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He'd been going through chemo for lung and lymph cancer and it was all going ridiculously well, but of course chemo knackers your immune system and he was almost 80... So he contracted a chest infection which proved resistant to the antibiotics. Went into hospital about 2 weeks ago, 3 days ago we were told to start thinking about the possibility he wasn't coming home, then he rallied a bit and we all calmed down... Took my mum in to visit him yesterday afternoon, he passed away peacefully in his sleep at 2am- heart just quietly stopped.
Anyway, I am not fishing for sympathy or anything, I just wanted to explain why I'm probably going to be a total **** to everyone on here. Especially YOU.
Please accept my condolences.
So sorry to hear this. Thoughts with you and yours.
Sorry for your loss Northwind
Really sorry to hear that Northwind.
🙁 My thoughts are there for you.
That's shit, sorry for your loss.
Sorry to hear this, Northwind. Will raise a glass later.
Sorry to hear, Northwind.
My sincere sympathies, @Northwind.
It’s always hard, but he wasn’t even very old.
I am deeply sorry to read this.
Sorry for your loss fella.
Sorry for you loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Sorry to hear this, I hope you mum is OK too.
Sorry to hear this. Remember him for the good times.
For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and melt into the sun,
And what is it to cease breathing but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand to seek God unencumbered?
Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.
And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb.
And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.
- my condolences Northwind.
It's never going to be nice, and I've got a pair of frail parents in the frame
Right now I'd settle for "peacefully in his/her sleep after a nice visit with me and mum/dad"
Condolences to you, your mum and all those who loved your dad
Sorry to hear your loss.
Sorry for your loss x
My thoughts are with you, just over a year since I lost my mum to cancer.
So sorry to hear your news Northwind.
My condolences Northwind, lost my dad last year. Liking the mint sauce strip
Sad news indeed...
Sorry to hear that Northwind - great cartoon choice.
Really sorry to read that Northwind, I can't imagine what it feels like as I still have both parents.
Currently watching my dad like a hawk as he's going through chemo at 80, horrible to see them get weak. I think almost all sons see their dads as invincible as they grow up so to see that image tarnished is tough. That's my absolute favourite Mint Sauce cartoon as it perfectly sums up the best gift my dad ever gave to me: the freedom of riding a bike. So many details that sum up the father/son bond perfectly for me.
Condolences to you and your family.
condolences Northwind.
Sorry for your loss.
Thank you for posting that Mint Sauce cartoon. My dad was the reason for my love of bikes and I let that slide after his passing. The cartoon and a conversation at a family funeral last week are the inspiration I need to get my finger out again.
Bah, all the best Northwind
Hi Northwind, you have my deepest sympathies. My dad died on 21st Dec 2017 and it feels like it happened yesterday as I have still not gotten over losing him. Take care and look after yourself and those close to you.
Sincere condolences to you and your Mum / family.
Happy to be the first person you decide to be a *** to; think of it as public service for others 🙂
Really sorry to hear that, sincerest condolences to you and the family.
If you need or want a chat or anything please send me a message.
Sorry to hear your loss.
Ah that sucks. Sorry to hear that Northind, you have my sympathies
So sorry, Northwind.
Sometimes an illness gets you, sometimes it's the long winding down. A peaceful slipping away is a great thing too, we'd all hope for that. My dad slipped away early Saturday morning, and after a long struggle we feel both sadness and a weight lifted, for him too, at he end. Still, more time for dusting, seems to be loads around in here typing that. Hugs to all.
So sorry, thinking of you and yours. 🙁
Sorry to hear that.
My condolences.
Well from how you put yourself across on here I'd say you were a great credit to him. Condolences.
life is shit sometimes northwind.
but remember the good times with your dad.
Sorry about your loss.
It is shit.
NW and MLC
My Dad died 20 odd years ago. Still think about him daily. Mostly brings a smile to my face thinking about his life and what he meant to me. First time I saw that mint cartoon after he died I fell apart but now it’s a thing I remember him by.
Best wishes to both of you. Talk to your families about your dad and the good times. Laugh about the good times and cry about your loss but remember his life not his passing.
Northwind, my Dad went in February this year. I was with him when he went, it was tough. My condolences. Strangely I feel closer to him now he has gone. It’s like the ill Dad has gone for good leaving the great memories of Dad in his place.
Condolences to you and your family.
Condolences to you and your family Northwind. You’re story is remarkably similar to my father in law’s situation who sadly passed away 2 weeks ago. Shit times
Sorry for your loss Northwind
I started the [url= https://singletrackmag.com/forum/topic/dad-appreciation-thread/ ]Dad Appreciation Thread[/url] back when my dad passed. Quite surprised by the number of people who didn't have one single great memory of their dad. Judging by your choice of Mint stories, I guess, like me, you're one of the lucky ones whose Dad gave them some good stuff to think of when they miss him. All the best Northwind.
Sorry for your loss Northwind, thoughts are with you and your family.
Awful news. My thoughts are with you and those close to your Dad.
my condolences to you and your family 😞
It's never easy losing a parent, hopefully it sounds like a peacfull passing so there is that to take some small solace in.
