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I really don’t enjoy my in-law’s company. Total gammons who watch shit telly all day. Christmas with them is not fun.
We were due to go away with Mrs Zip’s mum as she is in our bubble. That has been cancelled so we were invited to the gammons. They said they would have tests so that we would be ok.
I’ve taken the moral high ground and said that we can’t go due the fact that I can’t slag of Cummings and then copy him .Christmas is a big thing in her family and the fact that Mrs Zip’s elderly mum won’t be with both her daughters set her off crying which set mrs zip crying which made me feel bad. If I had said that I was happy to go to her sister’s, Mrs Zip would happily have gone.
I’ve not said no to protect the nhs or because it’s illegal ,I said no purely because I don’t like them.
We’ve not got any food in as we were going away so she’s having to sort all that. Christmas Day is going to be shit for Mrs Zip.
Never has doing the right thing felt so bad.
Absolve me.
Have Christmas on your own.
You've done the right thing but are you barred from all the shops or something?
You should not be mixing.
Its pretty bloody clear that this isn't going away if we all dick about.
Doing the right thing for the wrong reason is perfectly acceptable.
Right thing, could have a better reason.
Get to the shops and help her out.
What cynic-al said. You muck in now and make it the best you can.
You did the right thing but you should Cook dinner and buy her something nice!
Tier 4 by the way.
Aye that bit seems a bit arsy.
Get her a nice box of truffles...
Make it great for the 2 of you. Get out there and help her shop, buy some good food and far to much booze. Get board games ready.
We’re seeing no-one at Christmas so I’ve got some great food coming in and will be buying some great wine too.
We’ll have a great time.
The in-laws thread is going to be weak this year isn't it?
Actually.
This rings a bell.
Who was the epic poster who drove to the inlaws, let the dog out, it pissed on the lawn, the mil gave him a look and he packed everyone back in the car and drove off?
Oh yeah and don’t be a **** help with the shopping.
Your doing the right thing for the wrong reasons.
It's an imperfect world, I'd call it a win-ish.
Be extra amazing to your wife though.
There is no forgiveness here. Put your hair vest and your hair shirt on and get down the shops. In bare feet. And flagellate* yourself in the chilled aisle whilst you're at it. Buy the missus all her hearts desires and asses milk to bathe in and for yourself a canned chicken.
* If you don't know this word look it up before committing any act in the chilled aisle that you think it might possibly be but aren't sure.
My in-laws are brexity religious but I do love them sort of. You are absolved but try to see your wife in your parents
Giver a treat after it's all over.
Take her up the Oxo tower?
Luckily Mrs Zip had ordered lots of booze for staff and delivery men presents so has been able to amend and add food.
Think I'm in the clear.
We've had to shut our shop for the busiest week of the year because people didn't follow the rules.
Really, I should get a medal.
If it makes you feel better the tests don’t tell you much on their own. So having one negative test doesn’t mean you don’t have Covid. You really are helping to protect others by not going.
By not going, you've made it more likely that elderly Mrs Zip is still here next year to give you a dilemma how to avoid her. The worse option would have been to say "she wants us there, its her risk, if she gets the virus from us tough luck". Presented tactfully, together with suitable Christmas shopping, cooking, cleaning etc - your wife might also accept this was the right thing to do.
No Christmas pudding for you.
We’ve not got any food in as we were going away so she’s having to sort all that. Christmas Day is going to be shit for Mrs Zip.
We won’t be going to Salisbury to stay with my g/f’s mum this year, she’s in her 80’s, and pretty paranoid about the whole situation, and we neither of us can be arsed about the whole Christmas dinner, turkey with all the trimmings malarkey, so Christmas Day will be spent sprawled in front of the telly, in a nice warm house, (the central heating suffered a catastrophic failure three weeks ago, an engineer is coming tomorrow to fit a new boiler), with drink and a shitload of party snacks and stuff to snack on, little to no preparation, very little washing up, just slobbing out.
We’re driving down to Salisbury on Boxing Day, taking pressies, we can all sit out in the nice big garden, with my g/f’s daughters and her mum, safely distanced.
Personally, it’s just my kind of Christmas, it’s what you make it, want it to be, just so long as I’m warm, and got something to drink, I’d be happy with toasted cheese sandwiches!
Never has doing the right thing felt so bad.
If you’d done it for the right reason, you wouldn’t feel bad about it!
Right choice though. Stay home for Xmas. You need to be talking to your other half to clear things up. And cook on Xmas day. It’s literally the least you could do for her.
Bollocks to them. Spend time with people you like, feel no guilt.
Confused as to how your partner's mum isn't an in-law.
Who was the epic poster who drove to the inlaws, let the dog out, it pissed on the lawn, the mil gave him a look and he packed everyone back in the car and drove off?
I don't think Dominic Cummings has an STW account?
I love my parents to bits and I've seen them four times in 2020, three of those times I was visiting my grandmother as she was on palliative care in a bad way in Jan and Feb and they popped down in August for a couple of days when things were all pretty calm.
I missed my grandmother's funeral out of a decision to not be part of the problem and travel during June.
My parents are much loved grandparents of our two boys and I'm ****ing devastated that their relationship is being eroded by Covid.
