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Bit of background 1st:
S-I-L isn't really any good. She had her 1st daughter @ 15 years old and expected everyone else to do the child care. She doesn't like working and does 15 ish hours a week so it doesn't impact her benefits. All of her boyfriends have been total losers.
Daughters dad is a useless dad, doesn't want to know the kids.
Her list of boyfriends include:
Drug dealer
Compulsive liar
Psychopath
Paranoid schizophrenic/drug dealer who has never worked due to his 'illness'.
She's one of those people who has to be centre of attention.
When we were getting married she became anorexic
When we had our little girl she had to get a dog as she couldn't cope with us having a baby and her not having one (a dog was better than getting pregnant which was her other plan)
My OH works really hard and has been driving an old 206 around for ages. We decided last week that it would be a good idea to change her car so have opted for a Ford Fiesta. Nice car, reliable, cheap to run etc etc. Her ideal car would've been an Audi A1.
S-I-L has had shit car after shit car and has sponged money to keep them maintained etc. She has to have a boy racer car to 'look good'.
We suggested that she do something similar to my wife and get a Fiesta on PCP.
Turns out she's been to the Audi garage today and is getting an A1, picking it up on the same day as my wife gets hers...
Why?? Is ther any logic to this behaviour??
AAArrrGGHHH..
Rant over.....
works 15 hours a week?
Buying a new audi?
Doesn't add up to me, but what do I know?
Presumably it will be repossessed at some point.
You can't control what other people do, only do as much as you can to make sure that you and your missus are happy.
Don't rise to it, think about the positives in your own lives instead.
🙂
My sister-in-law makes my blood boil...
with lustAdmit it you fancy her 😉
people can have what they want ..... but money cant buy happy.
do you think shes happy ?
works 15 hours a week?
Her current BF gets £1500/month tax free in benefits + CT/rent paid. He's been living with her for about 6 months whilst using his flat to grow weed. £10K profit (apparently).
He makes my blood boil as well...
Hmmmm, I need a new car. looks like it might have to be an Audi A1 if they are that cheap.
Admit it you fancy her
After some of the scags she's been with I wouldn't go near her with 'watsontony's
grass up the boyfriend.
The best revenge is living well. Enjoy your life.
Dob the boyfriend in to the rozzers and her to the DSS.
grass up the boyfriend
Did think of that but it was all done and dusted by the time I found out.
The best revenge is living well. Enjoy your life.
That's the plan 🙂
whilst using his flat to grow weed
https://secure.crimestoppers-uk.org/ams.form.anonymous.asp
or 0800 555 111
grass up the boyfriend.
And pick up a low milage recently reposessed A1 from the auctions 😛
works 15 hours a week?Buying a new audi?
Doesn't add up to me, but what do I know?
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@binners: that made me LOL 😀
which one are you binners?
It does not matter what they buy they will still be the same people.
Just chill, relax in the knowledge you are doing the right thing for yourself’ s financially, & at it will all work out yet again in your favour.
When the Audi is repossessed & the next shitty boyfriend gets caught, just try not to be smug. 🙂
He's been living with her for about 6 months whilst using his flat to grow weed. £10K profit (apparently).
Therein lies many of the problems with society. You know he's doing something illegal, whilst also working the benefits system to the max, and yet you've done nothing about it.
WOW. My Sis in Law is ace, highly educated, funny and sensitive. I've said before that I class her as ideal GF material for a lucky bloke.
Paranoid schizophrenic/drug dealer who has never worked due to his 'illness'.
Which one was the Paranoid Schizophrenic and which one was the dealer?
Just ignore her. My S-I-L boils my piss too. So I avoid her as much as possible. Difficult I know.
I used to feel like you about members of my family who appeared to be getting a better deal than me but I got over it. People are different and as long as you're happy with how your own life is panning out then just ignore the people who are winding you up so much , look at the positives in your own life.
Myself I have a lovely wife who adores me and 2 amazing sons the cup oards are full of food the bills are paid and occasionally I have a few quid to spend on my bikes , every time I start to feel down/pissed off I just think of them and everything's fine in my world.
Not much you can do - there's clearly attention issues going on here, but you can't alter her behaviour, you can only change how you react to her.
FWIW, if her boyfriend has an illicit income then shopping him is almost a moral imperative.
grass up the boyfriend.
Hold on now. Is the weed any good? Could you come to an arrangement that might make you more relaxed about the situation...
...and then grass him up?
Why does it bother you? In all honesty you could find millions of people whos moral compass and lifestyle are not in line with yours, why do you care? If your good lady is happy and you are happy what difference does it make? If someone is committing fraud report it if you so wish but bear in mind that those at the top defraud considerably more than those at the bottom yet aren't so demonised.
I can't help thinking you could simply ignore it, the best way to treat attention seekers is not give them attention.
