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Whatever happened to Houns and Gym girl?


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 1:09 pm
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Suspense is killing me. Mods, any chance we can have this as a sticky?

He's been having that for the last 13 years !!!


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 1:24 pm
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😆


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 1:25 pm
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How many times do you take no sorry I'm busy as an answer when trying to see her.... So far I'm at twice cancelled and then 2 no sorry can't do that I'm busy


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 1:28 pm
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I've got mates who had marriages last a shorter time than this saga

Get on with it!


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 1:30 pm
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How many times do you take no sorry I'm busy as an answer when trying to see her.... So far I'm at twice cancelled and then 2 no sorry can't do that I'm busy

It means, "sorry, i've found someone else to give me a good shagging, but i know you have a bit of a crush on me and i can't find the heart to tell you yet"


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 1:31 pm
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Shoulda coulda woulda


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 1:31 pm
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You owe it to stw to keep this thread going until at least Christmas so persevere.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 1:32 pm
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How many times do you take no sorry I'm busy as an answer when trying to see her.... So far I'm at twice cancelled and then 2 no sorry can't do that I'm busy

Sounds to me like she suspects. Are you sure she's not on here?


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 2:18 pm
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So far I'm at twice cancelled and then 2 no sorry can't do that I'm busy

It's not looking good is it.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 3:08 pm
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Well, it's looking great for her.

She gets Xmas pressies from him and Xmas pressies from the new bloke.. it's a Win Win for her.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 3:10 pm
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@OP: http://www.pof.com/


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 3:13 pm
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don't know what you've said , but not sounding like she got the hots for you !


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 3:19 pm
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How many times do you take no sorry I'm busy as an answer when trying to see her.... So far I'm at twice cancelled and then 2 no sorry can't do that I'm busy

And with that......

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Posted : 06/12/2012 5:59 pm
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How many times do you take no sorry I'm busy as an answer when trying to see her.... So far I'm at twice cancelled and then 2 no sorry can't do that I'm busy

Girls don't like quitters, she's just playing hard to get and trying to see how much you want to be with her.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 6:03 pm
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Send her a bloody text. Ffs man.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 6:14 pm
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Ok I've nailed her down to lunch on Saturday.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 6:36 pm
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Ok I've nailed her, down to 'lunch' on Saturday.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 6:38 pm
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take it have you got past that 'hurst' ?

down to lunch on Saturday.

dining at the Y ?


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 6:38 pm
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Lunch?

Fruity


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 6:40 pm
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Ok I've nailed her

Brilliant was it as good as you expected

down to lunch on Saturday

AH not quite then - lets hope she is not telling you about Mr new or bringing him with here


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 6:40 pm
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Ok I've nailed her down to lunch on Saturday.

You might have to let her go sooner than that 🙂 although keep her hydrated she should be ok?


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 6:43 pm
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Altogether in a Craig David style..

I've nailed her down to lunch on Saaaaturday, we were at the clinic on Suuuunday, we were back on it on Monday, and Tuesday and Wednensday and Thurrsday and back to clinic on Friiiiday


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 6:53 pm
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I reckon the OP will need 2 cans of petrol, some large bottles of bleach and a body bag for this date.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 6:57 pm
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Lol at dribbling.

WTF is the kid/fire extinguisher pic about?


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 7:02 pm
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If you don't do it at the lunch, I'm gonna hunt you down, kick you hard in the balls, then whilst you're rolling on the floor in pain I'm gonna call her invite her over and do her right in front of you 😡


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 7:09 pm
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Lunch!

For the love of God. Its taken this long you need a little Dutch courage so a few beers at lunch could wipe you out.

Plus all those images of her haunting you when on Saturday she cancels as she met a guy who actually had a pair and took her out on Friday!


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 7:28 pm
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😆 Excellent thread. Good luck op! Have we had a picture of her yet?


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 7:30 pm
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I do hope she says yes but as many have said here you need to get it sorted. Just for our collective mental health so we can all move on!


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 7:39 pm
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OP were all expecting an update by 4pm on Saturday then. In fact just leave STW open on you smartphone over lunch and give us a blow by blow account (so to speak)


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 7:47 pm
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WTF is the kid/fire extinguisher pic about?

