[Closed] has anyone ever snapped at their boss?

[i]has anyone ever snapped at their boss?[/i]

I tried to tell my wife she was wrong once.

There was no amusing outcome.

Many times, I've even had a few toe to toe screaming arguments with him

I'm more mellow these days and so is he 🙂

Yes, I'm not saying who

ive punched an old boss of mine in the nuts once ......

We were both very drunk in a bar in alkmaar.

oddly after that he seemed to have alot more respect for me .....

[i]ive punched an old boss of mine in the nuts once ......

oddly after that he seemed to have alot more respect for me[/i]

I bet he's employed taller people since then, too.

No, but I left one drunk and asleep in a hotel bar once, in Belgium...

According to the barman; he woke up, swore and left the hotel.

Funny that as it was our hotel bar we'd come back to. 😀

I punched an old boss back when I was a teenager. I was working at HMV part time whilst at University. I'd misplaced a book of vouchers and he told me I was an idiot, an imbecile etc which angered me but then his final blow was to point out that in a job that requires an IQ of anything above 60 to be successful I had managed to fall short of the mark.

So, I just punched him in the face and walked out.

Yes, in a moment of high stress. I tend to unleash where he tended to hold it in. One day he was (unusually) really arsey and irritable with me and I just let fly at him. Soon calmed down and we got on even better afterwards. He's since retired but has been brilliant at helping me out at queries etc since, beyond the call of duty. An excellent (ex-) boss.

Yes, frequently. The last time after a production meeting he openly gave the team leaders some "constructive criticism" his words. Reality was "that meeting was utter s, improvements will be made tomorrow"

He left, I then called him back to my office and in front of the other team leaders told him he was a guest at my production meeting and if he wanted to behave like a c then to f*** off and not come back. Didn't show his face the day after. Been quiet as a mouse since.

I have a reputation as a straight talker. Nothing gets sugar coated. But I'm honest and respectful if others behave in the same way.

I told an old boss "if he spoke like that to me again I'd break his ****ing legs" luckily i had alreadt handed in my notice!

I got so fed up of the general idiocy on display by the team I once worked amongst, that during a big strategy meeting with the entire branch plus the national manager, when asked if I had anything to add I demanded that everyone in the company 'please just f*** off'. Everyone laughed, until I stood by my request and asked the receptionist to officially add it to the minutes.

Though being of very lowly rank myself, I once shouted at the deputy-chief nurse of a large NHS Trust.

Yep, had a couple of me shouting and him listening sessions when he tried to bully me. He's much better now.

Recently got told I should stop treating the disabled people I work with like normal people and start treating them like kids. I'm not one to lose it very often, so have taken nearly a week to think it over and decide how to respond. Not entirely sure how it's going to go, but doubt it will be amusing.

Yes, well, with my previous boss. Had a discussion on the phone (he is American) which turned into a disagreement, following which I found out how strong Avaya phones were when I slammed the handset down hard enough to bounce the thing off my desk accompanied by a shout of the C-bomb.

He is no longer my boss. I still work at the company.

Was at a Christmas party and a colleague knocked out the boss/owner with a turkey!
That was quite a shocker!

...I just let fly at him. Soon calmed down and we got on even better afterwards

Got into a shouting match with my boss once and we had loads more respect for each other afterwards. Don't know how that works

I shout at myself quite regularly, I've never sacked myself, yet.

Argued, vociferously at times, but not snapped.

Once. Walked into the office ten minutes late one morning to be told by the chief engineer that I should have been at my desk at nine. Proceeded to explain in a not so calm manner that given that I was at my desk at seven the previous morning and didn't leave it until eight in the evening I could probably be let off with the ten minutes. That man had absolutely no people skills (and this is coming from another engineer!).

Yes when I was younger, I was being stitched up to cover his incompetence. Going through the disciplinary procedure I had my notice in my pocket so let him have both barrels and told him what a lying low life scum bag he really was. then left.

Not snapped exactly, but last 2 jobs have involved working for well-known difficult people, causing me to be depressed. I raised this in both situations and ended up leaving both.

Latest job, boss is another tool, I've told him I'm not happy there and why, he doesn't care (despite saying he wanted to talk things over and for everyone to be happy), but keeps saying he'll run out of work for me in a couple of months, thinkg is he CBA even managing his own business.

So, if you want to keep your job, don't.

EDIT I've not had a decent boss for 9 years. HELP!

