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Not me (though I wish it were!), but my GF... That was why I posted the "when in Rome" thread recently... https://singletrackmag.com/forum/topic/when-in-rome-2/#post-10257425
So 3 weeks ago today, my GF rang me from Hospital (I was supposed to be there with her, but I'm self employed, and my hired help rang in sick!)... "Get here ASAP, I need you" was her cry. I shut up shop immediately, note on the door, was there as quick as I could be...
Long and the short of it... She has Cervical Cancer! She has since had MRI and CT scans, and now the results have come back (clear thank god! It seems to be isolated so they're confident she shouldn't need Radio or Chemo Therapy), and she is now booked in for her Hysterectomy in 11 days time... It's all becoming more than a little bit real! As a teenager, I had to deal with both my Grandad (total bone marrow by the end!) and my Mum (Brain Tumour, they operated 4 times, she was almost a vegetable before they decided to finish her off with Chemo!), and only the day before my GF got diagnosed I had to deal with the news that one of my best mates from Uni (who I had been arranging to meet up with again real soon on facebook chat) had lost his battle with Cancer too! My point...? I don't know if there is one. I just want some positive reinforcement that a Hysterectomy is, in the grand scheme of things, no big deal, and that she's getting off pretty lightly! I am being as positive as I can be for her, I think I just need some people to be positive for me (rather than all the doom and gloom stories I've heard over the past few days!) and to point out just how routine this is these days... I know Doctors won't take a chance these days, they wouldn't say they were confident it hasn't spread if they weren't 100% sure, but I guess this is me seeking out for some reassurance!
Christ life is hard... We got this news the morning before we were supposed to be signing our mortgage acceptance papers, buying our first house together! She broke down a couple of days later, we were up chatting til about 4am, when she blurted out how there was hundreds of things she hasn't done yet that she wants to do. I immediately questioned her, which was when she then blurted out "Go to Rome" without hesitation... I knew then and there I had to book it for the following weekend (our anniversary anyway!)...
So errr yeah... Struggling to type a coherent post right now, but any positive words of encouragement will be recieved with enormous gratitude!
different reason but my wife had one a few years ago. It's a horrible op in the sense of what it takes away, but in terms of the physicalities is very bearable.
Good luck!
Cancer is ****
However there are many forms/stages etc
My mum has been on something that is technically Chemo for a long long time, if you met her you would not know. It is very targeted and the side effects are generally minimal.
Her cancer was described as rare and aggressive 6 years ago. She is still alive and active today.
its not all doom and gloom
Treatment will centre round your GF, don’t neglect yourself
All the best
B&B
**** mate, that's awful.
Dare I ask how old? My family and friends are riddled with the stuff and there's very much a mixture of outcomes. No direct experience of cervical cancer though so no help. Just my deepest sympathies. It sounds as positive as it can do at this stage though.
Alarm bells were ringing at the rome post :/
Awe here’s a hug for you both.
I reckon you’ll both come out of it with a greater understanding between you both and a love that’s deeper than you both would ever imagined.
Stay safe, give and receive lots of hugs and cherish those intimate moments.
🙏🤘
Can’t add a lot except to send good vibes to you both. Horrid disease, affects us all and bashed my dad, uncle and cousin but it seems like they’ve caught it early and are in a position to deal with it.
Love now, love each other and do things you want to do. The rest of the nonsense can wait a bit.
Good grief, you are both going through it!
It is probably easy to make light of a hysterectomy given the greater context of what it could have been. But don’t make light of it if you don’t want to. I’ve not been touched by cancer - and this is what makes it all relative - but if I had to have my womb removed it would be a fffff****g MASSIVE deal! So by all means, look on the positive side, but don’t beat yourself up if you’re having a dark day.
By the way - you’ll be doing the driving and vacuuming for at least two months 😁
My mum had ovarian cancer nearly 10 years ago. Womb and ovaries both removed followed by radiotherapy. She’s still here, still cancer-free and best of all symptom-free from the surgery.
There are positive stories with this awful bastard disease.
Look after yourselves.
Im sending a massive hug for you and your gf. I hope everything is ok.
One of my daughters is currently working on a local oncology ward, as a student Dr, and there have been strong advances with this disease.
Stay strong and be there for her. Look after yourself too, as she will need your support.
My mum had cervical cancer and had a hysterectomy, radiotherapy and chemo but unfortunately they caught it too late and it spread to the Lymph system. She was 33 when she lost her battle.
It's an awful bloody disease that's caused an awful lot of heartache in my family including my mum, my gran and an uncle who I was very close to amongst others.
Hopefully they've caught it early enough and your other half will have more luck than my mum. Best of luck to you both.
Mark, if you need a break from thinking about it give me a shout and we'll go for a pedal & suspend reality for a couple of hours
her indoors had a full hysterectomy a few years back due to EM and is far happier, we were fortunate to already have kids so there was no issue there and now her meds for early menopause are sorted she is fine. im pretty sure she would say it was worth it and if much happier now!!
My GF has hers out 12 years ago, and all is good now (similar diagnosis I think, not nasty, hadn't spread).
She has since worked for cancer sharities and says the treatment has come on a long way (eg she lost a lot of her lymph nodes, which doesn't happen as much today)
Sister in Law was in the same boat as your GF just 3 months ago. 1 Keyhole Hysterectomy, 3 days in bed and 3 months later she has had the all clear.
