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 DezB
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[i]5. Pay for dinner (although lunch is a nicer first date)[/i]

Good one. Even if they offer to pay - THEY DON'T MEAN IT!!


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 10:44 am
 emsz
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[i]*serious face* As are most people[/i]

I know hon. but really, I don't have a "perspective" especially not on "chicks"

Its the Kind of lazy assumption that blokes do without thinking sometimes


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 10:45 am
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[i]The one I don't understand is my missus, her pic was old when we met, and it's a low resolution blury one! [/i]

Hopefully, it's too late for you now.
😀

[i]emsz - Member
**** it its Friday and I love you guys

1. Be yourself. Be confident be happy. smile
2. Be honest with her and yourself about what you both want
3. Show some interest in what makes her tick
4. Dress nice, smell nice, have a hair cut[/i]All the usual stuff here, so far.[i]
5. Pay for dinner (although lunch is a nicer first date)
[/i]
Text book way to get me flamed, and binned. Ime. The worse one's think you're [i]paying[/i] for something...[i]

6. Never say "I'll call you" if you're not gonna. It's cheap
7. Lots of girls are shit scared of the date nutbag, its different for us, be nice[/i]
Any bloke who doesn't know and allow for this, probably is a nutbag, agreed.[i]

8. Oh can't deal with crazy. She might be smokin but trust me, you won't ever be able to get a handle on it, there's a reason she's single[/i]
There could be any number of reasons she is single, hopefully during the course of getting to know her, one would get to know why.[i]

9. We might have hang ups : commitment, trust whatever, you know what most of you have as well

[/i]Lost me there.[i]

10. If you don't want to kiss her 3 hours in, it's not going anywhere

Ok? [/i]

[i]trailofdestruction - Member

Ok, I know you're only joking.... you're joking, right?

Yes, it's a joke. No emoticons were harmed in the making of this post[/i] 😆

[i]Neigh lad. [/i]
Ok, you like SJP's character in SiTC? Then you're sorted, there's loads of women leading that lifestyle who are missing that one last accessory.


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 10:52 am
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Emsz.

As I explained at the bottom of page 9, I think you've missunderstood me and taken offence where none was intended.
😕


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 10:54 am
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Jeez, you guys can be so so cynical.


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 10:54 am
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[i]My poor daughter has pretty much given up on finding a decent bloke, she ended up buying a pair of kittens instead.[/i]

Could have been worse, she could have bought a dog....

[i]I know hon. but really, I don't have a "perspective" especially not on "chicks" [/i]
Yeah, you do, you've spent years telling people on this forum that you're lesbian and that's very different to the women I'd date as I've yet to date a woman who has relationships with other women and I suspect I never will. I'm kinda out of the hunt, aren't I?
Fine by me, live n let live, innit.


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 10:58 am
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[i]cinnamon_girl - Member
Jeez, you guys can be so so cynical.

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CG.
I'm happy to pay for lunch, dinner, whatever, don't need to be asked either. But my goodness, its a risky business trying and frankly, I can see where a woman is coming from, when she lets a man know she isn't comfortable with having him pay. Fair enough.


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 11:02 am
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Jeez, you guys can be so so cynical.

I never want to be single. I wouldn't be able to trade on my looks nor personality.

The sort of girl(s) I'd like wouldn't want someone like me! 😀


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 11:09 am
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[i]Yeah, you do and it's very different to the women I'd date. [/i]

Yeah, you're right! How come I never realised that the girls I've dated aren't even girls!!

We're not some distinct species Solo. Yknow?


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 11:10 am
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[i]Yeah, you're right! How come I never realised that the girls I've dated aren't even girls!!

We're not some distinct species Solo. Yknow? [/i]

Oh, I think I get it now. You've got your knickers in a twist over my use of the word "[i]Chick[/i]", correct?

Then definately, wind your neck in! I use that phrase in self deprication, harking back to a time when men were of a more misogynistic persuasion, the knuckle draggers.
🙄

I'd have thought that someone who's suffered the prejudice you have, would of had a thicker skin, not withstanding that no offence was intended, in the first place.


