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No-one in my partners family can stand her brother-in-law, including me. He's the type that will lecture you for hours on topics you're clearly not interested in without having a back-and-forth conversation with you - it took him 2 days to actually ask what I did as a job last time he was down, all the while boring me with details of his job. After that visit my partner and I swore we wouldn't have him in the house again - her sister and the kid are welcome, but not him!
Now we hear that they're planning on coming down for a visit as his work is bringing him down this way for a few days. I can't stand the idea of being a prisoner to him in my own home, but there has also always been tension between my partner and her sister so we don't want to aggravate things further.
What are my options here? So far I've got:
Make up an excuse that I'm going to be away with work - but they might say "fine" and come anyway.
Let him come and bore him with details of bikes - I'd still have to look at his stupid smug face though.
Be honest and say we don't want them to visit.
Whenever it is, use it as an excuse to go away on a cycling trip - the missus will still have to deal with him though, can't imagine I'll get away with disappearing!
Wee in his shoes and hoof him in the slats - actually very tempting.
Has anyone actually told him he's boorish and self-centered?
Arrange to meet at a pub for a meal. Then you've only wasted a few hours, and can sit at the other end of the table!
I don't see an option where you give the guy a chance and get to know him. If that's not an option be honest with him.
Yawn obviously and start conversations with other people when he starts droning on. Make up a bullshit bingo chart of his sayings on the kitchen wall and tick them off in front of him.
Invite them over. Take him to the pub. Get utterly pissed, do the wee and slats thing. Be obnoxious. Tell him what for. With a bit of luck they won't be back. Either that or smile sweetly and suck it up.
Options
1) Suck it up and deal with it as it is family
2) Deal with the likely shit storm of openly saying not welcome in my house you boring bastard
3 ) meet out for days doing things that are distracting/enjoyable and tolerating him.
4) E-mail link to this thread after having created an account for him and leave him to moan at us.
Tell them that there is no room at the inn as an internet weirdo is staying with you long term.
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No-one in my partners family can stand her brother-in-law, including me
even his wife?
^This^I don't see an option where you give the guy a chance and get to know him. If that's not an option be honest with him.
As PJM says, has he been told he's very ego centric? Might be worth confronting, perhaps in a semi lighthearted way, certainly not agressively. It might even be doing him a favour.
Tell him your'e to busy to meet them or just point out your opinion of him due to the last time they visited.
Arrange to meet at a pub for a meal. Then you've only wasted a few hours, and can sit at the other end of the table!
This would be what I'd do. "I've got a couple of hours, I'll meet you at XYZ pub at 8pm". Have a beer, take one for the team for 2 hours, then tell him you've got to go and leave. It's much easier to manage if he's not at your house and you meet him in a restaurant or pub instead.
Man, if that's the extent of your problems just suck it up once or twice a year, it's family, you can't do anything about it.
My BIL is a psycho. A few years ago he started shouting and raving at his sister (my other half) and when I stuck up for her (as you would) he tried to fight me. We don't talk at all.
This is the best solution. Control the meeting.
My BIL is a psycho. A few years ago he started shouting and raving at his sister (my other half) and when I stuck up for her (as you would) he tried to fight me. We don't talk at all.
That's an option i suppose?
martinhutch - MemberYawn obviously and start conversations with other people when he starts droning on.......
My idea would be similar to this but more blunt. Just disagree with him or talk over him. Just because someone's a boring self centred **** doesn't mean you can't interject. If he's telling you about his job just be blunt and say "look I couldn't give a toss about your job, or anyone else's job it bores me to tears". Just be direct, be assertive and he'll soon get the message.
At the moment it sounds like he's convinced of his own superiority and he's dominating you (and everyone else). Once he cops on that you won't play his game he'll either give up, or he'll concede some ground to you and probably become less of a **** to be around.
Just be direct, be assertive and he'll soon get the message.
Do this too, but do it in a pub, or at least somewhere that's not your house. It's much easier to leave the pub than it is to kick him out your house.
Airsoft landmine?
In seriousness: Make a note to keep vewwy vewy qwuiet (and I mean like rapt students) when he's espousing the next 2 hour lecture. He'll feel a little exposed if you're fortunate. But wait. He may yet feel further emboldened and get really into it. Wait for him to give sufficient pause to make you suspect the lecture over, then respond with ' Well that's very f***** interesting!!!!' and some good-natured laughter. It might well break the ice if he has any self-awareness at all.
