Goodbye and thanks

Hope you’re ok

I have always wanted to  delete my account as well. But I dont think you can  ?

Anyways, Good Luck and I wish you well.

RT

Don't blame you mate.This place is not good at the moment.

Don’t blame you mate.This place is not good at the moment.

It's as good as you make it - with some great people and advice.

All the best and take good care of yourself!

🤗

@tpbiker As someone who has to read the comments (and social media, and the forum) for work, I totally understand what you mean about it feeling unhealthy sometimes. But equally, there is support and fellowship to be found online, I think. I hope you get the break you need, and times get better for you. There's a difference between peace and isolation, and there'll always be someone here to chat and offer an ear - so if things get too tough, please come back! Likewise, if you find happiness, I'm sure we'd all like to hear about it (Lord knows plenty of us are in need of tips!).

All the best.

Hannah

tp, dont be rash mate. Ditch SM for sure but your recent interaction on here in "that thread" shouldn't be the reason to cut yourself off. In real life or on here.

There are a lot of people struggling with life on here, for a multitude of reasons and at it's best this place is phenomenal.

Have a break, go for a walk/ride, give a mate a call you haven't chatted to fire a while. You've got some cash soon, plan an adventure, do something stupid, start planning. Well help suggest something daft I'm sure!😁

Love can mess you up but it'll get better.

Tinder is heavily clichéd but I speak from experience, sign up, get chatting. You dont have to date, chat, flirt have a laugh.

One day you'll look back at this whole event and it'll bring a knowing smile to your face. It'll just be a little story amongst all the others in your life. Sounds impossible right now, I get it, but things will improve.

Most importantly of all, you have a working cock. Never underestimate a working cock.👍😉

All the best to you you'll be welcome back should you decide to return

It’s as good as you make it – with some great people and advice.

I agree, but would note:

1/ it is a mainly middle-aged, middle class man forum and (sweeping generalisation, flame me) we're not necessarily known for being empathetic as our default. We solve problems. STW is a bit like that critical friend that i think we all need at times, that say 'yes you're wrong, and this is why and this is what you should do about it'. If you wanted a 'aww, that sounds awful, do you want a hug' response to your recent thread then there's other places you're more likely to get that. Mumsnet maybe (joke, you'd be shredded if STW is too robust)

2/ NWS 1/ there can be a tendency to a pile on. While i don't like the 'Give me advice, no not that advice' that some threads become, once you've had the critical friend's answer, getting it another 26 times in ever increasing robust terms can be a bit demotivating. Maybe we all need to consider that while we think we might just be saying 'yeah, that' how it lands is not always the same.

3/ Just like any walk of life there's some complete pricks on here, just here to troll or for the argument. While I try not to read the poster's name before reading a contribution, so I'm not automatically toning the post, they stand out a mile. Skip over, they're just doing it for shits and giggles and focus on the 'great people and advice' bit.

This place is not good at the moment.

If you stay away from the politics threads it's not a bad place at all.

My other takeaway from tp's thread is dont post anything too emotive on a Monday morning.

It's occurred to me that the Monday Morning Breakfast Club™ are a tough bloody crowd! Lol

This place can be shit and awesome.  The mauling you got was in the shit category but on balance, there's a hell of a lot more awesome.

Stick around, you are very much a net contributor on here.  Someday soon, someone else will be having a bad time and your input might be something that helps them. Can't do that if you're not here.

Take a break by all means, but it doesn't need to be permanent. Hope life deals you a better hand of cards soon

Hope you feel better soon @tpbiker. I thought there were some (quite a few) overly harsh responses to your recent thread about your holiday.

Hope you sort it out soon.

If you stay away from the politics threads it’s not a bad place at all

They are the best threads and very good for discussion.  I stay away from the emotional ones as I have nothing to offer in my autistic way which is good for anyone after my poor/overly to the point advice.

