buying of things is a result of the crisis and the crisis itself is much more than that - questioning your life so far, regrets, trying to catch up and so on
Just turning 50, knackered hips and low testosterone (wife convinced I’m going through the men/manopause) so no current ambitions to have a mid life crisis at the minute.
I did nearly buy a Porsche 2-3 yrs ago (wish I had it would be worth more now) and I do want an ebike and a Caterham if I ever get my hips sorted
For now though no mid life crisis, my son aged 13 is doing rather well as a footballer so I live my dreams out vicariously through him 😀
When you come to the realisation that no-one gives a shit about what you do or what you have, life becomes so much easier. Just let go...
Yeah, it was/is bad. Four years since hospitalisation but on meds for life (most likely) and a continuing sense of lack of direction.
Turning 50 next year, but did the sportscar thing (ok, Audi TT v6) several years ago to get it out of my system. Honestly, it was not _that_ impractical, you can fit two dogs in the back with the back seats down and an XL Stumpy FSR (with the wheels off), but not at the same time.
Anyway, crisis... I started skydiving at 45 and that is pretty much my main sport. Like Crossfit (something that kept me sane during my divorce), trying to keep up with the youngsters in competition when it takes longer to recover makes it much more difficult than it would do for a younger person. I also _constantly_ battle internally about my mental age vs. physical age and how I _should_ be acting or thinking. I don't know whether that counts as a crisis, but it cause a lot of mental overhead sometimes and really limits how much bandwidth I have to deal with other things in life.
How am I supposed to act though? Is it time for me to start playing bowls? Should I be hanging up the FS suit and doing Accuracy instead? Do I still deserve to wear t-shirts? Should I start working on a beer gut this winter or _continue_ trying to kill myslef with cycling and running?
Like many I suspect, mine was a crisis of perfect normality repeated no doubt up and down the country every single day of the week. My then partner and I realised that after a relationship lasting 20 years we were both pretty unhappy with our lot, and separated (we're both happier now) So I didn't have a crisis in the sense of Porsches and hot girls in bikinis, but more the starting from scratch rebuilding my life again sort.
I've learned a lot about myself in the process. Perhaps we're all just clichés
Mine was getting rid of stuff and clearing off the mortgage and retiring at 58. My focus, energy and money go on my wife, my grown up kids and travel. Car theft in my area is such that if you had a shiny status symbol you'd die of neurosis checking that it was still there. This year I've been in Romania, SW France, Canaries and have Bologna and Paris coming up shortly. Ilove my 16yo Toyota which costs me sfa. Never been so happy.
I’m much happier when I spend time slightly scruffily with my family, particularly in the outdoors, go for cheap but good meals out, and of course piss about riding pushbikes.
This x 100, I would far rather get food from the local farm shop and sit on a hilltop somewhere, admiring the view and scoffing said food than go to an expensive, stuffy restaurant. Even if I wasn't paying, it just does nothing for me.
My take on the mid life crises is that its more of a mid life reevaluation.
This is my personal take, YMMV and others may have different outcomes than many others did, however i know others who have experienced the same as I.
As you leave school you hit the milestones 16, 18, 21 etc and set up your career, relationships, place to stay, have kids, and these are all consuming and take your focus until you reach your 40s and 50s.
Then all of a sudden, your career is sorted, and your at a level where you function effectively, but youre not that 30 year old hungry for promotion (or indeed the first person management think to promote). The kids arent young anymore and they are now mostly independant, if not already left home to st up their own lives. The mortgage may be paid or near completion, so you may not be such a slave to work or not for much longer.
All of a sudden, those all consuming things arent there anymore. Kids independant/gone, mortgage (nearly) paid. Pension plan humming along. Career done (plateau'd).
Now you have all this time, in between the days from now to retirement, to redevote your time and energies into. Some look back and relive lost/mispent/missed out youth.
My son is 30, left home and and got his career and fiancee and openly talking about having children now. So we await the grandchildren to come along.