I know one of these men. He sometimes becomes semi-self-aware, yet rather than twig that he's boring me he'll wrongly assume that I'm a mental dullard and then abruptly game-switch to some stunningly obvious small-talk.
Usually about bands he suspects I still like as much as I did when I did when was a teenager (bands about which he has no interest whatsoever). Excruciating.
Coincide his visit with a particularly long ride.Followed by a few pints.
Then clean bike and go to bed.
If they expect to stay , you all need to "get" measles or mumps three days before their arrival.
Seems a shame to make sis in law feel bad because He's a self-centered halfwit,even if she did marry him.So I would suck it up and be quiet. Unless of course he is a racist,homophobic ,misogynist. In that case its bombers and wee. 😀
Just look totally disinterested when he bangs on, get your phone out, look at STW posts, he'll soon get the message.
Has anyone actually told him he's boorish and self-centered?
In a kind of jokey way, yes. He already knew that my partner didn't like him when he started dating her sister as they knew each other at Uni.
I don't see an option where you give the guy a chance and get to know him. If that's not an option be honest with him.
I've known him for 7 years, and I kept trying to give him a chance thinking that maybe we were being unfair to him. We're not - gf's dad had a heart attack last year and he didn't even go visit him despite living 20 mins from the hospital. Just an example of his personality!
Arrange to meet at a pub for a meal. Then you've only wasted a few hours, and can sit at the other end of the table!
Would be our preferred option, but then involves telling them they have to stay in a hotel rather than our spare room as they live ~3.5 hours away.
No-one in my partners family can stand her brother-in-law, including me -
even his wife?
She's been moaning about him for the past 3 years - I'm surprised they haven't divorced. He also treats her pretty badly, nothing physical, but more talking down to her, telling her she's stupid, etc.
My gf's father has had many quiet words with him about his behaviour over the years, none of which have sunk in, so I doubt that me telling him off will help any.
I'm fairly sure he doesn't like me or the gf either, and I don't think he really wants to come and stay. However, the company he works for seem to be pretty cheap, so I have a suspicion that they've asked him if there is anyone he can stay with while he's working down here and he's trying to use us as an alternative to a hotel!
Do not invite him to the house. Under absolutely no circumstances allow him to stay
As above pub lunch/dinner out with clear end time (as you've stuff to do) you may arrange this midweek so you don't waste your weekend
Imo life is too short to waste it on stuff like this and under no circumstances should you feel like a prisoner in your own home. You are under no obligation to do so. If your wife insists on him coming to the house I personally would be tempted to be out all day/weekend on a "prior engagement"
Tell your partner that he's not welcome in your house, full stop. and let her deal with it.
Then stay the **** out of it, as otherwise you will somehow end up to blame for everything.
Now we hear that they're planning on coming down for a visit as his work is bringing him down this way for a few days
Would be our preferred option, but then involves telling them they have to stay in a hotel rather than our spare room as they live ~3.5 hours away.
Doesn't sound like it's your responsibility to house them to me?
Think yourself lucky. My BiL is an alcoholic/junkie and repeatedly comes round tanked up/off his head looking for money. 🙁
However, the company he works for seem to be pretty cheap, so I have a suspicion that they've asked him if there is anyone he can stay with while he's working down here and he's trying to use us as an alternative to a hotel!
Tell them you'll meet them at the hotel where his company are putting him up. That way he can expense his part of the meal.
My idea would be similar to this but more blunt. Just disagree with him or talk over him. Just because someone's a boring self centred * doesn't mean you can't interject. If he's telling you about his job just be blunt and say "look I couldn't give a toss about your job, or anyone else's job it bores me to tears". Just be direct, be assertive and he'll soon get the message.At the moment it sounds like he's convinced of his own superiority and he's dominating you (and everyone else). Once he cops on that you won't play his game he'll either give up, or he'll concede some ground to you and probably become less of a
* to be around.
The gf does this constantly, she rips the pi55 right out of him to the point that it can become uncomfortable. It just doesn't seem to sink in that he's boring us, he has a complete lack of self-awareness!
Go on holiday.
Lmao, he sounds like a couple of people I have the pleasure of working with. Just zone out, nod and put little gasps in where appropriate.
