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Whatever you do, keep it simple! If they turn out to be a loony and you're tied into a long afternoon/evening with them it will be tedious for both. Quick drink, get to know each other a bit... You can always extend it to food or something but make sure you've got an early escape option in case you need it!!


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 1:25 pm
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Posted : 17/10/2013 1:26 pm
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Its about being yourself and meeting someone suited to you if that is what you like doing then you want to meet someone else who would like doing it. Given that why not assuming they are ok with this.

I guess it depends on whether you want to meet a like minded individual or just bed someone you may have nothing in common with who you can "bang".


 
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Its about being yourself and meeting someone suited to you if that is what you like doing then you want to meet someone else who would like doing it. Given that why not assuming they are ok with this.

I guess it depends on whether you want to meet a like minded individual or just bed someone you may have nothing in common with who you can "bang".


 
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Posted : 17/10/2013 1:33 pm
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I did 50 miles away for a bit. Gets tiring though

[grumpy] I want someone in the kitchen making me a brew [\grumpy]


 
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Likes being evasive about his job whilst berating others for doing the same, culturing a faux persona on the internet and pretending to be posh whilst living in a bedsit in Runcorn 😉

You missed out spelling 😛

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Likes being evasive about his job whilst berating others for doing the same, culturing a faux persona on the internet and pretending to be posh whilst living in a bedsit in Runcorn

Aww, never mind Junky, Runcorn's not so bad, and you might not be there forever 😉


 
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😀 @ Junky, as per! 😀


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 1:59 pm
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Likes brevity, not beating around the bush and euphemisms

I can give you one if you like....


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 2:00 pm
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[i]I've not come across anyone that'd be down with cycling to a pub either though[/i]

I have. Well ugly.


 
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I have. Well ugly.

Some of us can (just about) manage to cycle down the pub and not be "well ugly", you know!!!

Rachel


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 2:21 pm
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Er, yeah, but that "some of us" ain't on a free dating site eh?! 😀


 
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That must be a shame Dezb if you cant bear to be in a car for more than 2 miles and only ugly girls on pof cycle to the pub

Maybe try to find ones that will walk to a cafe? ; D


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 2:50 pm
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Its a dilemma mate, I can tell you.


 
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Posted : 17/10/2013 3:33 pm
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I've given up on Internet dating and am spending my time and energy on building my mountain bike collection instead. Much more productive! 😉


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 5:46 pm
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Yes, that way you'll never be without a decent ride 😉


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 6:36 pm
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Need any help? 😉


 
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Quite 😉

A new Turner Burner and a week in Moab were my 'stuff dating' treats - looking forward to a winter hard tail, cats and Pinot Grigio next...! Bring on the mad bike / cat / wine lady reputation 🙂


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 6:46 pm
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Wow! Nice. Hey too many girls just like messaging, don't you think? 😆


 
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I've looked at the ads in local papers sometimes. Tell me, is 'country walking' code for something naughty?

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Does that work???

If I were inclined to think that way, I would say that the Brigadoon/gallery thing ticks a few boxes. Some of them very well. The lady in question is very attractive and was not sourced via the internet - we know a little about each other already. Likes art, irony and indulgence.

I have had a relationship with someone I got to know over the net (not a dating site). We were 400 miles apart for more than a year and then together for seven years.
She recently got married to someone else.

I've just remembered that I went on a date to the same gallery a couple of years back (no, not with the same girl). We laid on cushions listening to birdsong. It was a funny start to quite a brilliant night. That girl is getting married on Saturday. If my date goes well, do you think I should get in quick with my proposal?


 
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Not ready for internet dating yet...


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 8:18 pm
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If i find a girl i want to marry will you date her first for Me Kunstler 😉


 
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This thread has made my Thursday night a lot more interesting...

I met my missus on line, 5 years and 2 kids ago!
Wasn't on a dating website though just through a forum I used at the time.

Definitely should start a singlebikersworld dating site though... Some serious hormones flying around in This place!


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 10:45 pm
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Women use internet forums?