RealMan - Member
Recently got told I should stop treating the disabled people I work with like normal people and start treating them like kids. I'm not one to lose it very often, so have taken nearly a week to think it over and decide how to respond. Not entirely sure how it's going to go, but doubt it will be amusing.

Having worked with both highly intelligent disabled and mentally ill patients and seriously childish and mentally deranged staff, just treat the ones who told you off like children, perhaps by asking the person next to them do they want sugar in their tea, have they been to the toilet, etc etc, all things that used to get asked of staff looking after disabled people, they usually got put right quite quickly.

Nope, never. I'm all grown up and can control my temper tantrums

@realman
That is unbelievably small minded of the person who said that. Please make sure they don't get away with it.

I've an incredibly high tolerance level of asshats but I can't abide bullies and he was being incredibly rude and condescending to someone and was laughing when he nearly made them cry!
He's tried and failed to bully me and doesn't dare confront me, but I can't manage to stop him doing it to other people.
I'm already looking for something else

That is unbelievably small minded of the person who said that. Please make sure they don't get away with it.

What makes it worse is that the person who said it is the parent of one of the disabled people being referred to. I argued with them when they said it (and other things), but I was absolutely starving and very distracted at the time, and I think quite taken back by what they had said, wasn't until I got home until I had a sort of double take and thought "WTF?".

told mine she was a f@cking c@nt last week for dropping me in the sh1t with directors, she took it quite well, though the rest of our lunch was quite quiet.

I must be doing something right then as no-one has let rip at me yet in 6 plus years 🙂

But then if you treat people with respect it's reciprocated.

I don't really snap, but apparently I "went a bit scary" one time back when I was working in branches. Not only stopped my boss from being a dick to me, but to the whole office. For a while at least. I don't really know what I did tbh but I remember saying things like "the next thing you say will have consequences" and afterwards not being able to breathe properly 😳 never raised my voice above a whisper apparently.

I work in a very political department where there is never so much as a raised voice - everything is considered, measured and calm.
People don't really have 'bosses' as such, you have someone who is responsible for your development but everyone strictly speaking reports to the big boss man who you hardly ever interact with unless you're a level below him.
There is basically a veil of political niceness and a slight underlying fear combined with the fact that there's no-one to raise your voice to, (apart from IT support and the printer) that mean arguing is futile.

Completely lost it at a team meeting, ripped into the company, threatened the manager and fair few of his lackeys too. Calmed down slightly then came back for the second round, shortest meeting ever

Suspended and ended up with final written warning, slightly mitigated by the steroid induced rage (very high dose of 60mg a day to break up a severe cluster headache bout)

Realman - stop calliing them disabled people, start calling them people. There are no disabled people, there are just people. There might be people who for one reason or another are unable to do certain things, but then again we are all unable to do certain things.

I think the fact that they are disabled is pretty integral to the problem I'm having, and it's also integral to the job I do. I think you're also verging on the edge of being too politically correct. Sure, they're people, but they're also people who are disabled (by a reasonable definition of the word). Hence they're disabled people.

At least once a week. No fallout (yet)

Recently I've been very close on a number of occasions, but in all fairness we are both under loads of pressure at the moment, so I can see why she is not always 100% polite.

I have been becoming something of a grumpy, miserable bastard of late, though - so perhaps it's time to just pretend I'm happy about all of my working life slipping away whilst 'fighting fires' and letting other people do all the 'projecty' attention-grabbing stuff. Grrrrrrr!

Why not think of them as having whichever condition it is, or be more specific with their impairment.

Is a blind person disabled or blind? Deaf - disabled? Someone with a mobility impairment - disabled? Aspergers - disabled?

Calling them disabled is daft.

Why not think of them as having whichever condition it is, or be more specific with their impairment.

Is a blind person disabled or blind? Deaf - disabled? Someone with a mobility impairment - disabled? Aspergers - disabled?

Calling them disabled is daft.

Ever think of becoming a spin doctor?

David Cameron called, he want's you as a political adviser to the disability benefits program.

Yes to the first 3, but I think Aspergers is more of a disorder then a disability, but I'm not a medical dictionary, so not sure.

I'm pretty sure they'd all disagree with you too, they know they're disabled. Ignoring it doesn't change anything, it just confuses issues unnecessarily. Would you rather disabled car park spaces be called something else?