Sure he's a twunt though and not just got some sort of condition that makes him that way?
She's been moaning about him for the past 3 years - I'm surprised they haven't divorced. He also treats her pretty badly, nothing physical, but more talking down to her, telling her she's stupid, etc.My gf's father has had many quiet words with him about his behaviour over the years, none of which have sunk in, so I doubt that me telling him off will help any.
I'm fairly sure he doesn't like me or the gf either, and I don't think he really wants to come and stay. However, the company he works for seem to be pretty cheap, so I have a suspicion that they've asked him if there is anyone he can stay with while he's working down here and he's trying to use us as an alternative to a hotel!
Why is his staying with you even being contemplated?
Alternatively, wait till he's in the area then go and visit the sister when you know he's not there. Win-win.
Tell your partner that he's not welcome in your house, full stop. and let her deal with it.Then stay the **** out of it, as otherwise you will somehow end up to blame for everything.
I've pretty much told her that, and she's on the same page as me. However, she loves her niece and would love to have her come and stay.
Doesn't sound like it's your responsibility to house them to me?
I agree, and if I found out this was definitely the case I'd put my foot down. However, it's just a suspicion at this point!
Imo life is too short to waste it on stuff like this and under no circumstances should you feel like a prisoner in your own home. You are under no obligation to do so. If your wife insists on him coming to the house I personally would be tempted to be out all day/weekend on a "prior engagement"
This is my opinion also - I know some people have to put up with far worse from family, but why put up with something you don't have to? If he does end up coming I think I'll head to the Lakes for the weekend or something - I'll just claim I already had the trip booked and it's non-refundable!
IME, boorish ignorants like you describe are usually too myopic to see their own flaws, or other people's views.
Challenging them usually results in acrimony, with you being the one in the wrong (see previous comments re ignorance).
I have a similar brother in law. We usually make excuses about being busy and suck it up when it's unavoidable. Usually, we can reduce the contact time time a minimum, even if it's unavoidable. I found it helps to view it as 'family chores'.
Sure he's a twunt though and not just got some sort of condition that makes him that way?
I have wondered about that, but I think it's more that an overbearing father who was also an ar$e has turned him into an ar$e. Just as an example, the father refused to join the first dance at his wedding as "he doesn't dance" and changed out of the formal gear and sat in the pub attached to the wedding venue in jeans and a t-shirt for the rest of the night. Twunt.
Why is his staying with you even being contemplated?
They invited themselves - a common occurrence with the gf's family!
Shag your Sister-in-Law, then tell him??? perhaps not... 😉
Someone has to be honest with him and explain why you and your partner don't want to see him. There are Biological Families and Logical Families, they aren't the same and life is too short etc...
Set up a spurious gmail account and send him a link to this thread .
They invited themselves - a common occurrence with the gf's family!
Tell them to bugger off! "I'm sorry, it's not convenient. No I don't have to tell you why. Stay in a hotel."
just ask him really stupid questions to amuse yourself and your wife. things like: and do you do that on wednesday mornings? what about wednesday afternoon?
what sort of pants do you wear? I like Y fronts.
What do you think about when you're having a poo? I sometimes think about Pooh bear and Piglet, do you think they were gay lovers?
Just obscure nonsense.
Sure he's a twunt though and not just got some sort of condition that makes him that way?
I have wondered about that, but I think it's more that an overbearing father who was also an ar$e has turned him into an ar$e. Just as an example, the father refused to join the first dance at his wedding as "he doesn't dance" and changed out of the formal gear and sat in the pub attached to the wedding venue in jeans and a t-shirt for the rest of the night. Twunt.
The condition may run in the family. Still no excuse for his behaviour though.
😆 STW's resident alpha male thereTell your partner that he's not welcome in your house, full stop. and let her deal with it.
Smear yourself in lion shit, he won't come back.
Or
Have a good old fashioned family argument followed by two years of silent pram face, go on, it'll go down in history and liven up conversation at future family gatherings
ebennettThe gf does this constantly, she rips the pi55 right out of him to the point that it can become uncomfortable. It just doesn't seem to sink in that he's boring us, he has a complete lack of self-awareness!
There's a big difference between ripping the piss and stating that he bores you or you're not interested in his opinions. He'll just imagine it's a joke but he doesn't get your/her humour. Just be matter of fact and correct him when he thinks you or anyone else wants to hear what he has to say. You'll be helping him.
