[Closed] How to tell a friend to F off when they call you fat?!

How to tell a friend to F off when they call you fat?!

Answer back "So? So what? You want me to sit on you?"

They don’t sound like a friend.

I'm not fat, I'm just thick skinned.

Wait. No. No I'm not. I'm going to ask the internet to come up with a comeback. Can you just wait there?

For an active person, a very tangible benefit of losing weight is that your ankles, hips and knees last longer and hurt less.

If that’s the case, then, as someone who’s been active for years, walks between four to six miles a day, walks into town, etc, why do my knees and othe joints ache so much?
My BMI is well within range, I’m 5’10”, weigh roughly 12 stone, yet I’ve never had great stamina, when I was biking every day, I’d still struggle on hills. Why is that?
I’ve never had to worry about losing weight, I eat well, to the extent that my g/f constantly wonders where the hell I put it all, but I don’t put on weight, I wear 32” waist jeans, I can ‘just’ about get into a 30” pair I bought 35 years ago, so why do I ache so much in my joints, and struggle up hills?
I am 65 in less than a month, which might go some way to explain it...

I'm commenting because I've been in a similar place not so long ago. As others have suggested, if you care they're saying you're fat then you should either care enough to do something about it, or stop caring about them saying it - not doing either is just leaving unresolved cognitive dissonance that in the longer term is not doing you favours, and probably isn't helping your eating habits.

I recently lost quite a lot of weight, and am still losing. Others have pointed it out - if you're otherwise healthy it's really not very difficult. And don't "go on a diet", just sort out what you're eating. You can have pizza, but don't have a huge one, and have some salad before you start on the pizza as a starter. I still enjoy a cold beer in the evening, but it's not the first thing I drink. I have 1 or 2 pints of cold sparkling water which takes the thirst away and I really enjoy the beer, and I'm not reaching for another straight away because the first one only lasts 2 minutes. It's the first glass of fizzy water that only lasts 2 minutes (it works out way cheaper too).

I used to, on a weekend, have cereals for breakfast and a slice or two of toast with butter and jam. Now I'm paying attention I realise that that one meal was already just about my calorie intake for the day. Because it was the weekend, I'd often have something nice in the evening too, and probably a couple of beers. I'd probably end up on 4000+ calories on a Saturday. Far too much.

I'd stopped weighing myself, because rather like you, I didn't like be told I was fat (it's what the scales were saying...). If I didn't look in the mirror too much I could kid myself. My mind considered I was still what I weighed the last time I weighed myself. When I did finally weigh myself I'd actually put another 10 kilos on. I was a proper biffer. I still am, but without dieting, my weight is slowly going in the right direction. I don't really care how long it takes, but I now weigh myself each morning just to ensure that the trend is still heading the right way. That's my only real indicator. Last night I went to an impromptu BBQ at some parents of my kids friends. I drank beer. I ate sausages, crisps, olives (loads :O ). Didn't count how much of what, but made sure I filled up on salad, and stopped when I wasn't hungry anymore. And I had a gorgeous fruit salad with fresh nectarines and strawberries with fresh mint leaves. I knew my weight will have gone up, because I ate too much, but I also now know that if I'm not doing that a couple of times a week, I'll be alright. So I don't care that I ate too much "bad" food last night, I'll just be more careful this week to make sure that next Sunday the trend is still, overall, the right one.

Unless you sort out the dissonance that you care about being told you're fat, but aren't doing anything about it yourself, you'll not be in a good place - however much you ski/bike/walk etc.