[Closed] Going back to an Ex?

Is her name Louise?

This is important.

No

Grass is always greener and all that but as soon as you go back you remember why you left. I must admit my gut reaction is run away but in your case if it really was twitchiness about things moving too quick then maybe it'll work out if you are happy for things to head that way now. I've a couple of acquaintances who split up not long into a relationship, then got back together and are now both happily married as far as I know so it can work

I`m really not entirely sure I want to get back with her but really miss her.

This is the decision you need to make.

Do you miss her or just 'someone'?

Ask yourself "What [s]will[/s] would Lilian do?"

I`m really not entirely sure I want to get back with her but really miss her.

Oh dear.

It depends, on the face of it - you ended the relationship because she wanted more commitment and you didn't.

If you're ready for that now, then maybe, but I reckon you've got to be ready for it, not just happy to put up with it to have her back.

Good advice.

ask her, she may make the decision on your part redundant! 😉

I'm married to someone who was, for a bit, my ex. Made me realise that no one else was as good.

Indecently, I`m seeing her for a walk on Easter Monday. Again I know we will have an amazing time together and it will probably make me pine even more.

Indecently, I`m seeing her for a walk on Easter Monday.

😮

Indecently you say? What would Freud make of that?

Well we did make and arrangement - by we i mean i asked!!!!

You

still think about her daily

because you

see her every month

HTH.

Incidentally that should have said. Bloody Freud.

Esme - Member
Ask yourself "What will would Lilian do?"

I don't think Lil knows what she's going to do.
🙂

My money's on Tiger, tbh.

OP.
Spring's been here a while.
Get your thing on.
Boogie.
In plain language, go out and get dirty, whilst antibiotics still have a chance.

If you still miss the ex by the 26th of December, go and tell her you love her.

Don't apologise, everyone likes an indecent arrangement now and then.

Well we did make and arrangement - by we i mean i asked

When you split up, did you have a break from each other and then come back as friends later, or did you just stop doing naughty things one day?

How does she feel about all this? Does she want to get back together? Are you just stringing each other along?

As a wise man once said, you need to shit or get off the pot.

Esme - Member
Ask yourself "What will would Lilian do?"

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My mrs was an ex for a bit.

Turns out the issue was me being a massive commitment phobe rather than the relationship as such. Been (back) together 7ish years.

Traces of the same issue in the op, but only you can know...

I see a Judge Rinder episode on the horizon...

Are you called Louise?

I think we might just be stringing each other along but tbh as mentioned she might be over it and have moved on .

We did have a thing at Christmas which was fun. May have been one last put things to bed kind of thing though .

Is her name Louise?

This is important.

I'm married to someone who was, for a bit, my ex. Made me realise that no one else was as good.

Another married to someone who was once an ex.

15 years together.

Lots of people married to Ex's on here!!!!

not one's called Louise though

Who is Louise?

Does she want you back?

In my experience, run. run as fast as your little legs can carry you, don't look back. Ever.

A wise man once said "the green grass needs mowing more often". This has little or no relevance to your situation.

[url= http://singletrackmag.com/forum/topic/what-life-changing-things-did-you-manage-to-avoid ]Louises. Thousands of 'em[/url]

I'm shacked up with a Louise. Not married.

What does it mean. Good things hopefully or the bike that's just been delivered as her birthday present will be a waste.

Get a bag packed........quietly, but quickly.....

[b]SAVE YOURSELF!!!!![/b]

As Robert de Niro (I think) said in Ronin, "Where there's doubt, there's no doubt"

Don't go back.

Me and Mrs Weeksy split once.... i think about 5 months.

We've now been married just under 10 years, so i think we can safely say we're back together.

Another one married to ex here, past 20y now. If you can be good friends as well as more, that's a pretty good sign IMO.

For clarity please provide a summary score card in a Top Trumps style. Thanks

I'm still pretty close to my ex-wife.

I buried her in the back garden.

Don't you get sick of her getting under the feet all the time?

