[Closed] Online Dating Updates

SMUG UPDATE ALERT...

Met Hillwalker woman in January on PoF or "Plenty of Pish" as she calls it, all going well for now and she wants me to take her bike shopping FTW!
Only snag is she is a real talker which can be a problem cause so am I! 😀
I told her I only joined PoF because of the chat on here about seamonsters etc, thankfully she saw the funny side of it.

A "friend" has used [url= http://www.dateactive.co.uk/ ]dateactive[/url] with some degree of success...

DezB, have you tried poking her??
😉

I'm too shy 😳

Well, how is everyone getting on?

I have a date tonight. She is 37, and to be honest the age thing is hanging over me a little. I know it shouldn't make a difference. I'm 31, she is 37. Technically there is 5 1/2 years between us, she has just turned 37 and I'm 32 in October. The onlt thing that could be a problem is if she wanted to a family...

if????

😉

Exactly 😉 This is our 3rd date, and to be honest I wouldn't have though she was 37, closer to me than that.

Well a couple of months down the line from disastrous first attempt at dating (see above...) I've now had some potential success via the "Locals" function on PoF. Was up in the Lakes taking advantage of my folks' place to get some biking/running done and some solitary relaxation, with them being away for a week on a walking hol. On the Fri night got random message from lass in Kendal who'd seen me listed as being local, looked at my profile and seen it said I actually live down south (at the moment) but decided to message me anyway.

Totally unexpected and unplanned as I'd been planning a weekend on my own away from everything but decided to chance it and we met up on the Sat afternoon anyway, went a walk (her choice of first date) then for dinner. Very successful, lots in common, conversation flowed naturally and we talked pretty much the whole 5 hours. Despite currently being down south she said she'd like to see me again and so now planning next date...

Colin,

See my post above about age differences - if the person's right for you, it's not important...

Bless you st colin, hope it's helping you. (I seem to recall recent misery threads?).
How I wish I could get a 37 year old 😉

Been having some great chats over the past couple of days myself actually. (Without trying too hard, obviously!) She's gone away for the weekend (or so she told me), but I feel like I've got loads to chat about with this one, so maybe it'll go further...

Thanks again. Oddly my posts refer to two different people.

It's an odd feeling, I feel that maybe I'm forcing this. The first two dates have been nice, dinner and drinks, but I still feel very distant if that makes sense. I get I just want to be able to be close to someone again so maybe that's just normal.

I'm certainly finding it a bit strange too, but think that it's largely down to finding myself back in the uncertainty & insecurity of the dating scene / being single/alone again plus having been with the same woman for 10 years, still married but separated, making it feel almost like I'm cheating on her.

It's just a mental block to be got through, if the time's right you'll know it, conversely, if it's not you'll also know it. And a lot of that'll be down to meeting somebody that you click with...

I found that sitting down and thinking things through helped me - if you feel like you're forcing things then that may be a sign that the time's not right yet. That's what happened to me with the first attempt anyway, 2 months down the line I've met somebody with whom I have clicked and now the time does feel right.

crazy-legs - Member
One of the reasons she gave for meeting up wth me was that I'd sent a funny / original email.

Seems to be the most common request you see on the profiles.

Incidently I've meet 2 lassies from pof, one a few months ago, went ok, organised a second meeting, but I forgot it was my brother birthday so binned it and went out on the lash(I let her know), didn't really think there was any point in trying again.

Second on was a few weeks ago, really nice lassie, but I obviously played it too cool, sent a text few days after got a reply saying I got it that I wasn't your type blah blah. I was like what? because I didn't try and jump you at first attempt ffs(I never texted that)? she was nice very nice actually, but I'm putting that one down to a bullet dodged, well either that or it was code from I'm not her type! ah well have a good life, next!

Must be about time for an update on this thread...

Any more comedy gold from the world of online dating?

I've been on a date (PoF worked!) 😀
Not telling you nosey bastards though 😆
(ooh, look - its the one I posted about 3 weeks ago)

I got a match on Tinder on Friday night. Spent the whole weekend chatting on there then on text. She said my photos weren't very clear so asked if I was on facebook. I said yes, gave her my surname and she added me as a friend. And that was the last I heard from her. I know I am more Tarantino than Clooney but I was hoping for a slightly better reaction.

[i]I got a match on Tinder [/i]

Isn't that the 'sex' one? Surely getting "a match" is no competition for a female on there who'll be getting hits all the time?

While I'm here - 3rd date coming up Thurs eve. Going to see a band... should be good.

Which band?

Stalker.

As this has been bumped...

I've met and I'm dating someone from real life™. We've worked together for a year, it's cheesy but for me it was [s]lust[/s] love at first sight. Due to a lot of complications (and I mean a lot 😕 🙁 ) we finally got together earlier this year. There's a lot of baggage, but, you can't help who you fall in love with!

