[Closed] Funeral attire.

Navy is fine

Went to funeral recently and not everyone was in black suits. Smart and sombre is fine I think these days unless specifically instructed otherwise (my aunt for example had made a specific request for everyone to be in bright colours).

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Danny B

Making an appearance is more important than what your wearing

Making an appearance is more important than what your wearing

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Don't get hung up on what you're wearing, you're there to remember someone rather than get marks for fashion.

thought it was another Thatch thread starting up-- but igo with the above-- being there is the thing..

It is important to be there and to be in line with the person you are remembering. 30 years ago I remember having a conversation with my dad about people being thought badly of because they didn't wear black shoes at works funerals. It was discussed and agreed that after his funeral we would all go for a country walk and therefore wear what was appropriate for that.

people being thought badly of because they didn't wear black shoes at works funerals

I can see this 20-30 years ago as society was much more rigid, but nowadays not everyone would own a black suit / black shoes e.g I only have a navy suit.

Navy is fine, but I'd go for a plain dark tie as well. Echo the comments about being there being the most important thing.

Been to a few in the last year or so. Nowadays people generally wear what they want. Those who own suits tend to wear them. Black ties are still fairly common at funerals but often worn with various types of top coat.
I wouldn't worry about it. As mentioned above, turning up is more important.

Wear whatever shows that you respect the deceased.

I'm going to the funeral of a 41 yr old woman and I'm going because she was lovely and my wife cared a lot for her, I hardly think fashion is on my mind! Fortunately I've only had to go to one funeral before so I was just asking advice, which some of you fellas are good at. I don't require advice on "being there" after all that has happened recently 😐

Last funeral I was at I wore a bright red bow tie. The one before that I wore cycling kit.

You get to a certain age and suddenly you start going to them, I've had two friends my age (40s) die suddenly in the last year.

Didn't some army dude wear a yellow skin tight dress at his mates funeral, part of a bet

Yes Mantastic he did .

For the last four week I have been working in our local cemetery & yes most wear black, from what I have seen.

There has been one exception though, the passing of a well known local cricketer had everyone in their whites, which seemed quite apt.

I wore an orange shirt at my dad's.
Sod wearing black and being miserable.

Last funeral I was at I wore a bright red bow tie. The one before that I wore cycling kit.

That's. good idea, glupton. At my funeral I'd prefer people to be happily remembering me, especially biking, than all sombre and sad.

I'd leave money a a prize of the most fun dressed! Or demand everyone wears Dame Edna glasses!

I'm going to a funeral next Monday, my Dads cousin, she was 68.
I'll be wearing a dark Navy suit, black shirt and black shoes.
I'm pretty sure nobody will care, or even notice what i'm wearing.

If you stick to Dark colours you'll be fine.

Last funeral I went I was dressed in normal sombre clothing, but there was another fella across the aisle that was wearing a shirt that looked like it'd been borrowed from Nelson Mandella's wardrobe and a jazz musician themed kipper tie. Given the sense of humour of the person whose funeral we were attending he was definitely dressed more appropriately than I was.

Just go, let those left behind know that people cared for the deceased. What you wear isn't so important.

Best mates wife died 2 years ago aged 42, her daughters wanted it to be bright and fun, just like their mum, not dour and gloomy - lots of colour, flowers and my mate led a huge round of applause and cheers at the committal to say farewell - suited her to a tee. Wear what you think is appropriate to the deceased.

Went to one recently. One of my mates was there in cream slacks and a v neck t shirt. Thought that was a bit casual but who cares.

Don't worry too much about it.

As above, last one I went to I wore a navy suit as his parents had requested no black. There were a lot of people there going for fashion points (open necked shirt only half done up with a tie similarly loose and sunglasses indoors) and that wound me up at the time, was an emotional day, but at least they were there.

At a recent funeral for a friend who was a massively keen (that doesn't come close...) walker and member of a hiking club I used to help run the family requested we all turn up in full hiking/mountaineering gear. It was a great way to break the ice with some of the family and friends we didn't know.