[Closed] online dating experiences

Too many to go in to now (as off on a date shortly) but try POF

Used to use love at Lycos and I'm now married to her. She posts on here and she's not bad on a bike. Not a funny story but it might give you hope.

No real hilarious ones.
Met a couple of nice people and a few proper odd ones before finding Chloe, have now been together over 3 years and got engaged a month ago.
that was on fitness singles, but bear in mind that was 3 or so years ago. But it was easy to use and you could spot the nutters.
Good luck!

guaranteed shag...

I met a woman who thought I was 32 (when I was 25). She was mortified, I just thought it was funny, especially as she realised all her topics of conversation related to the person she thought I was, but had accidently sent the original message to me instead of some other guy.

Met a nice girl, went on a few dates, unfortunately being the run up to christmas we were both busy a lot so we agreed to meet up in the new year, she seemed dead keen but suddenly stopped answering texts etc. nevermind thinks I, send her a last message through website, just to make sure she's not lost her phone or anything, apologise for appearing stalkery or whatever...
then move into the back to back terrace that backs onto her house. I knew she lived round there somewhere!

Met another girl, got married. Thats not funny though.

Female friends have loved it and enjoyed dating lots of men, one or two even succeeded in pinning down a good 'un.
Male friends have said that it is "cheaper than hookers".

HTH.

I've just posted this on another thread:

I did register with Plenty of Fish. Got dozens of offers of sex - "fun" was the euphemism.

Bloke: Would you like to meet up for some fun?
Me: Great! Shall we go to Brands Hatch to see the Touring Car racing?
...
never heard from him again.

but the best one was:

Jake: Hi, my name's Jake, I'm 19. I have a ferret and I can wheely the whole length of my street. Let's meet up and I'll give you a night you won't forget.

It was amusing at first, then very boring - there were no genuine offers of a date/meeting so I cancelled my profile.

Flash, your friends use hookers?

I am disappoint.

Karin it was your post on the other thread that inspired this one!

Al, not since they stopped being allowed to claim it as a legitimate business expense. 😉

Used one site for a bit. Ended up married! Our paths would never have crossed otherwise. Wife told her pal about it when we started out and now her pal is married to the bloke she met.

Someone I work with has lots of "fun" via Plenty of Fish. Don't think he's into the long relationship thing, just likes dipping into something new every couple of weeks.

No idea why, but every girl i remotely like the sound/look of, is pretty much at the opposite end of the country to me?????

I can see Kof9's point, but IME most women just put a few pictures up, and then expect men to chase them, no decent description maybe just a few generic clichés and adjectives (ie claiming to be educated and funny, without actually saying anything intelligent or amusing) before the ubiquitous "be original when contacting me".

Sifting through all the crap, to find the one decent profile that is still actually active is just far too frustrating.

If you are going to try it, just go for the lowest initial outlay first off, don't be tempted by 6 or 12 month deals, its like a gym membership most won't use it after the first week.

Guardian soulmates is the one I find to have most genuine profiles on there.

maxtorque - Member
No idea why, but every girl i remotely like the sound/look of, is pretty much at the opposite end of the country to me?????

that's what you get for living in scotland.... 😉

a mate has been active for the best part of a year since coming to Munich and finishing it with his bird.

"a fun way to meet new people when you are new to somewhere" was his official line. turns out he has been stringing a few birds (with benefits) along for some time now. but why not....?

he even got me on in a double date, which was a laugh till i had to go home to my GF.... 🙂

Met a few nice women, but lots of weird ones.

And the nicest ones are ALWAYS miles away.

Don't forget to do the most local search you can first, the profile of someone you know is often so far off your perception of that person it opens your eyes!

The high spot of 2011 was being best man at my mate's wedding, think they used match.com 🙂

Not sure what it's like now but 5 years ago I used the Guardian Soulmates site and would have definitely recommended it then.However my wife reminds me regularly it was the biggest mistake of her life 😉
Coincidentally a colleague of hers also used it and ended meeting and marrying a guy who lived less than 400 yards away who otherwise she probably would never have met.

i had 6 months of "fun" not all instigated by me, there are some voracious ladies out there, i got bored of it if i'm honest and did some growing up, found a lovely girl online after that and this year will be our 6th together 🙂

so worth it in the long run, but all depends what you want out of it

my work mate also met his now wife via a dating site and they are expecting their first child in March

oh, and www.mysinglefriend.com was useful to me but you need to get someone else to write your profile, which is a nice twist

I've dabbled in a couple but the more, erm, specialised (!) sites like fitness-singles etc tend to have a fairly limited "pool".

