[Closed] the sad part of getting old.

i have no friends, so no weddings, christenings or funerals to go to #win 😕

Sorry to hear that Ton - its never nice is it? I had two funerals of friends last year.

only good thing is seeing other mates you aint seen for years.

Friends funerals are shit. Old people, yeah, god life and all that, but friends...no, gutting. It's a 'that could be me' thing as well though.

bloke was 41, had started going to the gym doing some cardio work after a few years doing nowt.
proper nice bloke who everyone liked. so sad.

Bit of a bummer ton.

When you get to a certain age, friends just seem to evaporate.

It goes in stages
teens - the idiot drivers
twenties - the daredevil climbers, motorcyclists
thirties - usually a quiet time
forties - the odd surprise heart attack or cancer or cash induced suicides
fifities - the smokers start to die off from assorted miserable diseases they are convinced are nothing to do with their addiction
sixties - smokers and hearts seem popular.

What's worse is the living death many people subject themselves too - too many people are incapable of doing any serious activity by the time they hit their 40s and all due to fags, food, and too much alcohol.

I sympathise ton, but it's a hell of a lot worse going to a friend's funeral in your 20s.

You don't have to be old to lose friends.
I've lost so many this year you couldn't make it up.
Funerals are shit full stop.

bloke was 41

😯

Been to a couple. Not good.
Have 2 kids of my own and can only imagine how it feels to have to bury one of your kids..

Not had any friend's funerals yet, there's been a few close calls, but they've made it through.
Had my wife's godson's a few years ago, when he was 14. That really wasn't nice. 🙁

I sympathise ton, but it's a hell of a lot worse going to a friend's funeral in your 20s.

In your late teens is not good either. For years and years you wish they were around and wonder what kind of person they would have been.

My condolences Ton.

Sorry to hear that Ton.

I seem to be a bad omen for friends. I've lost friends (Of the same age.) in every decade of my life so far. I am only 38... Accidents and suicide are the main reasons so far.

Indeedy life does seem a bit cruel and unfair, 41 that's no age, no age at all. I hope he enjoyed his time here.

BoL

Sorry to hear, Ton. As others said, it's not a thing of age, though. 4 friends of mine have passed away in the past year, and I'm only 32. I couldn't make any of the funerals, unfortunately.

I can sympathise ton, it's a shit element of ageing that you only seem to socialise with certain members of your younger years through death, I'm only 41 but there's 4 folk from our old clubbing/socialising crowd that have died this year.

2 from brain tumours that started recently as mild headaches but they rapidly went downhill, one from a heart attack out of the blue despite being pretty damn fit all his life, and one from a virulent rare cancer in a matter of weeks from diagnoses to us throwing dirt on a wicker coffin.

A few years ago i made a promise to only do stuff i wanted to do and if i decided to do something then i'd do it and **** the consequence as life is too short..........i hold that even more true now.

Lost 4 friends to heroin od a few years ago but to be honest it was always a bonus when you met up wi them and found out they were still alive and smiling as i knew it would get them in the end, the recent spate of pointless deaths has left me more resolute to say ****-it to everything and just enjoy what i have.

i have no friends, so no weddings, christenings or funerals to go to #win

That...that is a bleakly frank assessment Mr dOg 🙁

Yep it is.

Im the last person to judge as a rule, but Is that living rocket dog?

I'm a friend of rdog, I just need to tell him that more often 😳

I follow him on Twitter… does that count? 😉

Sorry to hear about funerals. My bf has a collection of funeral orders of service whereas my friends are boring and don't ride motorcycles so I get to keep them.

My family seems to be learning lessons about living: We had a decent gathering for my mum's birthday recently with my cousins coming on the grounds that they 'didn't only want to see us at funerals'.

Sorry to hear that ton . I have been to too many funerals already and hate the thought of going to even more as I get older.

Fortunately I have never lost anyone close to me. I have a small family, and my friends are still here. I was in a horrific car crash when I was at school and it is events like this which makes you realise we are all mortal and life, although very resilient, is also fragile and precious.

Cliche I know, but live each day as its your last and make love not war with people.

2 funerals this week, although both mine and wifes grans pass within a few days of each other, which is weird and both 92. Not lost any friends as yet ( frantically touches wood to keep it that way for a long time) although lost my dad at 42 years young . He would have been retiring this year 🙁

Yes it is shit Ton. A real shocker. A mate of mine died in January aged 43. Heart attack from nowhere. Did your pal go this way too?

Another mate died aged 26, 18 years ago. That was really bad. Another heart attack.

Turned 40 and friends suddenly started to die - lost 6 good friends to cancer, 5 were breast cancer of which 3 had been given the all clear. It's shit but an unavoidable part of life, had long chat to my Mum about it when it was all happening, as she's 86 she had a very pragmatic view having lost 2 sisters in childhood and dozens of friends and relatives I'm WWII, still a shock and hurt like hell but made her passionate about squeezing every moment out of life.
Condolences Ton, if you want a bit of counselling Mum takes payment in Baileys.

Oops double post - shonky WiFi in hotel