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Well... Following on from this thread from only March last year ... We are 7 weeks away from adding a second baby to the house. Exciting and terrifying all at the same time.
http://singletrackmag.com/forum/topic/waiting-for-baby
We've had plenty of time to get used to the idea of another baby in the house and with an 18 month old already causing havoc we know we'll have our work cut out.
I'm imagining in the long run that having them grow up together at relatively similar ages will be a real bonus.
Just wondered if anybody has found themselves in the same position (planned or unplanned) and can share some experience 🙂
(tell me it's not soooo bad!) 🙂
That's a pretty normal gap, isn't it?
We were proper hardcore and took the twins option.
There is about 4 years between my three kids.
It its bad.
9months is close together, 18 is normal isn't it? 🙂
Same here 2 kids 18months apart (same diff between me and my sister, same diff between wife and her brother also I think) we survived, they're 4 and 6 now, was hard work, still is sometimes as they can squabble and fight a lot, probably a good idea to get all the baby making out of the way in one go so you don't have to buy everything again.
At least double buggies are cheap!
December 2010
March 2011 (baby mama)
May 2012
August 2014
Hell on earth sometimes
I'm being quite general here but I thought most waited until the first was about 3 yr old ... Seems to be the norm with my friends
December 2010
March 2011 (baby mama)
May 2012
August 2014
Feeling more optimistic now 🙂
Our two are 2.5 years apart although we tried for closer. But even this helps - it's a pain at first but then they play with each other.
I'm being quite general here but I thought most waited until the first was about 3 yr old ... Seems to be the norm with my friends
How are they going to get up to 10 if they leave that kind of gap? They'll be sorry when you've got your own show on C5 in 2025.
Ours are almost exactly one year apart. Not going to lie, it's a lot of work. When one of them is at their grandparents or something dealing with one seems ridiculously easy by comparison. Hopefully in the long run it'll work out for the best and they'll be able to engage in lots of the same activities etc etc
We were living in a wee flat and I drew the line at more nippers until we'd moved to a bigger place.
Moved house and the wee lady duly arrived 9.5 months later.
Resultant gap was roughly 2.5 years, which seems about right, he's old enough to see her as a cute baby and not a a rival but close enough that they'll hopefully 'grow up' together.
Fingers crossed eh?
dirtyrider - MemberDecember 2010
March 2011 (baby mama)
May 2012
August 2014Hell on earth sometimes
What's "Baby Mama"? Different partner?
Anyway - 9 years between ours, not sure it helped or hindered really, he's not old enough to sit of course (yet) well over and above "make sure your sister doesn't die whilst I have a pee" and it seems like a battle on two fronts sometimes - arguing with one to do his homework whilst the other forces rice crispies into my eye shouting "PEPPER PIG".
My Family have got form for it though, my Sister was born 6 months after my 18th birthday. Strangers think I'm her Dad when I'm out and about the correct response is "Actually she's my Sister" and not "No actually" which gives people all too much ammunition to come to their own conclusions.
18 months apart here, both girls... 7 the other week and 5ish. Sometimes it's really great when they actually play together 🙂 Other times, well I'm not going to go into that.
They can share a lot of stuff, mostly don't have problems with hand me downs, as long as we remember to actually get new stuff for the younger one from time to time. They often go to the same parties and they are friends with a lot of each other friends, both inside and outside school.
11m between my brother and I. Doubt dad touched the sides second time round after I barged my way out.
Bro and I fought like rats until we were 18 and have been best mates ever since.
Bro and I fought like rats until we were 18 and have been best mates ever since.
Same as my brother and I (18 months apart).
3 hours difference for me. People who complain about the difficulties involved with having A child need to strap a pair on!
My two are 18mths apart as well.
Little Miss CFH was young enough than when the Boy arrived, she wasn't jealous, it was just yet another new and exciting thing in her life. They're now superbly happy in each other's company! Am sure it won't last....!
9 months and [b]4 [/b]days* between me and my brother. My poor mother! We were even in the same year at school. It was ace, someone at home to help with homework, same group of friends, someone who would always want to go out biking, playing football, garden creeping etc.
*he was born a couple of months premature.
18 months seems fairly normal. Two of the girls who used to be in my youngest's class are sisters, 10 months between them.
Lucky sods. I've a 7 year gap between my 3. 3, 10 & 17. We wanted a much smaller gap, but just didn't work out. 7 year itch I won't be scratching again. Off to the vets...