Even before the idiots decided a 5 day free for all was probably not OK for Xmas our decision was we wouldn't go. Rising infection numbers, kids have been at school, bit of a trek followed by potentially being couped up indoors with them for a couple of days...it's just not the right thing to do.
I've posted before about nearly losing my BIL and while I've got little time for those who try and make up stricter versions of the rules to inflict on others (that role belongs to Parliament for better or worse) I am very much in support of those who choose to make more cautious decisions, whatever their motive 😉 if that helps.
We are being cautious - not had any social contact indoors for months and it's staying that way, family or not.
Similar here. I get on fine with my In-Laws as long as politics and/or race don't come up in conversation when it's bite your lip and pretend they didn't just say that time...
We were due to spend 3 days with them over Christmas but middle of last week Mrs Noise asked the one question she probably shouldn't have - "Do you think we should go even thought the rules say it's OK?" and 'requested' an honest answer. My logical response of "If it's not OK on the 22nd and not OK on the 28th, why is it OK in between?" didn't go down well and led to tears, awkward phone calls, and hastily rearranged menus. After a couple of awkward days, Boris actually saved me with the announcements that meant we couldn't have gone anyway. Compromise has been reached with a New Year's Day trip to have a dog walk on the beach and eat Fish and Chips en plein air.
TLDR. I feel your pain and am happy to absolve.
FWIW. Christmas menus and cooking fall to me (happily as it happens), so all that last minute planning and sorting is down to me and not Mrs Noise.
Who was the epic poster who drove to the inlaws, let the dog out, it pissed on the lawn, the mil gave him a look and he packed everyone back in the car and drove off?
It wasn't up to Sudocrem standards but that was a good thread iirc.
Why is she having to sort the food? Get involved and make it a good one. Agree with not going though, but suggest you get heavily involved in making your stay-at-home Christmas good.
Nothing will comoare to sudocrem cat or magnetodog.
The thread was called I N L A W S.
The poster was oldschool.
Ha amateur the lot of you. We pulled up at the outlaws, got the dog out who had a pee (only a pee and still outside). MIL not happy flailing arms, shaking if the head at the window. Back in the car and home, not even 1 word spoken and we’ve fallen out.
The Boxing Day fillet steak for tea I think.
Not as hilarious as i remembered but after alot of whinging in general he did a good job in showing how to do it proper.
I have aspergers... its like body armour when it comes to all this... i assess the risk, inform all involved of the risk assessment and settle down in front of telly and this is why my wife hates me with such a passion as she is "neural typical"
If we all had proper aspergers covid wouldn't last the week.
No Christmas pudding for you.
The correct answer
Who was the epic poster who drove to the inlaws, let the dog out, it pissed on the lawn, the mil gave him a look and he packed everyone back in the car and drove off?
TrollingZooFighter?
I'm having my first ever Christmas Day on my own but it's not all bad; I can eat and drink what I want, don't have to feign amazement at a niece or nephew building a Lego toy, don't have to sit through several Harry Potter films, won't end up in a 'debate' with my Daily Mail reading dad etc. etc. That said I hope everything's back to normal for Christmas 2021!
As you just said you are in tier 4 the decision has been made for you.... you shouldn't be mixing with any other household at all over Christmas. Absolved by BoJo
No Christmas pudding for you.
FFS! Only on Sunday Kryton Jnr was asking me why the lady on telly was setting fire to the Christmas pudding (it’s not a thing in Bajan culture so we don’t) and a little thought in my head went “I’m surprised that hasn’t materialised in STW yet”.
Sigh.
FuzzyWuzzy
Full MemberI’m having my first ever Christmas Day on my own but it’s not all bad; I can eat and drink what I want, don’t have to feign amazement at a niece or nephew building a Lego toy, don’t have to sit through several Harry Potter films, won’t end up in a ‘debate’ with my Daily Mail reading dad etc. etc. That said I hope everything’s back to normal for Christmas 2021!
Lol - FuzzyWuzzy you are the atypical slightly pissed grumpy uncle in the armchair in the corner wearing a slightly cocked Christmas cracker hat and I claim my £5.
You're doing the right thing, even though that's tough.
As long as you ensure that the day is as good as it can be in the situation then you're good.
Absolved my child.
Two crucial things
She 'thinks' you are refusing because of the tier 4 right? Not because her family are cocks?
And, make her day special and give her lots of time and space to Zoom her family etc by doing all the xmas day chores (and/or riding your bike).
Junior came to spend a few days with us when still relatively "clean" at the end of our confinement. He then resumed his normal social activity with his mates (within the limits of what's legal) and will be spending Christmas on his own.
Things were a bit tense negotiating it all but we're all pleased with how it went. I'd have felt really uncomfortable sharing a dinner table with a high risk son at current infection rates.
We’ve not got any food in as we were going away so she’s having to sort all that
Like others on the thread, I'm confused at this. Fair enough, if you've got no food then someone needs to buy some, but why her?
I never understand the stress about getting food in for Christmas, I see people getting in a knot about it every year.
The shops are closed for 24 hours and Christmas happens at the same time every year so it isn't a surprise that people will need to eat.