Flames [of passion] being put out I assume Al


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 7:47 pm
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😆 STW of old.. 😆

BTW OP before you do ask. Your not my type. Sorry.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 7:51 pm
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I would love to be a fly on the wall. Agree with Merak night time date drinks, food, nice conversation, coffee! Breakfast!

Plus its a bit early to go onto shots if she knocks you back, you will wasted by 8pm.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 8:07 pm
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lunch? 🙄

However ........ how do you back into the friends zone? as in i shagged a mate a month or so ago (we were a couple for a while, way back) and now i cant get rid of her, she turns up every evening and just hangs around until its time to start cooking, im basically in a relationship where we aren't sleeping together but i cook her dinner every night and now she seems to want me to train her sisters dog FFS. help


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 8:22 pm
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Jonah thats got to be a separate thread but just tell her you girlfriend will be here in a bit so she should make herself scarce.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 8:28 pm
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thats not going to work pingu, she has been hanging round too long now, she knows im single 🙁


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 8:33 pm
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Lunch? Lunch! Lunch is what she does with her OGBF**.

Fail.

** I looked it up http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=really%20good%20gay%20male%20friend


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 8:34 pm
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My post was deleted! Nazis. I was genuinely trying to help the guy he must have balls like water melons by now.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 8:35 pm
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However ........ how do you back into the friends zone?...

Wait 'til Saturday afternoon then introduce her to OP.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 8:36 pm
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Brilliant mattjg,that'll kill two.....,well one of them metaphors


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 8:40 pm
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pls: could somebody who knows OP figure out time and venue, lurk in the background and tweet updates

Hashtag #outoffriendzone


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 8:40 pm
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Lunch doesn't sound good. Seems like he's being led to a public place with minimal potential for alcohol to receive some bad news.

Dinner, this would be good. Means you have her for the evening. Lunch means she can make the kill and then get out of there.


 
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@OP: I have the feeling you just try to keep on delaying the "moment".

Believe me, by doing this, you are just putting yourself under torture, whatever she will say and no matter how awkward it might feel, it's BY FAR better having remorses than regrets.

Now stop thinking how it could go, how you're gonna ask, what's the best way to react and all this bullshit where you try to predict how this is gonna be because in the end it will be different...

If I were you, I would not wait for this "dinner" to say it, I would go ASAP to her place (now for example, don't wait for your pleasure, you know you want it).

Be sincere, don't make up a speech!
Again, whatever she'll say, you'll never look back so :
1) MTFU
2) MTFU
3) go to her place now (if you have the time to read this, you'd better be there at the moment)
4) once said , you'll be happy to be done with it (plus maybe you'll have a girlfriend, only bonus here)

you should be heading toward her place now...


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 8:56 pm
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Uhhh, best of luck though eh!!


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 8:56 pm
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god no she might be having a nice cup of tea, sat down ready for Jamie & Jimmy's Food Fight Club

the sure way to get a no is to turn up unannounced in the middle of the night


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 8:59 pm
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it's BY FAR better having remorses than regrets

Trying to figure out what that means. No, give up.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 9:00 pm
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OP you are a tenacious bastard, I will be honest it ain't looking good but you might as well go for it you having nothing left to lose, the dignity is well gone.

Bon chance


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 9:08 pm
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Don't people who are about to get fired sometimes get taken to "lunch"


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 9:12 pm
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Lunch = mate

The dream is over but you can pull your wire over anyone you want to again. It's not like cheating on her now.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 9:16 pm
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sad now


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 9:17 pm
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I can't go an see her now due to the fact I'm at work.

Lunch is looking bad I must admit. A mixture is uni exams and the run up to Christmas (and all the other guys she is seeing) means she is busy every night next week.

I'm almost tempted to say sod it and go to Rome tomorrow for the weekend, but if I do it will be two weeks before I see her again. And in two weeks were going to les mis then I am staying at hers then we are spending the day together in London.

I'm imagining its going to be very much like the scene out of kick ass. And not the one where the guy gets shot.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 9:43 pm
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Flash grenades.......


