[Closed] Stupidest thing you've fallen out with a "friend" over?

Least it's taken your mind off riding 100 miles, eh?

Raise a £ a mile sponsorship? I've lost mates over less money tbh.

Least it's taken your mind off riding 100 miles, eh?

😆

92 fella, 92... 😉

Odd world, but when I look back, over the last 18 months he's only contacted me if I could do anything for him since he moved away. I'd defended him numerous times to other people when they told me to watch out cos he's known for turning on friends in the past too, feel a bit silly now!

You're life seems so complicated, mate. STW is like your own personal agony aunt 8)

I was on a camping weekend with a mate. In the pub, ugly girl walks in, I say "you fancy her".

Didn't hear from him after the weekend!

You're life seems so complicated, mate. STW is like your own personal agony aunt

Yes/no/maybe

But everyone I actually know who will entertain me for a bit has been tucked up in bed for an hour or more! 😉

Definitely thinking that early 30's as a single man, with no real commitments, is an odd experience considering all my peers are coupled up and/or married and/or have kids!

I was on a camping weekend with a mate. In the pub, ugly girl walks in, I say "you fancy her".

Didn't hear from him after the weekend!

Recently or pre-Facebook? Guessing there might well be some very ugly children involved by now! 😆

17 years ago!

mboy - Member

Definitely thinking that early 30's as a single man, with no real commitments, is an odd experience considering all my peers are coupled up and/or married and/or have kids!

try it in 10 years...

You're never in your 40s, Al? You read so much younger 8)

Definitely thinking that early 30's as a single man, with no real commitments, is an odd experience considering all my peers are coupled up and/or married and/or have kids!

Well technically you are at your most desirable at this age - if you have a half decent job and hair anyway.

So chin up, shag everything that moves and then settle down with the most intelligent, nicest and most attractive girl you find.

Jamie - Member
You're never in your 40s, Al? You read so much younger

thanks. to think some call me immature!

immature

Shit. That was the word I should have used.

Well technically you are at your most desirable at this age - if you have a half decent job and hair anyway.

I'm not so worried right now, more confused by how friendships seemingly become worthless when one party's life starts to follow a different path to your own. I've still got my hair (so did my Grandad when he died at 75, my Dad's 58 now with a full head of it), and now have a part time job in a Bike Shop too! So win/win I'd say!!! :-p

So chin up, shag everything that moves and then settle down with the most intelligent, nicest and most attractive model you find.

Hehe. Already one step ahead of ya... 😉

You ask people to pay £100 to be friends with you?

You ask people to pay £100 to be friends with you?

man whore?? The bike shop job is just a cover then??

Mboy, did you go to university? If not, I think you should whilst you can - you'll stand a better changes of getting a full time job after and you could potentially date girls a decade younger than you.

Then your married friends would be jealous.

^^^^^ This is a good idea.

Mboy, did you go to university? If not, I think you should whilst you can - you'll stand a better changes of getting a full time job after and you could potentially date girls a decade younger than you.

Hehehehehe

REALLY made me laugh this one, cheers!

The irony is I'm currently back at uni part time, just going into my 2nd year, and it's Fresher's week this week! 😉

Properly funny thread, cheers guys, you've definitely cheered me up! 😆

I may be wrong....but have you borrowed £100 from your friend?

I may be wrong....but have you borrowed £100 from your friend?

And have you been slow in paying it back, perhaps buying other "more important" things first?

Only I used to have a couple of 'friends' like that also....

I shot my best mate, which was pretty stupid.

I once fell out with a mate over where we were going to eat breakfast on Saturday morning. He wanted greasy spoon (and I mean seriously greasy) and I wanted an upmarket cafe bar breakfast.

We wandered up and down Upper Street in Islington arguing about it for 40 minutes before he lost it and flounced off. I didn't see or speak to him for three years but then I bumped into him on the tube (at Angel Islington coincidentally) and we've been mates again ever since.

What I learned from that experience is the thing that you seem to fall out over is not the thing that breaks up the friendship.

We were only a few years out of Uni where we'd met, and having very different experiences. I'd managed to get a decent job, he had been looking for almost two years. That was the strain on the friendship; my wanting upmarket breakfast and him wanted cheap and nasty was symbolic of the problem.

Once we were both in better places, it came back together again. I hope it does for you also Mboy.