As for the money from weed - really? He sells a bit of weed FFS (approx 80 ounces) so not loads, he's not out robbing people again why do you care?
People are like this the world over
When we moved into our house the neighbours over the road had to copy everything we did - keeping up with the Joneses I imagine
We like hiking - they get some boots and rucksacks and go round the block
We like biking - they buy a couple of BSOs and a bike rack currently languishing in the garage
I have a motorbike - he can't ride
Great success
Her current BF gets £1500/month tax free in benefits + CT/rent paid. He's been living with her for about 6 months whilst using his flat to grow weed. £10K profit (apparently).
Regardless of whether it's still there, speak to the police they'll investigate where the money came from (maybe) If she bought the car (or part paid) using cash the police can and will ask where the money came from.
Also how the hell does he get 1500 in benefits + Housing that sounds completely unbelieveable unless he is disabled.
You know he's doing something illegal, whilst also working the benefits system to the max, and yet you've done nothing about it
He's not growing it now but if he does I will..He's working the system as his doctor keep signing him off.
Because she happily rubs everyone's face in it at any possible opportunity. I do try my best to avoid/ignore when I can but that's the problem with (married into) family I guessWhy does it bother you?
He sells a [s]bit[/s] shit load of weed FFS (approx 80 ounces) so [s]not[/s] yes, loads
FTFY
Her current BF gets £1500/month tax free in benefits + CT/rent paid.
well I will be kind and assume a 5 week month so that is £300 net so I am led to the conclusion that his 5 children live with him [ or 3 and a half and he gets severe LDA/ESA]
Which is it ?
Patiently awaits facts
Look they/he may be "low lifes" but there is no way he gets this on benefits
If he rubs your face in it then stop speaking to him and avoid the SIL too. Be elsewhere when you SIL visits and tell her he is not welcome.
If I don't like people I don't have them over, simple really. Life is way to short to spend with people you don't like.
why does it matter to you? 🙄
Also how the hell does he get 1500 in benefits + Housing that sounds completely unbelieveable unless he is disabled.
Mentally disabled due to paranoid schizophrenia (apparently). The amount he gets is what he told me so may be complete BS
Is anyone surprised that hora has a thing for his sister in law? 😀
Insecurity and constant feeling she isn't as good as her sister is leading her to try and be "better" than her all the time. Sadly manifesting itself in some undesirable ways?
Just a thought like... 😕
It is complete BS his maximum would be £150 ish per week* - seems reasonable to assume he would be full of shit though
He would also be on medication for it and treatment as he would need to be a never "cured" case. He may have fooled his doctor for all we know
* I doubt he gets that much tbh
seems reasonable to assume he would be full of shit though
I think that would be an understatement..(I don't know how the benefits system works so took his word for it TBH)
Live your life the right way, and don't worry about anyone else. She may be driving around in an A1, strapped up to the eyeballs with HP, but she'll still be a ****. You and your OH won't be.
Its silly to measure your happiness and success on car you drive.
You had suggested SIL to get PCP to get same fiesta? Why? Knowing she sponges about, she hardly needs any car.
Seems both families trying to better out each other.
Its silly to measure your happiness and success on car you drive
We don't.
You had suggested SIL to get PCP to get same fiesta? Why? Knowing she sponges about, she hardly needs any car.Seems both families trying to better out each other.
She sponges because her POS cars always need repairs. By suggesting a reliable, cheap car (She pays £160/month insurance somehow) we thought it would save her some money and give her a reliable car.
The other comment seems be a troll if you ask me...
Just ignore her. My S-I-L boils my piss too. So I avoid her as much as possible. Difficult I know.
This works for me.
Do you want me to send Hora over with the Rohypnol?
After some of the scags she's been with I wouldn't go near her with 'watsontony's
Funniest thing ave heard today 😆
[i]If your good lady is happy and you are happy what difference does it make[/i]
I don't think she is, mainly because she couldn't afford an Audi a1 but the sister could.
I feel for you, life can be really tough sometimes.
Another thing to think about is the word afford. It used to mean I have sufficent spare cash to make a purchase now it means I have enough cash to service a debt, that shift in perception is the best selling job the banks ever pulled.
I don't think she is, mainly because she couldn't afford an Audi a1 but the sister could.
Crazy thing is that my OH could afford the A1 but chose to be sensible. SIL, on the other hand, can't afford it yet still manages to get credit.
I'm sure it will come back to bite her on the arse but whatever shit she falls into she somehow manages to come out smelling of roses (due to sympathetic grand parents and the 'I need money to buy the kids clothes and food' phrase)
Stevie do you really want to low yourself to that level and compete against SIL? My wife's brother is kind of mirror story to yours. He was very grande at time ... but we never even tried to compete against in order to be appreciated by family circles.