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 9:45 pm
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You'll get my shot over your face if you don't do it 😡


 
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(and all the other guys she is seeing) means she is busy every night next week.

God bless her.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 10:04 pm
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Nice troll OP 7/10


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 10:09 pm
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The problem is its not too far from what I'm actually thinking 🙁

For those who are going to be waiting lunch is going to be at 13:00


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 10:19 pm
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FerchrissakesifyoudontbloodygerronwithitImightjustbloodytopmyself


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 10:26 pm
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Don't want that on my conscious


 
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Nice troll OP 7/10

+ 1


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 10:41 pm
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Listen mate, if she's interested then it doesn't matter how you pop the question so long as you do. Action required: just f&*king call her tomorrow and say how you feel. No more BS. End of.


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 10:43 pm
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lets not put any more pressure on the lad with talk of suicide

although that might make an interesting conversation for ourmaninthenorth when he gets to the pearly gates

St. Peter: "What is your justification for taking your life gifted by god?"

Ourmaninthenorth: "Well there was this fella on an internet forum who wanted to get his end away, but he fannyed around a for a couple of weeks. I tried to fill my time taking about Orange 5's, pissing in peoples shoes and sudocrem to feline application, but in the end i just got frustrated with the waiting and did myself in with some cling film, a 12" dildo, some peanut butter and the beano annual from 1986. The methodology was a bit unusual but as you can see it was effective as i'm stood here talking to you"


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 10:48 pm
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😀


 
Posted : 06/12/2012 11:09 pm
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😆 😯


 
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If it all works out we all want an invite to the wedding. How much fun would that be. Gotta get a mention in the best mans speech.

However we will probably all be dead of old age (not suicide) by the time the OP gets round to it.


 
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and even if she ends up marrying some other guy we should still get an invite (along with OP to point out whose who)


 
Posted : 07/12/2012 12:25 am
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Get on with it man... FFS!


 
Posted : 07/12/2012 2:41 am
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best thread in ages 😀

but do hurry up eh? 😉


 
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Ask her to drop one of the other fellas/ nights out. . If she refuses you know where you stand. If she agrees then go for it. But stop fanning about, lad!


 
Posted : 07/12/2012 8:48 am
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is it a packed lunch ??


 
Posted : 07/12/2012 8:57 am
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And in two weeks were going to les mis then I am staying at hers then we are spending the day together in London.

Wait. So you're going to a musical, then staying over, then having a day shopping up west. Oh. Dear.


 
Posted : 07/12/2012 10:00 am
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Oh my god, I've just realised why this is taking so long.

It's not that she's not available, it's because she's setting him up with another OGBF!!!!!!


 
Posted : 07/12/2012 10:04 am
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wellwellwell - demand to see her immediately to get your collection of Kylie CDs back.


 
Posted : 07/12/2012 10:05 am
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Guys the OP has done well- its basically a troll. He's got alot of time on his hands admittedly but hes successfully trolled us all. Hook line and sinker...


 
Posted : 07/12/2012 10:09 am
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Tbf if she's currently getting rogered by some other bloke it's the lads own fault.


 
Posted : 07/12/2012 10:13 am
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I (skim) read 9 pages for nothing.

**throws hat on floor**


 
Posted : 07/12/2012 10:15 am
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isn't every thread on here a troll ? 😯


 
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Guys the OP has done well- its basically a troll. He's got alot of time on his hands admittedly but hes successfully trolled us all. Hook line and sinker...

Id say. What straight man would sit through les poxy mis and then go shopping even if a [s]chance[/s] promise of doing the nasty WAS on the cards


 
Posted : 07/12/2012 10:16 am
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Just out of interest: how many times a day do you phone your mum?


 
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A few years back, I used to travel up to London every day on the train and saw the girl of my dreams - Train girl.

Every morning we used to get on the same carriage and have eyes at each other but I never plucked up the courage to go talk with her. Then one day she just vanished, no more Train girl, my mates reckon she was a 'one under' so for **** sake 'seize the day' or you could miss your opportunity altogther.


 
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