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A while ago someone I knew contacted me regarding his wife. He had been made aware his wife "may" have been having an affair/seeing this guy and he asked if I knew anything. He asked because I worked at the same place as his wife and the guy she was alleged to be seeing and the info had come from someone I knew while I was there. This "informant" did actually go out with the guy, who was actually cheating on his girlfriend at the time so I couldn't guarantee it's accurcay as she had a problem telling porkies and it seemed like a bit of a revenge thing. To cut a long story short I found nothing out and told him so and so everything seemed ok.
Now the couple in question who work at the next factory to me are seen very very frequently going out for dinner time walks and then one day this week they were seen kissing so it really looks a little more than just daytime chats and here is my problem. Do I tell my friend or do I leave well alone? My friend was going through the mill when he asked me a while ago and what makes it a little worse is I know him and her well and she's never seemed the type to have an affair and so I told him that his wife has always been polite, chatty and friendly and because I knew nothing about any goings on at her current employment I thought and told him maybe he had nothing to worry about.
I don't want dragged into anything so that says say nothing and leave well alone. The other side says he asked me and I knew nothing but now I do, so as a friend I should tell him? I guess it'll be a 50/50 split saying leave alone and the other half saying go tell him but has anyone else been in this scenario and if so what outcome did it bring?
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Invite him for a dinner time walk
two options IMHO confront her or tell him.
He asked you so he does not want to live in denial and you , depit ebeing honest ar enow, sadly, complicit in this lie [ you have my syampthy and not one for pithy stw banter.
Once in this situation a group of friends and one guy lived with his girlfriend and was seeing another girl in the same group of mates. One night [ post rave] she went to the toilet and they jumped on each and snogged till she came back. Everyone thought I was out of order for telling [ i warned him first and told him to end it or tell her] an affair is one thing all your friends knowing and saying nothing is another thing.
Most of them fell out with me [ he tried to fight with me badly one night] but I could live with that as I thought they were wrong and could afford to loose them as friends.
Pmsl. The "guy" came up to me when we worked together and started talking to me about the counciling he was receiving for beating some bloke up. I had no idea why he started the converstion and just thought he was "chatting". I told my boss as he knew this guy and he said think about it as the girl he was seeing worked on the desk in front of me and he was "warning me off" as I was getting on very well with his "bit of stuff"
Sorry no pictures either!
Do I tell my [b]friend [/b]or do I leave well alone?
I'd want a friend to tell me, especially if I'd asked the friend about it previously.
Been on the receiving end of that scenario and it still galls me to this day one of my very good friends didn't tell me. We were only 18 and he was apparently warned off from telling me!! She was a **** tho so I suppose he did me a favour!!
If you tell him you better be 100% sure what was seen is what you think it is.
Sounds like you wouldn't do well to blackmail them, so best shop 'em right before you go on holiday for a few weeks.
Just blackmail her, you might get some free sweeties 🙂
wait round the back with bombers and own him.......bloody counselling for beating someone up 🙄
failing that , tell your friend, its what being a good friend is all about being able to be frank and open with them without judgement.
Would you want to know if it was your wife?
yes just tell him, it'll be horrible but if she is cheating then the poor sod deserves to know. Cheating is just the lowest form of human activity I reckon, especially if she's going home and telling him she's happy and she loves him. Horrible
confront her or tell him
i would definately confront her and her amore and demand a 3some,win win situation
If you tell him you better be 100% sure what was seen is what you think it is.
Yup.
This doesn't look good :
[i]"seen very very frequently going out for dinner time walks and then one day this week they were seen kissing so it really looks a little more than just daytime chats"[/i]
[u]But[/u] it doesn't automatically constitute an affair. Were seen by who ? how reliable are they ? did they really see, or just thought they saw ? and so on...... You could do a lot of damage if it turns out to be an exaggeration/misunderstanding/false/whatever. Hearsay is not always reliable enough when its consequences can be devastating.
forgot to say,bagsy the back door as she sounds right mucky and you don't know where she's been,deffo
Tell.
Tell him and then tell her what you did. Make absolutely sure you have the facts right though.
thirty years ago i told a mate his mrs was having it over with one of our mates.. he has nt spoken to me since, but the two mucky buggers have been married for those thirty years and now have grand kids..
Unless you saw her with your own eyes, say nothing to him. Confront her though, defo.
If you saw her, and are 100% sure....
I think I'd speak to her. Ask her to be more discreet as she's puting you in an impossible situation.
Ask her to be more discreet as she's puting you in an impossible situation.
You've been in France too long 😉
My mate was good enough to tell me after he and his brother took a girl I was seeing for a spin around the block together..
I was a little bit cross at first but only until about the third pint.. He had suspected her of telling porkies for a wee while..
The point is.. as someone mentioned above.. make absolutely sure that you are correct before dropping bombshells.. luckily my mate had all the evidence he needed..
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is her name imogen?
send him an anonymous tip off