[Closed] Horny restaurant staff

out of order

out of order but you basically let him do whatever he wanted, no need to get pyhsical over it but have a word

Fair point dobo. Though, we're "dating" at the moment rather than going out, so I took the path of just making light of it. Given where we're at, she I don't think she would have liked it if I'd had a word.

You should have told him to **** off.

Bitch slap him 😆

Given where we're at, she I don't think she would have liked it if I'd had a word.

Indeed, discretion is the better part of valour old chap. Did she keep his number? That's the important question.

I'm with deadly on this one - check everything including mobile phone, then report back to STW HQ!

[i]Indeed, discretion is the better part of valour old chap. Did she keep his number? That's the important question.[/i]

Nah, she's a good girl and I trust her. Neither of them saw me coming down the stairs, but she still told me about about it afterwards without being asked. I'm sure she was flattered by the attention, but she gets hit on quite often and runs a mile from that kind of act. Besides, aren't mullets out of fashion again?

[i]I'm with deadly on this one - check everything including mobile phone, then report back to STW HQ![/i]

Are you proposing a lycra lynch mob?

Dam mingsta - you got me rumbled good n proper.... 😉

I would have kicked off big style, it amazing how so many "hard bastards" shit themselves when theres a real chance of scrapping. Although as my dad used to say dont worry when there shouting its when they stop you want too worry.

I think I'd have had a quite word with the manager and told him that the cost of the meal equals to the value of the **** bank material the waiter had collected in his head and that to avoid disapointment, he shouldn't expect to get paid for the meal.

Complaining would have been the best bet I agree. He should know better, most places frown upon hitting on customers.

I'd have spoken to the restaurant management! Paying for a meal whilst after your dates been jumped on constantly is not on. I would not be paying for the damm meal.

I would have said something either to the waiter or the manager.

Then later on i would have wee'd through the letterbox.

Onzadog has got it right in one - the owner of that business would have to foot the bill for his waiter's snide approach what a cheeky bar steward.....lol

Depends on the date's reaction to the whole affair. If she took it as harmless fun then seeing you do the whole alpha-male thing and making a fuss rather than having a laugh about it probably means end of (brief) relationship. If she was upset about it then different story.

I hope you didn't tip him; your date will think you're a real pussy.

Never have a go at people bringing you food; that's a good way of getting saliva in your nosh.

this thread is useless without pics............. of your date of course not the horny waiter 😉

of your date of course not the horny waiter

No, I wanna see the waiter too!

[i]No, I wanna see the waiter too![/i]

The horny waiter. Yesterday:
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[i]I hope you didn't tip him; your date will think you're a real pussy.[/i]

Ha! NO!!! In fact my date paid for diner while I was up in the toilet! I reckon I played it right not causing a scene, she wouldn't have liked it. Shocking behaviour though!

Bloke flirts with girl. Film at 11.

id file a complaint.

I wooduv stuck a fork in his neck...

I wooduv stuck a fork in his neck...

Someone's feeling better!

..But on a more constructive note:

Women, all women, even the most intelligent, sophisticated women, still like a bloke to be a little bit protective of them. Tricky situation, for you, as you don't want to frighten her off, yet still want her to feel 'fought over', a tiny bit.

In this sort of situation, praps a good course of action would be to say to the bloke 'yes, she's stunning, is not she? Now, be a good chap, and go and get us 2 coffees please'. In this way, you are asserting your dominance and power, without any caveman aggression or violence. She'd admire the way you handled the situation, and be secretly very impressed. This will stand you in good stead, in future...

He may have been physically bigger than you, but your power comes in the fact that he's 'only' the waiter. You cooduv used the psychology well to your advantage on this one. 'Yes, I'm only a small bloke, but look, I'm in here with a stunning woman, and you're just the waiter serving us'.

No disrespect to waiters of course...

The next time (if there indeed is a next time) you have a date, be prepared to be more assertive if such an occasion arises. No, she won't want you to be a violent aggressive ****er, but she'll be more impressed with someone who plays it cool, yet still gains the upper hand, than someone who laughs nervously at a situation he has little control over.

The fact that you're posting about this on here, shows you are just a little bit miffed; this has been an afront to your manhood, albeit in quite a small way.

Don't let it happen again. As they say on STW all too often, but perhaps more valid in this case than most; MTFU!

i hope you didn't leave a tip

Wee in his shoes. Job done.

I would type a quick letter to the owner of the venue, and probably not tell the date about it.

You could have a lot of fun if she's still got the number. There are numerous places you could put it...

Should've complained to the manager and got a big reduction in the bill.

Sorry - was it not a cappuccino? OK, latte, whatever.

If the waiter's quite fit, can you give him my number please?

DD; you're [i]such[/i] a slut... 🙄

I can see it was an awkward situation for the OP- kick up a fuss and he could have been seen to have been the dick.