No Mid Life Crisis has happened here, but we have reevaluated what we want and openly acknowledged this phase of life is different from the last. We arent over the hill, but we are certainly at the top and the only way now is down.
So Mrs SSS and I are doing the things we enjoy in our spare time, but looking forward to help nurture the next generation, and helping our neices and nephews get a foothold on life.
And so the cycle continues......
I'm the original poster...
Exactly that SSS.
I just typed something similar but it took a while and it crashed on hitting submit.
I'm 40. Have lived the text book model life, been with my wife for over 20 years, treadmill of uni, training, holidays, new house, career, promotion, holidays, new house, racing cycling achievements & holidays, pregnancy, baby, another new house, another pregnancy, holidays, another promotion, new bikes, the cycle of fast changing children, comfort through COVID. Now the pace has dropped, no further career or financial aspirations, kids are much more independent, realised my cycling performance is going to go one way as will my health.
I've got two healthy children, a wife that loves me, a comfortable well paid job, my (realistic) dream house, good friends and a real love of cycling. Electric garage doors. Money in the bank.
Then I had an affair out of no where with a lady who was better matched, lots in common, lots of fun, more athletic and felt like my dream partner. We got caught. We left our partners to be together under a haze of pressure. A week later I asked my wife for forgiveness. A week later my wife isnt sure whether she can forgive and I am struggling to decide what I actually want from life and have asked for some time to appraise.
I knew I wasnt entirely happy, but having let this happen I've experienced masses of excitement that its hard to imagine never having again, and it forces you to reflect and appraise...
How do you work this stuff out? My needs verses the family's? What I know verses absolutely no idea who I'll meet or where things will go?
Oh bollix, that's messy. PS three of our friend group (of three) have all divorced - two of the blokes had affairs, the third grew apart and are happier.
How old do I have to be to have one?
Precisely half as old as you will be when you die.
My midlife crisis has been rather forced upon me. I have so far:
Grown my hair long
Bought two expensive bikes
Changed the way I dress a bit
Re orgnanised my flat and redecorated a chunk of it.
However my pals have told me if I get a red soft top sports car they are disowning me. Apparantly " Well helllloooo, want to come for a ride in my Jaaaaaaaag young lady" is not a suitable MO these days 🙂
Apparantly ” Well helllloooo, want to come for a ride in my Jaaaaaaaag young lady” is not a suitable MO these days
It never,ever was 😉
BTW..I would love Electric garage doors,they may be the final ingredient in my recipe for life.
How do you work this stuff out?
you can stop wanting “more” and realise what you have is a good percentage more than the average global population. You’re much more fortunate than you think.
edit to add to this; I was quite materialistic until a few years ago, and with some advice from here I managed to tone it down luckily in time for a demise of a substantial salary.
These days a pizza and a beer in front of the telly with the kids is much more valuable to me than the newest shiniest thing. I’m still in a very good place financially but able to make decisions with longevity and consideration rather than to get one up on someone else. Being able to “do” and stay humble takes practise but is fulfilling.
Missus and I are both having one now. After kicking the can down the road for the last 4yrs we put the house up for sale and only went and sold it, for more than we thought and to a cash buyer. Busy clearing out 21yrs of ours, kids and grandkids stuff. 3 bloody attics, too many cupboards and 3 30' containers in the paddock full of shite. Apart from buggering off somewhere warm over winter we've nothing lined up. Precious stuff will be going into storage, everything else; charity shops and maybe a car boot sale. Maybe find something we like that's empty, maybe find something to rent for a while until we do, who knows. We certainly don't. And you know what? We don't care.
It never,ever was 😉
Terry Thomas would disagree. He is my role model
I knew I wasnt entirely happy, but having let this happen I’ve experienced masses of excitement that its hard to imagine never having again,
I get why it's exciting but how will you sustain it? Repeated affairs?