If you stay away from the politics threads it’s not a bad place at all

I generally stick to the rule that I might post a bit of news as a PSA but if I post something contradictory to another posted remark when it gets picked apart I'll only reply a maximum of twice then leave it.

More or less keep to that and they are ok and useful threads. Just dont get dragged into the perma wars and the threads are fine.

They are the best threads and very good for discussion.

Indeed. If you don't like politics then stay away, doesn't make them 'bad' though. Personally I can't be arsed with all the middle aged man 'I'm having a crisis/isn't life shit' threads so I avoid them but I don't think they're bad or bring this place down. We all have the ability to self-edit the content we consume.

Take care of yourself pal, and enjoy the real world.

🙂

The reason I'm on here is that by the general standards of the wider Internet it's a beacon of reasonableness, low bar maybe but there you go.

There also seems to be at least one  member of every conceivable profession imaginable on here, if I needed urgent advice on correct Manatee husbandry proceedures I'm sure some rando on here would have a answer.

Take a break, we'll be here when you're ready to dip back in, probably still bickering about tyres.... or Kylie.

OP,

Stay strong.

Face the pain, don't fear it and keep the door opened.

I have read the other thread but did not comment.

Come back when you are ready.

Best wishes tpbiker.

You know this place isn't too bad - we've reached 20 posts and (so far) there have been no flounces, bans or deletions! Compared to just about anywhere else on the net that's miraculous.

Have a good break and come back when you're ready - use a new name if you feel like you need a fresh start.

I can understand you feeling that way, and I hope you find the right balance for you going forward. And when you do, we'd love to have you back as a lurker or contributor.

A lot of nuance is lost - deliberately or accidentally - on SM posts. Theotherjonv is right though, 20 people all telling you one thing, often posting concurrently, can feel like a pile on. Maybe more of us need to say "I agree with what xxxxx said" rather than launch our own sermon. (Me included)

Oh no! Please don't go.

I almost hit rock bottom yesterday, but woke today feeling a bit better.

Stay away from most social media, but keep STW open. Its a place full of helpful, kind people, one knows who to stay away from, these people are few and far between. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.

Bunnyhop x

tp - the most important thing you can do is take care if yourself; whatever that takes, do it.

I didn't post to the other thread and I won't comment about your circumstances here either.

Sometimes it's best just to read a post and leave it at that.

All the best and good luck in whatever you do.

@tpbiker I read your post about the relationship and holiday and felt you’re brave to open yourself up when it feels so raw about it to you.

I have no skin in the game on this and we don’t know each other but if you need to reach out please feel free to do so

All the best to you TP. Taking a break from the perils of the internet is never a bad idea. I hope you find peace in your life. The situation you found yourself in sounded a bit shit to be honest. Having strong feelings for someone can play havoc with your emotions. Take care of yourself

I remember one poster coming back after a hiatus of a few years and reporting that he had been promoted twice and his relationship and all round wellbeing had improved markedly during his absence so I hope the same for you.

Hi folks. Well I requested my account be deleted and it not yet happened. So I thought I’d say one more thing. Firstly thank you all for you kind words

Secondly, I’m not deleting my account because of the comments on yesterdays thread. I read them all, they were opinions which I asked for. And it provided a chance for self reflection. There is no need to delete the thread, none of the comments offended me and I certainly don’t regret posting it. In fact it made me realise I needed to speak to someone and today reached out for counseling so I can mend myself

In general I just need a break from stuff.

im sure I’ll be back in time, save the username tpbikerridesagain please mods (unless they still haven’t got round to deleting this one)

tim

Look after yourself.

We can ban your account and then unlock it when you’re ready to return.

But it will still be visible along with everything in it so what's the point? It's like owning a car but giving the keys to the dealership so you can't drive it unless you ask the dealer.

OP you gotta do whatever you think is right for you. Hopefully some time away to consolidate & regroup will give you want you want and/or need.

Hope to see you again when you're ready.