[Closed] Regrets

Nice. I'm gonna watch that regularly for a while. Cheers for posting.... 🙂

I regret making a mess of the step at Chicksands !

Vid is a bit shite tbh.

Vid is a bit shite tbh.

Are you one of those people who try to get attention by being deliberately obnoxious?

[quote=shermer75 ]Vid is a bit shite tbh.
Are you one of those people who try to get attention by being deliberately obnoxious?

I'm guessing you're new here 😆

Are you one of those people who try to get attention by being deliberately obnoxious?

Nope, I'm one of those people who thought the vid was crap. Everyone has different tastes..

Top five regrets of the dying.

A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the top ones is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'. What would your biggest regret be if this was your last day of life?

There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps. A palliative nurse who has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in particular, is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'.

Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. "When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently," she says, "common themes surfaced again and again."

Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it."

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."

What's your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-of-the-dying

It's easy to regret the things you didnt do, they don't have the same consequences as those things you did do.

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good that. dont know why, but it made me cry.

10 posts in and this thread has classic written all over it

always very suspicious of the "you don't regret the things you do, it's the things you didn't do" statement... Live life to the full eh? That could be "yeah I want to kill the last african elephant".

It was lovely until the Orbital quote. Then I turned it off and listened to the original

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."

She's obviously never nursed anyone of the STW forum 🙂

I notice the past tense iolo.. hope you are doing well now.

Nice. My philosophy, I have made many poor decisons but I understand why I made them at the time. The things I regret are always what I didn't do, the older you get you certainly realise not to put things off for next year, now is always a better time.

Hmmm, this thread combined with the STW ad banner for the bike race in Sri Lanka...

A quick Google reveals this....

http://theyakattack.com/rumbleinthejungle/

Hmmmm. Digs out piggy bank & ponders......

Regrets? I've had a few, but then again, too few to mention.

The main one being a beautiful italian girl when I was 17.

^^ exactly it's what you didn't do 😉

Thanks for the share. I'll watch it again later.

I regret not getting specific bike insurance 😥

I don't have regrets.

I haven't finished yet.

I worry about the stuff I can affect so if it's in the past I can't change it only learn from it 🙂

Regrets? I've had a few, but then again, too few to mention

Presumably, one of them being that you didn't start this thread.

Whenever I watch these videos I can't help but think of...

Three regrets I didn't do..... Diane, Louise, Tiffany..... especially Tiffany.

One regret I did do..... Linda...... though it was fun at the time, it was the wrong thing.

I'm not an aircraft engineer, but I don't think that thing is true.

Anyhow, this is better:

yep, the aircraft bit is a bit shite but the rest is good really

good that. dont know why, but it made me cry.

Regrets, mistakes and all the crap we go through make us who we are (the sum of our experience and a bit of other stuff too). To change any of that would change who we are.

Wouldn't it?

I have no ragrets

Regret?
Messing up financially out of uni
Saying yes at the wrong time
Being bold at the wrong time
Not being honest with myself when it really mattered

Then dealing badly with the after effects of that

I realise now that picking up the big blue crowbar was very wrong and caused huge repercussions.

Doesn't take a jive talkin' merican to tell me though, bro.

I think we may be needing a little sunscreen:

Can't believe the above New Order classic is over 23 years old! 😯

“It's better to regret what you have done than what you haven't.” Never a truer word spoken or written! I've got my handful of both over the years.

The aircraft thing is rubbish not least as they are made of aluminium and carbon fibre partly as they are light, strong and don't rust. However, we understand the point. A bike is for riding not for keeping nicely polished in the shed.

The trouble is the long term benefits of sunscreen has most definitely not been proved by scientists!

It's easy to regret the things you've done, because you know the outcome. It's easy to put on the rose-tinted specs and regret the things you've not done, because you imagine they would have had a perfect outcome. But they probably wouldn't.

I think I regret not doing engineering at Uni. If I had, I'd have different friends, a different job, live in a different place with a different (or no) wife and different (or no) daughter. Would that be better, worse, more or less the same ? Who knows.

Annoying rhyming man is annoying. Also, link to this study or I'm calling bullshit.

I'm much better thanks molgrips.
The airplane bit is probably not right but I don't care. The sentiment it portrays is a good thing.
I decided F@ck it and bought a place in Austria in the sunshine county of Burgenland which is a big wine region. Best thing I ever did. No regrets. Today was clear blue sky and 25 degrees.

You do seem it; that said so would I in your shoes after seeing pics of your picturesque home with the wishing well etc.
Good on you.
Bastard 🙂

I have been looking for something like this to show people to make them think about the positives in life....thanks!

A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the top ones is '

I wish I'd pumped that wee nurse?

The main one being a beautiful italian girl when I was 17.

I thought that was a very good year for you Frank, when you were 17?

Haven't watched the vid and won't.

Personally I try to regret nothing (whether things done or not done). Can't change the past so pointless regretting anything, can only learn from it to influence the present.

Self help tosh from across the water. How they love this shite, industry is worth a fortune apparently.

Seems to be affecting British culture more as we assimilate and become more like them. Just need the guns, your boss owning you, unpaid internships, celebrity worship, obsession with material wealth, boot camps for failures, constant use of the word loser, a hyper critical and looks obsessed society and you will need all that self help due to the induced paranoia and feeling of not living up to the standards set.

Had your teeth whitened yet boy, you could do with some fillers, how about ab lipo, drop that loser attitude and become a winner 😆

molgrips - Member
I notice the past tense iolo.. hope you are doing well now.

+1, so glad to hear things are better...

I agree with most of what you said chestercopperpot. I do however feel the sentiment of the film is right and something I have tried to do more over the last two or so years . Basically to enjoy life! But yes that dude is seriously annoying and it's the drip drip effect of course.

I read an article about motivational quotes a few years ago, how they are everywhere now . " you can't buy happiness but you can buy a book" type drivel. Tea towel philosophy I think it was called, how insincere it all feels. Was fascinating to read . Secular society and so on....

Seems to be affecting British culture more as we assimilate and become more like them

I've just finished a book that was about "Celtic" culture, it's overriding point was that while the people didn't really exist*, the cultural dominance most certainly did...groups of people assimilate cultural mores, always have, always probably will. Same for Palaeolithic and neolithic people, same for us.

Anyway, I don't mind these little things, there's massive cultural and societal pressure to "work hard, play hard" to be constantly "Busy" It's good to have the reminders like this to put some perspective on it.

Annoying rhyming man is annoying. Also, link to this study or I'm calling bullshit.

Think your regreting this now 😉
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I've got regrets, a few big ones. No point dwelling on them just learn from them and move on.

Not as good as New Order but still apt

Lol at mr Overshoot.

Nae regrets

My regrets? Not playing rugby more seriously - I discovered girls and beer instead and never having the bottle to sing in public.

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This presupposes we all know who we are. Which none of us do. So it's an empty platitude.

I think my only regrets are leaving the council as a mechanic to go self employed with a petrol station & not selling it earlier.

The only thing I repeat is, 'I should never have left the council' 🙄

The main one being a beautiful italian girl when I was 17.

What prompted the change ?

Some ladies I was close to in my 20's and 30's had pregnancy terminations which I encouraged at the time but now looking back from a place where the children I do have bring me such joy it makes me realy sad.

Other than that dont regret much, I've had a few big job offers that would have meant me becoming a slave to the commute and responsibility but turned them down for a better lifestyle.

I still feel I need to travel more but I'm hoping theres time for that, s'pose you cant tell and I should really get on with it.