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I don't know if posting this is the right thing to do, but I'm going to anyway.

Earlier this morning one of my sons threw
himself off a railway bridge in an attempt to kill himself, which was almost successful.

His head injuries are described as "catastrophic"; that word does not really convey the full sense of stomach churning sickness I feel when I see him. I have to be realistic: while there's always hope, it's looking pretty bleak right now. What's really sad is that he could never see how much he had to live for.

I'm posting partly becuse he always tried to keep things secret and pretend everything was "fine". It wasn't. And partly for any other parents out there with children with what seems to have been clinical depression; it's not easy.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 10:57 pm
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There are no words that will make you feel any better. Look after yourself.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 10:59 pm
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I'm so sorry.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:00 pm
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Blimey, the poor lad and what a shock for you. Be there with him and comfort him.

Sorry, don't know what else to say. Take care.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:02 pm
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🙁

Sorry. That's about all I've got.

🙁


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:02 pm
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That's awful, heart goes out to you. Take care.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:03 pm
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I just logged onto STW and read this.

I'm so sorry. I don't know what else to say.

I wish I could send you strength right now.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:03 pm
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My heart goes out for you and your family at this time.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:04 pm
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Can't even begin to imagine what you're going through. Take care.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:04 pm
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That is a tragically sad thing to read. The only useful advice I can give is not to shut people out or think you need to carry on alone. if you've friends and/or family nearby that want to take care of the day to day stuff, have a chat or otherwise help out in someway. Let them help, you've got enough going on.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:05 pm
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Nothing even remotely adequate I can say other than to send best wishes to you and your family and to hope for a positive outcome. Take care x


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:06 pm
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Bugger.
Try to be strong.
Keep typing, if you feel like it.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:07 pm
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Best wishes. Will be thinking of you tonight for sure.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:08 pm
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Nothing I'm going to type is going to take the pain away, don't try to make sense of it and just hope it gets better.
I have experienced similar things twice in the last 15 years. Don't blame yourself and take every hug going, I needed every one to get me through the days following.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:09 pm
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Thoughts go out to you! Take care and hope your family and close friends can all support each other at this devastating time.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:09 pm
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How awful for you and your boy.
My thoughts are with you.
When he pulls through don't blame him. It's not his fault. He obviously has some serious problems that need addressing. If you don't get any joy with the NHS go private. I was sectioned for trying to kill myself. I'm so glad I didn't and when junior gets better he'll be glad he's still alive.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:09 pm
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Blimey.

Well I always steer clear of threads like this on here because I simply do not have the words nor sympathy of feeling you might need (or not, I really don't know)

But.

That's a very sad situation for you and your family.

Genuine sympathy.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:11 pm
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Can't imagine what you must be feeling- best of luck to all of you, sounds like you deserve it


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:12 pm
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I really don't know what to say as I can't imagine how you are feeling. All I can do is send you a whole load of positive vibes and know that I am hoping you get through this ok.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:13 pm
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Oh my.
I'm so sorry, if there's something I can do to help let me know.
Fingers crossed.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:14 pm
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You spend your parental life trying to protect your children but i guess somethings will always escape us and be beyond our help. Hopefully there will be a positive outcome for your family.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:14 pm
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Bad times. Sincere best wishes to you and your family.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:15 pm
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I don't have words beyond, thoughts are with you. I lost a close friend in similar circumstance.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:17 pm
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Oh dear jesus what you both must be going through, what can anyone say?

Lost a son once, know what you're going through, my sympathies.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:17 pm
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I can't say much more than the above have done - but if there's anything you need of me, just ask.

All my love,
Sam, Bradford.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:17 pm
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thoughts (for what they are worth) will be with you tonight.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:18 pm
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Best wishes to you and your family.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:19 pm
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Fingers crossed for all of you - very brave for posting and sharing - thank you for doing so as it will help others


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:20 pm
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As a parent this is very difficult just to read about, let alone experience first-hand as you have. My thoughts are with you and your son.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:21 pm
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man, that's so sad.

However dark things get, you WILL make it through this.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:21 pm
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Wishing for a positive outcome for your son and my thoughts are with you and your family.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:24 pm
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Thinking about you and your family.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:28 pm
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My thoughts are with you and your family.

Take care.

Jay


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:30 pm
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Errmm....... Don't really know what to say. I can't imagine what you're going through. Thoughts go out to you and your family.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:31 pm
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I'm so sorry


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:34 pm
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My words cannot offer much support, but thinking of you, your family and your son.


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:39 pm
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Im sure our fantastic NHS staff will do the very best for your son and help you through to what I hope will be a good outcome...

Fingers crossed..


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:42 pm
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Stay strong.

G


 
Posted : 02/02/2015 11:43 pm
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Good luck to your son, yourself and your family.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 12:03 am
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I can only add that I sincerely hope that it all works out for you and yours.

Good luck.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 12:09 am
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Man, that puts my sh1t into perspective.

Am rubbish when it comes to expressing my feelings at times like this. Just want to echo what has been said already.

This little community we have here makes STW a good place for venting when the really horrible sh1t happens. So I'd say if you want to blurt then blurt. You might also find a riding buddy or someone who can help in a more tangible way if that's what you need.

