[Closed] Who has changed their mind in a personal development sense

Leaving your first drink until after lunch is a big decision for anyone to take

Learn to step back and see things from other people's point of view.

Embrace the fact that you have 2 ears and one mouth - use accordingly

2 of the best things I ever learned, if you want to change how you see the world look at how others see it, think from their point of view and see if it makes sense.

Yes - completely possible. I'd recommend The Success Principles by Jack Canfield, Awaken the Power Within by Tony Robbins and also something like Discipline Equals Freedom by Jocko Willinck.

Don't be a stereotypical grumpy, cynical Brit - read these books with an open mind and you'll learn lots.

Also worth checking out Eric Thomas videos (ET the hip hop preacher).

Hope that all helps!!

Keep something sharp in your pocket and every time you catch yourself doing "it" give yourself a sharp stab.

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<p style="padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: unset; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: transparent; line-height: 1.2em; margin: 1rem 0px !important;">A few home truths have been pointed out and it’s clear that I would benefit from changing my mindset around a few personal issues and limiting beliefs.</p>
<p style="padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: unset; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: transparent; line-height: 1.2em; margin: 1rem 0px !important;">Is it possible to change how you view aspects of the world without a) changing your personality and b) going all hippy or c) ra ra and American?</p>
<p style="padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: unset; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: transparent; line-height: 1.2em; margin: 1rem 0px !important;">I’m assuming there must be some thinking tools or something that could help an adult make a subtle – but peace keeping – shift in their mindset.</p>

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<p style="padding: 0px; border: 0px; outline: 0px; font-size: unset; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: transparent; line-height: 1.2em; margin: 1rem 0px !important;">My fear is that someone like Tony Robbins actually has the answer and I need to read some of that self-help stuff…..</p>

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<div>IMHO from reading the rest of your post, I'm not sure that you're ready yet. Change is change, be it big or small and to suggest that you feel you need only make some subtle changes, indicates that you still haven't really listened to the home truths, as I'm sure they weren't along the lines of asking you to do a bit more washing up.</div>
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<div>You also say that you're comfortable with your current persona, attitude and beliefs, you don't want to do any of that shit...</div>
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<div>What we put in, we get out. Put **** all effort into being a better person will result in no change or chance to show others that you care about their feelings.</div>
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<div>Where to start? I'd suggest you invest in some Cognotive Behavioural Therapy, if only to help you identify choices in how you react to stuff.</div>
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<div>HTH</div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-size: 16px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;">Yes, I have to answer your first question.</span><br style="color: #444444; font-size: 16px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;" /><br style="color: #444444; font-size: 16px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;" /><span style="color: #444444; font-size: 16px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;">IMHO from reading the rest of your post, I’m not sure that you’re ready yet. Change is change, be it big or small and to suggest that you feel you need only make some subtle changes, indicates that you still haven’t really listened to the home truths, as I’m sure they weren’t along the lines of asking you to do a bit more washing up.</span><br style="color: #444444; font-size: 16px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;" /><br style="color: #444444; font-size: 16px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;" /><span style="color: #444444; font-size: 16px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;">You also say that you’re comfortable with your current persona, attitude and beliefs, you don’t want to do any of that shit…</span>

<span style="color: #444444; font-size: 16px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;">What we put in, we get out. Put **** all effort into being a better person will result in no change or chance to show others that you care about their feelings.</span>

<span style="color: #444444; font-size: 16px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;">Where to start? I’d suggest you invest in some Cognotive Behavioural Therapy, if only to help you identify choices in how you react to stuff.</span><br style="color: #444444; font-size: 16px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;" /><br style="color: #444444; font-size: 16px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;" /><span style="color: #444444; font-size: medium;"><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;">Manually edited. Just in case you wanted to read my somewhat unsympathetic reply. This new forum eh?</span></span>

From your Forum name I'd guess you're fairly open about your beliefs.

Post a few up on here and we will evaluate you.

<span style="color: #444444; font-size: 12.8px;">Leaving your first drink until after lunch is a big decision for anyone to take</span>

harsh

Sorry. Wasn’t meant to be harsh, just flippant and daft 😀

I’ve been given/leant a few of this type of book, none of which i’ve ever read

maybe I should?

oh the flippancy was sharp

a bit of self-analysis is always good. Just think through the last situation (doesn't matter what it was). Now think why did you react like that (again it could be good or bad). Was it due to the deeply held beliefs?

Could you react differently next time? In what way? Did it go well or could it have gone better in which case how?

You don't have to change as a person or change your beliefs but you can change the way you react to things.

Just thinking about things post-event can often get you to think about them at the time. Subtle changes will make a big difference.

Yes it's possible. CBT is a good idea though it is far from easy. Learning about your actions and reactions in various situations can be bruising and rewardingr it doesn't lead to hippydom