[Closed] totally devastated.

Bugger, can't imagine what you are going through. Stay strong.

Brought a tear to my eye that has. Horrible. *Manhugs*

Sincere condolences for you and your wife's loss of your daughter.

That's beyond words. I'm just very very sorry for you.

Sorry for your loss. Dreadful.

Speechless and nothing I can say to help. Feel for you 🙁

Really horrible news, so sorry for you and your wife.

Read that several times hoping I had read it wrong. I am sure you are feeling something similar only a billion times worse. 🙁

Feeling for you both.

It's hard to stay positive at times like these, and no words can soften the blow, but there can be hope.

We went through the same 3 times - and it stretched us to breaking point. But eventually went on to have a healthy daughter who is now 12, and those times seem a long way behind us. Never forgotten, but a distant memory.

Really feel for you. We have been there twice late and more early also, hold on to each other lots.

There is nothing meaningful that can be said in reply to that. 🙁

Took my aunty three attempts to get my cousin with all the previous ending like that I dont know if that will comfort you but I hope it does.

Sorry for your families loss

That's horrible - having gone through it more than once (but 10 weeks earlier) I really feel for you. Try and be there for each other and accept that it's going to take a while to (partially) get over it but know that it will be with you for the rest of your life.

As above though, it's not the end though and there's every hope.

Truly cant even imagine how yur feeling nor what words are even suitable, really feel for you and your family. Stay strong though, my best friend went through this twice and then the miracle happened and they are over the moon.....i know that means very little but dont give up.
Take care.

Sorry

Sorry no words, absolute heartfelt sadness for you both.

Having been there ourselves, JonBoy, I can sympathise profoundly. Very best wishes to you and your wife. Take care.

So sorry to read that. My condolences.

very sorry for your loss, i cant think of anything to help im sorry. take care of you both

My sympathies - it happened to us, but a year later all went well... Take care, it's a shitty thing to happen but try to keep your spirits up.

Our little girl was with us for a few minutes

Then you are a father and your wife is a mother and you always will be. I expect you were a much better father for those few minutes than I've ever managed as well. And if you have more children in the future then you'll not waste a minute of it as so many of us do. And if you don't you'll never forget those you did have even though it was for such a short time.

Sorry to hear that, best wishes

Sympathies with you and Mrs JonBoy. Be strong by all means but let yourself grieve. I had a colleague who had this happen to him and his wife on a few occasions. Now they have two lovely kids so the can be light at the end of this particular, dark tunnel.

Been in a similar position myself so I know there's not much to say. Time heals I suppose but its no consolation.

As others say, take care.

🙁

Dunno what to say. But very sorry to hear that.

Stay strong for each other and keep talking. I wish you all the best.....

So sorry. 🙁

Very sad for you both. My condolences

Placenta not coming away. Taking her to theatre. As horrible as this is we are so so so lucky that we do have 2 girls.

Nothing helpful to say, but just wanted to offer my pathetic little bit of support. Sympathies to everyone...

Thank you for all your messages. Really does help.

my sincere condolences for your loss.

Horrible situation, have been through similar at 12 weeks and was very tough.
So sorry for your loss.

So sorry for you loss, don't give up

Sorry to hear this, cant imagine what you are going through. Makes you realise just how lucky you are not to have things like this happen in your own life.

That's awful , I have 3 kids and can't imagine what you are going through . My heartfelt condolences go out to you. Take care of each other .

That is utterly horrible, you have total sympathy, makes you realise what matters in life.

🙁 I dont have words, stay strong.

I can only imagine what you're going through.

Massive [i]massive[/i] condolences.

Very little to say here other than how sorry mrs DD and I are to have just read that. I hope you and your partner can find a way through what will be a tough time coming up. Look after one another. That's a shit deal life has dealt and hopefully better things will come your way.

Like most, no words here. Wishing you and your wife better times ahead.

Wow 😯

Kinda makes everything else seem irrelevant.

Be brave, you'll both get through it.

Just want to add my support.

Condolences to you and your family.

Take care.

So So sorry to hear this, stay strong for the wife

I've nothing useful to add, condolences 🙁 All the best to you all

Sorry to hear that, stay strong, and all the best to you and the family.