Thoughts are with you and your family.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 12:13 am
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Earlier this morning one of my sons threw
himself off a railway bridge in an attempt to kill himself, which was almost successful.

Well, this has put my day in perspective.

Really, I hope this works out. Feel free to email me if you want someone to talk to.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 12:19 am
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I wish you and your son all the best.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 12:33 am
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That is really is the most appalling news and as others have said it truly puts a perspective on life's otherwise trivial problems. I sincerely hope tomorrow brings better news, however bleak things might appear to be today.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 12:41 am
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My thoughts are with you. Stay strong for your family but make sure you have someone to talk to to support you too.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 12:46 am
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As someone who deals with attempted suicide (Paramedic), and also as a sufferer of depression, please don't at any time apportion blame. You, your son, and anyone connected to you has no control over what has transpired. It took me 2 years to admit something wasn't normal, but only after my wife had chivvied me into doing something (she's also a Paramedic).
All I can add is, be there for your boy, and each other. Look after yourself, because he will need you.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 1:04 am
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Sorry to hear the bad news, OP. I'll be thinking about you and your family.

Please don't blame yourself! It isn't your fault or anyone else's.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 3:21 am
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Depression is an awful condition. I can't imagine what you are going through right now. My thoughts are with you and family.

Rachel x


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 3:39 am
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that is terrible mate, i hope your son pulls through, and has a brighter future.

best wishes.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 3:56 am
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I'm not sure they will but I hope the posts here offer some comfort.

I hope your son has a speedy recovery! It's tragi . As others said, try not to analyse what's happened. Try to look after yourself so you're in a position to look after your son.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 4:51 am
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No word's, best wishes to you and your family


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 6:03 am
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Arghh so sorry.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 6:11 am
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Words fail me, take care.

This place can offer amazing support of you need to vent / need support at any point, or even need someone to go out on a bike ride with.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 6:12 am
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I really dont have the words to say how I'd feel in your situation. I hope he makes a recovery. Good luck.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 6:20 am
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A guy at work took his own life before Christmas 🙁 I think it was known by his immediate colleagues that his personal life was a bit turbulent, 'can't live with each other, can't live without' sort of thing, but he was always up for a laugh/joke and hid his depression very well, no-one knew he had been planning every detail in a diary for weeks, even months.

Hope you have family around you for support and that there is some hope.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 6:36 am
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I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 6:49 am
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My thoughts are with you and your son. There's a whole community both on here and out there in the wider world ready to lend you both the strength you need to get through this, all you need to do is reach out.


 
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A post started at near on midnight last night and heading towards three pages already. Just shows if nothing else that random people care and are thinking about you, and yes you were right to post up. Hope things come good and well done stw!


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 6:51 am
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So sorry, thinking of you and your family.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 7:02 am
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Best wishes to you, your son and all your family, OP.

I have a daughter who occasionally talks about doing this - that's bad enough but at least she talks about it so we're a tiny bit prepared. I can't imagine what it's like in your shoes, though I've tried to in the past.

Let your friends help you through this; I imagine you'll need them. If you can't be with your friends, this place might do instead


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 7:10 am
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My thoughts and best wishes to you and your family.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 7:12 am
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Genuinely choked up for you.
Can't even begin to imagine your thoughts at this time, but rest assured your in mine.
Take care.
😐


 
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There is nothing I can add that hasn't been said in better terms than I can convey.
I hope you hear some good news today, my most sincere thoughts with you all at this time.


 
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My thoughts are with you, I can only hope it comes good in the end.
Good luck.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 7:26 am
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What awful news, so sorry to read this. Thinking of you and your family. Post, vent or ramble on here if it hope. We'll listen.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 7:27 am
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My thoughts are with you and the family


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 7:30 am
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That's such sad news, I hope everything works out for you and your family. So sorry.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 7:31 am
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Be strong and best wishes.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 7:33 am
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I'm lost for words and can't imagine what you're all going through right now.
All I can say is that I hope everything works out for the best for you all.


 
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You've done the right thing to post, it must be terribly hard to talk to others about it, so well done.
Probably little consolation at this time but a good friend of mine did a similar thing, was hospitalised for months. I can now say he is one of the happiest people I know, and talks openly about his past depression. You and your family our in our thoughts.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 7:45 am
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So sorry to hear this. Hope he pulls through.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 7:47 am
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I can barely imagine what you're going through and can't pray for you but my thoughts are with you.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 8:04 am
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oldnpastit **** 🙁


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 8:13 am
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Unimaginably awful. I'm not good with words in these situations but sending thoughts of healing and strength to you and yours.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 8:13 am
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All the best for him, hope he pulls through.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 8:16 am
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Terrible news, I can only offer you my best wishes. Take care of your son and yourself too.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 8:18 am
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Terrible, tragic news.

I can only wish all the best and hope he pulls through.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 8:19 am
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Awful, just awful...

I can only wish you all the very best and hope he pulls through.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 8:19 am
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Hard to know what do you say, but thoughts with you both & hope there's a positive outcome.


 
Posted : 03/02/2015 8:20 am
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Thanks, you have no idea how encouraging it is just to know that I'm not alone. Going to help if I'm going to KBO.


 
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