[i]Which band?[/i]

The Amazing Snakeheads 🙂

go Houns!

Okay, since we're updating....

I've been going with a girl for just over two weeks now. Got a lot in common, fellow engineer type etc and we're even going away together this coming weekend for the next round of the enduro here. Though once she sees my bike skillz, she'll most likely leg it.

Weekend away with mine taking in the Hillbilly Event @ Kirry on Sun. Been together for 45yrs ❗
https://www.sientries.co.uk/list.php?event_id=1370&id=1264

Hope you all find "that someone special" 😆

I've come to the conclusion that i will never find the ideal woman online.

So i am now planning to hang around in the cafes at various trail centers and attempt to pick up a woman that way.......

I can post my itinerary here if any of the more adventurous ladies of STW want to apply for the position??? 😉

[i] i will never find the ideal woman online[/i]

Ha! I've found 100s of them!

Well... while we are updating...

I put a profile on POF after reading this thread, back in September / October. In the initial barrage of messages, two stood out as possibly rational mtbing guys. I arranged to meet the first, and shelved the second for later...

It was a couple of months later, after a few failed dates, that I remembered guy no2 and I got back in touch. He was still about, so we arranged to meet over New Year. It has been an 'interesting' few months 🙄 , not quite as straight forward as the movies make it out to be, but 5 months on and we're still together, things have settled down and I am really very happy 8)

So to anyone thinking of giving up - you never know, someone could be just about to get in touch...

real life™

What is this "real life" of which you speak?

[i]In the initial barrage of messages...[/i]

At this point I realised the poster was female...

😆

At this point I realised the poster was female...

There are some of us on here 😀

Well, online dating was a mixed bag for me - met someone really nice on fitness singles, one date but seeing as I was, at the time homeless I had a lot of both literal and metaphorical baggage that was too much of a risk for her.

That was the best thing that could have happened really, whilst I was briefly of no fixed abode I went to spend a few days with an old uni friend and we're now approaching 6 months of awesome. She's a horseriderist but despite only having ridden a bike 5 times in about 10 years is thinking of entering an enduro after seeing the one at gisburn.

In my experience, horseriderists make quite good MTBers! (after a horse, which lets face it, gets a spook on and bolts into a hedge when it sees a leaf / twig / plastic bag it doesn't like the look of, a mountain bike is childs play.... 😉

'While we're updating' . . . . Sounds like we are collectively punching above our weight - not that I'm 'punching' anything!

Oh I am, Redhead, model and Snr Nurse. She is spectacularly awesome and is my best friend

Donkey punching houns?

She does it to me

That good to hear houns (not quite sure where the donkey comes into it - but each to their own 😉 )

I thought for a moment that Houns was a redheaded model.

I've pulled myself a cracker..

Went out for a few drinks on Wednesday and we're going out again on Saturday..

I could be on to a winner

Oh do smug off.

yunki - Member
I've pulled myself a cracker..

On your own at Xmas? 😆

Interesting about the horse riding thing....this girl I'm seeing rides horses and I've convinced her into a spin out on the bikes at some point....if she's quicker than me, I'm out.

Tinder seems to be populated by three types of women - chavvy duck face types, single mums and horse riders. And at least 50% off them describe themselves as "curvy". I think I am going to forget women and stick to riding my bike.

you've got too picky Mark 😉

Well, I'm not having any luck - some nice dates with nice people but all a bit 'meh' so far!!

I think I'm just too picky 😕

So, I met Walkerist burd in January, went to a laughbly poor gig at Celtic Connections, regular dates and pj parties since then - meeting her mum and auntie, over from Tenerife, for the first time in about 1hr for dinner. Wish me luck.

[i]you've got too picky Mark [/i]

Nah, I've just got a nice bike 😆

pj parties

one letter away from God like status

My big date happened last night. We had met a couple of times before it actually, but this was the proper one I invited her to originally. We went to see a band at a cool bar and it was quite an experience! It would've been rather strange if it had actually been the first time we'd met - mainly because the band was so intense! Anyway, we got on great, but I don't think there's a big romance in the offing. Hopefully will still be able to see bands together as we share an odd taste in music 🙂

Did you ride it?

"It"??

[quote=rOcKeTdOg ]pj parties
one letter away from God like status

Why do you so admire PT parties ...is it your age ?

Me, her, 4 dogs - Sunday.
Walk, eat, drink, chat - be a gentleman.
I ride bikes, she rides horses AND a real bike - with an engine & everything...

I must've got this all mixed up. I thought this was a thread for guys waiting on their new bikes to be delivered, of which they have spent hours online procrastinating over which top tube looks best in what colour and then the first ride feedback and if they have a future together...

Junkyard - lazarus
rOcKeTdOg » pj parties
one letter away from God like status
Why do you so admire PT parties ...is it your age ?

