[Closed] Tinder, my thoughts...

Well.....

It would seem the picture of me far away from the camera scores higher. 😆

I'm also not Trustworthy either! WTAF 😯

jambourgie - Member
You could have uploaded one to here for nowt and got abuse instantly

Might have been safer in all honesty!

Why are women so picky...

I`m a simple girl I like long walks on the beach, fried chicken and big *****

wiggles - Member
Why are women so picky...

I`m a simple girl I like long walks on the beach, fried chicken and big *****

Yep,always one little thing in the way! 😀

We'll, the results are in boys and girls. From photo feel.

Suffice to say, if you wear glasses in a close up pic you are deemed "smart".

The rest I will leave to your imagination! 😀

I still haven't got anything higher than "somewhat attractive" with 4 different pictures including one from about 5 years (and stone...) ago 😆

Not much different to me buddy! 😀

Anyway.... I tend to grow on people over time.

Like a fungal infection.lol

I'm not saying i'd date either of you, but you at least seem half intelligent and interesting 🙂

I can't even imagine going back into the dating world.... You're brave (but ugly it seems) blokes 🙂

Thanks weeksy (give me a call if you change your mind 😉 )

Poopscoop- same here most relationships have started with "I'm not really looking for a relationship at the moment..." But I eventually wear them down 😆

But dating based on pictures makes even being able to start talking to most women a bit of a barrier...

Ha, told you!

That girl I stopped messaging a few days ago because she wasn't really making much effort to keep the conversation going just messaged me again today 😉

Fungus technique ftw

This thread has come alive, thanks for the honesty and comedy guys. Keep it up.

Mixed feelings. Wasn't much of a player BITD because I was a bit shy of making the move and getting rebuffed, despite having a 'really great personality' according to friends who happened to be female. The ability to know someone's available and also interested enough to meet up, once they got to know me and my 'great personality' I'd have been sorting them out as fast as you could throw them under me*

* not my phrase - ex-maintenance manager at my previous work; he had a 'traditional' approach to dating but I won't reveal his other advice at this stage or I'll get banned.

On the other hand I'm happily married and kids so no need to get on Tinder or PoF - do you think the wife would condone it just purely for the shits and giggles aspect? I feel like I'm missing out......

Hey why don't you ask her?

Then you can join us doing it for real once the divorce is happening 😆

either that or she'd also want to go on, and then I'm on a hiding to nothing

#punchingabove
#greatpersonality = AAARGGGHHHH! My eyes!

[i]That girl I stopped messaging a few days ago because she wasn't really making much effort to keep the conversation going[/i]

Oh man, I hate that!
Me: Question?
Her: blah
Me: oh nice.. question?
her: blah
Me: Cool.. question?
Her: Blah
Me: ...
Me*moves on* !

They are morons.
Purely out of curiosity, I switched the app on last night after not touching it for months. 3 matches in 3 mintues 😆

That was literally it... She gives decent answers and seems ok have a decent amount in common etc just incapable of doing anything other than answering my questions really. I have replied with another non question answer if she doesn't come up with something soon I give up

First one who did it to me (she [i]looked[/i] good, so I kept it going for a while), I ended up sending a rant, 'if this is how you think a conversation should be..' etc! Nothing lost really. If that's how they conduct an online chat, they could only be worse in reality. Chatting online is EASY!

Maybe ask to have a chat on the phone? That can be most revealing IME.

Purely out of curiosity, I switched the app on last night after not touching it for months. 3 matches in 3 mintues

....from 3 blokes who thought you were called DebZ?

Isn't that one a month rather than minute though? Even if your not online they can still see you right?

If she keeps talking a bit longer I'll ask to meet up (not like that... Yet)

[i]Even if your not online they can still see you right?[/i]
No, I had it un-public'ed. Don't shit on my parade!

[i]..from 3 blokes who thought you were called DebZ?[/i]
Happy with whatever I can get 8)

[quote=perchypanther said]
....from 3 blokes who thought you were called DebZ?

Any port...

😆 😯

.....back in the game.....dope!!...back out, ran out of swipe rights again...

illuminating thread as ever. 😆

Found this on R4.... Quite apt....

