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Me and my gf not been getting along for a while now, lots of reasons but haveing talked last night, which is somthing we never do we decide it not working for either of us so I said I'd move out, it's her house so I get that, but this morning in 8 hours in to a 16 hour shift I and in just feel so sad and so low it's coming to and end, I bought her a new car on finance back in august so that's going to have to go back and I will have to deal with that when the time comes, I am just feeling so crap


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 7:26 am
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[i]but haveing talked last night, which is somthing we never do [/i]

Sorry, but...


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 7:29 am
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I'm not with you


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 7:31 am
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Keep the car.

You'll feel low for a bit but just move on I've never regretted ending relationships.


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 7:34 am
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I can't keep the car if I move in to rented, I won't be able to afford it and I don't need it as I have a van


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 7:36 am
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Ah right in that case keep the van.


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 7:38 am
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Yeah I need the van for my job, any idea what will happen giving a car back on finance I guess they will sell it for what they can get and come after me for the balance


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 7:41 am
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After we had talked it through last night I just couldn't get to sleep and had to start work at 12 so right now I'm tired out of my head and feeling shite


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 7:44 am
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but haveing talked last night, which is somthing we never do

Sorry, but...


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You could try buying her some flowers and taking her out to dinner. Girls like that kind of thing.

She's probably just as upset as you (in which case this might just work).

You don't want to spend a lifetime in regret.


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 7:50 am
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We just don't seem to have anything in common any more, we work at opposite ends of the clock, so hardly see each other and when we do it's so akward, if I thought flowers and a meal would get us back what we had I would get them
The house we live in is so small that gets me down, when I asked if she fancied moving it was an instant no which I understand it's her house and she wasn't prepared to risk it, I said just rent it out for a bit and see how we go


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 8:00 am
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Her mum lives across the road and comes across 3 times a day to walk the dog even though the dog runs round with me all night, so that gets on my nerves, I get home from work at 9 go straight to bed and at 10 every day in she comes slams the door and wakes me up, it's like I have no privacy. I was sat down stairs in my undies last week eating my dinner in she came


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 8:04 am
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Have you looked at the T&C's on the finance/handback?


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 8:04 am
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It is giving me concern hora but it seems like I'm in a lose, lose situation, I kind of expecting the worst


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 8:08 am
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If you want her back then don't buy her flowers. Move out, take it like it isn't a problem and show her you're strong. Keep in touch on a friendly basis but start becoming busy. Socialise with other people like mad, take up new hobbies, make new friends. You'll become interesting to her again and if she can see you're confident, making a success of things then her interest in you will probably reignite. And if it doesn't then you'll still be all the better for it. Trust me, this is the ONLY way, you have to let her go for a bit and prove you can survive just fine without her to get her back. Don't show any weakness to her whatever you do. Good luck 🙂


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 8:12 am
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If the car's on hire purchase (which it most likely it is if you got it from a dealer) then you can just hand it back regardless.


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 8:22 am
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Couldn't she buy her own car....? 😕

What century are we in.....


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 8:27 am
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Thanks agent


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 8:27 am
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The car I had at the time (a jeep) I gave to her, she had it for a year or two and she said she wanted a new car, I said ok you pay the mortgage and I will get you a new car, that's how she wanted it and it's been working ok


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 8:30 am
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Milky finish your shift and get some sleep before you do anything. Talk to a good friend or family. Good luck.


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 9:11 am
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If you want her back then don't buy her flowers. Move out, take it like it isn't a problem and show her you're strong. Keep in touch on a friendly basis but start becoming busy. Socialise with other people like mad, take up new hobbies, make new friends. You'll become interesting to her again and if she can see you're confident, making a success of things then her interest in you will probably reignite. And if it doesn't then you'll still be all the better for it. Trust me, this is the ONLY way, you have to let her go for a bit and prove you can survive just fine without her to get her back. Don't show any weakness to her whatever you do. Good luck

Great advice but

haveing talked last night, which is somthing we never do

Great foundations.

I bought her a new car on finance back in august so that's going to have to go back

Great Priorities.

I am just feeling so crap

Go ride

oh and


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 9:54 am
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This place has become a half baked online version of Relate.


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 10:24 am
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We used to talk, we used to have a laugh together, but things just changed over time, I consider the chat forum to talk about things like this, I'm sorry if it's only ment to be bike related, we have spoke today and we said we will each list 3 things on how we might be change a little for one another, we can only try


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 12:13 pm
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Her mum lives across the road and comes across 3 times a day to walk the dog even though the dog runs round with me all night, so that gets on my nerves, I get home from work at 9 go straight to bed and at 10 every day in she comes slams the door and wakes me up, it's like I have no privacy. I was sat down stairs in my undies last week eating my dinner in she came

The house we live in is so small that gets me down, when I asked if she fancied moving it was an instant no which I understand it's her house and she wasn't prepared to risk it, I said just rent it out for a bit and see how we go

Not wanting to make light of the situation but run for the hills...


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 12:17 pm
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You'll feel low for a bit but just move on I've never regretted ending relationships.

Split with the woman I'd lived with for 6 years some months back, felt v. sad for 5 days. All of the next week I was very happy. Bits of up and down over the next few weeks and, although it was a though thing to do, it was the right thing.

Plenty of Fist has been a recent source of entertainment and appears to have delivered me a rather cute MTB riding chika! There's a life to lead after the one you've currently got...

run for the hills

I was gonna say there's life after death, but resisted - now I just can't help myself \m/ :mrgreen:


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 12:27 pm
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"If the car's on hire purchase (which it most likely it is if you got it from a dealer) then you can just hand it back regardless..."

Bit more complicated than that I'm afraid. I wouldn't do anything with the car finance, until you know it's all off relationship wise. Then there is very much a right and wrong way of going about extricating yourself form the agreement.

I haven't much advice for relationships, but I do know a thing or two about car finance (job)

Email in profile if you need pointing in the right direction.


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 12:35 pm
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Plenty of Fist

There's a Dr Freud on the phone for you.


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 12:38 pm
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Plenty of Fist

I larfed.

OP - you will (IME) feel as low after the end of a really crap relationship and you would at the end of a good one. It sounds as though yours has little to recommend it. You're going to feel crap, but then it will improve.


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 12:44 pm
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So then, her mother who has seen you in your skimpies and keeps coming back over...............worth a fling with even if it was just to show your ex you can have anybody you want now you're single?

She probably has a few similar traits and a possibility that her body shape is same as your ex's.......what's not to like? Win win al the way.


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 12:58 pm
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Who's name is the car in? Is it yours to give back or has your other half agreed to give her car back?


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 1:07 pm
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a possibility that her body shape is same as your ex's.......what's not to like?

+25 years

DO IT!!!!


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 1:09 pm
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Finally the weather forecast dosent look too bad for the weekend, so go ride your bike.

Oh, and about half the population are women, so start looking forward to the next GF.


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 1:36 pm
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Plenty of Fist
There's a Dr Freud on the phone for you.

I [i]do[/i] enjoy a good Freudian slit :mrgreen:


 
Posted : 21/02/2014 4:11 pm

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