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So as some of you might have read on here I consoled myself to riding from the house on my gravel bike so I’m not away from home long following my wife’s spinal surgery. After two failed operations we thought we were on the right track with pain management so I took the step of deciding to return to mtbing after the Cotic newsletter announcement of the impending SolarisMax. So started building up the parts bin in anticipation of the launch. After speaking with wife’s consultant on Friday after a paying for a new mri scan and a ct scan things are worse than originally thought. Long and short of it is I’m devastated for her, not me loosing out on mtbing. So if anyone has a SolarisMax on order and needs parts they will be in the classifieds.
I'm sorry to hear this, Fudge. But, may I suggest, don't do anything while you're both processing this bad news.
Other STWers are also "carers" (apologies if that term is not appropriate in your case) and will be able to give sound advice, including looking after yourself, taking time out for riding, etc etc.
^This
It's wise to take stock before any rash decisions. I'm sure your partner would wish you would be able to continue to enjoy your pursuits.
You must make time for yourself.
Cheers Esme and Merak I suppose things a still a bit raw at the moment, still trying to process things.
Sorry to hear this. No personal experience but Esme's advice seems sensible. That stuff will still be worth something in a few months so maybe pop it to one side and see what happens.
Fudge, don't be too hasty in your decision.
Speaking from a lot of experience, as most of STW know, i know exactly where you are at the moment. Trust me. Mrs G had failed spinal surgery too and it is a constant uphill struggle, especially with 4 kids.
I still get days/weeks like it now and times like it will still come and go.
I am a full time carer for my wife, was forced into a situation due to declining illness a few months ago where i had to stop working. The overall timespan from the start is just over 7 years, a lot more severe nearly 2 years ago and the past 6 months have been the worst.
I kept my bike i built as she was starting to get i<span style="font-size: 0.8rem;">ll, used it literally a handful of times, but knowing i will get out at some point makes it worth keeping. I don't owe anything on it so it just sits there waiting.</span>
If you need a chat/email/rant whatever please give me a shout. I have been speaking to a few spinal injury charities about Mrs G so have some insight about things.
Cheers gnusmas
Fudge. Really sorry to hear you have had terrible news. Take care. Jay
I've nothing to add but sympathy and best wishes, good luck
Esme
Other STWers are also “carers” (apologies if that term is not appropriate in your case) and will be able to give sound advice, including looking after yourself, taking time out for riding, etc etc.
I'm a carer and would say don't make a snap descision and talk things through with your wife she won't want to see you suffer I'm sure.
Sadly I'm the worst at following my own advice which has meant my bikes have not been ridden for the last 6 months & I'm angry with myself for letting it slip.
Keep the bike and work out how to get time to use it - using it will be good for your mental health which in turn will be beneficial for your caring, is one way to look at it but I wouldn't discount that as just being an excuse.