Niche Work If You Can Get It - Series 1, Online Dating Photographer, Episode 2 - @bbcradio4 http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b09mzkbl

For a laugh I changed one of my pictures on the photofeeler to be viewed by men... Let's just say I'm glad I'm not gay. They were very mean about my jumper 🙁

Got a (drastic) haircut Today let's see if that makes any difference 😉

Scores are in... new haircut is a winner.

Had as much interest tonight as the last week put together 8)

Craigslist for the win

If you can look past the mountain of dudes looking to be gang banged by complete strangers, there are a few jems to be found..

Free advice.. Rubber up if you go down this route ..

[quote=tpbiker said]Craigslist for the win

Okayyyy....

<searches>

"Genuine guys wanted for bukkake (Southampton)"

https://hampshire.craigslist.co.uk/w4m/d/genuine-guys-wanted-for/6465614045.html

😯 😆

Group ride in Southampton on the 27th anyone?

That reads to me like the poster is a participant rather than the recipient (given they're paying for the girl). Poor lass, she'll have a face like a plasterer's radio.

Takes all sorts I suppose.

Just had a look on my local craiglist adds 😯

I thought I was pretty open to new experiences but nope nope nope nope 😳

Group ride in Southampton on the 27th anyone?

I dont think there is generally any riding involved in that scenario...

Well....

The match that wanted discreet fun messaged me three times today.

No idea what they said as by the time I saw the alerts she had lost patience and "dumped" me so I can't even see the messages.

Sorry luv,but it's my way or the highway. I'm terrible at replying to messages/texts and if you can't accept me as I am then is time you move on!

Anyway... I'm guessing that being a Friday night she wanted an,erm, firmer offer for tonight. 😀

That`ll teach you for not being on tinder 24/7 😉

I was talking to the one girl for a few hours this evening, seems promising seems like a nice genuine person but more than likely looking for something more serious, she actually initiated the conversation which is a first for me! Definately interested to see where this goes as she is very local as well

Also spoke to another who matched with me despite being waaaaay out of my league and she actually responded to my message and has talked to me a bit (btw the complimenting the smile thing works great 😉 ) but she lives 48 miles away... so maybe she is just being nice because she knows im far enough away not to be scared of 😆

I was talking to the one girl for a few hours this evening, seems promising seems like a nice genuine person but more than likely looking for something more serious, she actually initiated the conversation which is a first for me! Definately interested to see where this goes as she is very local as well

Do I need to get a hat for the wedding yet? 🙂

Going aside, sounds like there could be some potential there. Fingers crossed bud.

Well apparently the suggestion from that photofeeler"prefer a different haircut" was very true 😯

Since I did I have 10x the interest...

You are Wills and I claim my free ride in a Royal Helicopter.

I wish 😉

Although his haircut cost would be one every month for 18 months here 😆

Although quality does not = quality

One has kids (as usual mentions this straight away in their profile) but when I tell them I also have kids this is seen as some big negative against me 🙄

Another is boring as hell but trying to keep the conversation going just for practice...

Sounds like tpbiker has had success on CL.
Care to share any tips on how to spot a genuine ad lol

Is it rude to lead on a 41 yrs woman when I'm a lot younger.
I thought dating a mother was slightly taboo but a grand mother euuughhhh!

Or should I ooooof it! 😆

What have you got to lose? (unless you still have your dignity?)
CL in my area is full of large women who want someone to pick them up to engage in activities in a car...

My car is far too small (and lowered) for that 😆

Hmmmm, true, my dignity went with the first fat bird so why not, will update haha

One doesn't know how to hold a conversation and the other one started getting really funny with me saying "is this all we are going to talk about" so when I said "what do you want to talk about then" which didnt go down well think she was just waiting for me to give her a load of compliments or something

Just sent a "good morning" reply to someone that messaged me that leave a day ago! Forgot re reply before. Doh!

Hope she doesn't have alerts that wake her up.

Was going to give a reason for why it took me so long to reply...

However,I haven't got one!

So, decided to play it safe and just said good morning back.

Don't know where else to do with this one. 😀

Oh, wearing glasses on photo feel definitely makes you "smart".

Fact!

How much conversation do you need? Skip to want to have a drink?

Well with normal people you can just talk about stuff like what you have been up to music, films etc whatever but she didn't steer the conversation at all and didn't really say anything interesting... so I gave up.

Spoke to the girl from yesterday again she seems a lot more normal so think I will ask her to go for a drink or something if I talk to her tomorrow.

