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[Closed] So, who else is a disappointment to their mother-in-law?

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I'm sure she loves me, but secretly, I'm a disappointment. Her daughter could have done better.

Her brother-in-law is a medical physicist. If only I had been a medical physicist, I could have achieved so much more, like him.

They've got a load of fantastic holidays lined up for this year, starting in Mallorca. We have a weekend planned in Swansea for my son's graduation.

Her husband, I just heard, bought himself a book on marriage, every year, for the first twenty years of their marriage. I have never bought a book on marriage.

He did actually buy me a book on being a dad after the birth of my first son. The first chapter made me feel so inadequate, ill-prepared, and utterly unsuited to anything involving parenthood that I gave up reading it - it was either that, or give up being a parent.

I could go on, but I think it's best to stop right there.

I should say that my wife does not share this opinion.


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 8:54 pm
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I should say that my wife does not share this opinion.

That’s all that matters surely.


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:00 pm
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My mother in law is awesome, a gem of a woman, and we get on brilliantly. She comes over on a Thursday to get My daughter from school, and I always look forward to seeing her. 😊


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:00 pm
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I think I am, but it's because I am not content to sit on my arse all day talking about the coffee, or how gluten and/or lactose intolerant I am trying to be.


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:00 pm
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WTF is a book about marriage and why the **** would you need one (unless your marriage is basically screwed anyway)?


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:03 pm
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They may be onto something. You’re on a bike forum bitching about them lol


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:08 pm
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WTF is a book about marriage and why the **** would you need one (unless your marriage is basically screwed anyway)?

You know how there's a market for mountain bike skills courses, and endless GMBN YouTube videos and threads on here about how to bunny-hop? Even though some people can just do it without even trying? Well, that. Apparently. I guess.

:shrug:


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:09 pm
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They may be onto something. You’re on a bike forum bitching about them lol

Busted!!!!


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:10 pm
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No, mine thinks the sun shines out of my arse according to my wife.


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:10 pm
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my mother in law is fantastic. we get on very well.
my mother is a vile hateful lying cow.


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:18 pm
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I reversed into my mother in laws car yesterday in my California, putting a great big hole in her bumper and a huge dent in my tailgate. To make it worse, this was all done on my drive!

I think up until that point I wasn’t a disappointment.


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:20 pm
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I'm more of a disappointment to my own parents


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:42 pm
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I would be if we got married but we never have.


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:44 pm
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My GF's mum digests the Daily Mail every day. It is her Bible... I'm not so much a disappointment to her as I am the Anti-Christ!


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:46 pm
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My MIL has known me since I was 17. When she met me I had left school with no qualifications, was a drummer in a band, had recently been sacked from Sainsbury's and was selling socks on a market stall.

I reckon she's pretty happy that I am now a 43 year old civil engineer! She does my head in sometimes but shes a great really and we'd be screwed without her.


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 9:49 pm
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My MIL thinks I’m great, mainly because I make her only daughter happy.


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 10:05 pm
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I reversed into my mother in laws car yesterday in my California

What's a California?


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 10:12 pm
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a book about marriage and why the **** would you need one twenty


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 10:21 pm
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Ex MiL is dead; best thing that ever happened to her.
Don't know what she thought of me.


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 10:24 pm
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I think I’m a disappointment to everyone I know / am related to apart from the ones that value consistency as a character trait.


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 10:34 pm
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I'm no sure I'm sure they're just perplexed by me


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 10:36 pm
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My MIl used to think I was wonderful, largely for taking Mrs taxi of her hands which freed up a badly needed bedroom for them. 😂


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 11:13 pm
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Nope.

Mad as a hatter, away with the fairies and an absolute star.
No actual illness or impairment, just genuinely, delightfully odd.

Think a slightly less inhibited Miryam Margolyes and your about there.

Orgasms at 80 were discussed along with guitars and GQT.


 
Posted : 29/12/2019 11:31 pm
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What’s a California

The daddy of all builders vans or an expensive red Italian sportscar. This is STW so I’ll go for the former (Declaration; Cali owner here)

EDIT my MIL was a complete diamond AND she thought i was brill. Gone now though 😢


 
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Mine is in her 70’s and still has red hair. Needless to say my wife has olive skin and brown hair and eyes. And I do not (note name). There has been more than one occasion where she has politely stated “No, this is my daughter”. I think she likes me still, even after 26 years.


 
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Never married (no plans to either!) but when I was closest to doing so but split up with the lady in question her mum was distraught I wasn't going to be her son-in-law!

When I bumped into them both a few years ago she even made a point of mentioning I'd have been a better son-in-law than her actual one. He was stood behind them and just rolled his eyes and sighed 🤣


 
Posted : 30/12/2019 4:56 am
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My MIL told my sister in law that I was a massive disappointment to them and then she passed this message on to me.
I couldn't care less though because I can't stand the woman.


 
Posted : 30/12/2019 8:39 am
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The only opinions in this life that are important to me are what my missus( I call her that even though we aren't married ) ..my daughter and son have of me ..thankfully they seem to love me.
I think my partners mam has always liked me ..but has trouble remembering me ( worsening dementia )..which is incredibly sad..


 
Posted : 30/12/2019 8:54 am
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Yep, I am a dissapointment to the MIL.

According to her I am controlling of my wife which couldn't be farther from the truth.

Two examples she states are I wanted to get married in a church (the only thing I asked for on our entire wedding day).

It's also my fault I then moved the family 130 miles away to Dorset after being made redundent and finding a job here. The fact my wife and kids love it here and have said they would never move back to Kent is lost on her.

Literaly everything I say or do is heavily critisised so now I just avoid any contact where possible.

