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its really bloody hard to get a true 5050 split though. just because of life.
Not really.
Just have to make adjustments and sacrifices to make sure you can do a 50:50 split.
The basic make up of mine is 50:50, as it should be. And if we need to make adjustments from the default position, it's already 50:50, so it's fairly straight forward.
Requires reasonable people on both sides of the equation though.
seems to me like you need a joint transparent bank account.
and then to take the time to review it.
i`d, for definitely, not do anything like this without taking proper legal advice.
As the nippers grow things change, life changes happen, time spent at places change, and the requirements for payments etc change also. (obviously some people are quite amicable about these things and it works well but others much, much less so)
the less you are niggly about money the more bearable the other joint parenty things (like parents evenings, doctors stuff, family meetings etc) become.
Some of the costs are split. Schooliform and school trips aren’t in this case. They are taken from this £400
£800, £400 is just his half. So actually £9600 per year, that's a hell of a lot by anyones standards.
Hmm.. I’m sure you don’t mean to pass comment on my care for my kids, but it kinda feels that way…
Sorry, hours ago now - No definitely not that - just reacting to what I read from someone else.
Since when was CMS a one way street? WTF do you pay her a single penny more when you have them 50/50? Are you subsidizing a living arrangement where she cant afford to pay for the family home they live in?
If she has a comfortable income then take it back to the CMS and get them to recalculate based on 50/50.
Regarding her spite and possible insinuations of not supporting your kids just put the money into an account for them, pay for anything that crops up 50/50 over and above and make it clear to the kids that you will happily cover anything they need 50/50 with regards to school etc.
£800, £400 is just his half. So actually £9600 per year, that’s a hell of a lot by anyones standards.
There's more than one kid. (Two?)
Cost of raising a child c£11,250 a year but that includes housing etc so £9,600 for 2 seems reasonable.
Like one of the posters said I think you need new joint back account you both pay £400 a month into and can both track the spending. This seems transparent and fair.