Apparently it's not just humans.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m001r2wr?partner=uk.co.bbc&origin=share-mobile
I've not been there yet
I had a nervous breakdown at 43 if that counts? The fact I've made to a just-turned 50 surprises me at times. Thank fudge for an amazing wife, bicycles and an understanding boss. Oh, and anxiety can get in the fudging sea, the hangover of the breakdown I'd love to be done with.
Dunno about crisis, but I'm 53 and this year and lately I've found myself thinking more about the things I put my time and effort into and what I'm getting out of them. I don't just mean financially but finding things rewarding in a more general sense, and it seems like the good bits are a bit too few and far between at the moment. I'm not going to be getting a Porsche any time soon but could do with some sort of change.
EDIT to say I'm aware I don't have a lot to complain about really and things being a bit too 'meh' for my liking is not the worst thing in the world.
Dunno about crisis, but I’m 53 and this year and lately I’ve found myself thinking more about the things I put my time and effort into and what I’m getting out of them. I don’t just mean financially but finding things rewarding in a more general sense, and it seems like the good bits are a bit too few and far between at the moment. I’m not going to be getting a Porsche any time soon but could do with some sort of change.
+1. I've offered wondered if others in their 50's think this. I have an image in my head of what I want retirement / no more work to be but the - it feels like a long time - bit between now and then is a frustratingly unhappy mystery.
+1. I’ve offered wondered if others in their 50’s think this. I have an image in my head of what I want retirement / no more work to be but the – it feels like a long time – bit between now and then is a frustratingly unhappy mystery.
that’s exactly how I feel at the moment!
Dunno about crisis, but I’m 53 and this year and lately I’ve found myself thinking more about the things I put my time and effort into and what I’m getting out of them. I don’t just mean financially but finding things rewarding in a more general sense, and it seems like the good bits are a bit too few and far between at the moment.<br /><br />
56 here so too late for midlife but that general ennui has been ticking a bit. Work has gone from being operational to being a manager and I kinda don’t give a toss at times as it’s easy but the results are more nebulous at the same time all my old roles are, realistically, a young man’s game. This year I’ve hardly cycled, mainly down to being to depressed to care about it but at the same time I’ve started hitting the gym a lot more.<br />Home life is good but the last few years have just been problems (and deaths) with parents and in laws. The 50s have been really hard but an anchored home life and some things I still love, and have re explored such as proper motorcycling, have really helped (that and seeing a psychologist to deal with the shite).
Maybe I had the midlife crisis without the Porsche - bollocks!
Sports cars are fun. IMV mountain bikes are funnerer and generally cheaper (as long as they’re not sat gathering dust in a garage), and are also better for my health.
My thoughts exactly, I just don't think you can beat the health benefits of riding and I think as you get older the easier it is to do nothing, which ends up putting your health in a terrible place.
I’ve offered wondered if others in their 50’s think this. I have an image in my head of what I want retirement / no more work to be but the – it feels like a long time – bit between now and then is a frustratingly unhappy mystery.
"And now his watch is ended" 🙂
TBH mines going to be sooner than later and involve riding and beaches, lots of beaches and sun.
I think Spain is probably a nicer place to retire in thou and I've been getting the retirement practice in on weekends.
Hopefully I make it thru the night and this isn't my last post, from my experience people with great dreams and plans of retirement never make it, life sort of deals you the cards it wants not the ones you want.
I've never really planned for retirement, I'm not really into long term plans.
No crisis but having recently decided that we really have retired and with remains of our parents likely to shuffle off their mortal coils in a few years I do wonder what we will be doing over the next several decades. Almost 10y in the same house now which feels like maybe time to move on, but very hard to find anywhere as good let alone better.
Almost 10y in the same house now which feels like maybe time to move on
Why do you feel that?
Confession time.
I’ve recently been heard saying that I might consider giving a FS bike another go in the next couple of years. Just so I can keep up with my kids.
If my wife rejects my application for distribution of funds there could well be a mid life crisis of negligible proportions.
Why do you feel that?
Never spent more than 13y in the same place and that was really dragging by the end (stuck for work reasons).