This is the approach I take when anyone tries to talk to me about soccer and it works pretty much every time.
Just tell him he's not welcome. I don't get on with Mrs Z family. I can't be arsed to put up with all their constant hassles. Just cos I married their sister/daughter doesn't mean my life's got to be one roller coaster of blame and counter blame about who did what, said what to whom.
They're constantly falling out with each other, blaming another and before you know it the ones that fell out are fine and blaming the other. **** 'em. They're worse than schoolkids.
Mrs Z is happy to visit them, or they come to ours when I'm not there.
Just as an example, the father refused to join the first dance at his wedding as "he doesn't dance" and changed out of the formal gear and sat in the pub attached to the wedding venue in jeans and a t-shirt for the rest of the night. Twunt.
mmm. Double standards?
I know some people have to put up with far worse from family, but why put up with something you don't have to?
Shag your Sister-in-Law, then tell him???
Um no, it's amazing how a few changes to the old genetic variation can result in vastly different levels of attractiveness!
mmm. Double standards?
I'm not sure that not wanting an ar$e in your house is the same as not dancing at your son's wedding and leaving the daughter-in-laws mother with no-one to dance with. One is a situation where people generally only come by invitation and it's the home-owner's choice to invite them, while the other is a social construct during which certain things are expected of attendees, particularly those related to those getting married! I.e. it's fine if you want to run around with only pants on in the house, but try doing it while you're out at the pub at people are going to judge you!
There may be another option, could you not just book a couple of days off and **** off to the zoo or something with the rest of the family?
Your wife gets to spend some quality time with her niece and you can stay out of the house until her bed time, come home fed, watered and 'knackered' and trundle off to bed.
Bonus points for putting the road bike in the boot to go to the zoo and riding home, thus getting you home hours later than the rest of the family.
Tell them to bugger off! "I'm sorry, it's not convenient. No I don't have to tell you why. Stay in a hotel."
This.
"Yes, I'd love to meet you for a beer that evening, no problem, Dog and Duck at 8pm? Oh, you were hoping to stay? Really sorry, there's a few things going on that mean that's not convenient I'm afraid. No, nothing I really want to talk about, I'm sure you understand. Yes, the beer's good there, see you there". That'd be my approach.
Turn up, 2 pints, keeps a bit of family harmony, leave when you've had enough. Done.
I'm not sure that not wanting an ar$e in your house is the same as not dancing at your son's wedding and leaving the daughter-in-laws mother with no-one to dance with
Its not the same but it follows the basic rules of 'why put up with something you don't have to' just because it's the sociable and right thing to do. I'm sure there must have been someone else for the mother to dance with. What would have happened if he really couldn't dance for whatever reason.
Doesn't sound like a very nice family but unfortunately that's what you're stuck with.
We are all repeating ourselves but we feel your pain, @lunge has it perfectly
You're under no obligation to see him at all and there is no such thing as "he's invited himself to your house". Frankly if he turned up I'd tell him to his face he's not welcome to stay now or any time in the future. He's an arrogant parasite.
Kinda related, one particular tribe of inlaws has regular "BBQ" parties, BBQ is in quotation marks as the BBQ is only a small part, it's followed by a full selection of re-heated lasagne, shepards pie, fish pie, macaroni cheese, and other assorted slop, followed by pudding (multiple rounds of). So you can get the idea these people are no Mo Farah's.
After breaking my arm one decided to put a post on my GF's facebook along the lines of "i don't know why you put up with him and his sports".
To which I put up a post saying "If one more fat person* feels the need to comment on my exercise regime then I'll feel the need to comment on theirs". The ensuing fallout is still the subject of discussion 4 years later.
*they were the third such comment that week and I was staying off the pain meds so already grumpy.
and do you do that on wednesday mornings? what about wednesday afternoon?
what sort of pants do you wear? I like Y fronts.
What do you think about when you're having a poo? I sometimes think about Pooh bear and Piglet, do you think they were gay lovers?
Just obscure nonsense.
Is that considered obscure? It's normal conversation in this house. 😯
OP - is it time to redecorate the spare room? it really could do with a lick of paint. And that window frame still needs sorting. I suggest you leave all your tools and decorating kit in there while the job's in progress - you never know what you may need.
