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I’ve got a big decision and I thought I would share it and get some opinions. I really don't know what to do. So to give everyone some brief background:-
I've lived in Canada for 5 years on the East Coast (the Maritimes). I split up with the wife in October 2010 and moved back to the UK at Christmas 2011 to be near my family in Torquay Devon. I was a little bored with the job and the separation agreement kind of left me footloose and fancy free if you know what I mean! So I thought I would come back and try it for a bit.
It's been a little strange being back but I'm getting used to it. I'm loving riding everyday at the moment it's something I missed doing year round out there, we got a lot of snow in Moncton last year. It's challenging finding work back in the UK but that's no shock. I knew that before I came back.
And now the problem:- The firm I worked for in Moncton, Canada just offered me my old job back and I really don't know what to do. I mean I liked it out there but really didn’t love it. But it’s work, should I turn it down?
So do I go back and give it another go? And maybe see things a little differently. Or do I stay and just chill and hope everything will fall into place. But knowing that I may have to work away? Not loving that bit. To throw something else in the mix my mum has just been diagnosed with Alzheimer's.
Anyone with any similar experiences?
Do you a) live to work. Or b) work to live?
If a then it's Canada. If b then stay.
My Mam passed away last year, due to my having a cold, could not see her. She was on Cemo.
Still can't belive the bad luck, you really need to think what's important in life
If you don't [i]want[/i] to go back to Canada don't go.
When will you ever get q better chance to pick somewhere you do love?
You have to consider whether, if you go back, will you still be bored with the job, and after being home for a while, it could feel like you are quite isolated.
If you go back, do you have mates there or were most people joint friends with your ex wife? If she is still around it might be difficult to socialise with them if she is still on the scene.
I would go back to Canada for the following reasons:
1. There is a job waiting.
2. You are familiar with the place.
3. You can always come home anytime you like.
4. You can always apply for a UK job from Canada.
If you stay ...
1. You might be unemployed for sometimes because of current economy recession.
2. The longer you are unemployed the higher the chances you will be obsolete.
😀
Tough one. You are less likely to regret not going to Canada than not staying in the UK and being there for your mum.
Do you a) live to work. Or b) work to live?
If a then it's Canada. If b then stay.
My Mam passed away last year, due to my having a cold, could not see her. She was on Cemo.
Still can't belive the bad luck, you really need to think what's important in life
I agree completely, I lost my Dad to cancer whilst I was out there. Took me ages to get over it.
When will you ever get q better chance to pick somewhere you do love?
Exactly, it's make my mind up time and they want to know on Monday!
You have to consider whether, if you go back, will you still be bored with the job, and after being home for a while, it could feel like you are quite isolated.If you go back, do you have mates there or were most people joint friends with your ex wife? If she is still around it might be difficult to socialise with them if she is still on the scene.
I got bored with the 70 - 80 hour week that was the norm. A lot of the guys that I worked with I got on with really well and they didn't want me to leave. A lot of what were our friends are now just my friends. But Canadian people can be strange. At least with British people you know we can be grumpy buggers
I would go back to Canada for the following reasons:1. There is a job waiting.
2. You are familiar with the place.
3. You can always come home anytime you like.
4. You can always apply for a UK job from Canada.If you stay ...
1. You might be unemployed for sometimes because of current economy recession.
2. The longer you are unemployed the higher the chances you will be obsolete.
It seems like the sensible thing to do, or I could say stuff it and ride bikes all summer. 😀
Tough one. You are less likely to regret not going to Canada than not staying in the UK and being there for your mum.
That's what I'm afraid of.
If you follow your heart then you should avoid asking the what if questions ... so long as you are happy you will live a good life.
Speaking as someone whose Dad died with Alzheimer's and whose sister died with MS recently I can tell you, DO NOT GO! Your Mum, your family and you need you to be around for the next few years. Your family is about to go through a distressing crisis.
Putting aside the obvious issue of abandoning all those responsibilities and running away, from an entirely selfish perspective you will feel guilty for the rest of your life if you don't stay.
Speaking as someone whose Dad died with Alzheimer's and whose sister died with MS recently I can tell you, DO NOT GO! Your Mum, your family and you need you to be around for the next few years. Your family is about to go through a distressing crisis.Putting aside the obvious issue of abandoning all those responsibilities and running away, from an entirely selfish perspective you will feel guilty for the rest of your life if you don't stay.
Thank you, it's great to hear someones perspective who has gone through it.
I'd stay given what you've said.
But Canadian people can be strange.
In what way? (Interested as considering emigrating).
good luck
From my experience they can be quite standoffish. But maybe that's just me. I'd say go try it, it's a great country. I was lucky enough to have traveled coast to coast. Some great places.
Alzheimer's disease is sometimes called the living death because the person you know and love dies and just the shell of their body survives and lingers pitifully for years in some cases. Your mother went through pain and years of hard work to give you the freedom to make this kind of decision; you owe it to her to be around when she needs you and you need to renew your relationship with her now, before she begins not to recognise you.
I once let my sister down for selfish reasons when she became ill and no matter what I did for her as her illness progressed I will have to live with the memory of my selfishness for the rest of my life.