I would have made a right scene. Then again, in a Barcelona Restaurant I asked a waiter then the manager if the place was a strip bar as he was charging stripbar prices. Asked him repeatdly openly. Waiter couldnt help but laugh but the manager didnt take it soo well. Others around me were in agreement. Food was priced everywhere but no mention of drinks prices..funny that.

Back to the OP. Its flattering but its also insulting. Its also a good guage of the girl you are with- you kinda see whats shes like from the start I guess.

Yo ****, you crazy? Shoulda told that white boy "You fvckin' with me? You think you slick. You ain't. This shit happen again you ain't gonna be serving no more, you gonna be out down the bottom end of Stockton sucking a forty and yelling Five-Oh"

Has someone been watch The Wire again?

DD; you're [i]such[/i] a slut...

Can't argue with that...

Pics, please. Of DD, this time.

😈

And - [i]you gonna be out down the bottom end of Stockton[/i] - what's wrong with that, J-boy? That's just where I'm from.

Pics, please. Of DD, this time.

What? Of me and the waiter? There's sites on yonder interweb if you wanna see stuff like that in more detail 😯

[i]What? Of me and the waiter? There's sites on yonder interweb if you wanna see stuff like that in more detail [/i]

Oooh. Didn't know you were a part-time pornstar.
I was after something tasteful, but never mind.

:-p

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Don't be horrible.

That child is not hers anyway. Look at it; too dark. Not a mixed-race kiddie. Probbly adopted. Which means those people are really lovely, to adopt a tiny baby.

Come on; positive vibes...

Mingsta you did exactly the right thing. I can't believe any bloke would want to do any different. So he gave her his number, big deal!! Obviously means you have an attractive, and honest, girlfriend - well done you 🙂

RB if my bloke reacted over something like that, I would NOT be impressed.

My missus wouldn't have let the bloke sit down, let alone take the number...

My missus wouldn't have let the bloke sit down, let alone take the number...

Ouch

My missus wouldn't have let the bloke sit down, let alone take the number...

Ouch

I'd have pushed him out of the chair and left her to pay the bill

RB if my bloke reacted over something like that, I would NOT be impressed.

I'm not advocating angry or aggressive action, not necessary. Just show the disrespectful turd of a waiter who's boss. IE; 'I am accompanying this lovely young lady this evening, not you, sunshine so vamos...'. By getting him to have to do his job, and carry out a task for you, you are showing your assertiveness and dominance.

And don't try telling me women never want blokes to be just a teensy bit 'manly'. Because you'd be lying.

All part of Nature's Game, in't it? Males will compete for the attention of females. Like the vast majority of blokes on here, I'd be a tad pissed off this waiter was trying it on with a lass I had intentions toward. Would you want a bloke to supress all his male instincts?

There are of course ways and means of dealing with it. You could turn round and say something like 'Oh, she's got your number? Good! Now we'll know who to call when our drains are blocked!'. Laugh it off, but in a way that other feller feels humiliated, yet cannot react in any way. You gain the upper hand, he knows he's lost, your manhood is preserved intact, winner!

I wooduv returned at a later stage, or 'phoned, and spoken to the manager/owner, about their staffs' inappropriate behaviour. You don't chat up a customer who is out with someone ffs.

Clarey; how would you feel, if a waitress did all the flirting bit with your fella, then gave him her number?

Would you actually, even secretly, not feel a little better if he resisted her advances, and declined to accept it?

follow the waiter home then date his mother?

Like it, MrNutt; like it.

Although it does hint at an underlying evil so dark Vlad the Impaler wooduv been a bit perturbed by it... 😯

OP, I dont know what conversions you have had with your date but if she accepted his number shes not a 'keeper'.

"BTW, its not really my way, but good old fashioned fisticuffs were out of the question as he resembled a taller, more musclar version of Jean Claude Van Damme, while I'm a 10.5 stone lycra whippet! "

Have you got his number.

 

Loving BoardinBob's pic

rudeboy do you have such sage advice to give on all aspects of life or is your modest oracle-like sageness restricted to success in seducing beautiful ladies and generally being right on?

No, there are indeed many, many aspects of life that I am more than happy to give advice on.

Not cooking rice, though. For some inexplicable reason, I'm rubbish at cooking rice.

People stop and stare, in the street. Children laugh, and shout 'there's that bloke what can't cook rice propply, what a failure!'.

I feel my expertise in all other aspects of life are in some way a small consolation for my inadequacy in this one particular area...

A waiter in Pizza Express was doing the same thing to my ex a few years back. I just waited until he had cleared the table and then craftily tripped him up while he cleared the table.

you can time-travel?

I'm with RB on this one (how's the beer thing going by the way?). It was well out of order for this guy to be hitting on another guy's date/girl in the restaurant where he's working as a waiter. I couldn't give a shoot whether he's a waiter or a shoot-the-shit uber-cocktail bar man, there are places you don't go - and hitting on another guy's date so indiscreetly is one of them. Let's be fair here, if he's that much of a bell-end, then how much respect does he deserve in return from the OP.