All the best.
Terrible blow for you and your family.
Hopefully when the shock has eased you will be able to look back on many happy times.
My condolences, Northwind, try to remember the good times. RIP.
So sorry to read this Northwind. Thoughts are with you.
🙁
Tough times
Try and get through xmas unscaved and take it one day at a time after that
Lots of paperwork to do which is tough but has to be done
Funeral will be hard, they always are. Do what you think is fitting
A good few years since my dad died of heart attack in hospital , 3 months after being admitted witha twisted colon . A couple of ops, sepsis , mrsa, induced coma , IV antibiotics then pulled through , out of ICU, onto recovery ward then 0300 one morning heart gave up.
I think your Dad was one of the good ones , keep the memories
I'm available for bikes rides and sympathetic grunting for the foreseeable future. Cancer can get tae ****.
Sorry to hear that Northwind
Virtual hugs dude
I don’t know who you are....or where you are....
But your choice of Mint is so emotive it’d be a hard bastard who isn’t moved...
Look after your closest NW - they are going to need you....Mint has your back..
I’m really sorry for your loss. I think we might have met once so are basically two strangers. If you fancy a pint in the Riccy or the flat roof Abbot or even one of the nice ones nearby then please give me a shout.
rotten time of year for it. my condolences.
Sorry to hear this. My dad died a few years back and I wasn’t right for quite some time after. Look after yourself.
My condolences to you Northwind. I too lost my dad a few weeks ago to pancreatic cancer. He insisted on staying at home until the end. It was kind of a relief at the time as it was horrible to see him so ill.
Phyllis Tuckwell nurses helped a great deal near the end, coming several times a day and even at night for the last few days. Whatever these people get paid, it's not enough.
Things will get easier. Remember the good times.
Hey Northwind, to echo Stevens comments
If you ever fancy watch me fall off my bike in any number of ways give me a shout.
Horrible time of year not that its ever going to be a good time but I hope you take some time for yourself.
Sorry for your loss Northwind. My dad can irritate me to fury, when he dies I will choose to remember the better times, there are some after he remarried too. In the meantime here's another Mint for those of us who had dad's buy the first bike.
All the best to you and your family.
Sorry to hear about your loss.
I'm genuinely sorry to hear that Northwind. You be as much of a **** as you want to on here mate.
It's all been said, but gutted for your loss.
Remember the good stuff, don't dwell on the bad, and celebrate a life lived well.
Life can be shite. Condolences to you and yours. Keep an eye on yourself as it’s easy to go into “just get on with it” mode, particularly at this time of the year, and then struggle in 6months time.
That's shite.
We watched my mother in law die in a hospice. Same deal, took a chest infection which just utterly knackered her and gave up in a matter of weeks.
If you can take any comfort though it's that your dad went peacefully and nobody had to watch him, I wouldn't wish our experience on anyone.
Paulneenan76 speaks wise words, my missus took about 3 years to get it out her system after she just "got on with it". If you get offered bereavement counselling I'd seriously consider taking it, otherwise I can probably dig out the Scottish web link my missus used.
All the best to you and yours.
Sorry for your loss Northwind, my condolences to you and your family.
Condolences. Went through pretty much the same thing in Feb.
That’s pants. Sincere condolences to you and your family.
Sorry to hear that Northwind. Look after yourself and your family.
Northwind I'm very sorry for your loss, it was at this time of year 21 years ago I lost my father, you never stop missing them but as time passes it hurts just a bit less & you will find yourself having a little smile to yourself about something he said or did.
Be there for your mum & don't worry about crying together, honestly it helps don't bottle it up.
Sadly I know from experience having now lost my Father, Mother 3 years ago and now my wife this year, keeping it all in tears you apart.
Try and celebrate his life if only for the fact that without him you wouldn't be here.
Northwind. sorry to hear that. Folk will ask if you're OK in the next fortnight even month; its the months after you need to watch out for.
My dad died (12 years ago, a bit over 80) in hospital, kind of a long slow decline. My mum (last year) died at 'home' - or in her sheltered housing home. Both peacefully more or less which is a relief of sorts.
Hope you can get out for a spin today. I did (on both occasions) and it helped a lot.
My condolences, Northwind.
I don't do platitudes, but I'll just say this.
My dad basically ignored me my entire life. When he passed a couple of years ago my emotion was mostly "meh." It sounds like you were more fortunate, try not to dwell and instead relish the good memories.
My mum died last year in hospital after several bouts of chemo thanks to leukemia. The hardest part was watching her gasping for breath and willing her to take her last one. Thinking "finally!" and then suddenly she starts gasping again! Gut wrenching.
It sucks, but ultimately something that most of us are going to deal with.
In many ways it's a relief and a weight of our collective shoulders.
Still have the odd moments where I'm standing in the workshop with tears rolling down my cheeks.
Look after yourself. Chin up. Carry on.
So sorry. And now it's got a bit dusty thanks to Sandwich.
Sorry for your loss Northwind
Sincere condolences NW, you are one of the good guys on here and I'm sure that's a reflection on your Dad.
RIP