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Have to keep stealth, I see other people making on purpose spelling mistakes so things can’t be traced.
I need a venue in Reading where I can just go and talk to someone.
Don’t want to go through doctor as it’s on my file.
Just need a bit of help coping with day to day and life, I’ve realised just now I actually need someone to talk to sone one.
The only thing I can offer is the The Samaritans pointed me in the right direction at a dark time.
Best of luck mate.
My first thought.
https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/contact-us
There are a list of links on Mind.
See your GP there is no shame in suffering from mental health.
Yeah there is with my Mrs.
She’s had enough shit to deal with, I can’t burden here with my crap.
Yeah. Been catching the train to work recently and always see those Samaritans signs, always make me chuckle; like I’d call anyone on the side of a bridge, I might fall over
What's ailing you friend?
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See your GP there is no shame in suffering from mental health.
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Yeah there is with my Mrs.
But she wouldn't know you'd been unless you said you had, just tell her you're going wherever. Or you are going to the GP if it's obvious but to have your prostate checked or something, what you say in there stays in there
Arrrrrgggghh don’t wat to click that
I live very happy, to my kids and other family members. My Mrs knows I’m not happy and no matter what I do I just can’t get out of it.
I really could do with someone with in Reading that likes bikes and plays guitar. Hopefully likes tea, I’m pretty desperate. My mates all have kids and lives, we don’t skate or bike or climb in the evenings anymore. All I do is work and drink.
I live just up the road near Didcot. Fancy a ride at Swinley or coming over and get soggy on the Ridgeway or just start meet up for a cup of tea somewhere. Drop me a PM.
John
I just sent you a PM, Mark. Please don’t hesitate to get in touch with me if you want any more info.
Headspace is a great app for meditation, if you think that will help. It's got some free guided meditation, but the full app has extra bits a pieces. Even stuff for training and biking. I can only second what everyone else has said about calling the Samaritans or some other service like that. Or pay cash for private counseling. I started counseling this year and it did me the world of good.
I'd also encourage you to take up the offers of tea and a biscuit/local pootle with someone from here. That is on top of finding a professional to talk to. No shame in needing help.
This is very little help, but if you pass by Leeds, let me know... I'm happy to chat about this sort of stuff and have some degree of insight
Your GP record belongs to you, and no one else has the right or opportunity to see it. Please consider your GP in this, they can be invaluable. All the best.
i have PM you....
Samaritans are not just able to help by phone...it is possible to go to a center and physically talk to one of their team face to face.... It's free, absolutely confidential and they have all the time you need....
Sorry for adding a link that you would rather not use on your own phone/Pc, but I do think it’s a great resource.
How about popping along to an Internet cafe and having a look there. Reading has one that looks quite good; https://www.quantumwebcafe.co.uk/
There are also riding clubs in Reading that do on and off road roads and seem to have a regular calendar going on. Maybe not as good as chatting to someone, but both could help.
And picking up in the comment above, the Samaritans have a drop in centre in Reading; 59a Cholmeley Road
Knowing someone who has used their service and then became a volunteer they would be more than happy to talk/listen to you and are not just for people on the edge.
Hi Mark
Please do drop into your GP. As said above, anything with your GP is confidential. I have some similar issues and recently visited my GP. I'm very glad I did, it was a very positive experience and she really did get it. Mental health awareness is everywhere now and GPs take it very seriously.
Samaritans can help too
I'm often at Swineley and happy to share a few hours on the trails
Al
Thank you all for your replies.
I’m in awe of how much of a social network we have here on this forum.
I only get to look at this at night so can’t reply direct at the mo.
But thankyou.
I’m probably not as bad as I made out but when I’m low I’m VERY low, when high I’m VERY high! I can’t control it.
I will be intouch with the people that are near me who have suggested riding.
Today was a good day
Kind Regards
Mark
Cheers mate, will take you up on that.
Cheers, Leeds is a place I want to ride, if I ever get up there I’ll give you a nod.
I can’t do face to face, as it’s embarrassing.I can’t do telephone calls as I stutter when talking. I didn’t want to say that was my issue but if I have to talk to someone on the phone I just have a thing where I can’t talk.
Texting is ok.
I’ll just go to the church.
You guys in here are all tech so will look at my history on here so there is no hiding.
Hi Mark,
I’m not a professional, but if you need someone to talk to when you are low - rather than counselling. I would be happy to chat to you via text.
I have been through some very dark periods and I would be happy to share my perspective. PM me if you feel this would be helpful.
Jay
Hi Mark,
Pretty much the same as Jay above. Ive had plenty of experience of depression and if you need to vent or talk please just PM me and I’ll send you my phone number. That way you can text whenever suits.
I'm sod all use to you for mental health stuff, but i'm just over past Pangbourne and me and my mate ride nice and gently and have a beer or two 🙂 You know where i am.
Whatever method you use, please speak to someone. I've had problems this year and found my doctor to be really good at listening, non-judgemental and totally confidential. My wife and kids use the same doctors and whislt my wife knows all about what's going on with me (and my doctor knows that), she's never mentioned anything to her.
On the flip side, I've come home from work early today as I received the call that my sister's boyfriend committed suicide last night. Please don't anywhere close to being like that, make sure you talk to someone, anyone, even if it's one of us on here
Thanks mate
Cheers Weeksy.
That sounds like a plan
Jesus swdan,
How to PM? haha!
Thankyou for all your helpful advice in on this and (if you’ve read up on me) all amazing thoughts and advice on other things.
The one thing this forum gives me is a place to vent and ask for advice; which in the most just keeps coming.
I will work out how to pm!
Just worked it out, been a long day!
It sounds like manic depression to me.I,m a little bit that way and would strongly recommend you see a doctor.Neil
Mark, not ignoring you. My oppo has gone away for Xmas. But me and my lad are heading to Swinley on 27th if you wanna ride. We can pick you up at yours if needed
She’s had enough shit to deal with, I can’t burden here with my crap.
Dude, no. Talk to your wife.
You share your problems and support each other, yes?
Trust me, it's not selfish, it's investing. If you fall over, you're of no help to her.
Call into a Samaritans centre..done it a few times and really helped when desperate for relief from mental torment.Avoiding the Doc is a bad idea..they're waiting to help. Things feel better when you're sharing your troubles,alone is hard and often ineffective ..hence the drink which provides temporary relief but is an awful way to self medicate.Did it for 30 yes myself and it nearly killed me.Good luck ..you can do it.
^^ I did that once too. Was really very helpful. I would recommend it.
Hi Weeksy
We are a Swinley today but not sure what time.
Have a great ride.