The worst bit is that she spouts the bile about me being controlling to all her friends and family which leaves me feeling terrible because it is utter lies. Also, what must she think of her daughter if she believes that my wife has no mind of her own and just does what I say?!

I love my wife and kids and they love me so the rest can just **** off as far as I'm concerned.


 
Posted : 30/12/2019 9:17 am
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Disappointment is not a strong enough word for the way my mother feels about my husband.

She (influenced by my sister) positively dislike him. It's got so bad that my sister and I no longer speak. Families eh!
Luckily I have a brother, who along with his family still love us. Without them I don't know how I would have got through the last 2 years.

Edit: bunnyhop writing this.


 
Posted : 30/12/2019 9:40 am
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Mine is quite easy to avoid, she didn't have a good childhood and has pretty terrible social anxiety. We don't know much about each other. I see her very occasionally, she asked to just see her daughters at Christmas and struggled even with that and she would never look to judge me. So I presume that means I'm pretty lucky really!


 
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I could go on, but I think it’s best to stop right there.

Absolutely.

You sound like an abject failure 🤷‍♂️

🤡


 
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They may be onto something. You’re on a bike forum bitching about them lol

Made me chuckle!


 
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My MIL used to detest me, then switched and thinks I'm fantastic and the only reason the Mrs got anywhere. But we both secretly know she only says that she likes me to get at the Mrs.


 
Posted : 30/12/2019 10:05 am
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My MIL was great, got on like a house on fire, sadly she passed away nearly 3 years ago. My mum and wife and also get on really well too. Think we must be an exception.


 
Posted : 30/12/2019 10:22 am
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Me. A least I think I am.

I'm not sure why, other than being from a completely different background to my wife (her family are pretty well off), and having opposing views on a lot of stuff. I've worked hard to get to a position now where I run a fairly decent business, I supported my wife through four years of university, and now we have a daughter I try be the best dad I can be for her. It never seems to be quite enough though.

I used to be pretty handy at ignoring the situation but it does tend to grind you down a bit over time.


 
Posted : 30/12/2019 10:49 am
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I don't have a mother-in-law but I do have brother-in-law, who both my mum and me think is a complete ar... cu... twa... Sorry, disappointment. So he probably thinks/ knows he is a disappointment, but then my sister also shows very healthy signs of having the very same opinion.


 
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My ex was a son of a polygamist, I had 4 MILs! TBF, he needed a team to look after his lazy backside. All 4 of them hated me as I was too headstrong, I took it as a compliment


 
Posted : 30/12/2019 9:56 pm
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Dreds, smoked a lot of weed, wasted time & money dicking around on my bike, low paid science job, she was particularly unimpressed with me jaunting off to the Alps without the gf for a couple of weeks every summer...

But 4 great grandkids , house, job , happy wife and a spare room where she's always welcome.

She's not always easy to get in with

But she's nice enough


 
Posted : 30/12/2019 10:35 pm
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MIL likes me
It’s the wife that doesn’t


 
Posted : 30/12/2019 11:07 pm
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My mum thanked my wife for taking me off her hands. Great, cheers mum! Mrs Ambrose feels that I married below myself- how blumming bourgeois can we get? Her mum is wonderful, lives in France, loves food and her other daughter is a chef. What's not to like? We get on like a house on fire, she has an amazing sense of very dry humour, speaks like The Queen and is as far as I know, wholly approving of me.


 
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Not married, but the g/f’s mum thinks I’m lovely, particularly for taking her daughter on and giving her a home after her relationship broke up and she had to come back home after living in Ireland for ten or eleven years.
Helps I’ve known both of them for nearly thirty years, though. 😁


 
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VW camper


 
Posted : 31/12/2019 12:28 am
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Long gone, never knew and didn’t really care🤔🤷‍♂️


 
Posted : 31/12/2019 12:29 am
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Took my ex-mother-in-law some damson gin today, that we started from her dawson's and it's about 3 years since she was my mother-in-law. I've known her for about 40 odd out of my 47 years and I'm pretty sure she knows my best and worst parts, but she doesn't really comment. We are rural folk and she welcomes time with the grand kids, the veg we drop her off from our garden,and the gin. We pick her up some shopping and put her sandbags out when the waters up. I'm not sure I've ever stopped to wonder if she is disappointed in me or not.


 
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I'm not sure if my MiL approves of me or not. I think she does but I am the complete opposite to any of her social circle of old ladies who do yoga and their financier husbands. I am just the dirty miner who likes to do stupid things. She always makes sure there is plenty of food, beer and coffee in the house when I go there.


 
Posted : 31/12/2019 12:55 am
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Always.


 
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Just last week I got a message from the MiL back in South Africa saying that she was so glad Mrs Spekkie had found me and that we had each other on our Adventure.

FiL is the same. Just before we left SA for Spain, on our way out of a restaurant in The Cradle of Humankind, I told him I'd look after his daughter and his reply was "I know you will"

I think I've done ok so far.


 
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My MiL doesn't understand me, literally, as her English is terrible and my Cantonese likewise. Needless to say, since we cant really do small talk we get on fine.


 
Posted : 31/12/2019 8:37 am
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MiL is ace, very easy going, never given me any grief, super helpful, cooks a good roast dinner, and loves me to bits. FiL is great too. Feel very lucky 👍


 
Posted : 31/12/2019 8:37 am
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Likewise lucky that both sides of our family all get on really well. We had both sets of parents for Xmas and everyone had a lovely time. There’s plenty of political differences, but we can all talk about it.

Having had a stressful year, it makes a big difference.


 
Posted : 31/12/2019 8:52 am

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