I've tried eHarmony loads more people and have been on a fair few first dates but never followed any of them up (or had any offers of "fun"!!). A couple of those first dates have been shockers - just really awkward and nowt in common!!

Only tried once but it ended up as 18 months of sex heaven! Never known anything like it.

But she was nuts.

went on a date with a woman through fitness singles- it was okay, but clearly nothing more so that was that. mostly, my experiences of FS was that it's full of dreamers, liars and women with totally unrealistic expectations.
after almost the whole 12 months of being a member of match.com, i went on a date (the first one) with my now girlfriend, who joined up less than 2 weeks before my account expired. that was almost 3 years ago.
so, mostly a total waste of time but also the best thing i ever did. weird really...

[i]found a lovely girl online after that and this year will be our 6th together [/i]
hmmm..
*is sure roCkEtdOg was in the Stw/swingles photo(from 2010) I posted on the other thread*

Only tried once but it ended up as 18 months of sex heaven! Never known anything like it.

But she was nuts.

Think i met her too - literally begged me for it on the second date & for the time we were seeing each other probably the best (at least sexually) relationship I've had 🙂

[i]literally begged me for it on the second date[/i]

Must've been a different person, I didn't have to wait till the 2nd date.

*is sure roCkEtdOg was in the Stw/swingles photo(from 2010) I posted on the other thread*

true, i was there by special permission of CG who let me ride even though i wasn't single, I didn't proposition you did i? I thought i was on my best behaviour 🙂

I met my fiancee on Zoosk we get married in December

I tried a few agencies and found Fitness Singles to be the best one in my experience. NB This was four years ago now. Met several really nice women on there and finally found someone special, who I've been seeing for the past four years. In fact, so special I proposed to her yesterday, luckily she said yes....

nice one footflaps

I was on Fitness Singles and although not a fitness fanatic, was at least looking for a common thread with cycling or running.

I thought there were rather a lot of people who seem to a bit hyperactive and dare i say obsessive with it all. They should spend their time on forums instead.

I remember one opening line on Match.com along the lines of 'I want to settle down, get married and have children...'

[i]true, i was there by special permission of CG who let me ride even though i wasn't single, I didn't proposition you did i? I thought i was on my best behaviour [/i]

Ah yeah, I remember. I just didn't tell my wife (hey and look where I am now!), but was there just to document the event 🙂

sugardaddie.com. Don't ask. And no, I am not.

Some good entertainment on there, some frightening individuals but actually some are ok, and not what you'd expect at all.

Awaits abuse....!

After deliberating for a while about online dating I gave it a go. First girl I went on a date with after meeting online I have been with since and now engaged, etc.

So I guess it worked for me!

Dipped my toe in and out over the years.

Over-riding impressions of online dating are there are LOTS of boring people out there!

There's also LOTS of girls out there waiting for "the right one" and to be "swept off my feet". 😕 Sorry girls, but it works both ways... There's got to be some mutual attraction, and some effort on your part too!

Anyway... Gave it all up years ago, convinced myself being single was ok... Cue suddenly starting to get interest from girls I'd meet (funny that!). Got with my ex, then when we split up, had a bit of a bad period not knowing what to do with myself. My best mate gave me a bit of a proverbial slap round the face one day, and told me to get back on a dating site, just to at least "have a bit of fun" (euphemism intended) at least to cheer me up.

5 months later I'm still seeing the first one I met, she's still quite a bit of fun, she's just bought a mountain bike, and she seems to really quite like me for some strange reason. She's also the same age as me, has lots of similar values, is prepared to put effort into seeing me (in fact, she puts more effort in than I do to be fair, but then I do have more commitments of my time), and it's all going pretty smoothly indeed...

The key is in the not looking I think!

luckily she said yes....

Hardly surprising, if she has seen the size of your shed.

Hardly surprising, if she has seen the size of your shed.

She helped erect it 😉

NW Alps Jeyer aka Boz - Member

After deliberating for a while about online dating I gave it a go. First girl I went on a date with after meeting online I have been with since and now engaged, etc.