Cancer really is ****ing grim. My mum had similar when I was a teenager and made afull recovery and is still pottering about a mad little old lady. Best of luck to your gf and you mboy.
On the cancer ****g sucks side, We're currently waiting for the call that someone we love has lost the battle, as they aren't expected to last the weekend. Hug your loved ones and try and ignore the trivial and unimportant stuff
^^^^^^^^^^^^ look who's back ^^^^^^^^^^^^ a blast from the past .
Good luck with the op , both of you . Hug your misses alot , womenz luv that kind of thing alledgedly .
Thanks for the mental support so far guys.
Quick update... They’ve pulled her Hysterectomy forward, it’s coming out on Monday! Leaving the ovaries in as she’s 38 and they don’t want her to go into early menopause...
I’m bricking it myself, she seems to be coping fine on the surface! Were a few tears the other day, but she’s doing really well considering... I’ll just be grateful when 2 weeks later, we get the test results back from the lab to (fingers crossed) make sure it hasn’t gone into her lymph nodes, otherwise it’ll be.Chemo and Radio Therapy! 😔
Best of luck to both of you. Keep us posted!
Best of luck. You are both in my thoughts.
Aggressive Prostate Cancer resulting in a prostatectomy almost 4 years ago. Horrible disease, and even after hopefully curative surgery it messes with the head. Thoughts are with you both..
Best wishes on Monday....to both of you.
Yep.......cancer can suck my cock!, dad died this morning after a very fast demise with suspected myelodisplasia (blood/bone marrow cancer), he felt tired and lethargic when all the family (mum/dad brother and myself) went up to aviemore in May for our annual holiday but this holiday was special as he was due to retire the following week at 69 yrs old. He never got the chance to retire, from the start of June it was in/out of hospital, blood transfusions, tests etc...etc and by the time he got a definitive diagnoses in late August it was too late for stem cell treatment or chemotherapy as his blood counts (red blood cells/immune cells) were rock bottom and he lost so much weight so fast, spent the last 5 weeks hooked up to fentanyl subcutaneous drivers as his low immune count lead to abscesses/ulcers developing which caused horrendous pain. He lost 6 stone of muscle and weight in 3 months but we managed to get him out of hospital and back home for the last 7 days thanks to tireless work by Marie Curie nurses and the specialised alaxandria palliative care unit at the new Dumfries hospital, every other element of his nhs care at Dumfries and treatment/diagnoses (utterly non existent due to staffing/consultant/laboratory issues at hospital) has been absolutely ****ing atrocious and I genuinely feel like taking my shotgun to someone’s head, Two ****ing nurses to cover a surgical ward of 38 patients is ****in criminal and taxi’ing agency nurses 130miles to cover a single shift is incomprehensible, but obviously I’m just venting and I’ll leave the shotgun in the locked cabinet and just drown myself in Balvenie Caribbean cask whisky instead.
Yeah..... **** cancer......**** those who have drove the nhs into the ground........there are good folk that work in the nhs who genuinely care but they are all at their wits end with where the service is heading and over the past 3 months I have witnessed consultants/doctors/nurses breaking down in tears as to the pathetic standard of care they can offer, it’s not their fault so I sincerely hope that prick of a local Tory Tory councillor doesn’t come round my way soon, he may get a shock if he knocks on my door
Somafunk, I am truly sorry to hear how tough it has been. I can’t agree more with your sentiments regarding cancer itself, funding cuts and the blatant unfairness of it all either.
Hello mboy, I've just realised that I bought some bike bits from you aaaages ago and I have your email address in my paypal, so I've sent something for you to get some flowers for your other half - we've all had someone close to us affected in one way or another and it's crap so I'm hoping this helps to brighten her day up. fingers crossed for you all.
Good luck with it all, cancer sucks.
My mum had a hysterectomy for the same reason back in 1996, thankfully it hadn't spread and was caught early. Unfortunately at the beginning if this year they found a massive tumor in her bowels which was removed last week, weighed 10lbs!! The surgeon worked miracles as they were originally talking of removing a kidney and her lower intestine but the managed to cut it free and level everything else behind. I'm picking her up from hospital tomorrow morning and the last few weeks have been hell, not knowing what's going to happen etc.
Everything to do with the big C is shit apart from the amazing job the nedical staff do to get rid of it.
As an aside to above verbal speil...........To the op, my mother had a full hysterectomy (to be on the safe side) 20 years ago due to abnormal cell growth , she's been perfectly fine ever since - good luck
Thanks again guys, currently sat wasting time. Dropped her off at Cheltenham General this morning, she went into Surgery at 9am. Managed to hold myself together for her as she went into theatre, had to really compose myself when I got back to the car though! Sat waiting very anxiously for a call... I’ve called them already but they said they won’t know where she is until about 2pm (surgery is 3-4hrs they say, then recovery room whilst she wakes up, expecting to go back around 2-2:30pm)...
somafunk, I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad mate! My thoughts and sympathies are with you, thanks for the support and glad your mum is still doing well.
edhornby, I don’t know what to say! I’m a little dumbstruck, but thank you... Sometimes it’s the kindness and generosity of complete strangers that keeps us sane! Will make sure they’re ready and waiting for her when I pick her up tomorrow...
It sounds trite, but Best Wishes to you both.
I have my fingers crossed that the op goes well & the outcome is successful.