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A few years ago a work colleague called me a
Cantankerous Old Git !
I just laughed and said " less of the old "
In hindsight she was totally correct, but it didn't change me,
Take me as I am
Jamie - Member
Forget it, let people make their own judgements it is not important.
Ok. Who are you and what have you done with the real Kryton57?
Point demonstrated, perfectly.
At the risk of more sweeping generalisations, this is a "men are from Mars" thing isn't it.
I'm fairly sure I didn't bring gender to that post.
Point demonstrated, perfectly.
Seriously. Where is he? Is he ok?
YOU MONSTER!
'goddam sexual tyrannosaurus!'
Us white middle-aged men are not an endangered or discriminated-against species, and all those Mens-Rights people can eff off... But...
There is a societal conditioning that we need to be robust and find solutions as Cougar says. And I find that if I express 50% of the emotion or reaction to stuff that my partner does, or show I am upset, I am labelled as being "emotional", like that's a bad thing... Can't win sometimes... 🙁
Psychopaths are usually very charming and can manipulate people to like them and get their way. Being liked or well thought of by people isn't a guarantee that you are a "good" person, whatever that means.
Everybody is self-ish in the most basic sense, even Mother Theresa. We are only concerned with ourselves and all our actions stem from self-gratifiction of one form or another.
You can please some of the people all of the time and all of the people some of the time but you can't please all of the people, all of the time.
I care about what people think of me but I can't control that so just get on with it and do the best I can. Sometimes I get it right, sometimes I get it wrong.
I find that if I express 50% of the emotion or reaction to stuff that my partner does, or show I am upset, I am labelled as being "emotional", like that's a bad thing... Can't win sometimes...
I'm in tears reading this. 😉
perchypanther - Member
I find that if I express 50% of the emotion or reaction to stuff that my partner does, or show I am upset, I am labelled as being "emotional", like that's a bad thing... Can't win sometimes...
I'm in tears reading this.
U OK HUN? TXT ME
BIG HUGS xx
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Try not to worry too much about what other people think, unless that sort of thing bothers you, then do.
OP, you can't help the way people feel about you or things that happen to them. Their feelings are their own, and they can't be wrong about that.
Consider your children if they were younger. Yesterday a child cried because I took the sock puppet away. I know it'll be forgotten about in 5 minutes, but not reassuring her would be heartless. Your children are 20 and 26, kids stop being kids but it would be nice if parents didn't stop being parents. It's quite likely you comforted your kids when they cried about strange things like the pudding being the wrong flavour, or mum not being back from work yet, why would you not comfort them now? It's a drop in the ocean from your perspective, but they're not old enough to realise it yet.
The customer, well, what do you expect if you're in a customer facing job?
This thread is crying out for a 'Cupcake' tag.