So I guess it worked for me!

and you've not ridden with us since! 🙁

CaptainFlashheart - Member
Female friends have loved it and enjoyed dating lots of men, one or two even succeeded in pinning down a good 'un.
Male friends have said that it is "cheaper than hookers".

LOL thats what our Male friends said even some said they didn't even
have to buy them a drink 😐

For what its worth me personally if I was window shopping i'll
be doing clubs and bars etc.
You just cannot be conversation

She helped erect it

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The key is in the not looking I think!

this is true.
i'd decided that it wasn't worth the effort continuing with dating sites when my gf suddenly appeared on the radar.

online dating experiences

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we got engaged a month ago, she's ace.

You have a girfriend radar xherbivorex ?? Sounds useful, could i borrow it?? 😉

(or does it only range your GF ??)

I braved one internet date via fitness singles. Cycled 100miles to meet her, stayed the night then traveled back.

Perfect day really. Nice long ride, ate, nice long ride, then rode back.

That's my only dating site experience, so I'd say thats a 100% success rate.

I've also met plenty of ladies via here and can say they've all been wonderful experiences too.

Buy in all seriousness, POF, full of desperate people.
Fitness singles, full of people claiming to be fit, just to bag a date with someone whom appears fit. Most claim to be active but aren't, they have a gym membership...

Its probably a good way of playing with numbers and building a tally, but for you Al, you're better off shopping at M&S. You can learn alot about a person by what they shop for.

Xherbivorex...you was on a fitness singles dating site?!

I actually complained to eHarmony and demanded they stop taking my membership payment - all the matches I got seemed to be men who liked watching tv or going to the pub - how the **** did that match my profile of cycling all day, every day???
As mentioned on t'other thread, I did find a lovely man on another site, when I'd almost given up. 😀

i was feeling pretty optimistic the day i signed up, what can i say...

Have a pal on there.. he regularly collects random girls from the railway station and gives them a seeing too before taking them back.. And from the stories my wife tells me of a couple of female teachers at her school, POF is more of a pickup site for sex. One of the teachers currently has FIFTEEN blokes on the go 😯

Thanks sharki, I'll take that as a compliment!

Otherwise, I am not interested in stringing along/being strung along!

Lady Gresley - Member
I actually complained to eHarmony and demanded they stop taking my membership payment - all the matches I got seemed to be men who liked watching tv or going to the pub - how the **** did that match my profile of cycling all day, every day???
As mentioned on t'other thread, I did find a lovely man on another site, when I'd almost given up.

Waves to Lady G,............. 😳

15? Someone has unresolved childhood issues.

Dipped my toe in and out over the years.

Yeah, there are sites out there for all tastes!

[i]Hardly surprising, if she has seen the size of your shed.

She helped erect it
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Lady Gresley - Member
As mentioned on t'other thread, I did find a lovely man on another site, when I'd almost given up. 😀

[i]Someone has unresolved childhood issues.

[/i]

Well, you'd know !. When it comes to [i]issues[/i] I get the impression that you're fully stocked....

😉

Have been thinking about having a dabble back in the online dating world after my wife left me . Did it many years ago and agree its "fun" but there are a few nut jobs out there . Maybe too soon for me though 😕

Solo theres sport sex and theres 'naughty Uncle caused issues-sex'...

I have sport sex, as Im a man 8)

Me? Sexist??

guaranteed shag...

Mind you, may I suggest not having a couple of stiff drinks beforehand to help with the nerves? It really does nothing for one's ...

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[i]I have sport sex as Im a man[/i]
Wait till the Mrs finds out.

Hora.

You're a great sport. So it seems.

😉

CFH - I salute your genius!

(believe it or not, I've never seen the map of Norway used that way before)

Rachel

[i](believe it or not, I've never seen that before)

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And I still can't see it....

CFH.
For goodness sakes man, reduce the size !, its taking forever to load.

Thats what mrshora says

..

..oh wait you dont mean unload

hora - if she's complaining it's taking too long, she's getting bored for some reason - that's not a good thing!!

Rachel

Met me bird on soulmates, had a three year relationship with her and the two kids, split up a while back so no, it doesn't work, forget it....