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 11:20 am
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And herein lies the issue with the written word......


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 11:26 am
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Solo, as I said earlier;

[i]Its the Kind of lazy assumption that blokes do without thinking sometimes[/i]

It doesn't matter that you intended not to insult or belittle or that " no offence was intended" it is offensive to talk about girls as "chicks" then you go right on ahead and make it worse

[i]Oh, I think I get it now. You've got your knickers in a twist over my use of the word "Chick", correct?[/i]

My knickers in a twist? Oh please! Because of course, as a woman, I've no reason at all to be offended, right? It's not derogatory at all, and you shouldn't have to trouble your teeny little head about these things should you?


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 11:47 am
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*sniff sniff* anyone else smell Troll.

Don't bite emsz, just walk away.


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 11:51 am
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Aww dont say that i've just sat down with a cup of tea.... 😀


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 11:53 am
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This thread was quite nice and supportive, a bit like Samaritans crossed with STW. Now it's gone all Jeremy Kyle!


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 12:06 pm
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And herein lies the issue with [s]the written word[/s]...... [b]Solo[/b]

FTFY

😉


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 12:35 pm
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Sorry.

My fault 😳


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 12:49 pm
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Fight! Emsz have him!


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 1:12 pm
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[i] Its the Kind of lazy assumption that blokes do without thinking sometimes [/i]
Look at who's being lazy, you've missed my explanation for the word "chick".

Lord, save us from the Vikings, The Hungarian arrow and the professionally offended.
🙄

[i]It doesn't matter that you intended not to insult or belittle or that " no offence was intended" it is offensive to talk about girls as "chicks"[/i]

a) only if you fail to understand the joke.
(A different woman would get the joke and provide, an equally tongue in cheek reply and the banter begins, it can be amusing, you might try it.)

b) or if you're looking to take issue.
Look, you got to let go of that stuff. It happened a long time ago and everyone got what they deserved.
So please, give all that a rest.

[i]Now it's gone all Jeremy Kyle![/i]

Agreed, was going well until professionally offend, self publicized lesbian attempts to advise older and experienced men about dating.
Thanks, Emsz.

Thanks too for the apology. No hard feelings
Early start tomorrow.
Nighty, night.


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 6:51 pm
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There's a pattern forming here.........


 
Posted : 03/10/2014 7:21 pm
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What if she looks nothing like the photos and within 2 minutes you know it's going nowhere?
I deleted my POF profile last night. It's a total waste of time. It's a bit like being in a budget supermarket. The products all look weird, are nothing like the actual contents and there's no way you'd buy anything twice...
To explain the first sentence: hyped up on caffeine I talked like a machine gun for 2 hours solid until she gave in and went home. I felt it would have been too rude to end the date immediately and go home to play with my new record player. Although that's what I actually wanted to do.


 
Posted : 29/10/2014 9:55 am
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I met a really interesting woman on zoosk earlier this year.. (I don't think she's offended by the term chick, but prefers to refer to herself by the other c word)..

We had instant, very invigorating banter and laughed our heads off.. Met up a few times and took our kids out together and met up at a couple of festivals.. Our drunken bickering styles clashed though so we didn't take it any further..
I spoke to her on facebook yesterday and she's enjoying life..
She starts a six month treatment for hep C next week which will be quite harrowing as it is similar to chemo in some ways, so she's had to quit her job as a social worker.. This in itself is a blessing cos it means that she's gonna havta sell her house, which in turn means that once her treatment is finished she can get a nice new truck and get back to living the life of a new age traveller..

Just thought I would share this little tale, as I've made a good friend there, and it shows, I think, that there is someone online for everyone maybe


 
Posted : 29/10/2014 10:30 am
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And you let her slip through the net Yunki?

She sounds like a proper keeper... 😉

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Posted : 29/10/2014 10:36 am
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I don't think she's offended by the term chick, but prefers to refer to herself by the other c word

I have absolutely no idea what you mean, nor am I sure how having to sell ones house to fund medical treatment is a blessing...?

I confusled.


