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Cheers people, some really encouraging comments and totally appreciated. I'm entirely optimistic of a positive outcome. Wife, not so, but hey.
I've got nothing useful to add I'm afraid but I'll be thinking of you all and would like you all to have my best wishes. Good luck and keep posting on here, I'm sure it helps.
Wishing you, your wife and your families strength and the best of luck. Look after yourself and your boy.
Its important that you talk to your son and its also equally important that you talk as well. It can be incredibly hard on you having to deal with everything.
It sounds like your family and friends are helping as best they can.
Good luck to you and your family and I hope that you all get a positive outcome.
Fingers and toes all crossed here!
Forgetting to eat is something I remember, one time I realised that all I'd had to eat for 4 days was toast and bananas and I only realised that because I'd run out of toast and bananas. Eating became a chore for quite while but you've got to keep on top of it in order to be able to do everything else you need to.
Dealing with official channels such as banks can be an almighty pain in the arse, I can't really offer any advice there beyond keep trying to speak to the most senior person you can and explain the situation early on, eventually you'll find the right person that can bend the rules enough to be practical.
When there's a proper crisis and this qualifies as that, lots of people will edge a little closer into your life, let them help, your main focus needs to be on your wife so if a neighbour or a friend offers to take the kid to school or do some shopping accept the offer. The other thing that could come as a surprise is that there might be one or two people that pull further away. Don't be too harsh in your thoughts towards them, they may feel that they would only be getting in the way and that you need space or it may be that they genuinely don't know how to approach the issue so choose not to engage.
Soooooo
Took the kids up to see her (hosp is an hour away, plus 5pm city traffic - doh). Daughter too young to get it. Son clearly upset, not helped by accidentally squirting alcohol gel in his eyes - poor student nurse panicked a little. Me, calm, cleaned eyes and settled him). Accident on the freeway on the way back so was chocca, ended up driving from perth to freo, then freo to rockingham.
Just got back and did the phone calls.... First my bro (thought I'd see how I went explaining) then my folks, went OK, then her mom. Those three calls took a lot. Gonna eat now. Had some scrambled eggs at midday and it's nearly 9pm now. Not hungry but need a feed and a cup of Yorkshire and a sit down.
Thanks for the link Will but I'm in Australia mate.
Blimey. Well done for keeping on keeping on, and remembering to eat.
I can't add much of use but wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you guys and wishing the best too. My dad had a probably-benign tumour almost completely removed from his brain (it was wrapped around a couple of big cranial nerves) nearly a decade ago, it was horrible at the time and recovery took a few months but, like others have said, finding ways to laugh together about it before and afterwards helped us all get through it.
Keep talking to mrs 2k, she's probably scared and confused too, and worried about you. Don't be afraid to let it out on here, there are a lot of people who want to listen and help, even if some of us can be irritating dicks on other people's threads.
All the best.
And just called her Dad to tell him as her Mum wasn't there so that was the hardest call. Naturally he wants to jump on a plane and fly out but I told him there's nothing he can do, but I can't stop him if that's what he wants to do.
Trust me, in my job I've given some shit news to people. A million x harder when you're giving it to your family.
Sod the tea, I need a stiff drink now.
Sod the tea, I need a stiff drink now.
You did well.
If he wants to get on a plane, let him. But tell him he needs to come armed ready to help (even if it's just childcare).
Hope they've found some useful anti-sickness meds for Mrs 2K and that she's more comfortable.
Good luck.
So shes having her hair cut today. Had a meeting with the anaesthetist yesterday, and a casual (read: weird) discussion about wills and power of attorney. Today the surgeon is going to see her. Monday lunch for surgery - 4 hours ish then out to HDU and a quick wake up and get things going to make sure theres no issues. Off to buy a new set of pillows and a new matress topper so shes super comfy at home. He friends have set up a go fund me page so that we can get a cleaner 2 days a week and people to help for when i go back to work - whenever that may be! All very sweet. Going to see her tonight with the kids and again tomorrow. Childcare sorted so I can be there when she gets out of surgery.
I can't do anything to help other than send my best wishes and prayers.
If you post a link to the GoFundMe page that would enable people to put some £ in the pot.
Be strong for your children - they need you.
All the best mate x
Sounds like you're doing an excellent job of keeping it together. Thinking of you all and as frank said, post a link to the go fund me page. It's not much, but it would be good to be able to help in some small way.
aphex_2K - I'm in Perth, West Leederville. Got a six year old daughter myself. Give me a shout if you need anything.
Neil
Keep waffling aphex_2k the off-loading will help.
Big respect for your positive outlook, that'll will rub off on your lovely children.
Keeping it all crossed for you dude.
stay strong, stay positive
just got home. surgery done. surgeon confident its all gone. no sign of speech or memory problems. no paralysis, as soon as she came out she said he back was sore and wanting it massage, while picking the o2 prongs out of her nose as she had "bogeys"
as long as the biopsy comes back clear, she's got a few weeks to recovery but all the signs looking good. ive been at the hosp since 9am and its 1030 now just got home. **** zonked now.
night all x
good news 🙂
Hope biopsy comes back clear.
Fantastic news and fingers crossed it's all clear.
Fingers crossed for good news
Your positivity and energy are inspirational
Brilliant!
bloody brilliant. you are all absolute stars. 😀
Great news, hope everything continues like this.
I am happy!
🙂
Official thumbs up from the King household!
Aphex, I really hope it all goes well.... I'm sure it will.
My brother is in Perth, if you need to vent some anger I can get you his address... he needs a bit of a kicking 😉
haha...