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 10:48 pm
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Shocking isnt it


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 10:51 pm
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I generally frequent music forums where they're unheard of.

Hang on..

Women ride bikes?


 
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You will learn women can do many things...

Just not as often as you would like... Or ever once you have kids!


 
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I have had a relationship with someone I got to know over the net (not a dating site). We were 400 miles apart for more than a year and then together for seven years. She recently got married to someone else.

I've just remembered that I went on a date to the same gallery a couple of years back (no, not with the same girl). We laid on cushions listening to birdsong. It was a funny start to quite a brilliant night. That girl is getting married on Saturday.

Jebus, when are you going to learn?? Take them to a nice chilled out bar or a really-good-but-off-the-radar restaurant!

At this rate, you're going to start getting mentioned in father-of-the-bride speeches! Ya daft Kunstler!


 
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If i find a girl i want to marry will you date her first for Me Kunstler

I could offer a unique service. We'd need to sync dating site profiles. You've nothing you don't mind sharing do you?


 
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I've given up on Internet dating and am spending my time and energy on building my mountain bike collection instead. Much more productive!

A good partner doubles your collection though......

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Yes, that way you'll never be without a decent ride

You aren't riding the right [s]person[/s]bike....


 
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Funny, I was flicking through the TV ads last night on the PVR, and saw, in quick succession:
"Real people, real problems"
"Match.com"

It made me think of this thread and all of you... 🙂


 
Posted : 18/10/2013 4:08 pm
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its ok hammyuk I have enough bikes to keep me amused too - the only thing that gets in the way these days is time


 
Posted : 18/10/2013 7:27 pm
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Boring. None of em are online tonight. 🙁

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Boring. None of em are online tonight.
Likes Rugby, Tiger beer and slobbin' in me trackie bottoms.

Dezb's pof profile pic

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Dezb

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😀


 
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*Shudder*


 
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🙂


 
Posted : 18/10/2013 9:01 pm
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Have we had this yet?

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ride of your life!


 
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Good luck,Dez!


 
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Unfortunately, i'm more dated than dating i fear 😉


 
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its ok hammyuk I have enough bikes to keep me amused too - the only thing that gets in the way these days is time

I love the one you have with the seat crossed with a wobble board.....


 
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Ha ha, I've already documented my dating site experiences on here. I occasionally wonder if I should have taken Jake up on his offer...

*Likes bikes, dogs, sherry and wearing comfortable knickers*


 
Posted : 19/10/2013 12:30 pm
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[i]Dezb's pof profile pic[/i]

I think I'm slap bang in the middle of those two! 😀


 
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Nothing wrong with being comfy Karinofnine
So much sexier when a woman is comfortable than when she is squeezed into something fashion says looks good....


 
Posted : 20/10/2013 1:09 pm
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Update!
I was offline 3 days and she's moved on.. I got bored trying with the others. (love is so fickle these days eh?)
Need to find another way to get my hugs. Any suggestions?


 
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Go bi. Double your chances.


 
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I thought I'd try this fishy one. Got messaged by a gorgeous girl 10 years younger. She seems to be interesting enough but unfortunately she appears to be a mentalist as she professes to having a love for stationary (has to be mechanical pencils) and has to wash her hands 4 times BEFORE going to the toilet.

Is it true that the slightly mental ones are always the most interesting in the bedroom? In which case I reckon I'll stick with it. Purely for research purposes you understand...

😆


 
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Go bi. Double your chances

Is that an offer big boy?


 
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Need to find another way to get my hugs. Any suggestions?

um, adopt two Greyhounds?

Lots of cuddles and love*

*not in the biblical sense.

Seriously, I tried PoF. My conclusion was that if you want to get your leg over, that's the plaice* to go, but for a relationship where you talk and do stuff together I think probably a paid-for site would be best.

*plaice - see what I did there? 😆

"hammyuk - Member

Nothing wrong with being comfy Karinofnine
So much sexier when a woman is comfortable than when she is squeezed into something fashion says looks good...."

