[Closed] Lost my son today

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, a big hug mate I cant imagine what you and your partner are going through right now but just know I'm thinking of you all.

Gosh! What dreadful news.

I am sending you a big man hug right now.

i am now home and Emily needs to have a blood test to see how many white blood cells or something..

if ok i would like to post a pic as i just need people to see how beautiful it was to us

We had a scare with our youngest last year that needed an emergency operation and a couple of weeks in hospital but I can't even begin to imagine what it must be like for you and your family. I can only say that I am truly sorry and offer my most heartfelt condolences.

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By all means, please post some pictures.

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Emily is waving her hands about (drama queen) George is Mr cool

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bruders, I don't know what to say other than how awful it must be. virtual hugs and sympathy from me.

I read your post first thing this morning & really didn't know what to write

I've been thinking about you & your family all day and still have nothing useful but just wanted to say how gutted I am for you & hope you can draw strength from the love of your family ..

I've been thinking about you & your family all day

Yup, here too. Lovely pictures.

Bruders so sorry for you loss. I cannot really offer anything of wisdom or advice save to say I hope you find the support and strength you need in the coming weeks and

So, so sorry for your loss.

I've just had my first child (11wks) and I lost my younger brother in a car accident on Christmas Day just gone. I was sad to lose my brother, but I was able to see how (now being a parent myself) how loosing a child is something no parent should have to endure. Again, so sorry, and my thoughts are with you. Take comfort in your loved ones and take care of yourself as well as them.

So sorry to hear this. I'm afraid I can't think of anything else to say about your loss.

Can't even begin to understand what you must be going through

Like most people on hear we're thinking of you so please don't feel that you can't open up

Loads of hugs to you all from the ninkynonk clan

Nothing more I can add Bruders than what everyone else has said: I'm so, so sorry for you loss pal, and were it in my power I'd move heaven and earth to get him back to you.

My deepest sympathies-

cb

cant get this out of my head at all. what a beautiful family. you sound so brave. as said above, take care of your family and yourself. just had a little cry at your pics. gonna give my little boy an extra big hug when i get home.

My deepest sympathies sounds like something off a hallmark card until you know my wife showed me this thread at 10 am and I have had no idea of how to express how sorry we are for your loss , until I thought of that cleche .

That's a deep dark place you're in now. As said above don't be too strong, you'll break. Let work know what's going on ASAP if you ask the forces have a good support network for this sort of stuff.
My no 1 fear when the little sandwiches were young, you have my heartfelt sympathy. Have a hug from me too,

Mike

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so sad. all the best.

as other have said, although I don't know you I feel devastated for you

a tragic loss, stay strong and support each other

Don't know what to say that I think could help here but pass my sympathies to you and your family and friends. This must be incredibly painful for everyone.
No kids of my own but would be in bits if I lost any of my godsons or nephews.
From that perspective I suspect friends and family will want to be there for you, to help you through the pain.
And as others have said, sharing the grief and accepting the help available rather than trying to carry it all yourself would seem to be a healthy way forward. Full credit for having the courage to post on here.
Best wishes

So so sorry to hear this,thoughts going out to to you. Have two kids myself, hug your family tightly.

Not a lot I can add, as a father of two I can only begin to imagine the pain. Very sorry to hear the news.

He's beautiful bruders. 🙁

So sorry Bruders, I feel utterly useless because all I can offer is words. If posting on here can help in anyway then i hope it can help. no one should have to experience what you are going through - supporting (and being supported by) your family is about as much as you can do.

I'm so very sorry.

Sad news, I really don't know what to say

take care....

Feeling for you and your family. Really sad news mate. Any parents worst fear.

Give your family a hug, be strong for them but don't bottle up the grief, let it out mate.

Take care and don't blame anyone for this tragedy as sad as it is.

I can't imagine what you and your family are going through at the moment but take strength from each other. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

So sad to rad your post mate. I'm sure you did everything. You can't blame yourself

Thoughts are with you.

Beautiful pictures bruders. Whatever happens after now your baby boy has been wanted, born and loved. No matter how short his life has been, he has lived and been loved beyond measure I am sure. In your heart he will always have life and because he has existed he has changed the world for the better by being there for you all to love.

J

Thoughts are with you and your family fella....strength, courage and peace vibes.