😀
That's great news, I hope the recovery is complete and swift. This doesn't mean that all the trauma is over, make sure you keep talking, both to each other and to other people. Good luck mate. 🙂
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bloody hell
and some brilliant news at the end
dealt with with aplomb, well done, stay strong through the recovery, all the best
Fingers crossed for you all aphex.
That's great news aphex. Proper chuffed for you all
Great news 🙂
Good news Aphex.
hope the recovery goes well.
stay strong, positive and keep smiling
Whoop whoop!
Hurrah. I wish her a speedy recovery and no side effects. A sunny day just got a whole lot better.
So it's Friday. She had the op late Monday night. Such a trooper. Seen by radiologist this morning. They removed a subependymoma - non-cancerous tumour, successfully. She can come home today albeit with a 5" cut, sutures and staples in place!
Recovery time now. So relieved.
Thanks for everyone's kind thoughts and wishes - obviously the "love" helped so thanks.
Great news!
Take care of your family - and yourself.
Have tried to donate via your GoFundMe page but there appears to be a problem which, apparently, has been flagged to you?
Will check in again over the next couple of days and, when it's working properly, I'll donate some pre-brexit earth £.
See the missus in hospital then take kids for ice cream and.....breathe deeply, say a prayer, thank god and the medical profession.
My best to you.
thanks! i didnt set up the gofundme but ive let the person know. thanks again. on my way to get her now!!!!! excited much
Great news.
This has made my day and it's only half six.
😀
Brilliant start to my day!
Fantastic news mate, truly is.
Fantastic news to end the week. 😀
That's brilliant news.
Brilliant +1
Excellent news, well done to all involved.
Does this mean my brother isn't going to get a kicking? 🙁
😉
Glad she's doing well 🙂
Big ****in thumbs up - great news, must be a huge relief for you and your family, have a good weekend
Ya dancer!I have followed the thread but not commented because words failed me. Really happy for all of you.
Marvellous.
Have a pretty tune
Smashing news, really pleased for you both.
Such a brilliant outcome.
Bunny hop x
So, couple of weeks down the line, scar healing nicely. Staples removed last week. Still getting headaches and nausea so they think there might be some swelling still. She had another CT on Saturday and we await the results. She was on some steroid which was to help with swelling / fluid but that ceased about 4 days after discharge so when we get the CT results we'll know if she's going back on them (hated them - massive increase in appetite).
Bless her cotton's she wont rest. Spent days doing grant applications for work even though she's meant to be off sick recovering. Can't stop her 🙁
Last week wasn't a good one as we all picked up some viral tummy bug and she got 4 days worth of it.
I also found the notebook with the letters she wrote the kids while she was an inpatient. Have to say, wasn't the best read and got incredibly emotional reading it. She left it on the soft. Not sure if it was intentional or if I was meant to read it or not but I did. "phew" Hard work.
Thanks again for the support and encouraging comments. Possibly the worst few weeks of our lives.
Bless her cotton's she wont rest. Spent days doing grant applications for work even though she's meant to be off sick recovering. Can't stop her
Let her crack on with that sort of thing, one of the aspects of the situation your wife has found herself in is a loss of control and independence, all of a sudden you are just reacting to events. Planning stuff and occupying her time with positive actions is very good, if she gets too knackered she'll stop.
Hope the ct comes back negative, I was having headaches a few weeks after a very minor head trauma so it doesn't seem out of the question that these could just be part of the recovery process.
Wow. Hard to believe this was all just over 12 months ago. Still really appreciate all the kindness. You'll all be pleased to know there was a full recovery and she's as good as she was. Life throws some curve balls sometimes. Duck or hit back.
Glad to hear that mate.
Doesn't seem that long ago really.
Great news mate!
Marvellous.
I remember this from a year ago. Felt a bit apprehensive clicking onto this thread but that's cracking news OP
Life throws some curve balls sometimes
Doesn't it just! Glad you all smashed that one back out the park 😀
Sweeeeeeet
👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
Good news, I too opened the page with some anxiety.
Thread bump....
So Mrs Aphex has just had a follow up appt with Prof. Gabriel Lee. Given the all clear. Nothing there. No sign of anything coming back. Bullet dodged and finally some closure. Super happy as it's always in the back of my mind (the thought, not her tumour!)
Reading back through this all made me cry a bit. Have to say. But some lovely thoughtful and considerate comments. Thanks everyone, you absolutely rock.
Love from the Aphex family.
Hey dude, cheers for the update - brightened my night shift up. All the best to you and your family. That was a horrible first post, what a difference a couple of years makes.
Go and give your wife a hug instead of posting on here.
I missed this thread. To call it a "thread" is doing life and your wife a huge disservice.
I'm hugely happy that your wife has been given the all clear.
Enjoy the Summer to come (you're in the southern hemi I think? Lucky devil.lol) and may life bring you all much joy over the many years to come my friend.
Cheers lads. She's at work now but there will be hugs later. Possibly a glass of bubbles too.
That’s brilliant news. So happy for you all. What a great thing to read first thing.
Really wonderful news !! That’s really brightened up a wet and grey morning here.
Great news !
Maybe check the state of your guts before any big hugs though 😉
Fantastic!
Brilliant news mate! Over the moon for you all!
Top banana OP all the best !
Awesome!!! That is some amazing news to start my day. Hugs to all of you!
ace 🙂
That's great news for you guys.
How's the 12 year anniversary going...?
I always open threads that started a long time ago with a recent update carefully. Good to see my caution was unwarranted. Great to see it's going well.
matt_outandabout
That’s great news for you guys.How’s the 12 year anniversary going…?
Gooooood....? Did I post about this or you just clairvoyant or something? lol!!
😀