I used to work in a bar, well i've worked in a fair few bars over the past 20 years but this one bar in particular (certain well known pre-club bar in the centre of Glasgow) was ran by a smarmy little git of a coke head who would never say boo to anyone unless he was coked up. One sat afternoon he started making comments regarding the new member of bar staff who happened to be female, young (18), and with a rather well developed upper torso. It started off with the usual sly comments but as the afternoon dragged on he got more and more coked up till he started to make comments everytime he walked past her till she eventually ran down to the cellar crying,i blew my top (as i knew the girls older sister well) and smacked him hard with a full punch and knocked him backwards into the optic stand on the back bar sending 8 full bottles crashing to the floor and knocking him out for a good few seconds in front of a very stunned and silent crowd in the bar, i grabbed his rather large baggie of coke from his shirt pocket, grabbed the one unbroken bottle of Stolichnya on the floor and we (myself and the girl along with a good few mates) spent the rest of the afternoon and night getting totally shit-faced at Harri n' Dominic's night at the Sub-Club in Glasgow. One of the best nights i've ever had surprisingly enough :D, it still gets talked about to this day amongst us.

Glupton talking bowloks again shocker.... 😉

aged 15 on a Y.t.scheme working for a real tit of an owner,at the christmas party,posh hotel,he thought it was funny,spiking my drinks,I was on the same table as him and his family,someones was giving a speech,until i projectile vomited over him,his wife and daughter.the silence was deafening

What about partially blind/deaf/mobile - when do they become disabled? Is it when society doesnt make allowances to use what vision/hearing/mobility because it would get in the way of "normal" life. Impairments tend to be conditions - disabilities are the effects of those conditions. Disabilities change with situation.

What about partially blind/deaf/mobile - when do they become disabled? Is it when society doesnt make allowances to use what vision/hearing/mobility because it would get in the way of "normal" life. Impairments tend to be conditions - disabilities are the effects of those conditions. Disabilities change with situation.

I told mine to get out my f***ing way and start doing her job as i'm not payed to, I told her i frequently thought she was a usless bint and should either stay out my way or better yet go **** herself aomewhere she might be needed.

Fallout was me getting a bolloking from the Area manager, who ended up laughing and saying he knows exactly what i mean but to try and keep it to my self next time

Yep.
50% of our team had recently been caught fiddling their figures. It was a team effort. Quite a big team effort.
They should have been fired.
About a week later I'm called in to get a rollicking for not reaching my figures. I told the boss there was no way I was going to take a kicking for not reaching my figures when he'd not the spine to do what he should have with the 6 cheats...

Many, many moons ago I used to work in a factory in Failsworth, Manchester. Manny (of stone roses fame) used to work on the shop floor. IIRC, he was sacked for punching his supervisor.

OK, Glupton, we all get your point. Now tell us a story about punching people or go away

Ooo oo, or what about the one about leaving people in your dust, that was a good un. Go on, tell it again 🙂

Glupton disabled people are disabled by society's inability to accomadate their needs, be it wheelchair access, large print etc etc, not by whatever condition they have. Hence the term disabled being perfectly acceptable.

Well, there was this one day up at Innerleithen, must have been 4 years ago now. My and a mate of mine, onehundredthidiot off of here, were out for a ride on the singlespeeds, his bike was rigid, mine had toras on the front of it. We were sitting at the top by the trig pillar enjoying the sunny day. Anyway - these two folk on commencal meta 5.5s come up, wearing all the gear, including armour - now i'm not sure if they were wearing armour or stopped at the top to put it on - it doesnt matter. Onehundredthidiot looked at me, I looked at him and we both had the same idea - give them a minute or two and then go and make them eat dust. So we gave them a good couple of minutes before chasing off after them. We had passed them both by the time we got to the junction of the old and new sections after the southern upland way. We then trundled along the fire road to the top of plora craig section, they decided to go first almost pushing past us as if to say - we're quicker than you so let us go first. So we gave them a couple of minutes and proceeded to catch them early on and pass them quickly, before stopping at the bottom of the last stone chute on that section. We then waited for 5 minutes until they passed us - not a word was said. So we trundle along to the top of caddon bank. This time we had a brief chat at the top, before one of the guys paid us a complement that we could fairly shift given the bikes we were on. The other guy said something along the lines of "yes - light bikes so they'll descend quickly" We then tore off down caddon bank and despite them definitely setting off down caddon bank, they never appeared at the car park in the time we were there.

That the story you were after? 😀

sam42 - did you read my posts?

I shout at myself quite regularly, I've never sacked myself, yet.

I'm really hard on myself, i have a jolly good word in the mirror once a week.