Don’t *have* to move but we’ve not really been the types to stay put for life like both our sets of parents did.
general ennui has been ticking a bit
Ennui is the word I was searching for I think. There have been a few periods this year where I've found it difficult to get enthusiastic about anything really, or motivated to do anything interesting. Better after a bit of a break and a change to my WFH working to try and do more during the day other than just work, which luckily I usually have the flexibility to do, even if that's just doing a little job in the garden or something.
You need to do this properly chaps - this is what you need to aspire to <br /><br />
Never spent more than 13y in the same place and that was really dragging by the end (stuck for work reasons).
Don’t *have* to move but we’ve not really been the types to stay put for life like both our sets of parents did.
Fair. I suppose I spent so long on the student/shared house/rental merry go round I must have had it thrashed out of me! I just totted it up - after I left home I lived in 14 houses in 17 years (excluding the times I just crashed somewhere for 6 weeks). So spending 8 years in this place without needing to move feels like a luxury 🙂
Someone I knew, accused of having an MLC had the line, "I liked sex, drugs and rock n'roll when I was young. I still do. What crisis?"
Me, looking back 15-16 years or so to when my mother died (her late 60s), was round when I properly got into surfing. Possibly coincidence. I met in various ways a group of younger guys who'd take off in vans to wherever there was a decent swell, spending far too much time in costal carparks wearing neoprene and too little time with my kids with family life feeling a bit of an imposition. Work didn't get a look in. So I bought a house on the coast to do up, so the kids could come too. Looked round and they were teenagers with better things to do.
So not a car, but that might count?
(Been working in the now done up house today, managing a lunchtime surf on a nearby reef on one of those days that sees people driving the length of the country to get here. All a bit challenging though, the surf, work, the combination, so not representing this as a happy ending.)
I have an image in my head of what I want retirement / no more work to be but the – it feels like a long time – bit between now and then is a frustratingly unhappy mystery
+1.
I’m 55- at this age my dad had just retired with a nice DB pension thanks to BT once being part of the civil service. He had 14 years of retirement to enjoy.
Thanks to my crap pension situation I’ll be going for a few more years. If I match his expiry date then I probably won’t have much of a retirement to fund!l anyway!
I had sports cars in my 20s so got that ticked off
Better after a bit of a break and a change to my WFH working to try and do more during the day other than just work,
About three months ago I changed to compressed hours at work, doing a four day week has been a real positive, the weekends are no longer packed with tasks / travel to in laws so a bit more relaxed
Think I'm similar to a lot of people on here. I'm early 40s and at time it feels like I'm just waiting for my retirement so I can start enjoying stuff. I love my wife and kids but the work stuff doesn't really interest me. I like the people and actually enjoy going into the office but my enjoyment of the actual work stuff comes and goes. Having previously (and if I'm honest, still) suffered from depression I can get into some fairly apathetic moods. Today I'm struggling to get to work.
Retirement is on the distant horizon as some kind of utopia but I know it's not really like that and since my Dad died last year at 65 and having never met my FiL who died at 52 I know nothing is guaranteed.
Feels like something needs to change but not sure what or how to make it happen
I’m 55- at this age my dad had just retired with a nice DB pension thanks to BT once being part of the civil service.
What a difference a decade makes! I'm 44. My dad went into BT (actually the GPO) at 16, and stayed til redundancy aged 36 during privatisation. Didn't retire til 67. Funny old world
Hhhmmmm … 61 now but, married young, kids, pressure job, divorced, motorbikes, re married more kids, bought a Mason. Crippling angina, stents and meds, bought another Mason. Wife diagnosed as terminal so at home most of the time caring for her … still got time to buy another Mason.
My “Porsche” seems to be Masons 😁
There was an interesting Podcast by the mathematician Hannah Fry, about the mid-life crisis being a real thing
https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001r2wr
There is a "happiness curve" where we are happiest in life at around 16-18 and this drops down to a lowest point at around 48-55 and then picks back up again to peak again at about 70
Strangely this has been shown to be the same for men and women, the same wherever you are in the world, and that they even interviewed a group of zoo keepers and that this seems to be the same for many primates too.