They have all been 3-7 years younger than me as well.

wiggles

They have all been 3-7 years younger than me as well.

That's a good thing though, right?

If I go the cougar route I am looking at having to brush up my resus technique at my age.

Yeah good for me, I`m 27 so 20-24 seems to be less full of crazies than the 26-32 sort of category I spoke to mostly before.

seems to be less full of crazies than the 26-32 sort of category I spoke to mostly before.

26-32 sort of category I spoke to mostly before.

I'm 49 so that age group is a dream age/a bit odd for me... as I'm not rich.

I don't want my son fancying my other half, you know what I'm saying?

Yeah, its not all about age obviously just mean there seems to be more of them in that age group. Might be better for older than as well as younger?

Im a single dad with 2 kids so have very little free time, so younger girls who dont have their own kids would make things a lot easier for having time to meet up etc So the older ones mostly have their own kids so would make things much harder.

Obviously further complicates things if any of these actually go somewhere but that is way off currently

Lol you should try the next bracket up.... might be a couple of I need a baby ones in there

They already exist in the early thirties 😯 also there are some 20 years olds that im pretty sure have never had a boyfriend that seem a bit... desperate

If I go the cougar route

You've got me all wrong there, mate,

Cougar - Moderator
If I go the cougar route
You've got me all wrong there, mate,

But I have so much love to give the right person? ...

I've seen your username, you've definitely got me all wrong there.

It should really be like the old wives tale, half your age plus 7.

Not really sure the norm exists except normal messed up heehee.

As for the kids thing, having seen a woman with 4 years on me or so with 2 kids, not sure I'd go that route again as it does get in the way of time understandably.

Would be sure sweeeet to meet someone in real life and be chased like when I was 16 than being a chaser as it's draining on the fingers lol

I have decided I am fed up of talking to the weirdos so going to ask 2 of the normal ones out tomorrow (increase my chances of getting a yes 😆 )

But I have so much love to give the right person? ...

With a profile name like poopscoop I'm sure you belong on CL ;d

 

wiggles - Member
I have decided I am fed up of talking to the weirdos so going to ask 2 of the normal ones out tomorrow (increase my chances of getting a yes

I'm no expert, but don't meet them both at the same time? 😀

Interesting isn't it wiggles that so many lasses on their profile say @weirdos need not apply" yet so many of them are exactly that to match!

We get a hard rep, surely everyone just wants to get along ffs

Would be sure sweeeet to meet someone in real life and be chased like when I was 16

Only time I was chased when I was 16, I ran to avoid getting my head kicked in.

yup!

The most hypocritical thing is the kids thing though, loads of single mums get freaked out and stop talking to me when they find out I have kids.

Must have been your moderating charm shining through ay! ;d

Seriously had to refuse quite a few when I was younger as I foolishly fell foot first with one and mooochly regret that now.

Thing is I've got a sexual appetite like tigger on roids but I daren't approach women if they look under 30yrs :O

Poopscoop- same here most relationships have started with "I'm not really looking for a relationship at the moment..." But I eventually wear them down

That's Stockholm Syndrome! 😀

Seriously had to refuse quite a few when I was younger as I foolishly fell foot first with one and mooochly regret that now.

My life summed up there!

Wasnt much of a hit with the ladies as a teenager as I was just too shy even turned down actual hot girls because I was too scared 😳 then when I was 17/18 I started to get a bit better but then ended up with someone from 18-26 (yes... Louise) so missed out on my shagging prime 😆

That's Stockholm Syndrome!

Hey don`t knock my methods 😉 In all honesty I think the ones who said there were just trying to put off the ones who arent willing to put any effort in, fools they were for underestimating how much effort I was putting in for a **** 😆

Sandwich - Member
Poopscoop- same here most relationships have started with "I'm not really looking for a relationship at the moment..." But I eventually wear them down
That's Stockholm Syndrome! 😆

Cheeky sod! That made me laugh though!! 😆

that was me lazily responding to you without quoting you so I said that so no need to get offended 😉

I'm not even sure what I could have been offended about bud? Lol 😆

Keep us posted on the impending dates! 😀

I recently installed tinder, was quite surprised at the quantity of filtered selfies, lack of photos showing anything below the neck, and lack of profile info.