Aaahh, that's the one. Now the one about punching the bloke who bumped into your little lad. Go on, you know you want to 🙂

There was no story about punching anyone. There was a factual account of me deflecting someone who was running to grab my son after the wee fella had fallen over at edinburgh zoo. My then 2yr old boy fell over - stranger starts running to pick him up which would have blocked me from picking my son up, so I stepped between the stranger and my son af the guy bounced off me and fell over. It's not that exciting that story though.

Sorry, I obviously wasn't paying attention that day. I can't recall anymore of your stories now so I'll leave you alone to argue about how 'differently functioning' people should be described 🙂

Several years ago I had a stand up row with my one-time boss. He's one of the country's most respected corporate lawyers.

Well, I say "stand up row". Given he's only 5'3", he stood up but I remained seated. 😉

I recently had a boss who liked to throw his weight around a bit but I had never had any problems with him personally. One day he basically tasked me with some hair brained scheme which I told him was a waste of time.
Funnily enough, it turned out to be a waste of time.
The next day he pulled me aside, accused me of insubordination and being lazy etc, then threatened to "take it outside" if it ever happened again.
In silence I walked over and pressed the lift button while taking my jacket off and rolling up my sleeves.
He paled a bit and refused to get in the lift with me.
Funny, he's not said boo to me since 😈
(but I am glad he never followed too!)

There's either a lot of incredibly angry people on here, or a lot of liars.

or we work with idiots ....

mines was because the fella in question thought when he was drunk it was a good idea to try and rip the pockets off our trousers ....

he managed with one of the lads , we all thought it was a laugh haha - carry on.

later on in the night he tried it with me , unfortunantly for him I wear trousers that are held together with more than duck spit and toilet paper. so he decided to try and debreek me in this busy bar - i was wearing a belt and keep my trousers on my hips.

so having no success and with me repeatedly telling him to back off and leave my trousers alone - with him getting angrier and angrier ( we were all drunk) i then punched him in the nuts.

then once he stopped recoiling we shook hands and agreed that if it happened again there would be trouble, he stopped being an arse after that.

There's either a lot of incredibly angry people on here, or a lot of liars.

I've stabbed my boss with a screwdriver, set fire to his hair, dropped heavy things on his foot, and zapped him with various voltages.

It's fun working for myself 😉

I once told my (ex) boss that it would have been nice if she had at least bought me something to eat, as ideally I like to be wined and dined before I get ****ed.

It wasn't well received.

almost - I worked for a manager for 6 months who the whole team round the bend with his tantrums and bi-polar like decision making process.

We delivered carefully planned payback on a team night out that resulted in him being woken up by the cleaner at 11:55 the following morning to find himself lying naked in a lake of his own vomit on the bathroom floor of a hotel room. He made the mistake of sharing this fact with someone else he'd screwed over earlier in their career and fortunately for us they were very happy to broadcast the fact to all and sundry.

Every office should have a Terry Taite office linebacker.

I lost it with a customer once, in Ghana. He was giving me loads of abuse and being totally unreasonable in a meeting and I just flipped and started hurling abuse / expletives at him. Oddly enough we got on much better after that.

Every office should have a Terry Taite office linebacker.

Back in my old life (railway engineering) I'd had to work night-shift at a site at the other end of the country over the weekend, meaning hours and hours of driving and very little sleep all weekend. On the Monday morning, I allowed myself a 10:30 start.

When I got into the office, my boss informed me that HE had also done a night shift at the weekend and that HE had been in the office since 8.

I asked him if he wanted a gold star. Seemed to end the matter - in fact, we got on better after that!

When our old company went bust the Top Guns (including me for some reason :-)) convened in a nearby pub to decide how we could carry on doing the same thing with 10x fewer employees

The discussion was fairly heated as you can imagine and one of my ex-colleagues accused our ex-boss of raping the company

It was water off a duck's back though the boss had the attention span of a goldfish

I told my ex boss he was 'p-ing' me off totally in front of his entire leadership team. He got booted out of the company the following day.

Then told his boss he was a 'banker' in front of other colleagues. He fell about laughing and then demoted me 🙂

Some you win, some you lose.

Best fun was telling the owner of a software house he was a lazy, useless tosser that was dragging his company down. As he was trying to get a huge contract from us at the time he wasn't best placed to argue...

Sadly I had a reputation for gobbing off at people. Eventually (after the banker incident above) HR put me on a coaching course where I learnt to be rude to people without using offensive langauge 😉

update: things have escalated to involve the director and i'm a hair trigger off raising an official grievance. No raised voices (or turkeys) required so far as it turns out I'm remarkably restrained for an STW user!