I am busy divorcing someone who I broke up with several times before we got married. For balance, like. 🙂

surprised no-one has asked yet..... is she fit?

[quote=zanelad ]As Robert de Niro (I think) said in Ronin, "Where there's doubt, there's no doubt"
Don't go back.

or as De Niro said in Heat

"Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner"

I think she is fit. Not amazingly stunning but super cute.

this is easily resolved.. P.I.C.T.U.R.E.S... or is her profile on Tinder?

So still seeing the Ex as friends but there is obviously a bit of fruity tension building. I'm certain if I suggested getting back together there wouldn't even be a drop of the hat involved. The time were together is soo good and we really seem to fit hand in glove. What to do ??.

Need help!!!

See how keen she is. One up the bonus tunnel? Bring a friend?

Good ones that aren't in need of psychotherapy are hard to find.
She sounds like a good one.
Decide or shell meet someone else and she'll be gone forever..

Split with mine for a while and now back together.
Going to give her a ring soon.

Get back together then, see if I care...

Split with mine for a while and now back together.
Going to give her a ring soon.

I usually just text.

Can't do that with hands free kit..

What to do?

Set her up with someone nice to replace you in her affections.

At least that way you get to help choose who spends the rest of his life with her. Perhaps you'll get an invite to the wedding.

Meh. Give it a go. What's the worst that can happen? 😀

1. how old are you both, roughly?
2. have you moved on from the issues that caused you to break up?
3. If you're not sure don't go back, messing with her feelings again would be particularly cruel.

This thread is useless without pictures.

She must have the patience of a frickin saint. That or you're both 14.

Just get on and ask. What's the worse that can happen?

Life is for living, not procrastinating.

I'm going to say if you feel like that you need to tell her.

If you don't actually know what she thinks you're just doing alot of whataboutery.

Just tell her how you feel. The worst that can happen is that she laughs in your face and commands you never to contact her again.

Yes it can work. Me and Mrs TJ split up for two years 25 years ago

You need to get back together or cool it off all together for a while. If you don't you will prevent each other moving on.

I speak from experience having stayed friends with an ex I still cared deeply for but didn't necessarily want to get back together with. In the end she did meet someone else (Not before 'borrowing' 10k from me that I will never see again) and that hurt as much as splitting up in the first place.

Not long after I met my now wife though so every cloud and all that. 😀

as Robert De Niro said in the role of Max Cady in Cape Fear,...ask her... "are you offering me something hot?"

Need pic's to accurately judge.

Me and Mrs TJ split up for two years

It took her two years to accept she was wrong about helmets? 🙂

I was with my Ex for 9 years. We had one separation. I was at my friends house and he asked if we were going to get back together. I said "yeah, I guess so". It seemed inevitable- we were engaged and due to get married the following summer.

He looked me square in the eye and said "you do know you don't have to?" and it was like one of those breakthrough therapy moments in a film.
I suddenly realised I definitely didn't want to!
It feels like my life has only just started since then.

So, by all means instigate something if you want to but please remember "you don't have to!"

1. how old are you both, roughly? [b]41 and nearly 40[/b]
2. have you moved on from the issues that caused you to break up? [b]This needs a good chat through as its the whole Kids issue - I have two teenagers she has none but wants some.[/b]
3. If you're not sure don't go back, messing with her feelings again would be particularly cruel.[b] This is very true. I'm maybe pushing the friends boundaries too far and wanting more that she may. [/b]

Op and his on/off ex earlier today;-)
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I recall somebody split up from the forum for two years a while back.

Not amazingly stunning

I don't think you should get back together.

You like her she likes you, you`re both in you 40s the clocks ticking, she was more than happy with you with a crappish job as you say and your baggage from a previous, she is quite fit(not amazingly stunning) you obviously get on together, as long as you want more bread snappers go for it, there are a lot of people out there that would not look past the crappish job or the baggage from a previous, what is the worst that can happen!!

You have teenage kids, she want her own. Yeah, that's going to work well.

You do realise about half the worlds population is the opposite sex.