I'm so very, very sorry for you all.

Not sure what else to say.

@JohnBoy so sorry to read this news. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your wife and your daughter. Tough times.

Been in a similar situation a few months ago. Horrific experience... No words can describe it.

Best to you and your wife.

Sincere condolences.

JonBoy - Member
As horrible as this is we are so so so lucky that we do have 2 girls.

Considering the circumstances, this positivity ^^^ is impressive.

So sorry, for you also Merak.

😥

That's a crap hand to be dealt. My thoughts are with you. We had a couple of miscarriages before going on to have 3 kids without any dramas at all in the pregnancies. And very little the docs can/want to do as unless you've had a string of incidents it's relatively normal, despite the dreadfulness of it all. Hugs.

So sorry 😥 Please take care of each other.

So sorry, for you also Merak.

This too.

So very sorry. Condolences.

So sorry to hear your devastating news. Hold your wife close and look after each other. Your beautiful daughter will forever be a part of your family.

I know there are no words at this time which will make things better.

I lost my first son shortly after he was born at 41.5 weeks. It was 6 years ago and not a day goes by without thinking of him and I carry him with me always.

email me if you feel you want to.

Mother Natures way of saying something wasn't quite there.... when its right it will be beyond wonderful.

That's stopped me in my tracks. Love going out to you and your wife JonBoy and to Merak.

My wife was in hospital a couple of years ago (rather earlier than 22 weeks - molar pregnancy), and we met a woman who had lost two in similar circumstances and who had then gone on to have a healthy girl. I read the entries she and her husband wrote in the "condolences" book in the lobby of the maternity unit about her first two. Heartbreaking.

Be brave, and reach out to all of us if you need help. And make sure the healthcare services look after both of you.

Oof. ****ing shit. Thats brutal. I hope you guys are able to recover in time.

You still have each other.

love from all of us.
Kev

Really sorry to hear that, just an awful thing to have happen.

JonBoy, I share you pain.

My wife and I have lost two in a similar situation, our first at 20 weeks (on the day of our 20 week scan) and our second at 21 weeks following an emergency suture at week 20 and a massive infection. We buried her 9 months to the day after we buried our first.

It's a terrible, terrible thing to have to go through for both of you. If you want to talk, please get in touch.

Not sure what you mean by that Earl but believe me, that comment is neither helpful nor true. edit [though i'm sure the intent was good].

Jonboy, be prepared for some difficult discussions and choices you'll have to make in the next day or so, don't rush in to anything and don't let the staff steer you in a direction you don't want to go. You'll know what I mean.

I realise looking at this thread that we haven't properly dealt with things 5 months on and it really is important to manage everything the way you want to. Take what counselling the hospital offer too, it really can help you get your head straight.

My condolences, not much more I can say.

So sorry to hear that, as others have said its rough now and you'll never forget but we've also had friends go through similar circumstances and both couples now have happy healthy children. Best of luck staying strong and getting through now and best of luck for the future

There are obviously no words that can make this any better.

As a father, I can just about imagine how you feel.

Remember that as strong as you want to be for your wife and girls to make sure that you're coping okay.

Helped with us when we were in the same situation.

My commiserations go out to you and yours

Realy so sorry to hear that, my thoughts are with you. Can only say that for me it was devastating, it happened to us a few times before our little miracle arrived . . . . he's 18 months and a real blessing. It has happened since as well, but eventually I hope time will heal your loss. It did for us.

So very sorry to hear about this.
Heartbreaking.

Bunnyhop x

Awful! So very sorry.

So, sorry for your loss. Be strong and look after each other.

Have only a small idea how awful this must be. We have two kids from four pregnancies, but have been luckier than many.

Look after each other, and ask for help if you need it. The father can get overlooked among all the emotions.

It hurts just reading the sad news.

Be strong and take care of each other.

Wow, wasn't expecting that message when I opened this thread

So sorry for you, that is unfathomably terrible

I truly hope for the best for you both

🙁

thats shit 🙁 . big hugs from all at the vaders

Lost for words. Hope you both are well and can get through it.

Can't say anything to help - I'm just very sorry to hear of your loss.

chewkw - Member
It hurts just reading the sad news.

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^^ This