Physical training or "lemon party"?

missnotax....I've met you ,Brockenhurst mountain biking event, and you have every right to be picky!

Nah, I've just got a nice bike

what are your riding these days ?

Anyone else got any updates?

I'm happy with my online dating experience. I'm gonna take down my profile 🙂

I'm back on the scene. Like a very tired machine!
I promised myself 6 moths off but then... created a Match profile just to 'have a look' and ended up chatting, exchanging numbers and well, we'll see.
Well, surroundedbyhills, I'm glad to see our mutual friend is not on the site any more. I'm hoping it's because she found someone nice. I checked that site again and there is ONE eligible lady within 75 miles. I spent my Paypal balance on Match instead.
I'm still holding out for a mountain biking lady or at least a cyclist of some sort. I cycle 5 days a week and the other two I'm either fixing bikes or thinking about buying bike bits so I need someone who understands.

I have found a lady who has a picture of mountainbiking and bivvying and is also extremely attractive and wants to meet me again.

Thats all I am telling you as you'll alk be scuttling off to find her!

Anyone else got any updates?

Yep; mine's ****ing ace! Early days, but happy days 🙂

Well, after getting unceremoniously dumped on Valentines Day, and then ranting about it on here (ahem), I had a break from 'The Dating Game', and I'm having another go.

Wish me luck.

[i]Yep; mine's **** ace! Early days, but happy days[/i]

Great stuff.. I'm feeling that at the moment too 🙂

Good luck trailofdestruction! I expected nothing, got some happiness.

Well,

There's trouble in paradise here.

Despite her new saddle being a hit, apparently her wheels are too heavy and I'm not giving her what she needs in the "bouncy bouncy" department*

*I'm supposed to find her a pretty FS frame, in a colour that she likes for <£300, oh ans in XS too...

@deveron53 - that seems like a while ago now, I had the distinct feeling that I was playing second fiddle IYKWIM.

Missnotax 😉

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Has anyone seen the happn app? Looks like a tinder type thing but tells you who youve been near during the day.

Guess you may find a fellow mtb'er if you used it in the hills. Not something im needing to try atm but thought people may like to have a go

Has anyone seen the happn app? Looks like a tinder type thing but tells you who youve been near during the day.

The vast majority of people I was near today, I'd rather not know anything about them! But then I guess that's what I get for having to walk through the middle of Manchester on a Saturday...

Ha ha v true!

Met Mrs Ratadog, 17 years ago, because she was lodging with my landlord when I rented a house. Not sure anyone had heard the words internet and dating in same sentence at that time.

I was asked by aforementioned landlord why I was single and said that it was because I was waiting for my perfect woman who I defined as a Swedish Claudia Schiffer lookalike with brains and pots of money.

My wife claims that she scores 0 out of 4 on that scale, although I claim she scores 1 for brains and a half for not UK citizen. She also points out that she had to significantly lower her expectations as well.

The young lady that I met up with for a few dates seemed to have bags of potential..

She was very cool, attractive, interesting and fun, but the dynamic between us was lacking a certain je ne sais quois in my opinion so it's back to the drawing board for me..

Sod Strava, I'm now in the top 25 most viewed male, cycling-related profiles on Fitness Singles! Woo! Get in!
Thing is, there's no eligible ladies on there within 100 miles of me! Shows what a good profile pic can do tho eh?

POF is coming up with best results at the moment. A few irons in the fire...

100 miles? Easy 4 hour ride that is, get typing!

Still going strong here. She's coming to watch me [s]kill myself[/s] er, race at the QECP Enduro on Sunday..

Nothing much here yet. A lot of coffees, a few 2nd dates, no 3rd dates yet. Trying to keep hopes up.

I think the problem is that you get to know them BEFORE you meet them. If there's no spark when you finally meet, it's such a disappointment!

Considering speed dating, anyone tried it? How does it work? Hints, tips?

Met my now wife on match.com 🙂

It's worth using the paid sites, most people on free sites are just trying it out and aren't serious about finding someone. People who have paid £60 are more keen to get their monies worth. 😉

It's great that this is being discussed on here without everyone trolling. Well done singletrack forum for being so grown up. 🙂

Nearly 8 months in here 🙂 so it can work, but I'm not sure that I actually enjoyed the experience at the time...

Six months on Sunday 😀

I met my wife on match.com.

Wow, was there ever an argument.

Been going since May (if you can't tell from this thread!) - met on a (the?) free site. It's cool because neither of us were expecting big things from internet dating. I don't think the site makes any difference, just gotta keep hunting for the right one. Go by the interests, not just looks!

I'm trying okcupid again, seems to be some ok women on there.

Considering speed dating, anyone tried it? How does it work? Hints, tips?

Its a laugh but very random, don't expect to meet someone.