[Closed] Things need to change but to what?

When i have worked it out I will let you know.

Big life change after serious spinal injury. End of carreer, relationship, lost the family home (but kept the bikes and the van). Now have an amazing job, good pay, great new bike... new dirty girl...stilll working onthe house tho..

I didnt really have a choice as i thought i wouldn't make it through the Op, but wouldnt change a thing!

I've just no idea what I'd rather be doing

How can you not know that?

I know what I'd rather be doing but it's not something that's going to pay the mortgage or keep me in bike bits.

You need to really think what you want. At the moment you are trapped as a wage slave because of your material goods.

So - reducing the amount of money you need increases your choices.

If I was on any less money, I'd be signing on to collect it!

my life in the past has usually changed for the better when i have lost my job.
it forces you to deal with it.

I'm at a bit of a cross roads regards the job as we're interviewing for our own posts. I'm tempted to engineer redeployment.

stab BMW,Merc and Audi drivers in the head! would make my life easier

Onzadog - Member

I know a few people on here and made major changes to their lives, but how did you do it?

I broke my hip. Not totally sure I'd recommend it but as a long-term thing it's worked out not bad at all.

How of your discontent is financial?

Can you engineer a solution where you can give up some of your commitments?

I would say meet some new people, always good for reinventing yourself and starting off on a new trail.

The mortgage is the only financial commitment. No bank loans or car finance or the like. Not sure the wife would be too chuffed with me reinventing myself and meeting new people though.

It all happened to me 3 yrs ago, split up from my partner (mother of my kid) it was a nightmare. Had a well paid but crap job.

But i met my now wife soon after, fell totally in love got married, got made redundant.

Now work for myself, have a house thats paid for and no debt, count my blessings everyday.

The mortgage is the only financial commitment. No bank loans or car finance or the like. Not sure the wife would be too chuffed with me reinventing myself and meeting new people though.

Forgive me for asking but is your wife part of the problem also?

Valid question I guess. I think it's fair to say that what's going on isn't helping us. Flip, where can get one of those crap but well paying jobs? I seem to be stuck with a crap, poorly paid job. In fact, it's so bad that the threat of redundancy has got everyone in the team feeling very indifferent. While people are worried about paying bills, no one is bothered by the thought of losing this job.

What's your trade onzadog? There's plenty of crap jobs around, you could just do a different shit one for a while? If the mortgage is becoming a strain then can you convert it to an interest only or take a payment break?

Does your wife work also or have you got small kids?

Have you been in the job for long enough to get a decent redundancy package if it comes? Reasonably confident in your prospects?

Oh it's worth remembering that all jobs, all work for other peoples gain sucks a big one.

Man did not descend from the trees in order to go to work. This is an important thing to remember.

Don't really feel I have a trade. I left uni with an engineering degree but made some not so great job choices chasing money rather than experience and training. Left that field about 8 years ago. For the last 3 I've been working for the local authority.

Wife works, earns about the same and enjoys her job. No kids and no plans for any. We can pay the mortgage and bills. So things are not that tight. Redundancy offer is less than three months salary. I'd have walked for six or more but I see three as too much of a gamble.

I have been trying to change since around 2003 when I sold my house to go travelling in 2004. Things didn't go according to plan, due to mainly not really having a plan and I went back to work in 2005. I then left work again in 2009 to do my MSc. It has been a real strain as I finished around August last year and am still out of work. But I have had a second interview at a business school to teach sustainability, and the job prospects in Brazil are finally looking up. So yeah, it is amazing to make a change, but sometimes you need to think mid term rather than short term as you may well hit some obstacles and low points in your great transition.

Ok so what would you really like to do for a living?

Can you and your wife survive on her salary alone for a while?

No kids and no plans for any.

That speaks volumes, if you have no kids you can change anything or everything about your life.

You can retrain, move area, split up from your partner, with little fallout. Ok it'll be hard for a short time but you'll move on and hopefully up 😀

Kids make all of the above infinitly more difficult, you are not as trapped as you think.