Very interesting re the happiness curve. Didn't really enjoy my teens until just over 18. Had a pretty good 20s and then went boring / middle aged in my 30s. 40s was really up and down, no MLC. Now in my 50s I am very comfortable in my own skin. Certainly don't want a Porsche or other status symbol.
+1. I’ve offered wondered if others in their 50’s think this. I have an image in my head of what I want retirement / no more work to be but the – it feels like a long time – bit between now and then is a frustratingly unhappy mystery.
Very much this. I think "ennui" is a great way to describe it. Who knew French A level literature would finally come in useful 35 years later.
Very interesting re the happiness curve. Didn’t really enjoy my teens until just over 18.
Yeah, 15-20ish was the most miserable time of my life. No major reason, I had nice parents and good friends. But it's all been uphill from there (until health problems kicked in at 40)
Very interesting re the happiness curve. Didn’t really enjoy my teens until just over 18. Had a pretty good 20s and then went boring / middle aged in my 30s. 40s was really up and down, no MLC. Now in my 50s I am very comfortable in my own skin. Certainly don’t want a Porsche or other status symbol.
+1 pretty much my experience too, I loved the late '90s, when I was in my later 20s and still young enough and with some cash to spend, but not the 2010s 🙁 yuk, stress at work, busy home life, lots of being pulled in different directions in my 40s, but now, mid-50s and it's like I have swum upstream hard-going through some rapids, and now the river has become a bit calmer, and I can enjoy things more... roll on retirement though 🙂
Late teens through to mid twenties were a ****ing rollercoaster of depression and euphoria for me. Last twenty years have been fairly steady since leaving England. I’ve had a charmed life I guess. The main thing is that I understand what makes me happy and unhappy so have the ability to manage things myself most of the time.
my old man retired at 58, 30 years ago and he is still hanging in there. I am 56 and no way can I see myself retiring for a while, in fact there is part of me doesnt want to. I started quite a tough role in the IT dept at a London Uni that should keep me busy for ten years.<br /><br />Would I feel different if I didnt have a massive mortgage and two boys in private school for the next few years? I have a younger wife who loves her career thank g0d!
What's that saying, life begins at 40? Lying bastards.
The key to having a mid life crisis is embracing it, rather than confronting it... If you consider it to be a crisis, then it becomes one. If you consider it part of your (new) normal behaviour, then it is no longer a crisis...
It also helps if you start a bit earlier than mid life... Early 20's or even late teens helps... And don't plan on stopping just cos you've got to retirement age either! That's the time to ramp up the activity, prove it was never a crisis all along!
I resigned from my job yesterday with no idea what to do for an income. Have no passion for work and just want to ride my bike wothout the stress from inept management.
If I could turn the clocks back I'd stop myself wasting time on an Art degree and have started a small business.
Was speaking with a mate/former work colleague the other day from my previous job. Another guy there is still working aged 81, they are both in Lagos commissioning a factory so not easy/light work. It was a good job for saving money as site pay was really good with everything paid for. He must be worth a fortune🤷♂️
Was speaking with a mate/former work colleague the other day from my previous job. Another guy there is still working aged 81, they are both in Lagos commissioning a factory so not easy/light work. It was a good job for saving money as site pay was really good with everything paid for. He must be worth a fortune🤷♂️
Interesting. My late BIL worked installing and decommissioning heavy equipment well into his 70s and before heart attack, cancer and stroke in quick succession took him he worked like a trooper.
I've plans for a low level working retirement and I need to get started on learning the skills and gaining qualifications in the next 20 years to get me there.
I worked in a consulting engineering firm in my 20s and we had this lovely old fella called Ted that was a civil engineer. Must have been 80+. He and his wife would come to drinks every Friday without fail. Not sure what his output was like… he’d often have a kip at the desk.