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I've had a shit couple of years with parents and elderly pets dying, my best mate died young last year and my JR died at the age of 18yrs and 9 months in the summer. I thought that is OK, just the fact I am a specialist in a collapsing industry left to deal with, but tonight someone nicked my Jekyll from outside the quiet country pub in my quiet llttle village.
I've had enough.
😕
damn , tough break. ****s
Talk to us dude,
believe me there is some good stuff out there, its not all shit, even thou it feels like it some times
Get yourself a bike, any bike, and a puppy. It won't solve any of what's gone before but will give so much happiness.
Hopefully someone will come along with some better words than me.
https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/contact-us
Whatever you're going through, call us free any time, from any phone on 116 123.
While there is a connection in that this is all [i]bad stuff[/i], the difference is that the bike is replaceable.
Eddie,
Believe you me, at the ripe old age of 57, it gets better, it gets worse ...
Roll with the punches ...
Hang on in there Eddiebaby. Might be some local STW folk who could help out with lend of a bike etc.
Sorry to hear you've had a shit time. Hope next couple of years are better!
Don't do anything daft. Please.
To the OP, I feel your pain. After my mum died suddenly a few years ago I've slowly become my dads carer and my career has lurched from one bad job from another. Right now my dogs on the way out, after a summer from hell my dad has ended up in a nursing home with dementia, I'm skint and despite being experienced at what I do I just can't seem to get a decent break job wise.
As said above you just have to roll with the punches. Sometimes its hard not to sit down and have a good cry, especially as the rest of the family have left me to pick up all the pieces and set up my dads care package. I tend to pour my frustration into my cycling. It may feel like the world is against me but bloody hell I'm quick up hill these days.
Make sure you talk to people about what you are going through and get plenty of time out in the great outdoors, it really does help.
Sometimes its hard not to sit down and have a good cry
Sometimes a sit down and a good cry can be exactly what’s needed.
Some days you’re the statue, other days you’re the pigeon.
We’re here to listen op.
Very shit Eddie. If It's any consolation (probably won't be) I think that me & Mrs Egf have been cursed this year.
She had an op for bowel cancer followed by 2 more ops for infections, in ITU for a week & HDU for another week during which time she got shingles, in hospital for 6 weeks. Was out for 3 weeks then back in for a week cos she had some kind of bowel blockage, Slooowly on the mend but now she's got a frozen shoulder.
Oh, & I got 'dismissed' from work cos I was looking after her.
Then we had to rehome our beautiful 8 month old Red Fox lab, that we'd paid £850 for. I'm still gutted.
Keep talking to us keyboard warriors, It does help!
Eddie, I'm sorry to hear that. But things WILL get better, just hang on in there. As an example, read what esselgruntfuttock wrote above, and then [url= http://singletrackmag.com/forum/topic/well-thats-my-6-months-of-lying-around-finished-back-to-work ]this post[/url]
Eddie,
Have you got someone in real life to chat to, anyone?
Poopscoop +1
Where in country are you? I'm sure someone could lend you a bike and a ride... And you can bend thier ear while out.
Where are you, Eddie? There'll be someone near you with a listening ear and maybe a spare bike to lend. Me if you're anywhere near SE Wales...
Edit: Matt's a bit quicker. Anyone know Eddie?
Eddie. Some years you shovel a lot of shit. We've had a couple of rougher than normal years that have come back to back for different reasons and perhaps not quite so severe but I sympathise with how you feel.
Again repeating what others have said...Have you got friends/riding buddies nearby? If not as others have said pop up a rough geography as this place has done some good things for its members and I'm sure someone will turn up with kit and ears if needed!
Eddie, you are not done - and you are not alone
Take geoff's advice ^^^ - and call the Sams; they are a great listening service, totally confidential and absolutely non-judgemental.
I have used their services when I felt that I couldn't take any more.
Take Speshpaul's suggestion ^^^ and post on here; lots have before you.
I'm sure you have done lots for others and now it's time to put yourself first.
Go outside and shout at the moon, have a good cry - will help you to vent.
Stay strong and use every support mechanism available to you.
Where are you Eddie? I have a large Rocky Mountain Instinct which needs to be ridden.
Happy to loan it for 6m if you want?
You will have to out your own air in the tyres though. I'm not that generous.
Sorry to hear you've had a bad time of it, and I know it seems like it will never get better, but there's a good chance that it will. Even better chance if you have people to talk to. I had an awful start to this year and felt suicidal for 3 months. I couldn't see an end to it at the time, but apart from a recent blip it did get better.
Eddie, if you're in the south of England I can lend you a bike. It's a 26 medium old Orange 5 but it works and you can have it for as long as you want.
I've got a spare Giant Reign you could borrow. I'm in the South East.
