You don't need to be an 'investor' to invest in Singletrack: 6 days left: 95% of target - Find out more
doomanic, so sorry for your loss.
It's clear that you did your best for both your Mum and Dad.
Continue to be there for your Mum - and always make time for yourself.
I say this based on personal experience.
First day back at work and I’m not handling it well so far. I’ve been very short with some of my coworkers and the work I have to do is not in the least bit therapeutic. I really don’t want to be here right now but I can’t afford not to be.
No sick pay / compassionate leave?
There is no right answers. Its about what you need. Everyone reacts differently. Some counselling might help or maybe a day or two in the hill.
Look after yourself
If it carries on like that, could you get signed off sick by your GP?
@tjagain 2 days apparently, I’ve already had 4 if you count the Tuesday and Wednesday where I was supporting my mum in the hospice.
I can get counselling through work but I don’t know what “in the hill” means. I thought I was doing ok, other than the normal Monday morning blues, but it’s clearly more than that.
I missed off an "s"
a day out in the hills can help clear the mind and give perspective
Get signed off sick then - even SSP is better than nowt
It's the funeral tomorrow, wish me luck.
I'll be reading a short passage, hopefully, and my youngest brother will be talking too. I still don't know if my middle brother will even attend.
All the best for today and crying at your dad's funeral is ok.
I had to do the one for my dad's step-mother as he was unable to get the words out. We all get overwhelmed at some point and that's ok.
Good luck with your reading - i did one at my kid brothers funeral a few years back and it was tough but i'm glad i did it.
Take a glass of water up with you and if you start to struggle stop and take a sip.
Just remember everyone in the room totally understands if you have a wobble.
Good luck today mate.
I read the eulogy at my mum's funeral, it made me proud to be able to do that for her.
Well, good luck. I have refused point blank to read passages at my brothers or my step dads funerals, so you are certainly doing a better job than me.
Home now. It went better than I feared; middle brother came (which I'm pleased about, for my mum's sake more than his) and my reading went well. I even held it together, right up until the bugler sounded the Last Post...
Sorry to hear about your loss. My mom died in similar circumstances (oesophageal cancer, in her case) at the start of lockdown in March, and current circumstances do make everything more difficult, especially with the restricted funerals and inability to hold a proper wake. I've personally found it hard to process my grief with everything else going on, quite often just feeling numb and then suddenly being hit like a tonne of bricks.
Hope you're holding up OK.
I am very glad it went better than you thought. Take cate doomanic.