Really feel for you. Just unimaginable.

Do whatever you need to do to get yourself into some sort of shape, then try your best for everyone else.

There really is very little concrete advice anyone could give other than hang in there and use whatever crumbs of good you can find in anything to ease you through each day.

Thinking of you and your family.

****, that's harsh. Sympathy for your loss x

I couldnt bear to read past the first few posts, just too close to home...

My deepest sympathies for you and your family.

So sorry for you and your family, stay strong

Got as far as page two before I went and hugged my two boys with a tear in my eye. Words can't describe my sadness for you and I can't think of any words that might help that haven't been said already.

James.

Today was strange I eneded up waking hoping this was all a bad dream. Unfortunately this is not the case.

I had a good cry after reading your beautiful replys it honestly helps really strange feeling as I dont know any of you (maybe thats why)

Im never ever going to forget George and each and everyone of your kind words I know im repeating myself but it really does help..

Thank you so so much

Im sure I will see you on a trail oneday

Ride safe. Xxxx

we are here mate. This is the best part of the forum.

Condolences, I don't think I've sat in front of a screen crying since my Gran died while I was away in the Alps. The twins are beautiful. As a fairly recent father to a 6 month old, I cannot even begin to understand. All I know is that sometimes religion offers relief, an understanding that there is something for our loved ones who have passed.

I had many dreams like that after a good friend died when we were at school, i would wake up thinking I'd just been for a ride, or to some gig or other, only for it to hit home, I'd feel utterly desolate then. It eases let the memories be the good ones.

bruders - your kids are amazing. i went on my ride today and spent most of it thinking about your posts and liitle hood who is 5 months old (although he look 5 years old as he is MASSIVE!)
again, thoughts are with you and please please please dont bottle it up, sounds hard but its good to talk.
chin up

Bruders, I'm just posting to show you and your family that there is another young family standing here alongside you in your pain and grief. Words don't suffice, but I pray you get a sense of peace that goes beyond our physical/mental understanding to help you all through this. As others have said time will heal your heart but it takes time.......

Big love to you and your family

Thanks for posting the pictures.

There is nothing I can add and I cannot even begin to express how sorry I am for you. My email is in my profile if you want to talk to a complete stranger about anything - Serious or bike talk. If you're anywhere near Staffordshire area and fancy a drink / Chat / Ride with a complete stranger you know where my email is. Keep close to your family they need you too.

bruders338 - Member

Today was strange I eneded up waking hoping this was all a bad dream. Unfortunately this is not the case.

I had a good cry after reading your beautiful replys it honestly helps really strange feeling as I dont know any of you (maybe thats why)

Im never ever going to forget George and each and everyone of your kind words I know im repeating myself but it really does help..

Thank you so so much

Im sure I will see you on a trail oneday

Ride safe. Xxxx

Please keep posting as I honestly think its sometimes easier to open up to complete strangers like us.
I'm struggling even more to keep the tears back since you posted the pictures

Lovely pictures. So sorry for you all. Life is cruel sometimes. Hope you all find a way through this together.

I cant even begin to think what I should write here, I'll just have to say how sorry I am for your loss.

I've been reading this all day, and still don't know what to say.
As a parent I think I can imagine your pain, but in reality, I doubt I can.
Hugs to you and your lovely family.

When we nearly lost one of our boys this was a song I used to listen too - thinking we were going to have to say goodbye.

It somehow helped me - maybe it will you?

3rd time I've come back to this thread, and like everyone else I'm shedding tears for your loss.
Wasn't going to write anything as I couldnt imagine what words can help you right now. I'd like to echo the sentiment of all the other forum members. look after yourself, by doing so you will be best placed to look after your family.
don't be afraid to ask for any help off the forum, I'm sure there a numerous people local to you that will drop anything to help in whatever way right now.