I bet*! Our first was born early september so if we'd got a wriggle on he could have experienced that....ah well.We were even in the same year at school. It was ace
*TBH I'd have been happy with a brother of any age, I've got two sister boooooring.
14 months apart for my two, son first then daughter.
Yep it was hard work for a while, but interestingly when potty training son, daughter watches and decides she's gonna do the same. So they both came out of nappies at the same time. Seems to have been a similar story about most other things too - they reach the stages of development pretty much together.
They rarely argue (even now at 15/14) and in fact we went out last night as a family for meal and Bond movie and it was like sitting with two best mates - they were laughing and giggling together just enjoying each other's company. Wouldn't have it any other way.
Enjoy!
20 months between my daughter and my son. They're closer to each other than (I suspect) they'll ever be to us, which is nice.
No special difficulties, probably due to them being different sexes. Having two in nappies (or one in nappies and one training) is not much fun.
Never went the double buggy route, just the buggy board:
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whilst the other forces rice crispies into my eye shouting "PEPPER PIG".
Her name is PEPPA ffs.
Youngest is now 4, and there is absolutely no sodding way you'd get me back into all that baby shit now. **** that.
21/4/2009, 4/8/2010, 1/4/2014 - all boys. It's like a wolfpack, weakest one can be savaged at any moment.
14 months between ours and i was the walking dead for the 1st 5 years, started getting better when the 2nd hit 4 and its been getting better ever since.
9 and 8 now and they get along pretty well, live is much easier.
Several friends had them 18 months apart. No real problems when they were younger - apart from no nappy free gap between them - as they seem to keep each other amused and be happy doing what the other is doing.
Seems to be trickier now they are 12 and 10, youngest expecting to do what the older one does in terms of staying out, going to bed, wanting to be a teenager already etc.
Still, too late now! And like all parenting things, you'll figure what's best for your family by trial and error.
Buggy boards are great!
15 months between our two and it has worked out fine as they get on well and play happily together. Easier than having just the one child.
Youngest is now 4, and there is absolutely no sodding way you'd get me back into all that baby shit now. **** that.
Amen.
3 years between eldst and next, 15 months to the next. Not really planned beyond hazy hope of 3rd child at some point.
No.3 is born. Mrs B gets a puppy. 😯
Got 18 months between my little two, 4 yr girl, 6 yr boy, I'll be honest it's like constant warfare from the minute they get up until they are asleep. My little girl has spent every waking moment trying to kill/mame/torture her older brother.
Add to this the older two teenagers who constantly bicker I'm surprised they haven't all ended up under the patio yet.
Individually they are great kids, put them together however...
Similar to Stoner with my Brother. 14mnths between us, fought loads as kids. I moved out at 18 and we didn't speak for a few years. But all sorted now. I was best man at his wedding and in two weeks time he's donating me his stem cells. So very pleased we made up. Good luck you'll be fine.
molgrips - Member
whilst the other forces rice crispies into my eye shouting "PEPPER PIG".
Her name is PEPPA ffs.
Everyone makes mistakes and she's only 14 months, bloody Pendants 😉
I've been the same age as my sister for 480 days of my life. It's like growing up with a twin. Said sister managed four babies in six years, as did my other sister. We waited three years between ours.
Just wait till GCSE/A level/Uni exam time - the angst will never stop 😈
For 2days a year my son and daughter are the same age ... eldest birthday 31st December and youngest 29th December.
Quite difficult when they were babies. Manage to get one asleep, then the other would cry and wake the other up.
They are both very different personality wise. But really close.
As above, wot's that ?March 2011 (baby mama)
I've got two boys, 15 months apart. Currently they are 3 and 5. I can echo pretty much everything that is above; fight like wild things? check. Best mates? Check. Sometimes easier because they entertain each other? Check. Often the hell that is constant peacekeeping, complete with UN style flack jacket and helmet? Check. Incredibly easy on the rare occasion that I just have one to look after? Check.
OP; good luck. It'll be (constant, grinding) hard work, but it'll never be boring.
Had 3 girls in 5 years.. Work rate increases exponentially with each child..
11yr Gap between my two(same mum she swore never again after the first then relented over time).
Seems to work out ok as the older one can help with babysitting the youngest.
as long as it aint twins, youll be fine