Its not the same but it follows the basic rules of 'why put up with something you don't have to' just because it's the sociable and right thing to do. I'm sure there must have been someone else for the mother to dance with. What would have happened if he really couldn't dance for whatever reason.
He didn't have any physical deficiencies so he'd have been quite capable of sucking it up for 5 minutes and trundling round the dance floor. I don't think you can apply the same logic to both situations - in some situations certain things will always be expected of you and you're being a d!ck if you don't conform, e.g. despite being an atheist I've happily gone along to weddings that have been in a church despite feeling uncomfortable in them. In contrast, there's no way I'd get married in a church. Both can have 'why put up with something you don't have to' applied, i.e. I don't have to go to the friend's wedding in the church, but I'm being a d!ck if I don't go cos I don't like churches!
There may be another option, could you not just book a couple of days off and **** off to the zoo or something with the rest of the family?
No kids, just me and the gf - I'll probably just bugger off with the bike on my own if he does come!
To which I put up a post saying "If one more fat person* feels the need to comment on my exercise regime then I'll feel the need to comment on theirs". The ensuing fallout is still the subject of discussion 4 years later.
Lol, I can imagine! My gf's family is similar, thankfully I've not had any serious injuries for them to poke fun at and they're taking a serious look at their health since the heart attack scare last year!
OP - is it time to redecorate the spare room? it really could do with a lick of paint. And that window frame still needs sorting. I suggest you leave all your tools and decorating kit in there while the job's in progress - you never know what you may need.
That is a very good idea - we've been putting off getting the bedrooms replastered since we moved in, might be time for that to happen!
Was wondering if the issue was staying...when he's there on work the company has no right to expect you to put him up. Just say you're away..you can always make up a trip that gets cancelled at the last minute.
Killing silently is a tall order, but a quick look at an anatomy chart will show that the larynx is an easy enough target—providing you can make a stealthy submerged approach, sneak up on your victim, and catch him unaware. Once that's accomplished, grasp his hair as close to the scalp as you're able to and yank his head back while using your Ka-Bar combat knife to make a lateral cut across his throat. Make sure you sever both the carotid artery and jugular vein while piercing the windpipe, and press hard; the larynx is a tough, rubbery piece of tissue.
Try and engage with him and keep drinking. Or take him on a bike ride and show him the joys or riding. You don't have to talk and you could lose him if need be
Killing silently is a tall order, but a quick look at an anatomy chart will show that the larynx is an easy enough target—providing you can make a stealthy submerged approach, sneak up on your victim, and catch him unaware. Once that's accomplished, grasp his hair as close to the scalp as you're able to and yank his head back while using your Ka-Bar combat knife to make a lateral cut across his throat. Make sure you sever both the carotid artery and jugular vein while piercing the windpipe, and press hard; the larynx is a tough, rubbery piece of tissue.
We can't do that til he gets life insurance. Has a 3 year old and refuses to get it to provide for her if he dies - which isn't unlikely given that his Dad died of a heart attack at 50 (plus that fact that he's quite widely hated).
Try and engage with him and keep drinking. Or take him on a bike ride and show him the joys or riding. You don't have to talk and you could lose him if need be
I think this might be a quick way of killing him off! "Sedentary" would be the most polite adjective I'd use for him.
He's the type that will lecture you for hours on topics you're clearly not interested in without having a back-and-forth conversation with you - it took him 2 days to actually ask what I did as a job last time he was down, all the while boring me with details of his job.
I think this guy may have been in my chalet when I was snowboarding in France over new year.
Anything you'd done, he did it first, he did it one better than you and he probably did it in Japan, where he lived for three years, which he reminded you about every 23 minutes.
I resorted to going to bed early every night to get away from him.
Tell him you can't get 4g where you live. He sounds like the kind of knob for whom this would be a make or break issue.
A lesson I learned far too late in life is, life is too short to spend in the company of arseholes.
There's only one way to deal with this and that's just to say no. You don't want to do it, don't do it; it really is that simple and your life will be immeasurably better for not having to put up with people you don't like out of some misplaced sense of obligation.
As others have said, if you do want to meet up then do it somewhere where you can control the time like a pub or restaurant. Pre-empt it with the assumption that they're not staying even, "which hotel will you be staying in, we'll join you for dinner?"
I think this guy may have been in my chalet when I was snowboarding in France over new year.