 
Posted : 29/10/2014 10:40 am
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Gatsby - you jest, but she's definitely my kind of woman..
It takes all sorts to make a world 🙂

Njee - that really doesn't surprise me


 
Posted : 29/10/2014 10:42 am
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Have you been... Ahem... y'know... checked out?

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Posted : 29/10/2014 10:46 am
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Two years today since I got "Liked" on Guardian Soulmates.
I reminded her this when she brought me tea and toast in bed this morning.

Big grins.


 
Posted : 29/10/2014 10:46 am
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Is Guardian Soulmates better than the rest, then?

I appear to be in a position of needing something like that again.

Rachel


 
Posted : 29/10/2014 10:55 am
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Is Guardian Soulmates better than the rest, then?
I appear to be in a position of needing something like that again.
Rachel

Depends if you like Guardian readers 🙂

Hardman was single, vegetarian, in the arts, wore glasses, drove a Fiat 500.

When we met I was worried because I was allergic to cats. And I assumed she had a cat. Or cats.

She didn't have a cat.


 
Posted : 29/10/2014 11:06 am
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Is Guardian Soulmates better than the rest, then?

When I tried it (8 years ago) it was quite London centric...........


 
Posted : 29/10/2014 11:10 am
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Two years today since I got "Liked" on Guardian Soulmates.
I reminded her this when she brought me tea and toast in bed this morning.

Free-range, organic, soil association approved, ethically sourced toast, with herbal tea, I presume? 😉


 
Posted : 29/10/2014 11:15 am
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Free-range, organic, soil association approved, ethically sourced toast, with herbal tea, I presume?

Pretty sure the toast came from Lidl. But the tea came from Booths 🙂


 
Posted : 29/10/2014 11:18 am
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Guardian Soulmates seems ok so far. Not riddled with excitment maybe, but less deluded nutters than PoF.


 
Posted : 03/11/2014 10:22 pm
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Oh - I quite like the deluded nutters.

Rachel


 
Posted : 04/11/2014 8:36 pm
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I'm in my last 10 days on Match. I have resolved to leave it forever this time. I have 2 'meetings' this week then if nothing comes of them I shall have to find some other way.
I left POF over a week ago after another false photo meeting then getting blocked mid conversation by someone else. I've never had so much as a snog out of that awful site. At least Match got me a few short relationships.
Fitness Singles? Well, if there were any female cyclists within 100 miles of me that would be great! But there aren't, so 4rse!


 
Posted : 04/11/2014 9:11 pm
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Two days until my age flicks to 30. I think pof is a waste of time tinder is a mutch better format and far more successful for me.


 
Posted : 04/11/2014 10:08 pm
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Easy to filter if profile photos include bikes...Dude, you're wearing trainers...it'll never work.


 
Posted : 13/11/2014 8:12 pm
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*makes note to include bike but remove feet from photos*

Well I was hoping that the approach of Christmas and New Year would increase the desperation levels of those women thinking they didn't want to be alone for another year. It doesn't appear to have.


 
Posted : 07/12/2014 7:41 am
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...would increase the desperation levels of those women thinking they didn't want to be alone for another year. It doesn't appear to have.

Solitude probably looks better than having no self-respect.


 
Posted : 07/12/2014 7:51 am
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I beg to differ


 
Posted : 07/12/2014 8:29 am
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Update - been on a Tinder date with a very attractive lady who has a lovely Cannondale road bike. It went ok but no real warmth or spark. That's my one date of 2015 done. Back to riding my bike.


 
Posted : 01/03/2015 5:45 pm
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Dont worry MisterP I went on my date of the last decade with an ex-wife of one of Dezb's old mates . Who is also currently in a relationship with the ex Mrs Dezb ( the ex husband , not the ex wife )
Flippen weird , but she decided I wasnt for her so , so she kindly let me know mid way through a ski holiday .

Back to my 2 wheeled lady friends


 
Posted : 01/03/2015 9:16 pm
 DezB
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You make it sound complicated mate! Oh, yeah it is... 😆

Met my current online, she's fun... looking for a bike for her if anyone knows of a decent 16" frame hybrid or similar for £300 😀


 
Posted : 01/03/2015 9:28 pm
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