Ten years ago I married Mrs NBT. I'd proposed while we were on holiday (skiing) and spent some time thinking about who I would choose as my best man. I'd got three close friends and chose Mate "A" to be the best man.

Mate "A" was on the same trip, so I asked him before we went home and he was chuffed and said he'd be delighted

When we got home, I rang Mates "B" and "C" with the good news that I'd proposed and she'd said yes, and told them that I'd considered them as Best Man but had chosen Mate "A". Both seemed really pleased for me.

About half an hour after getting off the phone, Mate "C" called back and said that he'd been thinking and actually he wasn't happy. I'd been his Best Man (in truth I was terrible at it) and was godfather to his son, so it was only fair that he should be my Best Man, and if he wasn't, he wouldn't be coming to the wedding. I wasn't rude or anything, but I did tell him that my decision had been made, and that his place at the wedding would be open no matter what, but I haven't seen or spoken to him since that day.

In time I came to suspect it was his wife who'd been doing the thinking, and I maybe handled it badly in telling him over the phone rather than face to face, but at the end of the day you pick the best man to be Best Man, and I've never had a moment's regret about that

If it helps any I am still working through the s**t that is being propositioned to by your best mates fiancee whilst he was in hospital recovering from a seriously accident, just wish I'd been on STW when it happened, as the unfolding story was monumental 😯

Edit: - just seen the best man bit above, I was supposed to be best man to above mate too.....

If it helps any I am still working through the s**t that is being propositioned to by your best mates fiancee whilst he was in hospital recovering from a seriously accident, just wish I'd been on STW when it happened, as the unfolding story was monumental

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Do tell...

sorry water under the bridge now, but I am the only best man I know who hasn't been told the date for the wedding until after the occasion - & there was me thinking I held the trump card 👿

For the OP, did this story involve money lending in some way?

I would never, ever lend money to a friend. Never. It will always end in tears. To be honest I'd always be extremely reluctant to lend money to a family member too. I'd rather just give them the money if they need it.

For info, my wife has no such qualms and at one point I reckon her family were around 8 grand in debt to us. Two of them died without paying the money back and the remainder have been extremely slow to repay. I bet we'll never see what they owe us. The whole situation has ensured that I simply don't trust most of her family and regard them all with a high degree of suspicion. This obviously cause issues when we meet up.

As I say, it always causes problems.

I may be wrong....but have you borrowed £100 from your friend?

Or sold him some brakes?

Or sold him some brakes?

Nah, only 'realmen' do that 😉

but I am the only best man I know who hasn't been told the date for the wedding until after the occasion

Ah come on, that sounds like just the kind of story that should be shared on STW.

If it helps, I was once re-acquainted with a girl roughly my age who was the daughter of a very old family friend. We had played together to the age of three then they moved away. I was reintroduced to her when we were both in our mid 20s. She was engaged, I was young, single and thrusting.

Long story short, she called off the wedding, we did a lot of 'thrusting' it fizzled out, she got back with him, my parents, brother and I went to the wedding, my brother had a field day with jokes about 'all those who haven't shagged the bride take one step back. Er, where are you going geetee?'

Her mum knew, her sister knew, my family knew, her friends knew....

I think the only person who didn't know was her husband. Who in truth was a very nice chap and really didn't deserve to have had that happen to him <hangs head in shame> 😳

Six years later they divorced and I was the first person she called on for some more casual 'thrusting'.....

Have I over shared?

If my best mate is struggling for money, i find him some work to do on my house, that way hes paid for the work and no lending involved.

Think he will suss it out one day 😛

I once lent a friend some money to get some wheels for her car and it really annoyed me when i had to ask for it back rather than her offering it back.

When I was 13 I fell out with my best mate over who got to sit on the front seat on the bus to school.

Surely the answer to every disagreement is either money or women isn't it?

or bus seats if you're 13!

Dear god. This sounds like a bunch of girls, bitching in a sixth form common room. You bunch of fannies!

"so she said to him...... and then she said to me......"

I periodically fall out with with my best mates in a fashion that can only be described as volcanic. Our relationship, since we were at primary school, has always been based on epic piss-taking, and the pulling of some right borderline evil stunts on each other.

At regular intervals this predictably gets out of hand. Normally after a few ales. Proper standing up shouting matches,questioning each others parentage, sexuality and partners fidelity. And often involving being physically restrained from punching each other.