Got a bike IN the north west just past Manchester to lend
I am sure we can all pull together and cobble you up a bike
I will start with bars, stem, gears and shifters - 9 speed or SS
As others note talk to folk even us nobbers
I'm [i]still[/i] waiting to get my Ti hardtail back from someone on STW that I lent it to last year. If it fits, you can have it for as long as you need it.
The desperation is a real bastard to deal with. Not knowing which way is up makes dealing with the smallest thing an event.
I lost a good friend on Halloween several years back. After a few anniversaries I sat down and talked to him, ya know. I said what a selfish prick he was for opting out and making what should be a fun night something else. It helped me get him out of my mind, especially this time of year. Well today I saw his sister, I never really knew her and she didn't recognise me but it brought a lot of stuff back. But it was different, it didn't hurt as such, I felt, reflective(?)
Time and imperfect recall make how I feel about numerous past losses now different than then and it's easier. I'd like to say that, I dunno, I've grown as a person or "evolved" but that ain't true, I've forgotten. As a coping strategy that sounds like a cop out but it means it gets better if you let it even if it feels disingenuous. This stuff will stack up and it will screw you over if, and only if, you allow it to.
I sound like and arsehole there and I spose I am but I'm not being flippant. If you happen to be down in the SW I have a spare bike, loads of nonsense to talk and still some rum left. Take care.
That's tough Eddie.
keep talking to someone - us or one of the suggestions above. And please don't do anything daft.
I've had some tough times lately - lost a parent, shit work, depression & anxiety. You're not alone.
Where are you? Happy to lend you a bike (fancy a blast on a fattie?) and go for a ride / chat / pint. I'm in the Chilterns (Stokenchurch)
Also happy to pitch in with some bike bits - though it's all 26" 😳
Thanks everyone.
I have three other bikes still, this was special though and meant a lot for many reasons.
It has just happened at a very bad time and in a place that I feel comfortable in. Not any more.
Again, thanks for the concern and advice.
Can I borrow a bike Eddie?
Morning eddiebaby, nice to see you back on. Have a look for IAPT services in your area and have a chat with them. They've helped me a lot in the last year, not really ill myself, but trying to cope with more than I could and I've had some wobbles. Keep buggering on as they say, but don't try doing it all by yourself, you can't keep poring when the jug is empty.
talk too us, sound advice
Old Jackl frame hanging on the wall at work if you want it?
Not much to add other than I’m sorry to hear about what’s happened to you and Essel. I think we’ve all been through times like you describe. Keep posting on here if it helps
Well done for posting something so private in public,you will get past the point you're at now. In the words of Dr. Hirsch 'remain sane'.
3 deaths in the last 10 months for me & as i have no kids when i snuff it that'll be the end of my family name. Which is a daft thing to get upset about but it did yesterday when i realised it.
But i went for a ride yesterday in bkue skies and sunshine & i felt so much better.
Your blue sky days will return, don't give up
Hi Eddie, so sorry that you’ve had to go through this. Whilst losing parents is expected it is still a huge impact and no-one really expects to lose a child - that must be unbelievably painful.
Where do you live? I’m in Brum, always happy to talk or meet up for a ride or both. Can travel.
7 years of hell for me and Mrs Danny. Sometimes I don't know how we've got through it.
But, talking helps - either to friends or a professional. Antidepressants can help also.
Exercise is surprisingly effective - I don't do nearly enough but it really does help.
And allowing yourself to be angry and hurt sometimes also - you don't have to bottle it up and be strong all the time.
Live in south Oxfordshire near Wallingford. Plenty to do but that bike was very special to me.
If anyone sees this rather tweaked Jekyll please give a shout:
[url= https://farm5.staticflickr.com/4217/34916914784_4e79b769a0_o.jp g" target="_blank">https://farm5.staticflickr.com/4217/34916914784_4e79b769a0_o.jp g"/> [/img][/url][url= https://flic.kr/p/Vcujh9 ]Jekyll-12[/url] by [url= https://www.flickr.com/photos/146501625@N06/ ]John Stanley[/url], on Flickr
Jekyll Carbon 2 (medium). Hope V4, Light Bicycle rims, Hope Pro hubs. 150mm Stealth Reverb, Easton Carbon bars, ESI grips and XT 1x11. Butcher front, Slaughter rear.
Also had a Hope R8 light on it.
Nice ride....
good luck with not only getting the bike back but in your feelings improving towards the future, i cant imagine how this past time has affected you but please talk to someone and i wish you well my friend
john
Bump #goodluckeddiebaby
Bike possibly with police, thread in Bike Forum
Could be as linked back from here?
http://singletrackmag.com/forum/topic/found-cannondale-jekyll-2-oxfordshire