[Closed] Cerebral Feminists help a lady friend in peril

Jong.

It is shame, you admit to knowing only one thing and even that is wrong.

suggest 'Oranges are not the only fruit'

ah! Quick change artist!

is this Jackie magazine ?

Any help.

Yup. Delete this while you have the chance.

Your friend needs to have some self-respect but sometimes you just have to let people figure it out for themselves.

C-G yeah I agree, I guess I don't like seeing someone in pain, and being used. Just feels wrong. I also realise that my efforts to "help" so far probably haven't.

Out of interest, which dating site?

Cerebral Feminists

Given where you've chosen to post this....I have to call Double Fail on this one!

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toys - just be there for her following the fall-out.

dd - lol. How's Mollie?

She's great cg. Fighting the good fight for terrier bitches all over the world.

terrier bitches all over the world

this is the site to which you should have posted.

dd - good to hear! It was lovely to meet her. 8)

Not as lovely as it was to meet you cg 8) 😉

[url= http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Savage_Love ]Dan Savage[/url] - he of the DTMFA acronym (Dump the MFker already) is very funny and incisive on these sort of doormat situations.
He writes a column called savage love but I'm not sure where you can get it these days - worth checking out if it's online somewhere. He's sort of no-holds-barred in what he discusses but there's usually a vein of wisdom to be found.

OP, tbh, sometimes people need to make their own mistakes, learn from them and most importantly learn some self-respect.

Either that or create a profile, back it up with pics etc, and arrange to meet him in a pub where you and some more of her friends are there to meet him. Then tell him to sling his hook. Or beat him to death with penises and breasts.

Sounds like she should get down the clap clinic pronto.

Either that or create a profile, back it up with pics etc, and arrange to meet him in a pub where you and some more of her friends are there to meet him. Then tell him to sling his hook.

Saw the aftermath of this having been done to someone very recently. It was a resounding success for the lady (The wronged party in this situation).

She has already created the fake profile and he wants to meet her, she just doesnt want the rest of us to be there...

I agree with you all, she needs to make her own mistakes, learn self respect etc, but I guess I was hoping someone might have some hints at nudging her in the right direction..

nudging her in what you think is the right direction will probably be a waste of time ime.
best you can do, is be there for her when she needs you.
i had a mate who was like this, her first husband used to beat her up,
next boyfriend was a complete user who was openly tomming it about the town where we all lived.
luckily, she eventually dumped him, got in tow with a decent bloke who she is now married to.
moral?
change comes from within.
of course, if she asks for your opinion, that may cloud things a little.

nudging her in what you think is the right direction will probably be a waste of time ime.

I disagree nudging her would probably be alright in this situation, but don't try to get it it sink all the way in until after it is all over. Despite his behaviour there are still clear boundaries when it comes to existing relationships

Send Millie round for a chat

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Jeepers. Sorry I cannot think of any way to help here here. You are a good friend to try to do so bt I cannot see anything but to be there to help pick up the pieces. As you say she is in denial.

Maybe she genuinely doesn't care/mind? I now have a number of friends who are fairly happy with their other halves having flings elsewhere and do that same. Damn modern way of looking at relationships.

She'll come round when he gives her an STI , seriously if he's been with 5 other women in the last 8 weeks his chances of catching something to pass on are on the increase.

She set up a fake profile that he responded to and proved this to herself (and me). As far as we can tell he has had at least 5 other women the last 8 weeks.

If she's setting up fake profiles to try and catch him out, then the relationship sounds pretty much doomed irrespective of what he does.

[url= http://singletrackmag.com/forum/topic/help-cheer-me-up-pleasewhat-is-daftest-thing-youve-done-after-a-break-up ]Coincidence? Hmmmm. [/url]

Damn modern way of looking at relationships.

he has had at least 5 other women the last 8 weeks

Lucky bleeder.

what does cerebral mean?

(also, I like how you were originally appealing to "feminists", and then quickly changed it to that well known sub-group of "cerebral feminists"....the URL never lies 😉 )

Out of interest, which dating site?

If she's setting up fake profiles to try and catch him out, then the relationship sounds pretty much doomed irrespective of what he does

This x 1000.

It sounds like a bunch of kids. Setting up fake profiles, arranging to meet the guy in public and 'outing' him is juvenile and pointless.

Here is a tip for you- he won't sit there in the resturant sobbing his eyes out while you/your friend basks in smug glory. He will just leave and laugh about it afterwards with his mates.