Now they're in financial ruins but honestly I dont find that pleasant at all. Never mind being better. Once they're low they will turn on you.
You will never win family ranks game. And if you do, don't boast about it. Just wish them well, why make enemies in your family?
OP - just ignore them and get on with your life...so long as you and the missus are happy then that's all that matters...
somehow i manage to get on with with my wife's sisters as they are pretty nice...only one gets on my nerves (didnt work and husband did minimal hours and they were milking the system...seemed to have a more disposable income than me and my wife...but now she has a job and he is working full time...so i cant complain now)...
but on my side of the family out of my 4 brothers, it seems 3 of them have married witches...one is a meddling cow, one is a nutjob and the other is a devious, manipulative stirrer...between the 3 of them they have have destroyed my family with their constant fighting...to the point that i've washed my hands off them and their husbands....the other brothers wife seems nice enough and hasnt got involved in any of the family issues...but thats cos she lives in singapore...
you can choose your friends but cant choose your family...
I'd quite happily Toe-Punt my SIL in the Foo-foo.
She even snubbed me at our wedding.
Meh. 😈
My sister-in-law is considerably-richer-than-yow. Lives in a seven figure property, drives a Range Rover Sport, wears the labels, covered in bling.
Her sister is much better looking though 👿
It wont be properly insured either will it? A new car for a newish driver , has to be alot of cash.
you can have the last laugh when she stuffs it into the back of someone and writes it off.
WOW. My Sis in Law is ace, highly educated, funny and sensitive. I've said before that I class her as ideal GF material for a [s]lucky bloke[/s] git, not that I'd be jealous. Oh no. Bastard. Did I mention she's got great t!ts too? *sob*
FTFY Hora. 😉
This thread is useless without pics of Hora's S-I-L.
Now!
So you can get credit for a car based on income from benefits now? Or they lied as to source of income...
hora - Member
WOW. My Sis in Law is ace, highly educated, funny and sensitive. I've said before that I class her as ideal GF material for a lucky bloke.
Have you shagged her yet? Either way we need pictures.
Get on with your life, ignore theirs.
I'd just go down the route of feeling sorry for her to be honest. If the only guys she can attract are druggies and psychos, she can't support herself financially and has to sponge off others, it's a sorry state of affairs indeed.
How di she know you wanted an A1 - how did she know about the credit deall? You need to kee things a bit more low key and stop facilitating. I'd start by breaking the landline phone.
Still curious as to how people with seemingly no money afford cars. I am in the market for a new car.
littlemisspanda - Member
I'd just go down the route of feeling sorry for her to be honest. If the only guys she can attract are druggies and psychos, she can't support herself financially and has to sponge off others, it's a sorry state of affairs indeed.
nail on head
but also, how can you waste energy hating someone else for the way they live their life..!!?
why bring that negativity into your own..?
what's missing from your life that drives you to dwell on hers..?
I think I feel a bit sorry for you too 🙁
My BiL plays these games. He was a mate before we married sisters so it's a bit weird really. Likes to tell me how much he earns and how he wants to buy another property to rent out, then pleads poverty when I ask if he wants to do something. I got a quite nice new company car recently, whilst the rest of the family had a look he wouldn't come near it or comment on it (not that I'm bothered, just found it odd as he likes cars). He does hang around with the SiLs rich uni friends who are loaded and I think it makes him feel inadequate/like he has to compete.
My SIL is also a complete nightmare..
She's currently living in a shed/outbuilding in my in-laws garden with her 3 kids and illegal immigrant Nigerian boyfriend...
She's currently being investigated for Child tax credit fraud by HMRC so I'm hoping she'll go to jail soon, and the illegal alien will be packed off back to Lagos.
she can't support herself financially
because she doesn't want to and the system supports her if she only does 15 hrs a week + she gets 'bailed out' by parents/grandparents
but also, how can you waste energy hating someone else for the way they live their life..!!?
why bring that negativity into your own..?
what's missing from your life that drives you to dwell on hers..?I think I feel a bit sorry for you too
I don't waste energy hating her, just needed to get it off my chest. I'm much happier today and have moved on. I was just properly angered yesterday.
Nothing missing Yunki, all is good and I don't dwell on her. She can just get on with it AFAIC.
Why didnt you get an Audi A1 out of interest?
Why care what the loser does? ignore her...
Why didnt you get an Audi A1 out of interest?
Practical/sensible option....
Audi would hold its value better though
Say yes to life,
Get the Audi.
Audi will be a motability thingy supplied to to her boyfriend so he can get around to do his dealing. This government is putting its weight behind small business. Who gives a toss, she'll nosedive in to her next crisis soon and the Audi will be a stinking tip in a matter of weeks. I've got interesting outlaws too?