[Closed] Fathers4Justice ride

Good luck to you. I hope your situation improves. I'd happy to donate/sponsor you if you have a link to a fundraising page. Unfortunately I don't think you'll get much support on here, the organisation behind the campaign and anyone expressing similar views are frequently mocked. But don't let that put you off it is a cause worthy of highlighting and I'm sure there are more than a few on here in a similar boat.

Ditto - very happy to support and sponsor you. I don't know the specifics of your situation but I know more than enough father's who have been horrendously marginalised and discriminated against by our general ambivalence towards fathers and paternity.

I’ll chip in.

My mother went to great lengths to demonise my father and stop him seeing me. It didn’t work out the way she wanted though. Play the long game 😉

neilc1881 - that sounds extremely tough for all concerned. Justice in the UK can work in a very peculiar way due to a number of the supposed learned living in some sort of bygone age, definitely an area overdue for reform.

Hold your head high, as your children grow up their eyes will be opened. Sending best wishes for happier times for you and your kids, go on that bike ride and chill.

I've tried thinking of a response but what is the point. Thanks to those of you with the kind words.

Good luck OP, if it helps to take your mind off your situation then that's a good thing. Raising awareness and cash is just a bonus. Seriously though, are you going to dress as Batman?

neilc - I'm going through something very similar at the moment, and totally feel for you.
Do it, enjoy, get all of the positive things that you can out of this, and know that there are many of us out there supporting you. Have you considered starting a fresh thread to get away from all of this negativity?

To all others who have so horribly derailed this well intentioned message - please stop, take your beef whatever it elsewhere and leave this guys thread alone. I am really disappointed in you.

Jesus, come on guys. Just leave it - you're all being silly.

Best wishes OP, to you and your kids. No doubt in my mind that in the long term your kids will want a full relationship with you. Shame you're separated in the meantime.

I hope the ride goes well and I hope things improve for you and your kids very soon.

well, I'll bet this isn't what the OP expected

Thanks Markwsf (and others), I think I'll just leave them to it and go for a ride.

Is this really ok to leave this on here?
Trolling, bickering and swearing.
Let's be honest, it should have been closed and a few bans handed out but it seems the mods allow it to happen.
OP, Good luck with your ride. I hope you get to see your kids soon.

Let’s be honest, it should have been closed and a few bans handed out but it seems the mods allow it to happen.

Aside from the ban we've already issued, you mean? But hey, don't let facts get in the way of a good speculation and an ideal opportunity to have a cheap shot at the moderators.

This forum is better than this. A forum member is having a tough time and wants to do something positive about it..... Just to see the thread hijacked. It's pretty crap to be honest.

I wouldn't want to be a mod on here!

Anyway...

Ok, I fought to see my lad twice over the years through the courts.

My son is now 21 and lives with me by choice. I'm also very glad to say he has a great relationship with his mum too. I wouldn't want it any other way.

I said to him once did he know why I went through all the court process twice? He answered that he thought it was so I could see him. I replied that, that was correct but I also endured it all because he had a right to see me and make his own mind up if he wanted to or not.

Keep the faith op. Someone said play the long game. By God, he is right I can tell you.

I can't do the ride but most willing to sponsor you mate!👍

Thanks, great to hear that your son has a good relationship with both parents. That's all I want for my children.

Also, thanks for the offers of sponsorship from various people, to be honest I'd not really thought about it in that way, just wanted to do it and perhaps get some support/awareness for what I feel is a worthwhile cause.

This thread is closed while we clean it up.

Ok think it's done.

Neil best of luck I've seen horrible decisions made for fathers and mothers. I've also seen a parent stopped from seeing their children due to the relationship history and the behaviour after.

Definitely do the ride and set up a gofundme page to raise money and awareness. I can’t begin to imagine what you’re going through, but things will get better.

Do the ride and I hope you and your children end up with the relationship that you all want.

I've not seen the pre-moderated thread but I can understand how the title may have polarised opinions.