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Is this a familiar scenario in your house?
The good lady charging around muttering loudly that she's running so, so late, in this case to meet a pal for a bike ride but could be anything.
An hour later and she's still here and still complaining that she's running late having washed a bike (not the one she was going out on), rearranged a bookshelf and ironed her stuff for work on Monday.
I'm not generally a fan of gender based explanations of behaviour but is this an exception? My tiny male brain says 'if you're so late why are you wasting time doing stuff you could do later' but maybe it's not that simple?
Oh and she left in plenty of time in the end...
You need to give her more attention
That's a given.
You were supposed to wash the (wrong) bike, rearrange the bookshelf and iron her stuff.
Sheesh! This is kindergarten stuff.
You need to give her more attention
Oh and she left in plenty of time in the end…
You need to give her more stuff to do
You need to give her more attention
That’s a given
But if you do it right, she wont do this for attention
You need to give her more stuff to do
...and then she will do it without you having to say anything
You need to give her more stuff to do
Liking this idea...
Obviously I'm still in the house and I've done nowt this morning which on reflection might be part of the problem...
Go out and leave her a list of jobs to do when she gets back
It’s not about her being late, it’s about how you both feel about her being late & how you can take some things on to create an environment where you can both express your feelings about it.
I’m not sure it’s a gender thing but my Wife is the same. She’s procedure oringated - to her she has to wash the bike and the thing with the bookshelf and then ride because that’s the order she set out when she planned her day.
I’m goal oriented, I would have looked at the time, jumped on my bike and gone because my goal was going for a ride.
Neither method is correct because you can’t organise more time, we can trim waste, but you can’t make more time - is return, tires happy and wanting to catch up with the F1 quail with a beer and be upset because my Wife would be arguing I said I’d wash the bike etc...
my mrs doesn't have time to go for an ECG apparently, but in the same week has found time for shopping/eyebrows and a 2 hour tattoo session
Makes no sense to me and I'm a female. I'm always very punctual.
My stepdaughter.
She's a different story. She's never ever been on time for anything AFAIK. The other week she was coming to ours to pick my Mrs up to go & clean Grans house. My Mrs told her to be here for 10.30 am otherwise there'd be no point going, so Gemma turns up at 1.30pm. (they still went)
Today she was dropping grandsprog & dog off at '12.30', I got in from a ride at 3.15pm & theyd been here 25 mins. The list is endless & It does my nut in.
In a few weeks her & my Mrs are off to London to see a show/stay over, my Mrs is catching the train at York & Gemma's getting on at Doncaster. My Mrs is panicking cos she can see herself getting to KX on her own!
Stop trying to understand women.
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