If it's come to this, the relationship is pointless. It sounds like there's not much you can do, I would just leave her to it if she really wants to carry on. You're not responsible for her life, she's an adult and makes her own decisions even if they are bad ones.

Any help.

yup, just get in there before she wakes up

I think you should post the chat ups from the fake profile on here - he seems to be infinitely better at getting dates than most folk on here and some could do with a few tips!

This has moved on somewhat, so I thought I'd report back. They are still together! She has recently been to docs for full spectrum testing "if I've got anything, it's over for sure"...

Anyway she has the all clear, but admits that she was prompted to go to doc because a recent FB chat suggested that he has been having relationships with Shemales, and there was chat about not using condoms. I wish I could print it here but I fear a banning..

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**** me.

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Just what exactly does this chap have to do to get dumped?

I rather do the shemale if I'm honest cynic-al 😉

I wish I could print it here but I fear a banning..

It would be worth it.....do it.

i love stw,, must switch computer off 😕

Just make another profile on here and share the story with us all, go on, you know you want to.Its monday afterall and we could all do with a good story to cheer the day up (well I could anyway after reading the entire thread of Rubbish and his wife walking out with their child).

well it involves the boyfriends appreciation of a joint emission over each others crying bald men..

toys19.....you make it sound so romantic and not in the slightest bit grubby, a lovely way of words!

I have the strangest...

So the boyfriend is still an <emission covered> weasel, and she is still content to be a doormat ?

At least STW have been entertained.

whats a shemale?

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well, tbh I dunno, but the BF appears to have had relations with someone equipped with man parts, who calls themselves a shemale, and BF appears thrilled about it. Happy days for him I guess.

"if I've got anything, it's over for sure"...

I always end any relationship when these guys turn up

Was Al expressing shock or advertising himself?

Try getting her "He's just not that into you". It's a bit American and a bit "go girlfriend" but the main principle of the book is very simple. Or try the list below.

If he's been looking on dating sites, he's not that into her.
If he's been doing sexy online chat with other women, he's not that into her.
If he's meeting up with these other women, he's not that into her.
If he's cheating, he's not that into her. And if he's not that into her, he will continue to do it.

Now, does she want to continue to be someone's fallback option while he looks round on the internet for something better, or does she want to go out there and find someone who isn't a selfish lying ****, and who is into her?

Simple 🙂

littlemisspanda, I'll be honest by now I have given up. I take her for coffee, shoulder to cry on, tell her the same things, but no effect. I shall renew my efforts and get that book. Ta.

Is she under 35 and fit?

I might know someone who can help...

TSY yes, into cycling running and stuff, slim, attractive, and in Devon.

*cracks knuckles and slicks eyebrows*

I love a victim.

are you over 5'11"?

So she's not picky about whether her partner is sprinkling his magic on a shemale's male chicken ( if I deciphered the above correctly ), but not being tall enough is a red card ??

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Nope, but shortish legs are a bonus for knee-tremblers behind the wheelie-bins.

Yes, 6ft. I used to live down in Devon and would like to return.....has she got OHAC? Car not too important as we can ride

So she's not picky about whether her partner is sprinkling his magic on a shemale's male chicken ( if I deciphered the above correctly ), but not being tall enough is a red card ??

Well, you've got to have standards...

are you over 5'11"?

As close as damnit... I've got great abs and a tan?

Cranberry, yes, you read correctly, and yes you have to be tall and handsome. (I think thats why she likes talking to me, I'm unthreatening, given my stature and looks)

Anyway in all reality she is a lovely girl, and I have a lot of time for her. I do hope that she will meet soemone nice sooner or later..

TSY, having briefly met you, I can vouch for the fact that you are near enough the right height, but I can't remember the rest..

It is odd how some folk are complete doormats.

6' 0.5" here, do I win?

I don't get it, who is the bald man and who upset him?

toys - I'm fit. Now can you post a picture of the next lady to stay in my cellar?

jon1973, there are two bald men, and apparently they cried tears of joy over each other..

FFS why oh why would you put up with that!!
Buy her a strap on is my only advice

Buy her a strap on is my only advice

So the BF can decorate it with his magic sprinkles?

Is pictures without thread useless.

(Re-arrange to make a well known phrase). 2 pages and no use of this immortal STW staple.

I'd suggest "owning him with bombers", but I think he may enjoy it...

Does the bald man come with a crown race?