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A friend of mine sadly died last week as a result of long term alcohol abuse. He was 45.
Not wishing to generalise but....his family are Irish and the great majority of his friends are rugby players so
I envisage a boozy wake. Given the circumstances, would an alcohol-free wake be the respectful option or am
I being precious? To me, it would seem odd to send him off with copious amounts of the stuff that did for him.
Your thoughts?
No right answer sadly.
no real answer, be respectful in your own way.
Ar go on will yer...it will Only end one way, enjoy and remember!
Sorry to hear of your loss.
Even though the alcohol was his demise along with the additional co morbidities that inherently go alongside it I'm sure everyone having a tipple is what he would want.
If your friend was there, would he drink?
Stopping a bunch of mourning Irish rugby players drinking at a wake would be harder than getting Ed Milliband elected, but I do get your point. I would also prepare yourself for a wake that will likely not last any less than 36 hours.
You're being precious.
Sorry for your mate though. RIP.
I dont think you are being precious, you dont have to join in but doubt you'll have any chance of stopping others.
No right answer.
Pay your respects in your own way.
Depends on the definition of 'respect'. People have different ideas ..... Sorry to be harsh but if it was years of alcohol abuse I doubt having no alcohol is a 'respect' thing ?
Sorry on the loss of your friend, but I'd take the view that he lived by the sword, and died by the sword as it were ... Have a toast to him then just do your own thing to respect him in your way.... Which will undoubtedly be different to the way of others
totally with the OP.
Is the alcohol-free proposal just for you, or for everyone? If it's just you, do whatever makes you feel comfortable. It's not like a stag do - you don't have to last the distance and match his family drink for drink.
We buried my auntie yesterday . She was a proper pisshead who smoked like a chimney all her life . We went with tradition and had a real piss up which she would have loved herself . Just go with it
10 years ago we buried a friend who'd died young as a result of alcohol abuse (he was 27). We all got smashed at the wake, with some then going out afterwards.
Hope it goes well either way.
I think you'll find that each person attending will do what they feel is appropriate - contrary to some thoughts, it's not a time to be miserable.
If you don't feel like having a drink then don't have one but don't judge those that do.
I'm sorry to hear your mate died OP.
My opinion is that the funeral/wake is not anything to do with the person who has gone - it's all about the immediate family. How that day goes will be remembered by them for decades. If they want and expect a big boozy celebration then go with it. I've been to raucous funerals, I've been to very sombre ones - I've always looked to the immediate family to set the tone and pace.
Lost my auntie to drink, didn't cross our minds not to drink at the wake. Not out of respect or lack of it mind you, it was simply how it transpired on the day.
When a friend's mother passed away there was a boozy wake where I had to stop a few scraps and which eventually descended into a bit of a brawl.
When his wife (who had had problems with alcohol) sadly passed away he decided on an alcohol free wake which went really well, so it can be done.