Actually a volley of em!
Not sure why I'm writing this but it's probably cathartic.
Three weeks ago Mrs C and I travelled to Inverness and to job interviews. Both got them. I resigned (Mrs C held off from resigning for a bonus clause in her current job reasons- this might be an important detail) and we started planning the life move we have had as a dream half our adult lives. Our friends all joked about our jammy luck.
10 days ago, completely out of the blue, Mrs C had a tumour discovered with an ultrasound on one of her ovaries. Quite a big one.
6 Days ago she had a CA125 blood test. The test for cancer antigens in your blood). Not great. Not definitive, but a very definitive not very great.
Today we saw the consultant. Operation definitely needed. MRI on Thursday to determine the likelihood of the big C and how 'extensive' the removal in the surgery will be. You know when they don't use any soothing phrases when describing outcomes - that. Explained that in all likelihood all surgery will be finished by mid April as all beds will be full of Covid 19 sufferers so they need to crack on with it. Pencilled in for two weeks time or a bit sooner.
So tonight we enter self isolation. She can't afford to get ill before her surgery so neither of us can afford to go into our busy work places. She gets one shot at this surgery before the window closes for months. Both work places have been very good and both of us can keep busy at home with gainful employment. In July we are homeless as our home comes with my job. Will we be able to move 600 miles north - will removal vans be a thing? Will she be able to take up her job? Will I be able to take up mine or will I be a carer? No answers.
Bugger, wasn't expecting this.
In a year we hopefully will be looking at this as a small bump in the road.....
Just wow. Nothing I can say usefully other than to wish you both well. Feel free to vent, shout, scream and cry on here
I don’t know what to say, but I hope everything turns out well for you both.
Flip me - best of luck - all that would be a nightmare at the best of times never mind the added complications of the current situation.
Holy crap, there was me thinking I was having a rough ride at the minute.
Hope it all turns out well for you.
best of luck to you both
glad to hear the docs are pushing ahead with it, they really are amazing
Shit. Take care of eachother, and yeah, hope it turns out well.
Don’t come much bigger than that curveball. Best wishes and thoughts.
Shit....
Live is a bitch. Don't plan itll go wrong seems to be my life motto...
Not much help but I've a T4 van. Based somewhere in the middle of the UK
Happy to do a road trip.....
Convert, not much I can say at the moment that will make it better. Giving you and your wife a virtual hug (safer these days).
I really do understand though as last year my whole life basically just ended.
Nothing much I can add to the above. When it comes to the move though, let me know if there is anything I can do to assist. I'm in Aviemore, so relatively local to Inverness.
Ouch - wishing you both some good fortune and better health
Crikey, just crikey, wishing you well.
Not much help with words but I stay just outside Inverness, happy to help shift boxes etc if you need a hand moving.
Good luck!
Sorry to hear about your wife.
Having been through this last year with my partner, I know what you two are going through.
There are two really good charities that I recommend speaking to, Ovacome and target Ovarian. They offer excellent advice and support, my other half has spoken to them a lot.
Please PM me if you want to talk.
Alex
Don't abandon the move. If you have to go through shit then the Highlands is a bloody good place to do it.
I'm also nearby and if I can help I will.
My thoughts and prayers are with you both.
What a tough set of situations you are going through... I wish both of you the best of luck and a smooth ride through the treatment journey.
My mum had ovarian cancer - stage 3. She is healthy and cancer free 12 years later. Hopefully that will give you some hope that there can be a positive future with this.
Take care,
Jay
My mum had ovarian cancer – stage 3. She is healthy and cancer free 12 years later. Hopefully that will give you some hope that there can be a positive future with this.
This made me think, so did my mum before me and my sister were born. This was 50 years ago, chemo in its infancy. Mum probably shouldn't have survived, she's still here and going strong. Me and sis shouldn't have been born - nigh on medical miracles (I take all the credit).
So best wishes for it all. As above, I have a car and probably not much else to do so happy to drive, fill it up with stuff and drive some more.
That is horrible news. Bad enough when everything else is settled around you, but must be so much more difficult in the midst of the move and CV19.
No easy answers, but make the move if at all possible would be my advice also.
All the best.
Whoah! We're going through a not dissimilar thing right now moving from Switzerland to Scotland, and thats stressful enough without the Big C curveball being thrown in.
Don't hesitate to ask for help!, if you need a pitstop in Stirling on the way north in the summer, give us a shout (assuming we have actually be able to move ourselves).
All the best, loads of love form the BSN clan
That's rubbish, best of luck.
KBO Mrs Convert
The Ming's
Sorry to hear that OP. Wishing you both all the best. I totally would still move though! regards , HYD1
Sending some positive vibes.
So sorry to hear this and wishing you and yours all the best. Hope you can find some time each day to focus on the good / fun stuff in life to refresh yourselves ready to cope with the challenges.
Rona
Wishing you and your wife all the best.
What a stressful time you're going through. Deep breaths.
bunnyhop x
My thoughts are with you at an amazingly difficult time.
Nobody would choose to get cancer - but there is nn better time to have contracted it than now - treatment regimes and the success rates are climbing.
Best of luck to you both!
Best of luck mate, hoping it all works out for you both.
Hugs Awkward elbow bumps delivered remotely. That's a rough ride, keep buggering on.
Ooof, that's rough, all the best fella.
Take it day by day, look after yourselves
Well that's crap Convert.... hope all is resolved very soon.
If it's any help a good friend of mine is a Consultant surgeon and does both NHS and private work. I asked about the Nuffield hospital being used for Cv and his thoughts are that the private hospitals are generally equipped mainly for surgery and that they will take over the urgent NHS surgery cases relieving NHS beds for CV.