I think I'd have been tempted to belittle the tw4t in front of a few people - but then again, you make a judgement according to the type of girl you're dating...if she's a strongly independent soul, then it might be best to leave it be and not make a scene in front of her but let her know you weren't too happy about it.

If she's the type to want a bit of protectiveness, then make a joke out of it to the waiter, make him look like a cock and move on. But I might still be tempted to go back in and have a word with his boss, saying you won't ever be eating in there again and that you "...know a lot of mates who bring girls here for dates and you'll be letting them know what to expect...etc...etc..."

I'm still curious though as the OP hasn't said...did she retain the number or scrunch it up and leave it on the table? The more I think about this one, the harder it gets to decide what I'd do.

I would have told him to **** off and teach him sparring lessons Jean Claude ;o)

One guy tried it with GF and slapped me on the face as a thank you gesture for talking to her while she was powdering her nose.

Told me he was a boxer etc I had him pinned on the table face in food and said he better leave before I knock his teeth out.

GF came back from toilets and I told her he had to leave just as the bar manager bought me a drink on the house lol true story.

Don't be stupid like me, just use your brain and out think the guy-show him up-didn't you see me at the std clinic the other day-call me for your blood results etc.

I also danced with most of the ladies that night and told GF never to mess me around as she got jealous to the point of tears.

I know it's wrong but a lady should value/respect you and you should respect her too.

Try some weights?

Not cooking rice, though. For some inexplicable reason, I'm rubbish at cooking rice.

buy a rice cooker every asian oriental person i know owns a rice cooker, personally as i vary my staple food i don't see the need but there is defiantly a difference between my rice cooked on a hob and their. Could you also be using different rice to the professionals say basmati rather than jasmine or vice versa 😉

buy a rice cooker every asian oriental person i know owns a rice cooker

Yes, but that's no good to me...

...I'm from Hackney. 😯

It don't matter what type of rice it is, I always bloody ruin it. If I'm doing a meal with rice, I just get someone else round to cook it. I've given up.

Depending on the stage of your relationship, personally I'd have been miffed that the girl hadn't told the waiter where to go. Her sitting and chatting to him suggests she's open to other offers. Glad to say that the times my other half has been "approached" I'm happy and confident because she's firm and confident in saying "I'm not interested, please go away" to their face. If she did anything else I'm not sure I'd want to be with her.

In such a situation you should ask yourself; what would george have done?

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If she's taking waiters numbers, she's not exactly aiming high is she?

Time to move on methinks, you've been made a tw4t of...

Vamos means "Let's go", rudeboi. Are you suggesting getting off with the waiter?

Vamos, do one, scarper, gehdahdavit, etc... 😉

Rudeboy............honestly honestly this isn't hypothetical in our household. We have both been chatted up discreetly and indiscreetly in each others company. I just do not see how and why it would be a problem when you are in a happy and secure relationship!

I can't believe mens attitude is in anyway confrontational. That is SO not atractive to me. Surely the simple fact that you are the one walking out og the restaurant with the woman is enough! She took the number, maybe just being polite, but she mentioned it straight away not knowing she had been watched. Honestly, some of you need to get a grip!

I just do not see how and why it would be a problem when you are in a happy and secure relationship!

But he's not! He's only 'dating'... and possibly still feeling a bit insecure about things.

The waiter shoon't be trying to chat customers up, speshly if they're with someone who they appear to be in some kind of relationship with. It's unprofessional and rude. I would expect a waiter to be polite and courteous, and get me bloody dinner, not try to chat up my date!! There's flirting, and then this bloke's out of order. Sounds like it's gone ok,though, but the OP obviously has a slight issue with it, or he woon't have raised it on here!

I can't believe mens attitude is in anyway confrontational.

That's because you're not a man.... 😉

What Crikey said. Spot on-move on and dump her.

I assume that you have his phone number. The internet is full of wonderful pages to put that number into for surveys, sales enquiries, etc. I suggest you fill the forms in as 'Mr Anus'

In case this was going unnoticed, best post EVER;

cynic-al - Member

you can time-travel?

PMSL

BTW - has the restaurant been named? STW Xmas dinner venue... see how cocky he wants to be then.

Clareymorris - while your post has some logical merit, it simply goes to show that you have no idea about how the majority of mens minds work 🙂

No decent bloke would try to chat up an *obviously* attached lass, which means the waiter is a bottom feeding moron at best. The fact that she sat and chatted to him could have meant he was just being pleasant and eventually decided to hand over his number which she mentioned to her current bloke as a passing comment, however this is not a long-standing and secure relationship - while I would be fairly happy that my other half would simply bin the number and walk off (if she felt she couldnt tell him she wasnt interested due to some strange politeness attack) most men in a new-ish relationship would not find that at all amusing and it is, quite frankly, rude to the current bloke. "I'm here having a nice time with you, but I'll get his number while you're not here...ooh I have to own up to it in case he saw me coming back from the loo/bar etc"