Rachel, glad that someone got it! 🙂

CFH.
For goodness sakes man, reduce the size !, its taking forever to load.

first date I went on turned out to be the same girl I married in July 2012 - WIN

father in law is a wine importer - this is an upmarket version of 'does your dad own a brewery'

Kayak23 you had a relationship with a woman AND two kids?

[i][b]Met me bird[/b] on soulmates, had a [b]three year[/b] relationship with her and the [b]two kids[/b][/i]

You sir, DO NOT, hang around. Do you !.
😉

[i]That's what they all say[/i]

Tell me about it !. Thank goodness I was ahead of Hora in the Q.

Have found internet dating to be time intensive/results light, but have friends in successful relationships as a result of eHarmony and PoF. Have tried both, and probably would again if I wanted to. Met some nice men through PoF, and some strange men, and some men who just wanted a sh*g. Sounds like men/life, generally 😉

Give it a go! Got little to lose.

edhornby - Member
first date I went on turned out to be the same girl I married in July 2012 - WIN

So long as you met her before July 2012 otherwise touch awkward......

CFH aka Slartibartfast 😆

[i]some men who just wanted a sh*g. Sounds like men/life, generally[/i]

😯 , I guess theres nothing like taring all men with [i]the[/i] one brush then.

What year is this ?.

Thread of the year 😆

Used to be a paid up member on Plenty More Fish & got fed up of receiving messages off women whom i'd absolutely nothing in common with, & it didn't take long to work out that it's the sites admins who are sending profiles out not the women themselves. So didn't renew my subscription, & edited my profile to say at the last paragraph that i'm no longer a member of the site, so can't read or reply to messages. But guess what, I still get my e-mail inbox full of ' so & so has sent you a private message'. Bollox !

However, the other week I had a e-mail off PMF which said 'V*** aged 45 from B***** has added a new photo, & she lives only 1 mile from you!' So I thought I'd log in & have a look seeing as she lives local, I may have seen her around.

Anyways, when I logged in I let out a genuine LOL, as the woman in question was an old friend of my ex-wife & me. 'Aged 45'....nah, 52 more like! ( & she's a right dirty slut as well 8) )

Solo - Member

The entire quote if you don't mind!

Met some nice men through PoF, and some strange men, and some men who just wanted a sh*g. Sounds like men/life, generally

Says something very different to what you quoted. Life is made up of all sorts of people with all sorts of motives, just like people on internet dating sites. *Sigh* people are so easily offended round here 😉

flippinheckler - Member
Thread of the year

Steady on!

Sick to the back teeth of the sites now to be honest. Taking an indefinite break. The large majority of the woman on these sites are ducking boring, and the ones that aren't live in Belgium. It would be great to meet an interesting and attractive woman in the 'real' world but they all have husbands or only like cats.....
I'm not bitter though... 🙄

I had a profile on fitness singles. Actually met a nice lady and we went on a great ride around the dark peaks. It became quickly apparent over lunch that we really had very different goals in life, and she seemed very uninterested in anything I said.

She did rather kindly send me an in-depth message the next day detailing everything I had said that she disagreed with and slating all my life choices to date. Which was nice. She did, however, say I had a very nice smile, which was the only positive!

I sent a message back thanking her, haven't logged in since.

Elzorillo would the teacher be Runcorn based?

After my partner of 20 years left, i gave it 12 months being single then dipped my toe.

POF was an utter nightmare. If you are serious about finding a future partner then beware.

I put a profile up on Guardian Soulmates and found the girl of my dreams. Been seeing her for nearly 12 months now and have never been happier. plus she lives in Snowdonia.... its all good.

Some people scoff at online dating, but to be honest, tell me a better way to meet someone. You can email, chat txt to find out if you have anything in common before actually meeting.

All I will advise is be totally honest. Never start a relationship on a lie. treat people as you would wish to be treated yourself.

Happy hunting

I joined a free one for the hell of it, ended up talking to about a dozen people who were all of interest to me, met two after about a week, chose one and they are amazing, anyone who has met me knows I can talk, a lot, but this girl can actually talk more, AND be more factual AND interesting. Unreal.

Word of warning, you'll end up with an inbox from dozens of people who are not even remotely viable, best course of action is to just put on ignore. Also remove your profile after you find someone and burn your email address otherwise you'll never hear the end of it.