Something about that kind of holiday that attracts that type of person. We managed one holiday in a chalet with randoms and then swore we'd only ever do it with mates again! Bit odd though, as during my seasons working in chalets about 80% of the guests were great - but then you don't have to have dinner with them every night.
just tell him you are busy, I do it all the time
Tell him you can't get 4g where you live. He sounds like the kind of knob for whom this would be a make or break issue.
What an odd thing to say.
Something about that kind of holiday that attracts that type of person. We managed one holiday in a chalet with randoms and then swore we'd only ever do it with mates again! Bit odd though, as during my seasons working in chalets about 80% of the guests were great - but then you don't have to have dinner with them every night.
This guy was on his own. Everyone else in the chalet was lovely, and we all thought this guy was an absolute helmet. It speaks volumes that on the chalet staff's night off, everyone made dinner arrangements and absolutely no one invited him to join them.
What an odd thing to say.
you're boring us by repeating yourself 😉
thestabiliser - Member
I think you misread that - I was saying ''let her deal with it" as in let her deal with the issue cause it's her family, staying well out of it yourself, cause as soon as you open your mouth you will be the big baddy - not "lay down the law with your missus and 'let her deal with it' emotionally"
Is your partner's sister's partner actually "family"?
As others have said, no obligation at all when he's in the area with work. BUt when he visits with your sister in law, unless you want to harm your/your OH's relationship with her and the niece the you've really got no option but to suck it up.
Of course other family in the area should do their share of sucking it up.
This is nothing compared to one of my aunts, but she lives miles away and is nice in small doses so my parents put up from time to time (unfortunately none of the other brothers and sisters will).
I think that just starting other conversations with others in the room will sort him out.
On another note... a lot of the stuff he's doing/his dad has done points to just being socially awkward - and commenting that no one likes him (which he's bound to notice) and he didn't go and see the member of your family who had a heart attack nearby - why would he if no-one likes him?
Anything you'd done, he did it first, he did it one better than you and he probably did it in Japan, where he lived for three years, which he reminded you about every 23 minutes.
"You went to Tenerife? Well, I've been Elevenerfife. Lovely it is, much nicer than where you went..."
A lesson I learned far too late in life is, life is too short to spend in the company of arseholes.
Cougar - Moderator
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perhaps you could direct your BIL to this forum as he sounds ideal as a prospective STW 'big hitter' unless of course he already is one.
Are any of these guys being discussed called Tony perchance? Seems too much of a coincidence and there can't be that many of them surely?
Is he not your brother in law ?Is your partner's sister's partner actually "family"?
That said i think you are correct about giving up your time for arseholes
Is your partner's sister's partner actually "family"?
I've told the missus many times that I won't marry her as I don't want to be related to him - I'm only half-joking I think.
On another note... a lot of the stuff he's doing/his dad has done points to just being socially awkward - and commenting that no one likes him (which he's bound to notice) and he didn't go and see the member of your family who had a heart attack nearby - why would he if no-one likes him?
I've made that point myself to the gf's family in trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. If he's that self-aware though he should know we don't want him in our house either!
Arrange to meet at a pub for a meal. Then [s]you've only wasted a few hours, and can sit at the other end of the table![/s] don't turn up.
or, as soon as he starts, plug in a set of earphones, tell him it's the sound of paint drying and it's absolutely fascinating, you'll listen to him later.
perhaps you could direct your BIL to this forum as he sounds ideal as a prospective STW 'big hitter' unless of course he already is one.
I'd be willing to bet he's a big hitter on some other forum, probably one about air rifles, ales, or Tolkien. Not that there's anything wrong with any of those things, I've just heard enough about them to last me a lifetime...
Could it be that he is autistic?
Why not try to find out and if he is, try to find a way for you to deal with it.
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Are any of these guys being discussed called Tony perchance? Seems too much of a coincidence and there can't be that many of them surely?
Jonathon was the name of the throbber I had the pleasure of spending my week with...
Could it be that he is autistic?Why not try to find out and if he is, try to find a way for you to deal with it.
Obviously IANAD, but I don't think he is. I'm not sure I've ever met anyone with autism though, and I doubt relying on the depictions on tv would help!
Invite them to stay, be nice. Moan about him for a year til next time.
Invite them to stay, be nice. Moan about him for a year til next time.
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