Amen to that hammyuk, I still have nightmares about the day my thong slipped sideways in Sainsburys... the physical scars healed quickly but the mental scars are a different story


 
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Greyhounds teach you how to give cuddles as well as receive them 😉


 
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I can highly recommend hugging a nice shiny new mountain bike. Works for me, and you don't have to spend weeks messaging them first 😉


 
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Need to find another way to get my hugs. Any suggestions?

Analogue always > digital
Get out there and meet chicks in real life. I'm a great wingman if you need one.


 
Posted : 20/10/2013 3:11 pm
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likes updates, vicarious dating and being nosey


 
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likes anecdotes, photos and surreptitious video


 
Posted : 23/10/2013 10:46 am
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No updates since the last one 🙂
The novelty has worn off and I'll stick to ...

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(my bikes 😉 )


 
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likes lurking on dating threads/sites without saying much..


 
Posted : 23/10/2013 11:45 am
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Likes Yetis, Coves and Handjobs


 
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Suprised you couldn't find a yeti on pof . . . Got curious and had a look - its scary on there


 
Posted : 24/10/2013 11:38 am
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I had a browse of the under 30s (just out of curiosity, like). Crikey, don't they sell themselves cheap?! Nearly every one has a selfie (new word for me!) down the cleavage or head on the pillow!
Then they complain when they get constant offers of sex! (or so I'm told 😀 )


 
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Why not just play the odds game.
Carpet bomb the entire site with promises of romance,snuggles and excitement.
Throw enough turds at a dart board, surely one will stick


 
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I was amazed by the number of fake profiles. You can generally spot them, they look just a bit too attractive... And if you drag the picture into Google images, it's usually all over the web with suggested search terms such as "Cute brunette"!

I do wonder what peoples' motivation for doing this is, maybe some are pranksters trying to play a trick when they find out their mate is on there...


 
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Serious comment

POF is weird and annoying and scary and frustrating

I dabbled with it (and ok Cupid), but was constantly giving them up due to how hard it was for me to get a real life actual date with someone

All the dates I did manage to get went very well, no nutters, a few short term things, no complaints. But I found the whole process of trawling profiles and sending messages soul destroying

Then one day I got a message from someone. She got straight to the point and asked me out.

2 years on, still together. She likes bikes, gigs, beer, she is perfect for me

So it's perhaps worthwhile keeping your profile open, and visiting the site fairly regularly just to keep the profile looking active - even if you don't bother actually messaging anyone yourself

You never know who might get in touch


 
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Got curious and had a look - its scary on there

Checks profile to see who's viewed it......


 
Posted : 24/10/2013 4:01 pm
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Why not just play the odds game.
Carpet bomb the entire site with promises of romance,snuggles and excitement.
Throw enough turds at a dart board, surely one will stick

I don't think you read my last few posts, did you? 😉


 
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Haven't read all the posts yet but this thread is great...but so is POF. Bloody hell who needs to go abroad when you can tour the women of the world from the comfort of your sitting room. It's great ....it's like I'm sowing my seed around the world. As soon as I've got one of these foreign girls to View Me boom that's it. It's as good as pregnant in my book..... Yeah

P.S. currently touring Argentina. Not as good as I thought it'd be.


 
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Found hammyuk and his mate flexing their abs on pof . . . .

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Edit - obviously I could be wrong 😉


 
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POF is indeed a very scary place....


 
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Just loving this thread!

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This could be your lucky day... 😉


 
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Right, I'm off for a gander at Plenty Of Fish


 
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Edit - obviously I could be wrong

Think an exchange of pics happened on another thread 😉


 
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Need advise. I'm obviously at home on a Friday evening. Presumably this doesn't look good on POF if it says "online now" on a Friday night and this would make me appear less of a man of action than I want to appear. So all those ladies that I have viewed and are clearly just refreshing the page to see who has viewed them is it advisable to log in discretely for a moment or two and then log out just to pop my profile to the top of the queue a bit and then remain logged out for the rest of the evening? This is what I'm doing to keep 'em keen. Sort of like imprinting me on their brains. Subliminal advertising. Eventually they gotta just cave in and communicate surely?


 
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