Its all forgotten about immediately, when we've calmed down, as pretty much par for the course. With the usual line 'Wind your neck in and give us a hug you *ing big daft *!'

MTFU! And sort your priorities out! 🙄

When I was about 6 or 7 I had a great friend, one of the very few people I really got on with and had a nice relationship with. She was a massive tomboy, which was fine as we'd play soliders and fighting and the like. One game was slow-mo fights, you know what I am talking about.. as we got better at it they sped up, until one time I accidentally connected, although pretty lightly since we weren't trying.

She got really upset and never spoke to me again. This made me very sad.. I didn't have any other friends either.

STW

I fell out with a riding buddy and very good friend a few years back. He took offence at a comment I made on here about a new bike I'd got. He interpreted what I said as being criticism of him and took it upon himself to email a number of other people I rode with to expose me. Apart from being a bolt out of the blue, it really soured my riding for quite a while. It took me a while to realise that actually he was pissed off that I was riding with other people more than him, had got a good job (he'd just lost another one), bought a house and had a child. Kind of understandable I guess, we all get envious of people from time to time and it manifests itself in different ways.

My brother seriously pissed off one of his good mates once by riding his mates 250cc scooter off a BMX dirtjump and snapping it in half....

When I was eight, my best friend was a girl at school, who had just about turned 9. We even had a kiss on the back row of the classroom
I couldn't resist the aroma of her perfume. In fact, we were inseparable, it was love at first sight.
She even made me promise to marry her. I made her promise to be my bride.

Then I had a fight in the playground with some good looking boys that had started to hang around.
She cried, and that's the first time I saw a new distant look in her eyes.
Anyway, that was pretty much the end of the friendship. I couldn't hold on to my love, I couldn't hold on to my dream.

Jumping forward several years, just walking down the street, i saw her. My heart began to beat so fast, so clear was my memory.
I heard my voice call out her name name as she looked, but then looked away.

She didn't even remember me, did she!

Geetee - Did you not think you would've been better not going to that wedding? Rubbing someones nose in it without them even knowing is a dispicable thing to do, especially on an occasion like that. I'm surprised you never got lynched!
I know of a similar tale where the wedding was called off, a big fight broke out and the bride tried to gas herself in her car!

I was at a wedding with the same situation as GT. The difference being the best man and the 'ex' were martial arts fanatics from different disciplines.
It really was looking like kicking off big style, not helped by the fact there was an England match on the tele most of the blokes wanteds to watch .
Then the wedding venue caught fire.

I fell out big style with a mate over some plastic chrome centercaps he stuck on his mini.
And using Timothy Lukers head as a target for a stick grenade ( mini cricket bat ) There was blood . Alot .
silly really.

I have never fallen out with a friend. I like to think that I have good friends. Most of them I have known for a hell of a long time 20+yrs.

When we got home, I rang Mates "B" and "C" with the good news that I'd proposed and she'd said yes, and told them that I'd considered them as Best Man but had chosen Mate "A". Both seemed really pleased for me.

About half an hour after getting off the phone, Mate "C" called back

Why is Mate B even in the story? 🙂

If its any consolation I might be one friend down after this week. It seems she might have been trying to ditch me for a while but to be honest right now I'm not sure I want to keep the friendship anyway with some of the crap she's been getting up to/lying about.

Why is Mate B even in the story?
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Because C comes after B so if he hadn't mentioned B you'd have been wondering where mate B was in all this?Duh

Actually, maybe that was the three friendships listed in value order. C was probably right to get upset. ;O)

Ten years ago I married Mrs NBT. I'd proposed while we were on holiday (skiing) and spent some time thinking about who I would choose as my best man. I'd got three close friends and chose Mate "A" to be the best man.

I don't reckon it's fair the way women can have bridesmaids but a man is supposed to pick one 'best man'. I'm copping out and having four. 🙂

I had two best men.

My wife had one.

Was in Glasgow for New Years Eve about 1980 and six pissed adults playing Ker-Plunk when the one pulling out his straw got playfully nudged by a fellow player which resulted in him getting most of the marbles and losing . That started a bit of name calling which escalated into a 6 man brawl of epic proportions which resulted in various people not speaking again for years .

2 guys in a mate's group of friends fell out over how many pints had been drunk by the protagonist in a famous criminal law case (they are all laywers - the case revolved around liability and drunkeness IIRC).