These filters are good too, the difference between two photo's of the same person could be startling 😯

I mean I knew it was shallow and vain, but you're just swiping based on someone's face and age. Not very keen. I matched a few in the first day, one didn't talk, and the other two* I know one of, and have mutual friends with the other. So may as well have gone to the pub. Deleted it. *I do not live in a city.

Can see it's merit as a hook up thing, but not my scene.

Well asked the normalest (new word needed for this subject) one to grab a coffee next weekend and she said yes so will have to try and not screw that one up might ask the next normalest one as well bit think she prefers things stronger than coffee

I am getting nervous now 😯

Talked to her quite a lot to do and seems really nice but dont want to get my hopes up to much as she might run a mile when she sees me 😆

wiggles - Member
I am getting nervous now

Talked to her quite a lot to do and seems really nice but dont want to get my hopes up to much as she might run a mile when she sees me

Ok I'll just refer to "online dating" as although I'm new to tinder I'm not New to online dating. 😉

Great thing is, she has seen your face. Straight off you know she is at just not turned off by you. Probably quite the opposite mate!

You've already "talked" even if not on the phone? A very good thing, I've broken.

Hell,I once went on date and joked to the lady concerned that I could give her a lift home if she wished as I'd already emptied the seat of the axe and duct tape! Years later we are still in touch... She knew well before the date I had an odd humour but I knew she did too.Lol

Best advice ever is to let her do a lot of the talking. Sounds easy but here is the difficult bit (for some men!) Actually listen to what she is saying, take it in, be genuinely interested.

Also, with the net, there REALLY ARE plenty more fish in the sea. So don't apply pressure to yourself. Have a laugh, talk about your hobbies* and see what happens.

I went on a date once with a pirated DVD of a movie I knew she liked....to be confronted with my date having a lovely bunch of flowers for me!

Initially a bit awkward but we just had a laugh about it! 😀

*Don't talk compulsively about camping, biking, metal detecting or stream punk. A friend, ahem, has been known to do that. 😉

She already made the serial killer joke so dont worry 😆

Thanks for the tips though I have been on dates from online stuff but not tinder and in all honesty previously It wasn't really a case of choosing the best out of the ones I was talking to as going out with the [i]one[/i] that talked to me so that is why im a bit nervous as I`m going into it thinking she is genuinely very nice rather than convincing myself to go because I have no other option.

But yeah big thing is dont put any pressure on it, if it goes tits up and is awful then Just learn from it and move on...

wiggles - Member
She already made the serial killer joke so dont worry

If you pass, give me her details,I like the sense of humour! Lol

Yeah, sorry, didn't mean to try and teach you how to such eggs.

I used to be painfully shy till my letter 30's really. Then a longish relationship ended and I started dating then internet dating and I really don't even get nervous on a date anymore. It is a learning exercise as you say.

I think you're much younger than me? Man,I wish I could go back in time and tell myself not to be so introverted and just enjoy the experience more.

You have time on your side mate, I'm envious! 🙂

Yeah im 27 shes 24. If it goes badly I`ll tell her I know an older guy i vaguely know on the internet that I talked about her to might be interested 😆

My pattern is similar to yours just a bit more compressed... think ive hit the point of realising just see what happens if it doesnt work just start again with someone else.

When I was younger I just kind of felt like I had to latch on like it was my only hope... I`m either more optimistic or more deluded

wiggles - Member
Yeah im 27 shes 24. If it goes badly I`ll tell her I know an older guy i vaguely know on the internet that I talked about her to might be interested

Yeah, what's not to like? 😀

BITD I had a real need to be with someone. Anyone if I'm honest.

Now I'm petty happy being single and a but picky but there are times when life is better shared.

Yeah definitely when you get to the stage of realising it's not all bad being single it makes you understand you can afford to be picky and theirs no rush for anything

The most hypocritical thing is the kids thing though, loads of single mums get freaked out and stop talking to me when they find out I have kids.

But then again, that sort of woman will probably come with other problems best avoided.

Yeah true, but I don't think all women are bitches because of my ex...

Latest matches include a 34 hear old personal trainer but I suspect she is using it as some kind of targeted marketing 😆

Chaps - one of my colleagues is looking for a man. Edinburgh based. Be fun to set her up with one of you. warning - serious roadie cyclist and marathon runner

What has she done to you to deserve that?

she is quicker than me on a bike the bitch!

tj, what are the bids at currently for your friend? 🙂

Does she have any requirements for a man or does she trust you implicitly?