Mate or pal?

I wuz jest thinkun , iz zact greetin wuz ‘owree pard’?

Typing like this is doing a proper job of messing with predictive text!

You know that thread where we said what irritated us? Being called any of those by some one I don't know. (As the OP suggested) I am not your mate, bud or what ever! Therefore it is simple "hello" or "excuse me" etc.
Possibly "Sir" to an older gentleman, especially If I wanted to get on his good side or maybe "young man" if I was being stern to a nipper such as most of you lot.

Mon or monner.

Back in the 80s/90s Northwest rock climbing scene it was "Youth".

Guv'nor or Gavnaah if darn sarf

I struggle to use 'mate' with people. Always feel like it's got passive aggressive connotations with it. But with so many people using it I feel like I should use it. Then when I do, I don't think it's convincing. So generally don't. Which results in my exploring of alternatives to addressing people in a casual way. Some people think I'm weird!

Quite alright with either mate or pal tbh unless it’s from a delivery driver then I think it’s rather familiar.

Where i grew up 70s and 80s ‘mush’ was quite normal , I only really use that to my brother now though

Well usualy I find Pal a bit in your face cocky, but today I opened the door in a multi story car park for a chap with a load of shopping in his hands and he said "cheers pal" in a really friendly way.

So I think context has the greatest indicator of the greeting.

There's a saying in aus that you always call a mate "c..t" and you always call a c..t "mate". I like that.

😄

Mate or bro.....but I use chum

I don't think there is a problem with how greetings etc are made, it's how they are received.
I have an irrational hatred of being called mate by people I don't know - but I use it all the time.
Hate bud or buddy more, yet find myself closing off conversations with it.

All very odd.

Guv’nor or Gavnaah if darn sarf

I'd use "guv" naturally now and then, but never the longer versions. Feels a bit too mockney.

Anyone for a "chief"? Sometimes that fits the bill, but can be a bit passive-aggressive.

I'd use 'chief' occasionally.

I'm way too far North for "guv".

There’s a saying in aus that you always call a mate “c..t” and you always call a c..t “mate”. I like that.

This.

Basically any use of mate, bud, pal etc from someone you don't know is totally wrong

‘owree pard’?

ritedon meht, yew?

Dudestein or Dollface.

Obvs.

Basically any use of mate, bud, pal etc from someone you don’t know is totally wrong

Really mate? Really?

I’m a Mate.
When I lived in Leeds it was Love from the older blokes.
Youth in Nottingham.
A friend in Tassie would actually say Cobber. Another in Adelaide that says Bruz.
I remember Pal being used by an aggressive second hand car salesman when I told him I didn’t need finance!

Definitely use mate to female friends.

Is that not bin lid ➡ kid?

Not according to my very scouse mates. But i can see that may be how others see it.

I rest my case.

The more formal “mi duck” if not previously introduced.

Yep and alrate yoof.

Never mate.

And proper friendly - daft ****.

To my good friend or someone close - Bro or sis.

To my colleagues - Just call them by their name or mate, while in London always mate.

To stranger - Hello my good man/woman or friend.

I never use pal, dude (duck), love or Pat.

When I lived in Leeds it was Love from the older blokes.

I have a coworker in Sheffield who calls everyone, male and female alike, "love." I'm comfortable with my sexuality but I do find that slightly wrong-footing.

ritedon meht, yew?

Wasson? I’s aven a bewt, ent pizendawn fer wunce 😀

Basically any use of mate, bud, pal etc from someone you don’t know is totally wrong

Jesus don't come to scotland. I use cheers pal all the time.

I have a coworker in Sheffield who calls everyone, male and female alike, “love.”

When my German Mum met my Yorkshire Dad she thought he was very romantic. Her illusions were shattered when a bus conductor in Donny called her "Love".

"Flower" used to be popular around that neck of the woods too.

Hate both and don’t use them. If you don’t know someone why would you call them mate and if you do why would you not use their name. Makes you sound like a muppet.

This has made me remember being called butty bach by my first, very Welsh, boss as he imparted yet another pearl of wisdom. He would say "See butty bach....".

I very rarely use anything. I use their name if I know it, otherwise it's usually obvious who I'm speaking to. Probably use Sir (or Madam?) if I needed to attract the attention of a stranger.

Hate both and don’t use them. If you don’t know someone why would you call them mate and if you do why would you not use their name. Makes you sound like a muppet.

I get the impression you don't do people very well.

Where I used to live near Bradford you got quite a mix.

It wasn't uncommon to hear "love" or "cock" (used when talking to a bloke); and in Bradford itself I'd often get called buddy, pal, chief, or boss.

When we moved to where we live now, North Manchester, I strode into PC World and greeted the guy behind the desk as either pal or bud (I forget which) and it did not go down well at all. I might as well have blown my nose on his tie.

I now tend to stick to "mate" which seems generally safe and acceptable in most areas! 🙂

My brother in law, hailing from Wales, often uses "mush" which I've not heard from anyone else.

Mate is the safe option. I always associate 'pal' with small, aggressive Scotch men, but I think it's age dependant. My Grandad (Wirral) used pal in a nice sense all the time, and I'm very conscious of the history attached to the pals battalions in WWI.

Overall, though, I prefer playing 'c£+t or w@nk£r.'

I get the impression you don’t do people very well

Some people yes, muppets no.

Yer wasson ? How be on me son ?Wurzel central 😁
I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks pal sounds a bit aggressive

Yer wasson ? How be on me son ?Wurzel central 😁

Pally widden, wuzza?

Edit : Gummidge was from up country anyway!

Wurzel central equals Somerset the mighty Adge Cutler 👊

Ah, I see, got the wrong wurzel. Got the up country bit right though, Somerset is as good as the North, well more likely the Midlands from Kernow.

When I lived in Leeds it was Love from the older blokes.

I have a coworker in Sheffield who calls everyone, male and female alike, “love.” I’m comfortable with my sexuality but I do find that slightly wrong-footing.

It was 'my lover' (moy luv'rr) when I was a student in Bristol, late 80s, from men and women. Do they still use that?