Thing is they hated each other for years and were really looking for an excuse to fall out.

I'm very confused to be honest. There are a number of instances on this thread where people (and men in particular) profess to name calling which turns into full blown arguments and nearly or actual fist fights.

How old are you? You realise being called a name means nothing don't you? Once you're past ten it doesn't really matter any more.

Reminds me of when Cantona risked his entire multi-million pound career when he did a flying kick at some bloke in the crowd who called him a nasty name. What a child.

Cheep - Very, very good. Well done. I can't believe I'm the only one that's spotted it though

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I had two best men.

My wife had one.

What happened to the other one?

hot chocolate

I cannot even begin to list the truly stupid and selfish things that I've managed to ruin good friendships by doing..

🙁

Lending a (n ex) mate £7k back in 1989 and not seeing a penny of it paid back.

What a co_ck

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Thats plain nasty! (him, not you!)

My long time mate rented his house to my son & his GF, mate had just moved in with his GF who he'd been with years ago. Basically she's a bandit (who'd been sacked from the Post Office for nicking post previously) Mate decides to increase rent (as his GF had just got a new car & was spending his money like it was going out of fashion) Then he re-mortgaged the house so the rent went up again by which time my lad had had enough. In the meantime my son had bought a new 3 piece suite & told my mate in plenty of time beforehand so matey could arrange to pick up the old stuff up (which was his) He told my lad to put it in the garage & he'd pick it up, but the mice ate it first then he tried to charge my lad for it. (this was the Bandit talking really) Then he's texting me saying 'i need to talk to you about your son not paying for the settee the mice ate' So i says, 'he's your tenant mate, you talk to him'
He (or the bandit) kept texting my lad wanting all kind of compo for this bloody settee for ages.
It's died a death now & I've had no contact with him since.

I lent a mate a couple of hundred quid to pay his rent back around 1992-ish. He promptly disappeared. I was vexed, but ultimately wrote it off.

Maybe fifteen years later, he reappeared on Facebook or Friends Reunited or some such. Messaged me, said he felt bad, and wanted to meet up. We did, he repaid me what he owed me plus interest, then disappeared again. I've not seen him since.

People are odd. And surprising. And odd.

I may be wrong....but have you borrowed £100 from your friend?

And have you been slow in paying it back, perhaps buying other "more important" things first?

Only I used to have a couple of 'friends' like that also....

If that was the case, I'd not be on here typing about falling out with a friend! I'd be feeling pretty bloody stupid and ashamed!

It's a bit convoltued truth be told, but I think he had been looking for an excuse for a long time (not that I've spoken to him more than 3 or 4 times in the last 18 months) and wasn't prepared to be reasonable about something, when I was trying to meet him half way. He just flipped and said "f off, don't ever contact me again you lazy f" basically! 😕

Thing is I'd been told to expect behaviour like this from him by several people who knew him better than I did years ago, and I defended him at the time... You live and learn!

So do you owe him £100? or where does the £100 come into it?

So do you owe him £100? or where does the £100 come into it?

No

A bill suddenly appeared, long after I'd moved out of the house. I offered to stump up the £100 even though I don't owe it as a mate, but I'm earning very little right now so said I'd pay it to him at a monthly rate I can afford which I was going to suggest was £10 now then £30 a month til the end of the year.

He just said "f off, keep the money!"

Had a few want mates, they want you to help them do up a house , teach them something, etc, and when theyve had their jobs /skils upgraded they suddenly seem to busy or just ignore your calls.

Had a few want mates, they want you to help them do up a house , teach them something, etc, and when theyve had their jobs /skils upgraded they suddenly seem to busy or just ignore your calls.

In one

Was warned he'd be my best friend whilst I could help him out, lend him money, or keep him occupied, and that as soon as he got himself a new GF (we moved in together cos he split from his ex wife) he'd drop anyone and everyone else like a stone and only ever speak to them when they could do something for him...

Guess what happened!

You try to judge people on merit and not listen to what other people say, but sometimes mud sticks for a reason!

Friends? Are these people you don't try to ..with?

i once fell out with a friend when i was ten cos he wouldn't accept the fact he'd been tug in a game of tig and wouldnt be on. he ran off n we didnt speak for 2 years, there was about 8 of us playing n he didnt speak to any of us in all that time. we're good mates now and have been for the past 15 years.