Muchos love xxx

Can't think of any words. Sending you and all the family love and light.

dont know what to say ..other than you ll feel like your the only ones its ever happended to but sadly your not alone.. been there.

get the gen on what to do.. and do it all i m so glad that as a macho bloke i did all the things i'd have never considered doing because now as i look back i can say that i did everything there was to do.

i carried my son into the church .. read the sermon, read a story to him at the service, caqrried him to the crematoruim placed him on alter.. do everything mate you might not feel like it but i m so glad i did

dont know what to say ..other than you ll feel like your the only ones its ever happended to but sadly your not alone.. been there.

get the gen on what to do.. and do it all i m so glad that as a macho bloke i did all the things i'd have never considered doing because now as i look back i can say that i did everything there was to do.

i carried my son into the church .. read the sermon, read a story to him at the service, caqrried him to the crematoruim placed him on alter.. do everything mate you might not feel like it but i m so glad i did

As far as I can see/read, the strength you're showing is tremendous. You sound like an awesome dad and husband. Stay strong.

Not much more I can find to say sorry.

So very sorry for your loss -
Not much more I can offer other than a couple of ideas of how to help your older kids through this, both these ideas were suggested to us to help my daughter (who was nearly 4) through the sudden loss of a close relative a couple of years back -

A friend lent us a book called 'Badgers parting gifts' by Susan Varley - it is aimed at helping small kids through berevement, and is fantastic, i'd highly recommend it.

The other thing we did was buy a helium balloon, write a message to the person your've lost on a piece of paper and attach it to the balloon, we then took it to the park and let it go, waving it off into the clouds - my wife and I were crying our eyes out, but I think it really helped our daughter..

Good luck and keep talking...

Sorry for your loss ,my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
There's a lot of good folk on here so don't be afraid to talk

Another dad here,I'm in pieces reading this. I don't have any wise words as nothing in my experience can come close to what you must be feeling right now. Just please don't blame yourself.

My ten month old boy is getting the hug of his life when he wakes up.

So sorry. x

Anothery teary father here reading the OP's comments and those of others who've suffered something similar or not. Lovely pics, stay strong and my thoughts are with you and yours. Gone but never forgotten.

Sorry for you all. Thoughts with you x

God life is tough sometimes, if his forum is helping then please keep posting, as you can see people care and are thinking of you. You're a brave man, I wish you and your family all the best.

As others have said, word cannot really suffice.

But my thoughts and condolences are with all those involved

I am so sorry.

I will be thinking of you and your family x

Very sorry for your loss - after reading this I just went to check on my sleeping 15th month son to make sure he was ok.

All my family send their condolences

Being strong.

It's when you read things like this you realise how often this terrible situation happens to people. My thoughts are with you all.

J

Another thanks for posting the pictures - lovely.

Jeez, what an awful thing to happen. As per everyone else, sorry and sincere condolences. I can't imagine what you are feeling.

I've lost people close to me at young ages (mum and an uncle) and know how hard it can be, but I have no idea what it must be like to lose a kiddy. All I can say is talk to your family, be open and show how you are feeling, although that can be harder said than done.

When my uncle passed away at the age of 30, he left two young girls behind aged 5 and 3. My aunt got some very good advice on how to explain it to them and do things to help them come to terms with it. I can't remember where she got it from, but will try and find out (I know they did things like let balloons go, up to daddy in heaven etc).

I'm so sorry for your loss. As others have said, don't be afraid to talk. There are plenty who will listen.

I can't find the words to help, but you are doing the right thing. You must talk about your boy and let your feelings out.

Love and prays to you all.

Nothing to say other than I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

when my friend died his wife used Winstons Wish a lot. it's a charity that specialises is helping kids who have lost loved ones. It may be worth getting in touch.

awful news, sorry for your loss

warton - Member
when my friend died his wife used Winstons Wish a lot. it's a charity that specialises is helping kids who have lost loved ones. It may be worth getting in touch

When my wife's cousin died suddenly at 33 leaving 5yr old twins and a 3 yr old her husband and kids used Winstons Wish a lot. They have nothing but good words to say about them. Could be worth a look.

Just so very sorry... you have my thoughts.

I'm so cut up reading this. I have no idea how you and your family must be feeling right now. I was lucky enough to become a Dad just 10 days ago and reading this has brought tears to my eyes and I am not an a very emotional person.
My thoughts are with you and your family.

Sad sad news all our thoughts are with you.

very sorry to hear this .

for your autistic son , maybe a social story ?

So sad. Don't really have the words.

Be strong

..very sorry to read this,shocking post,thinking of you all at this time...

I'm so so so sorry! I simply can't imagine how you all must feel. Thinking of you.